Haifaa Younis – The Quran Has It All #16 Code of Conduct

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The speaker discusses the importance of accepting assumptions and backbites in religion. They explain that while some may not want to admit their actions, others may want to see what comes out of them. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of having faith in Islam and controling one's tongue.

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			So as a community, when Allah
		
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			put us on this earth and we're gonna
		
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			be interacting
		
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			with each other,
		
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			did he gave us
		
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			rules
		
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			or guidelines
		
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			at the things we should do and the
		
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			things we shouldn't do?
		
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			The answer is yes. The chapter in the
		
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			Quran called chapter the
		
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			rooms, the jujurat,
		
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			compartments,
		
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			and it's actually called the chapter of conduct.
		
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			And one of the ones that I wanna
		
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			share with everybody,
		
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			and all of us
		
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			have felt it, have felt pain and hurt
		
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			because of it,
		
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			is when someone
		
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			feel ill about you or me.
		
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			I didn't do it. I didn't say it
		
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			for that reason, but someone took it negatively.
		
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			Let alone when someone talks about me or
		
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			you in a negative way.
		
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			And, absolutely, it is not in me or
		
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			even if it is in me. What did
		
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			the lost
		
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			said, believers.
		
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			And every time in the Quran,
		
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			when you hear the word,
		
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			oh believer, oh believers,
		
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			oh you who believed,
		
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			remember one thing.
		
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			Give it your full attention. Listen. This is
		
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			what Allah is saying to you and me.
		
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			Listen.
		
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			What does he want from me? All believers,
		
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			the first order between me and everybody, everybody
		
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			with everybody.
		
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			Stay away from suspicion.
		
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			Don't feel or think ill of somebody else.
		
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			Some of this suspicion is actually a sin.
		
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			Do not backbite each other.
		
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			And then he
		
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			gives the parable.
		
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			Question mark. And there is no answer.
		
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			Do you really want to eat that flesh
		
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			of your dead brother?
		
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			And then Allah says, fuck. And then
		
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			so it should and then
		
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			be Allah conscious.
		
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			Is always
		
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			accept repentance, and he's all merciful.
		
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			There is moral conducts in the Quran
		
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			shaping the feeling of the people. How do
		
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			they behave
		
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			toward each other? How should I behave towards
		
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			another person and vice versa?
		
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			We have to guarantee that everybody,
		
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			every human being, Muslims and non Muslims, have
		
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			rights, integrity,
		
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			value their presence.
		
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			And Allah,
		
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			when he specifically said 2 things, a suspicion
		
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			and backbiting.
		
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			And the Russawari sator was salam taught us
		
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			this. How about if I think
		
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			they are doing this?
		
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			I don't have a proof. He said.
		
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			If you are suspecting or you have the
		
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			feeling of suspicion,
		
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			don't.
		
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			Meaning, don't
		
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			investigate. Don't interrogate. Leave it. If it's true,
		
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			Allah will show me.
		
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			Allah will bring it to me. But I
		
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			don't wanna go and spy because that's usually
		
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			will lead to spy, and that's another thing
		
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			Allah says.
		
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			One related to the other. It's it's connected
		
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			in the same verse. Don't spy on each
		
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			other. Don't pick up the phone of somebody
		
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			and see what they are saying in their
		
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			text messages. We can do that.
		
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			Human beings has rights.
		
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			But the most important one in this verse
		
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			next is
		
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			do not backbite.
		
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			What is the definition of backbiting?
		
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			Mentioning your brother or sister, something they don't
		
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			like when they are not there, if they
		
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			heard it. And they Rasul alaihis salatu was
		
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			was asked the usual question. How about if
		
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			it's true?
		
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			They they did that or they said that
		
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			or what I describe them is is true.
		
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			He said,
		
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			Then you have backbite.
		
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			And how about if it was not there,
		
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			that's bhutan, that's slander, which has a punishment
		
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			detailed in the Quran. And anytime you see
		
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			a parable in the Quran,
		
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			that means Allah wants to explain it more
		
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			and wants to bring my attention to a
		
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			phenomena
		
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			that either is gonna make it clearer
		
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			or is gonna make it more beloved or
		
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			the opposite. And in here, the parable
		
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			in a question form. Do you really wanna
		
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			eat
		
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			the flesh
		
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			of your brother?
		
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			You don't like it. Who wants to do
		
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			that? And,
		
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			as he was coming back from a graveyard
		
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			after putting someone in the grave, and there
		
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			were 2 people behind him
		
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			saying something negative about the dead person.
		
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			As he was walking in exactly this verse,
		
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			there was on the side of the road
		
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			a dead animal.
		
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			He looked at them and says, go and
		
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			eat from it.
		
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			And they said,
		
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			eat from it.
		
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			And you know what he said?
		
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			You already did.
		
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			And then Allah
		
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			give me
		
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			I call it the medicine. How do I
		
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			not do that?
		
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			It's becoming so norm, so common, everybody,
		
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			Muslims and non Muslims, and then sometimes, shaitan
		
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			comes to us to justify it and say,
		
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			what did I say?
		
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			And Allah says then what?
		
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			Be Allah conscious if these thoughts comes
		
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			to me that Allah is hearing me,
		
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			Allah is seeing me,
		
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			then I'm not gonna say it.
		
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			And number 1. Number 2,
		
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			if I apply the hadith of Rasool alayhi
		
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			salatu wa sallam,
		
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			none of you will reach
		
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			the real
		
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			level of faith unless he or she loves
		
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			to the her sister or he loves to
		
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			his brother what he loves for himself or
		
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			she loves for herself.
		
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			If I put myself in that shoes, will
		
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			I be happy if someone said this about
		
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			me?
		
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			The answer will be no.
		
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			Be Allah conscious.
		
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			Even be afraid of Allah and hold your
		
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			tongue.
		
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			And the Rasul, alayhisatt, wasalam, also taught us,
		
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			Whomsoever believe in Allah on the day of
		
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			judgement, let them say something good or stay
		
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			quiet.
		
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			How about if I did it? How about
		
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			Allah knows what I said? In the end
		
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			of the verse,
		
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			Allah accept repentance.
		
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			Ask Allah for forgiveness.
		
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			Allah is merciful.
		
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			And make du'a for that person. If you
		
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			don't remember who was it,
		
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			say it, you Allah. Please forgive everybody that
		
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			I backbite. Everybody I said something negative about
		
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			them. The beauty of our religion, Islam, is
		
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			it not only
		
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			brings the issues even when they are negative,
		
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			but it brings with it the I call
		
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			it as a physician, is the treatment.
		
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			So let's all make,
		
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			a promise to ourself,
		
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			ask Allah to make it easy that we
		
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			control our tongue
		
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			and that what comes out of it is
		
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			good and pleasing to Allah.