Haifaa Younis – The Disease of the Heart Arrogance
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The speaker discusses issues of pride and arrogance in Islam, including a woman who thinks she is a black man and her desire to "nails." They emphasize the need to start thinking about self-quarantine and socializing in order to improve one's image. The speaker also touches on diseases of the heart and how social media is making it difficult to stay focused on them.
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What is the disease of the heart?
The number 1
is what?
Number 1. It's
a pride.
It's arrogance.
And arrogance is number 1 when Allah created
heavens and earth when shaytan
did it
and was expelled from Jannah
How many of you here since you are
Masha'Allah, very honest audience
say
it's me.
Preeti, I'm moving.
I'm moving to Detroit.
What a community.
Do you want me to expose you? Or
let me ask you a question.
How many are Arabs in this? I know
I'm in Detroit, so this is one of
the biggest Arab communities in the US. How
many are Arabs or parents are Arabs?
Right. How many are Desis as they call
them?
Wow.
Desis.
1
tiger.
I'll give you an example. This happened in
front of me,
and I'm not gonna say you again, I
don't know you very well.
So this is we were in the car.
The person who was driving is an Arab.
The woman
sitting next to her is an Arab.
So she get a phone call
speaking in English,
driving,
another phone call speaking in English.
3rd one,
speaking in English. The other Arab lady looked
at her and says, don't you have an
Arab friend?
And I, out of the curiosity, because I
wanted to deliver the message,
And I said why does she have to
have an Arab friend?
There's nothing wrong with having an Arab friend,
but why it has to be an Arab
friend?
And I don't want to tell you the
answer.
That's arrogance.
And daisies do it too. Don't you think
it's only Arabs? Because I have friends from
all over the world.
The biggest problem
when you are in Ramadan, remember this, Allah
knows if I'll be alive, I'll see you.
When you go to the masjid, wherever masjid
you go, and when you I said this
in the beginning,
when you reserve
the seat next to you,
so your friend comes and sits next to
you. Why?
Why?
You need the other woman who's gonna come,
isn't she Muslim?
Isn't she coming to please Allah?
Isn't she coming to pray taraweeh? Why do
you want your friend?
Why do you get upset
if that woman said I'm sorry, you can't
resolve
spaces in the masjid?
Which she is absolutely right.
Why? Why you get so now I'm gonna
really say it.
Right?
If your daughter
are you ready for this example? It's gonna
hit you hard but that's okay.
Cause you're a very good crowd. You're listening
with your hearts. I see you.
If your daughter
comes
and says
mom or dad or both,
I have this amazing Muslim
that wants to marry me, and
that man is
African American.
Silence
that's arrogance.
That's arrogance.
Why?
Because I think because I'm an Arab
or
Desi
or white American,
I am better.
True or false?
Let's be honest.
Right? You know why I'm saying this? Because
I do office hours, I meet with the
community in California.
And that's one of the biggest problems the
young girl comes to me,
or he is not from the same background.
I had a mother comes to me,
throwing
fit.
You talk to her. I said, what did
she do? I thought she's marrying a non
Muslim.
Honestly,
this is true. This is our community.
These are people who come to Masajid I'm
not talking about people who doesn't
He's a revert
And I said what is wrong with that?
Or convert. Now, what is wrong with that?
He says, la ilaha illallah
All the Sahaba are converts.
All
Sahaba are converts. True or false?
That's arrogance.
Let alone
Syrian,
Palestinian,
Egyptian
come to the day see
Kashmiri,
Hadrabadi.
Why?
Erogance.
That's arrogance.
The first thing Islam did
and that's how they changed the world
is when they broke
these barriers.
And the number one
or close to Allah
the longest
Nak
was who?
Hussein Abirad
He was the caller of Kursa. They have
the longest neck
and he was
slave.
I'm gonna say the word black.
Do you think if he proposed
to say the Fatima,
Rasul
would have said no because he's black?
Alhamdulillah,
you all are feeling it.
Ittaqollafi
banatikoo
This is what I'm gonna say because you
are a very tight community.
Have awe from Allah
when it comes to marriages.
It doesn't matter who is he, they are
all American.
I even don't say that. I say they
are all
servants of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
As long as they say da'ilahadaba,
Otherwise, that's a no for sure.
I don't guess.
Literally, what
I see, it's like I can't believe it.
Number 1. Number 2,
especially women, I'm gonna be very honest,
self admiration.
You make sure you praise yourself
indirectly.
True or false?
I wanna hear it.
I wanna hear it. You're all laughing because
it's true.
And how is that?
How do I praise myself? Every
age
has their own way Are you all with
me?
Okay.
High schoolers,
how do they, how do they praise themselves?
High schooler,
16 or 17
How does she or he praise himself?
Praising his parents Oh, do you know what
my dad does?
Oh, do you know what car my father
drive?
College.
The bragging
about which college
they are going. You know what I say?
Because I say it in my nieces and
nephews. I said, did Allah
send you a message
saying
that whoever goes to the league colleges
is going to Jannah?
If that's the case, I'm gonna be killing
myself to go to one of them.
But because it's bragging,
If your daughter or son, ulillahi alhamd, there's
nothing wrong with that, that's fadullah, that's the
grace of Allah, God accepted to one of
them.
In Yale
or Harvard,
you make sure
in a conversation,
you bring it to tell
people, you're son or daughter in this
college. Why?
Why do I have to do that?
Why?
Because indirectly, I'm praising myself. They are my
children.
You wanna get a woman upset, a mother
upset?
Say something negative about their children.
And some I know
what the children does.
I know they came and talked to me
and the mother praised them as if they
are angels
because she's praising herself.
Self admiration.
Simple one, you all gonna feel this one
even if you don't have children.
Cooking.
Everyone think they are the best chef,
and they take these pictures
and post it on social media.
Why?
Honestly,
very recently, I ordered someone. Can I take
a picture? They were in my house. I
said, why?
I really meant it. I really mean it
because we we need to start thinking.
I said, why do you want to take
it? She said, it's beautiful. I said, Jazaq
ilaha illa qayyah. But why do you want
to take a picture and put it on
social media?
Is it going to get me to jannah?
This is the question that each one of
you has to ask herself.
If this is gonna get me to Jannah,
I will fight you with swords
on it.
But it is not.
If anything, it's probably gonna push me away
from Jannah.
Self admiration.
Salathun Muhlikaat
Rasul alaihi sata wasalam said 3 things that
is a destroyers.
3 things, destroyers. Look at his words.
3 destroying things, he said. Falathunmuhlikat
shuhanmuka'a
wahawanmuttaba
waajabalmaruibinafsi
3 things will destroy you, meaning destroy my
good deeds destroy my relationship with Allah
Jannah becomes way too far from me. Where
are they You Rasoolullah? He said, shuham mubba,
miserness, which is one of the diseases.
Don't do that. Don't teach her. Don't give
her. Don't donate.
I hear it and I follow it.
Not I fight it. He said shuhun muta'
Muta meaning I do it.
And
hawan muttaba, my inclination. I like it, I
love it, everyone else is doing it, what
is wrong with it?
And the third one,
when somebody, I praise
myself, I think I'm the best,
and I get very upset
especially this is for the youth here
when they don't praise me and praise my
friend.
Now putting you on the test
putting you at the test
when someone prays somebody
and they don't praise you, you know what
should you say?
Alhamdulillah they don't know my shortcomings.
Alhamdulillah Allah concealed it.
So diseases of the heart, number 1 is
arrogance,
number 2 is self admiration,
ostentation.
Show off how the third one
show off, which I shared it with you.
Praise your children. Show the house.
Show your furniture. Show your beauty. And and
again, social media
is making it very hard on us
to stay focused on Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
I'm not against social media. Most of you
know me from social media.
But when I use it to please Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
it's gonna be for me on the day
of judgement. I'm gonna say You Allah, I
had that Instagram.
I did not post anything on that Instagram
except what pleases you. I want my reward.
Yes.
But Instagram and make somebody sad
and make somebody feel low,
don't.