Haifaa Younis – The Obstacles to My Journey to Allah #02 – Attachments to Other Than Allah
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The speakers emphasize the importance of staying true to one's mission and finding the right person to be attached to, emphasizing the need for personal development and finding one's own success. They also stress the importance of finding the right person to ask for and finding one's own success, including the use of wealth and avoiding negative emotions. The speakers emphasize the importance of healthy lifestyle and personal development for everyone, specifically wanting to become a doctor to help people understand how to treat COVID-19.
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Bismillah you're walking man, you're walking up
Welcome to our second class, how's everybody doing?
We look tired.
How many of you are working
on trying to come up with numbers? May Allah make it easy with all this driving on how you guys do it? May Allah make it easy. So
if you all remember last week we covered, it's going to be an eight week series. And we're going to be covering what takes me away from a loss pantile. And before I start a subject that is a beautiful reflection from one of our students, and she shared it with us. And you all remember
that we didn't have that moment since we finished.
So I'm going to read as much as I can. Can we have the
brother Isaac, we can lower this because there's an echo in the voice.
Okay.
It's always good to have the experts and handle them. So this is one of our teachers who's also had a one on one. And she's also the director of our Quran department in Germany city. So I'm going to read it to you and I want you to give me your heart because she's talking about us after Ramadan. Before I read how many of you after Ramadan is the same way as before?
I love the honesty, and I'm sure online will have this. How many of you finished six days of show up?
At handlers? It's how many are still doing
with an after show before or before a poll about Quran? candelabra. So let's see this. She said this will last for six months, a lot more slides and generals had been preparing us with that theory. She's one of the students of our full time program that was to be in Oman. As I like to these words in its closing hours before our enemy Shavon autolyse. This is the last hour as well.
I'm also sniper day before before the show on our release from prison and launch their attacks once again upon us and upon our hearts. There is a plethora of reflections that have been forming a mental list. Pay attention she writes very well by the way also. They are not in any particular order just as they come to mind over what the heart and soul has observed and experience over the past 30 days. So all of you go back to the microphone and think of Ramadan. How many of you went everyday? Oh yeah. Can you hear or went to icoi or everything was YouTube of course. So she says she's looking back at the 30 days. They
were imprisoned.
But not the numbers.
In Arabic Sheikh Bong is masculine pay attention to this is a woman writing this lovely
shade on
the left says feminine
and you go and take shape onwards say on the Day of Judgment and this is versus all the
other shape on the other hand, say fight at the end of the day meaning the day of judgment done everybody is going to go where we are what make us all going through it and she will say to you and me
on a shelf on the Lamont hill the alarm in Omaha one of the a lot have promised to the true promise was to flip tomorrow. I promise you and I didn't keep my promise. Look at financing normally don't blame me. We'll move on.
Man and be Muslim. Don't blame me blame yourself man. I am not going to come to yourself to your survival or to your rescue. Walmart told me you cannot save me
in Dominica for to be my shop Tony. I have right now in front of Allah di everything that you associated with me in about a minute the mother the transgressors has to be punished. So she says she found that that day
Your sales that's what she's thinking. Now finish straight lines were chained now they are released. And she is not thinking the last 30 days what is not coming? And so do not blame me but blame yourself. The nurse whispers at destruction on both. And she caught it all verses from the Quran. This is also a half by one.
match was between one and two are probably human, have you worried? We have created a human being and we know what the last one is?
What's the knifes whisper
give me an example. It's another sample shape.
I'm too tired. I can do the six days of Shavon Shavon. We can't say this. Once you say no, he's going to go and change this strategy. The nerves will come and keep telling you tired you work. It's long days, it's eight o'clock. It's just a no, that's enough. So now she's thinking now the nurse is going to come back and keep pushing and getting all the integrated we observed with ourselves is perhaps a reflection of how Shavon pay attention to this, how Shavon has trained our nurse thoroughly in the rest of the
however, the nurse is still easier dealt with in this month than she thought perhaps because we are literally starving the nurses of all what it feeds it. That's what I'm going to talk to you today about the obstacles, everything that feeds in ups, and hence the importance of staying steadfast on fasting throughout the year. Because when I fast I started my knifes I don't have the energy to disobey. You will have energy to pick up the phone and talk with people that you're tired, seven o'clock before them before mother right? How Allah is always near for that is our own misuse that video and this is us from him. He is not only the Lord of Oman, but is the Lord of all times and
places. It is we who need to seek Him through obedience and worship throughout the year and continue on continuous repentance. For we can never ever, ever obey and worship and law him as he deserves to be no matter what we do. It will remain deficient and and compared to what he deserves. We are doing nothing. This recognition of our image and of course, is key to sincere and meaningful repentance. This is what we need at the end of Ramadan. We all did the night of aid we all were crying and you're saying your luck give me the same way as I wasn't your Allah don't make me go back to square one. That is the order that they want to be always someone and this is what we need to keep thinking
continue. I love this one.
And this is not only the normal ones always
continue to knock at his door
pleading sobbing to be in to be readmitted because he admitted to us a normal morning.
So keep knocking the door sobbing to let him where he admitted to his vast mercy after doing exactly what Excel does in the first place, such as the potential of sincere repentance and never cease to amaze in the story of the prophets Rima are not really what they would Ken Lambert
got while forgiving this you know the story of Satan Salima this is a sort of southern when he disobeyed.
And this is one of the attachments we have is the attachment to wealth. So he had horses and the horses reading from solid philosophy. You know this right here. Let me add up to
heptathlon.
He was looking at their horses he really loved it. Right and then he blamed himself I loved the horses more than the remembrance of Allah and what did he
have to do her I bring her back for public comments 100 Sookie when he he's chopped them
in
and see when this moves away from Allah, what do we do?
Throw it in the garbage
so it's a long one but I just needed to share with you a couple of the things that we all need. As we are going forward. We don't want to be in a month or two back to square one.
That means you're of Babylon, that we are already worshipping Allah subhanaw taala, during Ramadan, and after that, there is nothing. So today we're going to come to a very touchy sensitive subject. What is the second thing? Remember that? The whole we said, I'm gonna move this because I can see you well,
it's beautiful, but I can't see
my mom or whoever brought us brought here. So they see.
So, the road to Allah subhanaw taala is point A to point B, right? And we are in a, which is this life? And B, are you wondering what is Z, whatever the end is, remember? And so, we talked about last week as to the right path, but I want to go till I get to where I was
once I want to deal with Allah will be pleased. But there is most like obstacles, the bumps just like when you came in here, there was loss. Why does people or why does the county put bumps on the streets?
Why slow down?
So why there is bumps in my own traumas. And who puts the bombs?
I put a donation fund
doesn't say easiest things like say fun. What can I do? Right? My shirt on is very strong. That's not the case. It's I put them some of them, I invite them, I pay money and bring them with some it's my test. They are part of my life. So the most common three obstacles who can tell me
three attachment we have what is the three attachment?
One family so people to wealth, three
power.
The people divided into two people and that is children. Because Allah separated them in the pie.
Come to this doesn't mean three ones. The main three ones is money, wealth in general money, specifically, children and people. But there's others. There's like 13 of them. I'll just share with you a couple. Me Look at me in new me. My beauty, my career. right the way I look. The people around me outside my hand. What do they think of me? I want to police them. My focus is the people. My focus is people are going to upset when they say Don't say something nice about me. And I get very happy when they praise me. Right when they are pleased. So it is people well of people family status, beauty. All of these are obstacles. So some of you would ask me how
can you talk with me because we need to think this is practical is my daily life.
Why these are obstacles can overtake me money, why it's an obstacle.
Right about give me the children why they are obstacles.
You cannot
remember the remember.
Let me show you why it's an obstacle.
Sign signs. First there is a child psychiatrist. So he's a British born in 1930s. And his name is John Bowlby. Bobby, Bobby, I'm sorry Bombo in 1930 did studies on newborns infants and what happens if you take the infant away from his mother in the first year he was a child psychiatrist and have seen all the results of separating and then he came with the they called attachment theory
right. So what is attachment theory? This is how we describe and this applies of course for us spiritually about all what I just shared. Anything that I am and you are and we are deep and enduring emotional bond, emotional bond that connects one person to the other or one person to something that is attachment
and bond What is the proof this is a true
what happens when you lose it
what happens when you lose your phone of sadness? Sadness and
pain panic Am I what happens when now the stock market is down? I don't know the last few days but I still still going down south Am I right? Right well
What happens?
What happens to people? That's sad? Why? Because there's one that is attachment. It is mind. Why which is an obstacle to my path one was pantile. Now the calling
of conditions and you look like you've never heard this before, that's
what's part of my body, where attachment lives
and the heart
and the heart can contain either Allah or everything else.
He does not like it this way. Remember, I said this last week also those of you so what is what happens when you find out you love someone, and that someone loves you and someone else? What happens?
It's very sad, very sad. And unless pantallas Chaka,
Chaka, and Sheikh whoever wants to associate someone with Allah, let them go with them, I don't want my attachment to these, and I'm going to come to this in detail will occupy my heart. And you know, you are attached to something. When you wake up in the morning, what is the first thing you
check your phone just for being so honest, that tells you and what should I say? Or do when I first wake up as a Muslim?
What do I What should I do? I can
make this simple one. Don't tell me you don't know what to learn it is very easy.
But
we should all pray so long, who brought life back to me after I was dead? And I'm gonna go back to because sleep is a form of
Allah, we have to wait for them to check. You know, we're letting them do what humans do. And once this is human, Allah takes the soul would to Him. Those who have the death really arrived a soul season Allah and those who does is not yet this all goes back.
So when I will come and the first thing I say accountability, by the mammoth annual initial, what does that tell me? What is in my heart occupied me?
Allah, then I am attached to him. Versus
or if there's something you're waiting for a news, checking of your email or check your text message, then I am attached. It's an emotional bond.
And I need to work number one, all of us because we are all different ages, different circumstances, you need to figure out what are you attached from? Or what I'm sorry, what are you attached to? And don't say some of the people on the internet they say I'm attached to a lot. I have a hard time believing things. I cannot claim I'm attached to it.
I want to be for sure. Sometimes I am going to be anyone no doubt about it. By by not 24/7 I am not. And I am not where he wants me to be. Right. Like I'm a Swati salatu Sinha, and this is you all should know this is a very intimate moment between rasanya salt or something. Gosh,
it was a good day. And they were furious in the books by the way.
They were together and he moved to prayer time. And she's and she held him.
Right. And she said to her, leave me with my lord.
It's real queen you want to be leave me with a law. That's attachment. If she is the most beloved person to Him, you will know that when they catch he was asked who's the most beloved what person not woman person to you. He said that.
And then the man got upset because a man asked him he was hoping he will say his name. So he said what about from the man hoping to hear his negative what was the answer?
Her father, he didn't even potable water. So you can tell how much he loved her. But when it came to the and this is what we need to
because we wouldn't get attached. We wouldn't love that's natural. But when it came between him for that moment, and the most beloved wife to have he said to kill you or be
practically all of us 24 hours a day, right eight hours you see
it from the 16 hours of the day. How many of these hours are formula
for feeding?
Use whatever thinking, whether the planning and how many for everything else that tells you where is my attachment trauma. That's why I can say I am attached. I pray, I like I cry, I can claim it.
And maybe he will give it to us. You look at this group, beautiful group, and you will say, You know what you all will be attached in your opinion. So let's come down to the most common attachment for a woman. And they are children, young or old,
young girl, what the law says about the children and the spouse, it's together.
Who knows? It's your sort of job. Yeah, you're living.
Anytime you read the Quran, and you read the verse, those of you will download it.
Or if it's in English, or you believe all you will attend free. So in that one, when I saw the use to say, Give it your ears, meaning pay attention, and was talking to you.
In pay attention to the verse in the mean, as well as you were older, the adult we're looking for
people who are thinking among your, from, from not everybody, from your spouses, and your children, or enemies.
Can you believe the word you already tell them a lot? What is an enemy? Think with me? What does enemy do?
Just think of it don't, don't think of your children think of enemy.
They want to harm you. Right? They are happy when you are not happy. Right? They they plot against you. At the end of the day they hurt you.
So spouse, and child that's the word of Allah subhanaw taala it's not my word, even the word of Rasul Alexander's in the mean, as logical Oladipo. I don't want
you for among your children, and spouses, from not everybody. Enemies.
Why is that?
Does anyone know? Talk to me? You look so sharp today?
As if you've never heard this before, right? Or is she saying the truth and Ouch. Say that again? I was busy.
So they kept us busy.
So they kept us busy. We'll have time for a while. Is that true? Let's say CReality. So you are a married woman. And you work and you live in California and you have three children? What our taking them to school one hour taking them to school, cook, go to work and come back? What do I have time for?
Tour falls
to how can a Muslim this
anytime Allah in the Quran that has to be aware of? Because he knows he gave me the trigger. He made you married? Right? He gave you the job. So no way. It's there's no contradiction.
So how do I can silence reconcilable this, remind me to comment on this point, because I want to tell you why this verse was revealed. Once you know why this verse was revealed, and you know, these are group of men who believed they were from monka. And this is Roswaal. If psychosom at this point was already in Medina. They wanted to migrate, to go to Medina. Imagine you and me.
I will be running before I walk. I won't be running upside down by those men, their wives and children said no.
You're not going to.
And how did they use read the commentary on this verse? And you feel it because it's very natural human being feelings. You know, what did they say? They said, How would How can you leave us? Who will take care of us? Which is very natural, right? Who will take care of us?
And they wouldn't. They didn't listen to them.
They weren't originally they actually hesitated. But then they went a lot of new debts first.
Then they went to Medina, the wives and the children didn't go with them. So they left. They went, what did they find when they went? Of course everybody is ahead of them. That we were the melodic song personality that the man is much stronger. They were so we're upset with their fans that when they came out they said that is it.
But look what Allah said in the seniors were in tough waters. Pretty good.
I was awful.
So when does my children or my spouse, wife or husband becomes an animal?
There's only one statement from this verse when they take you and me away from Allah.
And this can be different levels, if he will, pushing or beautify formula, so
I'm in big trouble.
If I am not, but they held me back from obeying Allah, I'm not disobeying, or they held me back from obeying Allah. And this specifically applies to the men, not because the woman, you what we are supposed to obey the husbands, right. And this is a disobedience. But in general, it's more if it's the other way around. And this verse was the other way around. When they held me back, how many women you know, and our, you know, they wanted to obey Allah to wear her hijab? And the husband said,
how many you know, you all are nodding your head, right? And how many wives you know, the husband wants to go to tarawih. And she doesn't want that. We haven't seen it. I've seen it
in action, and he was an email marketer. And I delivered this baby. It was Ramadan, I remember very well. We both broke the US as she was pushing, Cuddles delivered and everything is fine. And now it's time for tomorrow. He's a man.
And she looked at him says you're not eating.
And he looked at me I was like, what I'm gonna say
subhanallah
so emotional. You know, the emotional intelligence we all are talking about. That's part of the emotional intelligence when you use your emotion to I don't want to use the word blackmail, but you want to convince people that's when they become enemies.
That's when they become an enemies. I was reading a question salah, very recent question, where the man sent an email, he said beautiful things about his wife. He said she is absolutely Allah obedience, observe everything. And the man is saying she is immortal.
However, she doesn't want me to go that recon to the masjid. And to attend the classes.
So how long? And the answer was, number one, this is a larger Swami. And he was asking, should I divorce?
And I was like, please don't? Don't let me read the answer. Yes.
And actually no, was very nice answer. He said no, and mozzarella to
the righteous woman Don't be don't be worse, because they are really, really righteous woman, because he said it to help me liberty, she take care of the house, and she takes care of my honor. When I'm not there. That's what you want more. But what look at the answer.
He said, If she is a righteous woman, which probably she is, then you use the right way of convincing her that this will bring you both closer to Allah and ask Allah for dua, and he will give it to you. That's something
that's not the enemy is the one that takes you away from Allah. Children's the same story. That's why he said in a minute, as logical, what would I do? Children are two kinds. The children that absolutely wouldn't be close to Allah. What did what did the Roswaal is what was an upset to you and me, either mother knew either abominable. When the Son of Adam dies, three things when he sees everything else goes you looked at? Why? What?
Number one sort of area, he covered every possibility of a human being don't always have children. What about the people who doesn't have children? Right, and that scholastically So number one, sadaqa jariya, continuous charity, and the rest one is one of water. That's the
second element of our way. And knowledge that is beneficial, whether you do it or whether you support people to do it. You have the money but you don't have the knowledge support people, or now comes in what goes on
a righteous child, then go and pray for you. So not all children are enemies. But how many children push you away from Allah? How many children you have seen? I have seen the dome completely out from the school with your headcover
that's
and that's your test and my test. Shitman That's why Allah says in surah amfa the other one? Yeah, you're looking at me
nema wildermuth I'm sorry what a double and a NEMA a one watt medical fitna.
Allah said this consortial and finally know when Allah tells you your meaning it's a well known thing
Yanni when you say how come we don't know this know for sure your children and your wealth is a test he said fitness trials and mutation termination all these are the translation. What is fitness?
You are fit for me right now. Really? Yes, yes. And I don't know for you right now.
Because we don't look at written this way. What is should
I just translate it but in which way? Because it How come I am fitna to you and you are not doing
anything good or bad. Don't look at only bad things. Anything good? Anything good. That's when I have it. There's two choices. attention to what I'm saying. There's two choices. Either I'm gonna obey Allah or I am not necessarily disobey Allah with taking away from Allah. This is a huge fitna.
This is a huge trip now I have fitna to you you know why? Because you're gonna look at me right? And Allah He was what you are thinking could be positive could be negative could be jealousy could be gratefulness. It depends what is the feeling? You are fighting with me? Because I'm looking at like, why they are not smiling. Then I'm gonna say Do they like it? And I'm focusing on you. I'm not focusing on him. I came to spread his knowledge not to please. You came to run his mouth. Not to please me. So an ulcer this was horrible Amir on a blue condition. They will faily fitna, what a natural Jehovah will test you with evil and he sought for evil. And honey, when you are wealthy,
it's a huge fitna. But when you're poor is another human treatment, true or false?
Food, okay, I know that. Because I'm going to be complaining from A to Z. I'm going to looking at everybody while they haven't I don't know how common I am Richard, it's going to be fitness.
I can't tell you how you spend your money, how you spend your money. Now coming to the next obstacle, huge one. Especially all of us living in the States.
All of us living in the States. Wealth is an issue. We think we don't have enough, right?
We don't have enough.
We don't have enough.
And you
you know the definition. I was just teaching the course of this morning. We were talking about Zipcar. And I was sharing with the students the definition of pool. So who is the person of sport that you can give that you should give zakat who qualifies you know, what is the food? The person if they don't have the following their pool? So look at me, if they don't have a house, they don't have no food. They don't have a way of transportation. They are poor. What are
multimillionaires?
We live in an apartment, three bedroom who your car is 2020
not electric in Southern California. Right? The idea of wealth is a big one. So children, spouses, and now come to wealth. What is the best example of wealth Allah again?
We just came out from all along right? How many how come I want it? I'm just kidding.
The rich man in the in the Quran. Who is he? Now in our academy call me Musa. Ebola it alone was from the people of Musa he was actually his cousin,
the cousin of so used for both the father and the mother. Can you believe that? Imagine what family what is a property the other one is
what has his own wisdom cannot call me Musa. He's from the people that people have most of the body. It became.
Why? Because he was very wealthy. They described his wealth that the keys not the wealth, the keys, the keys to carry the treasures they said between 40 and 60 keys. Each key is laid off leather was carried by 40 to 60 News. Just the keys how much money Yeah, I just I can every time I read this verse, I was like how much
Almost always like this big. Right? And then what did the law said to him?
About the tiny, he didn't say, why mighty white?
His people looked at him and says,
You know what?
Don't be so boastful, so happy that you have money. Allah doesn't like that. Like what do I do with the money?
As you know, the fitness
and see now the obstacles is a huge one.
Because the obstacle is getting the money. And then the obstacle after we get the money have come to this in a second that we finished with the FEMA attack about
use your wealth. And don't think on your charity. Use your wealth for your hereafter
for the hereafter. So how can I use my wealth for the hereafter? Challenging? Okay, what else?
Yes.
Education, spend the money, spend the money, and don't say, Well, how I'm gonna do it's in the verse just English is probably worse. What better if you might attack Allah?
Use your wealth to build a home for you, if not a palace, in the highest level of Gemini, next to those of us who are inside for some as your neighbor.
And then, but don't mean for what happens to most people coming into here. Don't forget your shield this life. And scholars went on and on and what is this children? Dunya? What is the sheer internet? What is the fear? They said that anything you spend in this slide that will get you closer to a lot on yourself.
So if I have that much money, and I go and buy this and buy that,
and then I get one and I want more and I want more? Is that mostly what I'm doing?
Is that what he wants me? I have the money. I am not seeing I'm not doing crime. I had the money worked hard. I got an inheritance. Don't do that. And then we've justified we're justified. I've heard this from people justified. And I said, Yeah, you have to handle it out. But why don't you want war in Africa? Why don't only want more in this dunya
and this is what they say well then some nasty becoming a minute dunya what attaboy for Satterfield. All those problems chef Earth in a lot of trouble usually, what did he say? Which we all do? I did it. I worked very hard. You don't know how much I studied. You don't know how much I spend to get where I am. You don't know how many hours I put at work. Right? And especially this this day and age push you for this to work very hard, which work harder to make more money. I see it all the time. They kill themselves. At one time I looked at some of my colleagues and said Listen, I don't want to die in labor.
Every day you're in labor and delivery delivery because you make more money. I don't want to die in labor and delivery and die in Makkah and haram in the masjid are seen right? But you learn well and don't misunderstand this verse of our own teach you the balance well as an obstacle because of two three things. How did you get it?
How did you get it? What did you do? What did you Did we did I did We did you disobey Allah in that one?
What kind of a job you did?
One two, where are you spending
and how much you are doing from the spending is for your sake for Allah's pantalla for your actor, these are obstacles. These obstacles compared from Amman again Ramadan to now we are already
we are already and you already children wealth, and spouses are the biggest obstacles in my path to Allah subhanaw taala. Let's continue with what is the other obstacle?
WOMAN This is why I said a woman
I can see.
I'm sorry.
Our appearance, our beauty, our beauty. And the reason this is not how I can I need to make sure this is very clear to everybody. Looking at the beautiful Zara
I had this question just just before I can look so powerful. And this is this woman emailed me and she said I'm a working woman and I want to do Botox to beautify myself for my husband
Is that how long?
It's you know what, I don't know which 100.
So I said you went up?
Are you a woman who covered her face? She said, No, but I'm going to Mass
look at you, you really have to look at
Keepa.
And we have to analyze it. And I said, Do you wear it all the time?
And she said, not necessarily.
And then I caught it. What are the verses what will be sadly, that's what this is one of the tricks of shame upon he swear by Allah, Allah or the Lanham when a woman man the number one or are more unknown.
Allah, He said, The toll was
on you, I'm going to push them a strike.
And I am going to order them, look at this one, order them, and they will change your accreditation, they will change how they are created. So at the end, I quoted this and I said, Listen, if you are doing it for your husband, to beautify yourself to your husband, that's something absolutely fine. But you need to make sure this is only for your house. And I'm leaving with this virus and you will decide.
Beauty. Beauty is a biggest test each one of us before she goes out, and this is natural. We look at the mirror. You're like, Okay,
do I look nice, right? How do I look? And especially if you're wearing something new, what are you waiting?
When it's a compliment? And then nobody said anything? So don't you see anything changed? Right? No compliment. Right? If you had a haircut, and you go home, don't you? Wait, are you only you're not waiting for people to comment on your hair? So beauty is natural. Actually, Allah put the beauty in us why? To make us beautiful for our spouses and to get this bond with an afternoon natural bond. Where is the obstacle?
Why it's an obstacle in my path to almost
I can't hear you
Why don't we she's
5016 martial arts of Alcoholics Anonymous, show it to the others.
Yes, we could juggle. This week, everything general is one minute is taking me away from Allah in two ways. Either I'm disobeying. He said don't do it. Isolate a market.
Don't say I'm gonna say I like I need to vent in our sentence, but it is disobedience. He is not going to be happy with me. Or, or because of the way I am, I am going to make other people disobey. And that's even worse.
And anything that is disobedience to Allah is an obstacle in my path. I want to share something I wrote for myself. This is a big 10 We talked about Allah. And he asked us questions. And I want to ask you about this question. And he said, What does mean? What does it mean? That Allah is your job? Or what is your Lord?
Who can answer me for I read for you what he said.
What is a love for you? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Who is he? For you? For you as a human being coaching on relationships who see
guidance, he's my guidance. He's my own
protector, and I'm gonna give me all the names of Allah. That's fine.
But look what he says. He says, Allah is not something we pray.
A lot is what we what should be what our life should revolve around.
He is for us shouldn't be the one we already
and this is the one he should be the utmost importance above all else.
Number four, something we live for. And we cannot live without
is that Allah for us?
You're alive. Look at this young look. How old are you?
10 and that it's not
a majority of us.
Let me repeat it because I really want you to feel
what is not something
Someone that we pray to only because we have literally my other number.
We have not given him his due right? We just needed so now you know Allah what what I prayed? I have no idea what I said we're Hendon
we all know that Sunday did you play? You're laughing? Because that's why not? Did you progress it? What did you read? I don't know.
He said, This is not a lot. He didn't say Lindsey. This is not meaning we need to pray to Him. But not only. He's not something we only pray to know something when our hearts has to revolve around.
I'm going to every one I'm going to give you an example. When you love someone, whether again their child a spouse, what is the kindest thing that you want from that person?
He think of you all the time. And you are number one in his life. Or he might tour
that's what my life evolve and
evolve around him. Meaning I am that woman who works eight to 10 hours what three children are running Oh, going good. But I'm still thinking of from your law. I'm running right? If I was not having this, I would have been obeying you and doing that. But this is my blood because you told me that that's how it becomes everyday, everyday thinking to the days and
you don't go because you have to I hated your call because he told you take care of children. You don't like cooking you don't like it but you do. Because it's gonna make your family happy. And that's an act of worship, because he is happy with that. So someone number one Allah should be that's my life will be when my heart to be full
is the one we obey. And please do this when you go home. do ls just for yourself. Don't say this to anybody. And the tourists. Who do you obey? And how much you obey Allah and this for me and also not only you all of us when you say yes yes how many times you've said yes to Allah versus how many times I've said yes to people and before people is mean so to the one I obeyed three the most important thing in my life I love
I doubt it
because I have no problem in a way in case it's not number one in my life. We felt the limbs of it in Ramadan
we had it we felt it but since then
back last something we look for that can we cannot live without.
What do you normally say I can't live without my children.
We also know I don't know what will happen to me. Are they going to go college outside? Right I can't live without he didn't call me she didn't come but I don't say I can't live without Allah
and Allah would call me how
five times a day he calls you and me hi Jana Salah
what is
practicing says
Allah the same as when you go where the financier
you know who's Allah should be is what St Abraham said
a lot of beloved in Haiti find him
and let him the one nobody else Hello on for a whole year again. He created me and he guided me I didn't grow myself. You didn't guide yourself. I always say this to myself. For so many people are much more smarter people than I am. That is much more hard working people than on them. Right but he decided the same thing with all of us that are the HELOC on the property. One lady who was your ally money wise
he's the one who showed me and give me a water wave downloaded to your screen. When I get sick he kills me it didn't say he makes me sick after the other
we look at him says one we
have a lot and when I get sick he chooses how many of us when I and you will get sick you say hola hola que in what do we say? Who is the best physician in town?
Patient says to me, well my daughter if it wasn't for your life, please don't say this. Don't Don't say this. Now I'm
what we're letting you need to listen to your heat and he's the one who caused him to die and that you're resurrected.
When life back to me and then we'll have the optimal period
Coffee or tea or tea? And I hope he will forgive my sins on the Day of Judgment. Is that Allah for you and me?
If you are not getting your head hammered, if you are not, you'll know who he is. I just need to re connect us. You know when the phone dies, what do we do? Rush what is the charger? Right? We need to recharge and the Chargers still not while I was sleeping, and honestly, this is our life. Everything in life reminded me of it shouldn't be really connected with Allah's Panama then I am attached to him and all these obstacles are not obstacles actually, it seems to get me closer the more busy you are the more opportunity you have by the way
don't say they are taking me away from Allah on the contract because these you're sober you're impatient, you've been grateful you've been thankful you've been busy but your heart long to Allah then you're close. He should be the one we love. And the one we think and need
you know why he's called the bullet point is Allah comes from
what's Allah comes from?
And so what is it? What is the origin of the word Delia out of people you should know?
What's the origin of it? Must
whatever the highest level of love
one I will hand wish I would have been crazy.
It's more than crazy. I mean, there is like 70 stages of love. And the top one is your absolute crazy not crazy, but you're so absorbed with that thing you love and politics calms you down and you might avoid it let the language help as well. So
a lot is the one that you worship and no one you love but
Let's reconnect ladies and everybody with me online. Let's redefine my relationship with
let's not be the superficial that we all don't like, you know when you say oh, she just smile and say sit down to me. But then she goes on and she doesn't think of me. She's not my friend. True or false? I need a true relationship. I don't why can I say this is myself before anyone? I never want this one way relationship.
What is the one way relationship?
When do you remember?
And I need when I need and while I don't need him. I'm too busy on so many things to do.
It should be both. If he gives you I'm grateful. And if he doesn't give me I am patient, the last attachment the horrible I always leave us for the last What do you think
ally uses in the Quran has gone.
Does anyone know?
Yes. And what is the verse twice before on from Jaffe?
Alright Amanita hada EDA ha ha
corner Allah he will tell you do you see that person who took his own house have come to this house?
Yeah, God that's exactly I'm translating the verse.
I found that the Quran Allah he will kill you we're gonna go and help them and you're going to oversee them. What is how are
designers? Anytime, anytime? You see the following statement. My house is stalking us now I say to myself, I like it. I wanted I love it. I mean it's usually mine however with one exception
if what you are saying is about the law
I love them I want him I need him that's not your power. That's your knifes and what my opinion that's your story enough crbn But in general my haha.
For example, what do you say to somebody? Today's Monday, are you fast?
And she says Oh, she looks at you says you're fasting much. I wish I can. And he said well, you can do fast. You're not sick in sha Allah. You're not just I'm gonna I'm not a must. So we're gonna pass What?
What? I love my coffee.
Honestly, this is this one here. You see you laughing because this is a real we're not reinventing the wheel. It's just a fact anything but the center clock. I think what did you do in 30 days of Amman, Ramadan.
I was like what is that? It's the same person. If the same MOBA is the same coffee. That's my one.
that's my, that's my desire in general write this down and memorized your How am I Hawa is usually takes me away from
it does not do it any other way. Otherwise Allah would not have said it in a negative way in the Quran. And the other one is sort of Jonathan he said FRR intended for
our wearable you know what, why don't you see that person took them there how are their own desire as their God will come to the word God and then Allah made him go astray and cut them out and so he wired up and he sealed his eyes in his hearts without Allah wasabi we shall we can see.
What does it do for example, my whole right out you can use for so you can use the word nest because most of our food is a nursing among the nurses that are not. So what is my enough stopping other than coffee? When is my next stock? By the common?
Prayer? Which one?
Right.
And you are homeless or disabled. I'm waking up for Fudger let's say it's in winter, it's six o'clock Come on. Normally, they will go very far to go to work, right. And you put your alarm and you went to bed early. And the alarm goes off. What happens? I call the dialog.
The dialogue
there's still another 30 minutes. I'm too tired. I can get my bones are hurting. I didn't sleep well last night on these
on this is your house because it will pull you out. The other one is your Neff Sinhala woman, come on, get up. It's only five minutes, guys are prideful, and then go back to her. That's your knifes
in general, however, and one of the meanings of how I will was it will it's a freefall. That's another meaning or it's a something you don't see. All it's the meaning. Whenever you take I take my house as my God, that's the huge obstacle because they don't go together. My house doesn't want to please Allah. It's too hard. Let me ask you a question I want to see hence the people with me online. They want to see it
is obeying Allah easy.
Show me hands.
What about the others? Very, very easy. Can I talk to you that it's very difficult. It's very difficult these days an age who reminds you of
who you walk on the street and you say stuff.
Be careful, you're gonna go to join everything in the street is what beauty adds on your car's new home where interest rate is low. And this whole goes with my power obstacles. What should I do? Now I decided our diagnose what should I do?
What should I do to go against my house? What I said to you last week, and I'm going to keep saying it every week. Go Let's just say yes.
Say that again.
How do you that's pretty good. But
I can't hear you absolutely. Constantly remind yourself
this is your you're absolutely right. Constantly remind yourself, this is how it is all our life. All our daily life is choices. You wake up in the morning, it's a choice wake up or don't wake, strain or don't pray, eat, don't eat, have some fancy dress this on. It's your choice. And the choice is mine. And this is what I love about this team. It's your choices. And that's why we're human. We're not angels because you have a choice. In general. Any choice from history that takes that is disobedient to Allah takes you away from that you're left stocking.
And the answer should be simple. No, no, no.
But it's very difficult.
Because we justified and we don't help each other on this. It's on the other way around. What do you normally hear? Don't be too hard on yourself. Allah is awful.
How many times you've heard this? Yeah, Allah. I look at people I was like, can you tell me one time I was shut up. One time for me Allah Azza Seville punishment. So at least we bring the balance. So every time you insulting is seen something pulling you over from Allah. No, this is your nurse. Now to find the nurse. That's a whole different story. That's a long path. You're not going to hit one hour lecture.
You're gonna go out and do. It needs a lot of training. A lot of Doha, a lot of Doha, one of the Doha is a former soiree sought to sell me on what was and what Matthew who's in Africa was actually huh and teittleman Zika you're Allah give this nurse it stuck. What what stuff what what conscious, so I think of him all the time. So everything I want to do pleasing or not pleasing, and purify my nerves, so my nerves will not be always pushing me to this otter that I want to end up with is I always I'd love and hustle and bustle. Do you know what hustle and bustle? anybody in this room doesn't know? Is the normal one. Really? They call me well, because he's very beautiful.
He's very beautiful in and out. He was from Brussels. As for your story, so you know, he fell in love with whom? And he wanted to marry her.
Barbie.
And what did she say?
You're looking at?
Yes or no? She said no. Why hasn't? basally? Why?
She said no one you wouldn't be in that hot button.
That's wrong.
So he said the following. So if you apply this, if you apply this, then you will have no obstacle.
He said, I have never look I have never took a glance ma a to b i have never look in never never with my own eyes.
When nobody saw me, and I've never uttered a word. He said,
and I've never struck out of my hand when I'm supposed to be ready. When I'm ashamed to really and I remember the Skype.
I stopped working. unless or until What does unless I'm telling me.
I took a break. I'm thinking second.
What is he? What do we normally think? Before I tell you what he does? When you want to do something? What do you think?
Should I go for four or five? Or I go to five? What do you normally think?
Which one has more traffic? Which one has whatever? Right? Should I go to this? I'm invited to two places at the same time should I go to her house or to her house? What normally I say?
This is closer online like her one I'm probably the people who did or her food is very good. Or I've been fighting there's always reasons I'm not saying it's right. But what is missing in this decision making?
You said the word and he said until now what I'm thinking a second took a pause fgfr and three Marcia is this is obedient sola or this is disobedient. So number one is you really. Now we do that. The second one is the harder
and candidly ha if this was obedient to Allah, what did he say? Done? I rushed and I did it with no effort but who I liked and
what it kind of humorously
and if it was disobedient
choices people always ask me how do you make a choice?
Wait till they tell you.
They came here with telling you keep knocking the door gently open the door. But if the choice is both are disobedient to Allah there is no choice. The choice is obvious is now
we live in a life as I said last week and I'm gonna say it again. This life is the form of the outcome. You want to have roses in gentlemen. What's your favorite
flower? You live in California?
Which one?
Okay, cast. Okay, what else?
What else?
Yeah, I love dogs if they flew in
two weeks ago. I love these lilies. What else?
gardenia,
right. What do you want in general?
If you want to go and buy this, will they give it to free just because you look nice.
Or because you're so sweet. Or because Allah they will give it to you
have to work.
You have to go drive, go to that store, or wherever you must pay the money. You have to have the money, pay the money, get in line, take it. It's work. Why do you think John Doe will be
why do you think this doesn't apply for the athlete? He put the obstacles he put it. He put it as some of the obstacle again am I
reprinted like TV in the house and all the time on watching TV and my time is gone. That's an obstacle.
Time is an obstacle or a time is a need to get close.
So don't look at doing it as down because there will be no other gentleman if there was no Tony. Where are we gonna get it? And you all heard about the 25 year old who passed away? Was it yesterday or 3525 you
might want someone to his mother, y'all be me and my tie, tie her heart hockey tie the heart of the mother of say the mother of Musa and we have argument. May Allah accept him as a martyr European. But that does not no younger engage young or old age. This life Allah brought us here as temporary. Our origin of abode is genuine. We're going back to and I need to work to divinity. Allah in Surat Allah He Kalia an innocent Allahu
what Allah has is very expensive. What Allah has is Jenna,
one woman and
she
has grown many older to become a
llama
or Shoukry co host mobility along with
Cody Mohammed, I asked you for Gemini and everything that will give me those promising and from acting. Although becoming a now and I seek refuge from your immune from the hellfire and everything that will get me closer. We need to work ladies enjoy life.
But enjoy it the way he wants. Not the way I want. And enjoy it in a way that will get me closer to him. Europian me a lot more standard a lot more.
stuff. We'll go on to the next
one.
And your question and your comment we have about five minutes before
I gotta go on
about
your
business,
or your enemies in our
room. Yeah, so what was my point? Normally I don't remember. Remember?
When one person one person, I'm sorry, can tell you heavy but
you said
the How can we solve for the conflict between our children? Yes, yes. Exactly. No.
Exactly which I mentioned it as I am speaking but let's go back again. So when I say this always to my patients when they come and she has important, and she doesn't doesn't have children. So why do you want to have children? She looks at me as like why she's asking.
And I said, Of course on some issues,
right? And I said, Well, you want to have to
everybody has children. My friends. That's true. And I said what else? The biggest cause, which usually doesn't work.
So when I get old, they will take care of me. I said good luck.
Right specialty in this country, in this day and age, especially in the West, right? So I shouldn't have children. I should ask Allah for children. I shouldn't go and take treatment. By the end of this Saturday, next Saturday, I'm going to have a seminar about this topic, reproductive issues, challenges, modern challenges in a couple of abortion, IDF all these things Stampy and Melinda, so we shouldn't have children, as we call that Komodo Mala comb. I don't want enemies to pass.
Or what about the quality of children? What do I do with them? Give them for adoption.
Use them. Use them to get close to Allah. So I tell my patients who wants to have children. You know what? Why don't you make your knee from she's What do you mean? I said who did the Roswaal risotto cilantro? This doesn't look good. What do they
marry the one the woman who makes you love her? She does seems to me to love her. And she gets you more children anymore. Bye bye. Becoming a mom Jamar Tiana. On the Day of Judgment, I will be boastful about the numbers of the Muslim. Make your Nia for Allah. That's that reconciliation. That's what you need to do everything you do. Make it for Allah and your sincerely and he'll train you and becomes known. Can you came in here today? Why did you come? Don't answer me Of course.
Okay, but in general sugar for sure. It's from that sale. It
He will test you.
You know how you will test you, you'll come into 45 minutes with all this traffic, you come in here, and I'm going to show
if you got upset, and this is not
and the symptoms for me, I came here I'm waiting, and I have everything because really no one showed up to sue.
If I get upset, then I'm not teaching for a while. I'm teaching to impress people,
because I know he will reward me I clean and King, He will reward me and the same thing for you. So everything you do, everything you do, make, look to any look for or near intention, or good intention in it. And in fact, Allah the law, once you start doing this, you will find not one, not two, not a 356 intention, everything
and multiply you do the math, a pretty good day to understand you get six good deeds, that 60
This is how you do it. Because when he says mean, meaning there's other groups who are not enemies. But then how was that they are righteous, but how about if they are not righteous, but they are letting me obeying God was Pantanal. My silver lining patient, my jihad in teaching them my dua my struggle, all these are good deeds. Look at it. Look at it. I mean, the really righteous people close to Allah subhanaw taala, the loved one they are tested.
They said that's the opportunity now, may Allah give us one of this but in general, always make intention for and there is no good intention with an action that's haram. It doesn't work. It has to be a good deal pleasing to Allah.
But in this I can multiply it and you do the math how much is in your day?
You invite people to your home why?
Somebody invites you and you go, why not? She invited me Of course I'm gonna go I have nothing else to do. Her food is good. That's not for Allah.
And you put the hook and give me six intentions if somebody invited you to our house. Good intentions will get 60 Best.
Exactly responding to an invitation. How can Muslim as long as there is no disobedience. That's a good deed to it's hard to prove you're confused. When you go and she sees you. Especially if she really had like prepared and she invited 50 people and the 50 people showed up she's very happy you made a Muslim happy. That's a good intention. Sorry.
Make dua for her when you leave. Don't say hi.
Right? When you come in make dua to say hi, how are you? I always joke with the kids. But what's happening? They look at things like you speak English. Yes, I do. But what is hiding? Whatever. Make dua for me while you're myself. So I go to her house to open the door. My sister Monica, that's a good day. Okay, then I leave I make dua for her and her family. And that's a good day we do Suraj together in the house. That's a good deed. You ate in her house and says Bismillah Alhamdulillah that's a good I'm telling you if you keep looking you will find
and that's all good. Then you went and you enjoyed and you went French and you come back with 100 hashanah what's wrong with them? What literally FEMA attacker will
see to the hereafter in what Allah gave you I hope this is clear. Yeah
I don't know I think one more minute left anything any comment? Otherwise?
I can't hear you
can you want to double Hollow is an Arabic word right here the italic through here can't be Muslim. That's the Sami Khan jungle happens to make somebody happy so they don't need PXL so the other way is with the rasa resort was taught me it comes to
make her happy. Right you know if you if you're if you're invited people and you're so tired and nobody showed up and how do you feel? Right maybe people have excuses, right? They were genuine couldn't come but she will feel sad. So I'll go and even sometimes you're so tired if you really don't want to just get up and says you know what? 1600 hasna it worth it. Let's just do let's go five minutes and leave right in there. How much fun Tada. We make so yes, it's exactly what we call it. It kind of story continues. Is that animal model humans panic a little more. We have a shadow of a doubt.
Today, some are sad. But I really was happy to see him and give you a lot of