Haifaa Younis – Special Q&A Part 2
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Can I or am I allowed
to
what is this?
Imagine
imagine Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in any shape
or form. Absolutely not.
There is no question about this.
This is a hadith about
that. The human beings start asking.
Right? So who build this who build this
masjid? You say,
Allah allowed it to be built. Who created
human being Allah? Who and who created the
heavens, Allah? And who create and then you
will end up saying, who created Allah and
who's Allah. Absolutely not.
Because that is gonna get you to a
slippery road.
You don't need to ask this question. Look
around you.
Look around you. Just look around you. Look
look up. What is this beauty? Look at
this chandelier. You probably didn't pay attention. Look
at this chandelier. You spend 2 seconds looking
at this chandelier.
How beautifully it is done.
Gonna see the beauty of Allah creation.
I have to imagine him.
And this is why he did not show
himself to us. You study,
they tell you Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Hajjib
and Absa. He have concealed
himself.
The that, the him.
But how did he
presented himself to you and me? He didn't
leave us in the dark. He gave us
his names and attributes.
But how I'm gonna see the the names
and the attributes by his creation?
How many of you love animals?
Show me hands. How many of you love
cats?
Right?
I love cats. Why I'm saying this?
Because if you have a cat
and you are a person who wants to
get connected with Allah Subhanu Ta'ala pay attention
to that cat.
Pay attention.
If she's a she
and she delivered kittens
Look at that cat in the 1st 6
weeks.
You dare get close to her.
Who taught her that?
They have no brain.
They have no wisdom.
Right? They have no aqal.
You try to get there. What's gonna happen?
She's gonna attack you,
and don't try that.
Who taught these kittens?
Kittens.
To go and breast
the breast of the cat. I'm not talking
about the mother.
And breastfeed.
And then
after 6 or 8 weeks,
done.
And the mother leave them.
Who's that?
I didn't teach them. You didn't teach them.
That's your creator.
Apply it. As an imam Ahmed said, I
learned
there's a concept in Tuskegee. It's called an
muraqaba,
meaning watchfulness. You watch yourself. You watch your
actions.
You hear what you are saying. And he
said, I learned this
from observing a cat
looking at a hole in the wall,
the bottom of the wall where there is
a a rat
behind it. And she was waiting,
observing,
watching
when this rat is gonna come out.
I don't need to ask Allah
how do you look like?
I'm gonna ask Allah how beautiful you are
with all this beauty around you
and I'm gonna say Allah who are you?
And you have given all this, created all
this, done all this.
Don't let shaitan. That's also one of the
keys of shaitan. But he distract you
from what you need to know and learn
to the things that will take you
in a slippery road.
Because
the question about kashu and salah, the answer
is very clear. What are you outside salah?
You are inside salah.
If these are the thoughts outside salah, it's
gonna come inside salah.
Think about the food, it's gonna come inside
salah.
You are so worried about the business, it's
gonna come inside salah.
That's how it is. I mean, this is
the best answer I learned years ago.
They said the only difference is Allahu Akbar.
If I'm thinking of Allah,
then it's gonna come thinking of Allah in
my salah.
Don't say SA. What's SA mean?
Is it too hard to write salaam alif?
I see it all the time. SWT.
What is SWT?
I know what it means.
ASA.
Every word.
See how
miser we are
with ourselves.
Because when I say
whether I wrote it in Arabic, or I
wrote it in English, or I said may
Allah be pleased with him, or may Allah's
blessings be on him, every letter,
I'm getting 10 good deeds.
S a,
don't follow
what everybody else does.
Those people don't know that.
Don't look down at them. They just don't
know.
And we live in a country where they
love
abbreviation. Come and study medicine. Everything is abbreviated.
But that's fine. That's how they are.
But for deen,
for my good deeds, to make
my right book hari,
I'm gonna
take every opportunity,
every blessing.
Because I wanna go to Jannah, and I
just don't wanna go to Jannah. I wanna
go to Jannah.
And if I want to go to journalism
for duffs which I'm sure all of you
insha Allah we all will be I am
gonna do things 99.9%
of people will not do
remember this
the the gifted class
those students in the gifted class are not
the same as the students in the ordinary
class. What what is the difference?
Huge difference.
That's the same concept.
So assalamu alaikum.
How do I know if my prayers have
been accepted? I constantly find myself doubting. What
is wrong with shaitan? It's very strong in
Virginia.
Honestly.
This is another
another trick of Shaitan.
SubhanAllah during,
it was during COVID. I did a whole
course.
There's a beautiful book to imal.
It's called.
Saving
the desperate
from the tricks of shaitan. It's a beautiful
book. It's 2 chapter. It's 2 volumes. And
I did it actually during COVID.
This is another
trick of why your salah is not accepted?
Learn this concept. There's 2 concepts in salah
or any act of worship you are doing
is accepted
and it's rewarded.
It's completely different meaning
we all pray bahrub,
right? We
all follow the imam.
Our salah is accepted.
It was done correctly.
Once you do it correctly it's accepted
I'm not gonna stand in front of Allah
this what means accepted and he's gonna tell
me you didn't pray out Maghrib
if I didn't do it correctly
I didn't do it. Then he's gonna ask
me why didn't you do it? Where is
the difference?
How much reward
from these 1,000 people
that prayed behind the imam?
I and the person next to me on
my right or my left, we did not
get the same reward.
Only he knows
where was your heart.
That's the difference.
So don't say it's not accepted
at all. Don't open this door to shaytan.
It's always accepted. It's just I hope Allah
will reward me the highest reward.
And again, if you're struggling, you know, we
all struggle.
We all struggle in salah, to focus.
The fact you're struggling, you will be rewarded
for the struggle.
Those who struggle for our sake,
we will guide them to our path.
Cover your bosom, and when you reach certain
oh, everyone know this verse.
This is how I say it. There's verses
in the Quran. If you ask any man,
he knows it very well.
And there is verses in the Quran.
If you ask every woman,
she knows it very well.
That's pick and choose.
Don't do that.
Don't do that. Now so the woman here,
the question I know before I finish it,
I know where she's going. And she said,
you reach certain age, you do not have
to do hijab, but it is better if
you do it. Really?
Is this a statement right or wrong?
Now you're in big trouble.
Because if you told me wrong, I'm gonna
say why.
There's a basis of this question in the
Quran,
but that's a question
because she did not put the whole verse.
So why it's wrong?
If you don't know the answer, then don't
answer from the beginning.
And that's another problem with women.
I was very hard on you today, and
that's okay.
You're amazing, actually, group, to be honest with
you. The only people who beat you was
actually Calgary
for only one reason, they were double your
number.
Yeah. SubhanAllah. The Masjid was huge. That's why
when I came in, I was like, oh,
I thought it was much bigger. There was
2,000 people in that room.
2,000 women.
They were amazing, subhanAllah. But you also were
I mean, subhanAllah, it's awful.
So Allah
So Allah said the following. Why? So those
those
type of women who are not interested in
getting married anymore.
And don't tell me any one of us.
Mhmm. 70 years old, she still wanna get
married.
And just a second. Is that haram?
Is there any anything wrong with that?
Absolutely not.
Right? It's just different. Things have changed. It's
halal. She wants to get married. I had
a woman who called me from overseas
and says, please don't laugh at me. I
said, why?
She was 60 something.
Grown up children. I said, I'm I and,
she I can't remember if he was widowed
or divorced. I can't remember. And she said,
I really wanna get married. I said, what
is wrong with that?
On the contrary,
it is something pleasing to Allah.
As long as the process and who are
you getting married, all is pleasing to Allah.
So Allah said, if you really are not
interested at all
in getting mad,
there is no issue.
There is no sequence.
Now this part, he didn't put it.
Allah didn't say, okay, take off your hijab.
He said because normally
the hijab is needs to be like 3
parts.
So that woman
who is not interested
at all, no desire,
It's okay if you take the outer garment,
but if she keeps it, it's better.
So there's no certain age.
I hope this is very clear.
She's 13 years old. Is niqab
is obligation.
Well, the first question is, is she?
Has she reached the age?
Meaning,
does she
did she got her menstruation?
If she got her menstruation, she's a. She's
a.
Meaning now she is
gonna be asked by Allah.
Whether niqab or hijab,
before we get to the the hijab become
obligation.
And I don't want anyone of you says,
oh, she's still young.
Allah doesn't know she is young.
Don't help shaitan
on people.
She asks you, you say it is an
obligation.
I'll I'll make dua for you to Allah
make it easy.
I can't say you're too young.
You got your cycle.
Whether niqab or hijab, now we're talking about
the different opinion.
5050, the scholars differed.
It all depend upon the question. Is the
face of the woman a awra or not?
Is the face of the woman
needs to be covered
like the rest of the body? They differed
based upon 2 hadiths, and the 2 hadiths
is almost the same strength, and there is
nothing
clear cut in the Quran.
So they
said, some says it's absolutely no obligation. Some
said it is not.
Personally, what I say like, I remember very
well. We were in Hajj or Umrah. I
can't remember. There was a young girl with
us.
She's not beautiful.
I have not yet find a word
to describe her face.
Very beautiful.
Full of Hayat, subhanAllah.
I looked at her and I said, you
need to cover your face.
Because you can see she's a fitna. You
can see. I was walking with her.
And you can see. I mean, she's very
beautiful.
Do you see the point? Right? If you
follow that school of thought, that school of
thought, yes, it is an obligation.
If you follow that school, that school, it
is not.
But definitely hijab meaning
made me remember.
I didn't see it here, but I'm saying
in general.
Hijab is not covering the hair only.
We are seeing this which is really
I don't know who invented this.
If you are wearing things to describe the
shape of your body,
you are not wearing what Allah wants you
to wear.
Period.
It doesn't matter what you do. You wanna
wear shawwal kameez. You wanna wear a jeans
and top. There's nothing says you have to
wear a abaya or you have to wear
this. These are all
culture
and people are comfortable.
That's fine.
There is outlines. This is what I tell
people. There's outlines in the dress code.
Details as you decide what you feel more
comfortable.
The main outline, it does not describe your
body.
If you are wearing tight jeans
and a short top on it
and you're covering your hair, it hurts me.
You know why?
Because you're doing the most difficult thing which
is covering your hair, yet you are not
doing it completely.
So you love the jeans. It's very comfortable.
I agree with you. In fact, it's actually
more
it's it's even more haya to have something
like the pants. Just wear something
wide
on top of it, reach your knees.
Done. Which is basically the concept of
Right? Because it is very practical,
to be honest with you. If you wanna
go for exercise,
it's gonna be a little bit tough to
do it with I've done it before, but
it's still a bit tough with abaya. If
I do something on top,
long, and I put a pants under, it's
very convenient.
So please make sure if Allah gave you
the strength
to cover your hair. Because to me that
is the hardest thing.
Do the rest properly,
and he will make you love it. SubhanAllah.
As a gynecologist and okay.
How did you study Quran, Islamic studies, while
also living
with the responsibilities of the duniya?
You make priorities.
You make priorities. How did how does the
woman with 4 kids,
and she works full time, and she's a
wife,
and she is a daughter,
takes care of all this?
You prioritize. You put priorities.
Right?
You have to be at 9 o'clock at
work. You're gonna go to work at 9
o'clock. You need to come back and at
6 o'clock you need to put dinner on
the table whether you order, whether you cook
before, whatever it is. Right?
If you all have a a 1 year
old, you need to breast feed. You're gonna
make time. Am I correct?
Same thing.
Well, we don't look at it again, remember
what I said. We don't look at studying
Islamic studies, memorizing the Quran,
while being in Allahabad
as something
I have to do like I have to
take care of my children. We don't.
I spent 4 or 5 hours in the
kitchen
cooking something because I like it, I love
it, or I have guests coming.
But I cannot spend 30 minutes every day
studying 1 hadith of Rasooli.
What hadith?
For those of you who know Arabic is
easy. If you don't know Arabic is not
a big deal anymore. Everything is translated. All
the books I wanted to teach the students
in Jannah Institute,
and I wanted to teach the original books,
all of them are translated.
The answer is
priority
and efficiency.
You put your goal. You want to go
to Jannah?
Of course you do.
You cannot go to Jannah with ignorance.
You need to study.
And you need to study as you study
whatever profession you have.
You need to put the Quran and the
knowledge of Allah as important. May he forgive
me. But I wanna be practical.
As important as your children and your spouse
and your beauty and your home and your
exercise and your diet. We don't. We put
everything and then I come at the night
and I am dead tired. I pick up
the Quran and I'm sleeping.
Right?
So it's not impossible.
Is it time? Yeah.
9:20. Is it time for us?
No. Is at 9:45.
So, basically,
each one of you, and I'm not trying
to scare you,
studying especially the obligations of this deen is
not a luxury. It's a responsibility.
Each one of you will be asked,
why didn't you know what are the pillars
of salah?
Why didn't
you know what breaks your fast?
And every year in Ramadan,
I got the same question.
To the point I was like,
When is this ummah gonna memorize? When you
get your cycle? 5 minutes before the.
You need to break your fast.
But I fasted all the day. I know.
You still have to break it.
This needs to be ABCs. Like, you know,
if I ask, especially those of you who
are in middle age, give me a recipe
for a a rice. Everybody will give me
a recipe. You're not gonna even think about
it. Why do you know how to make
a rice, and you don't know what to
break your fast?
Priority.
This will be the last question so I
can go out, and I promise to all
of you whoever still did not sign the
book and we can get ready for Aisha.
If the block
is in your family,
how can you,
what,
remove that?
It's not a thing. It's a person
like a spouse.
Meaning,
it's a very good question.
The the the obstacle or the hurdle
remember what I told you it's usually us.
But the hurdle in my
path to Allah,
someone very close to me will be harder
than a husband if it is your parents
or it's your children because you cannot cut
them.
These are your broad relationship. You can't cut
them. There's no there's no jannah and you
cut have cut your blood relationship even if
they are kuffar.
Absolutely.
Rasul alaihi satu was his uncle was kafir.
Right?
It doesn't matter. They are your blood relationship.
You have to keep it. I don't care
what they did to you or did to
me.
Now come the spouse.
And this is especially for the young and
mothers who have children at age of marriage.
Make sure
the person who is marrying your children,
she or Rahim,
they are pleasing to Allah.
Don't put money number 1,
and don't put family number 1, and don't
put ethnicity
number 1,
and don't put career number 1.
And you're gonna say, but he doesn't pray.
Oh, he will pray later.
If he was not rich,
but he goes to fajr, you don't say
he will get rich later on
because that's my
nafs. So if the spouse
is the block, this needs a lot
of dissection, I call it.
What's the level?
If this man is preventing me
from the obligations,
that's the time when I ask for divorce.
If this man does not allow me to
pray
or fast
or he forced me to do haram,
I am leaving
because I am not gonna send my akhirah
for my dunya
if these are not the case but he's
not helping you
that's a choice you made when you were
when you were younger
If he is not blocking you
then you keep going.
You keep he tells you I'm not coming
with you to the masjid, you go.
I'm not gonna fast Ramadan, but you fast.
He's not blocking you from obeying Allah.
And he's a good man and everything else.
I will not say, oh, go and get
divorced right away. Because that's the whole community.
Most of the people will get divorced.
And you never know
that you're no. Really, these are realities.
You see what I see or the questions
I get. These are realities.
And if by the way, from both sides,
don't you think it's only the husband?
I've seen it from wives also, which is
just like, wow. What happened to us?
But if they she or he is letting
you
do what you wanna do,
but there is one
trick in here
is this is affecting the children,
which most of the time the answer is
absolutely.
Then you have to really think about it.
Actually, to be honest with you, spouses are
the easiest.
You know why? Because there's a way out.
I'm not saying you need to go and
end your marriage, but it is not like
a blood relation.
If this is your mother, I've seen this.
Talk to the rebirths
and talk about and and listen to their
struggle. This is your mother.
This is your father. This is your sister.
This is your son.
These are all realities.
Realities get real. Go out and talk to
people and see the obstacles they are facing.
Sometimes you say, you know what? I'm just
gonna make dua for you. So I'm not
gonna tell her to break cut it off
with your mother.
Young people, the mother says, if you're gonna
put this hijab on you, you're not my
daughter anymore.
What are you gonna do?
And she comes and asks you. So the
spouse, again, look.
What is it? And then may Allah make
it easy.