Haifaa Younis – The clock is ticking

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			The age you know the clock is ticking
		

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			which is a word I really don't like
		

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			to use. This comes from medicine
		

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			right simply because you know the fertility of
		

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			the woman after certain age become
		

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			less. My answer to my patients because I
		

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			get this all the time how old do
		

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			I say the Khadija when she starts getting
		

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			pregnant?
		

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			In her forties?
		

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			Yeah. And how many children?
		

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			6, 6 children.
		

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			Exactly,
		

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			SubhanAllah,
		

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			right? 4 alive
		

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			but total.
		

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			So here you go.
		

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			When Allah
		

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			wants you to get pregnant
		

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			what is He gonna say?
		

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			Right? Say it again, Miriam, best example. Yeah.
		

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			Yani, we have it. This is why I
		

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			tell you Islam didn't leave anything, they didn't
		

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			give us but we just
		

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			don't pay attention sometimes.
		

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			Seyda Maria, no baby, I mean, no husband,
		

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			nothing, nothing. She became pregnant, right? Seyda Aisha,
		

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			young, he loved her the most, not children.
		

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			So what we say is
		

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			for men, he absolutely advised
		

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			young men
		

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			get married early.
		

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			If you cannot
		

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			then fast. Why is that? Because look at
		

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			around us the temptations
		

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			right and to stay
		

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			the way that pleases Allah is not easy
		

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			so I need to help myself and I
		

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			will say this also to the girls these
		

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			days because a lot of temptations around us
		

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			social media you know media everything else
		

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			So to try to get married early, Alhamdulillah,
		

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			but if you become 30 or 35,
		

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			it's not the end of the world.
		

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			Even if the society
		

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			thinks it's the end of the world. In
		

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			fact,
		

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			now again medicine if you see it like
		

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			in the office, the average age of getting
		

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			pregnant is not 20 or 25.
		

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			No, it is usually late 20s early 30s
		

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			very common after 35. Yeah.
		

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			So don't delay it.
		

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			That's what I always tell people: don't delay
		

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			it and don't rush
		

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			it. Leave it, Allah will just make du'a
		

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			and Allah will send you in the right
		

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			time the right place. But we,
		

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			again, the time and the day we're living,
		

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			we want to take things under
		

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			control.
		

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			And who has the control?
		

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			Alhamdulillah.