Haifaa Younis – Special Q&A 12-08-2024
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Okay. So how can I practice what I
just learned?
The the question, how can I
persistently,
constantly,
my niyyah,
my focus is on Allah
Practice it?
Practice it.
You wake up in the morning, taking the
kids to school.
Usual.
Immediately say it to yourself.
You Allah, I'm taking them to school. You
don't have to say it. Say it to
yourself. I'm taking them to school or remind
yourself
because taking care of my children,
educate them is something you will reward me
in the right if they are learning the
right thing.
While you're cooking.
Keep asking yourself. Why you're cooking? I have
to feed my family because they are my
responsibility.
Why did you come here today? If you
come to see me, this is not for
Allah.
This is not gonna be written in your
right
book.
You came here to learn.
You came here to be in the masjid
and you pray in jamaah.
You came in here
to meet other sisters. You came here to
strengthen your faith. See how many?
These are all for you. But if you
said I'm going to see her, then you
put me before Allah.
And everything we learned in the last hour
is gone.
Don't forget this
because you will be I will be I
will be tested with every word I just
shared with you as you are already tested
with everything
you learned.
Okay. Can I look at the question? Because
I may end up not using them all.
Very simple, beautiful question applies to many of
you, not necessarily this case, but in general.
How can I focus on Allah?
And I and the and the question is
I have a special need child who has
a disability, lifelong
disability.
I'm gonna add to it. I'm gonna focus
on Allah. I have 4 children, and I
have 2 jobs. And I'm a single mother,
and I take care of my parents.
Could be. How can I focus on Allah?
And I am a 19 year old, and
I am in college. I'm the only Muslim.
I'm the only one who wears hijab, and
I work 2 jobs.
And I am in a the what I'm
studying is very difficult. These are all reality.
Right?
How I'm how I'm gonna be focusing on
Allah, and I am doing memorization
and I'm studying
or whatever you are doing
nothing is impossible
everybody everyone has time
to do something for what they like
Don't tell me if all all these scenarios
I said
and you don't have a time if you
really like, let's say, social media.
Every single day,
you're gonna make a time for that social
media.
Right? If you like baking,
I see this especially with the youth.
Right? They like baking. It's not haram. It's
beautiful.
Right? You tell them do this, do that.
I don't have time. But in the middle
of whatever they are doing, you see them
in the kitchen baking
because they like it.
Again,
for this special case, what you do,
everything you're doing to take care of that
child,
your home, your children,
your spouse, your parents,
your is what?
Is to serve them, to make them happy,
take care of them because they are your
responsibility,
and you want the reward from Allah. Don't
you look for reward from people?
I've said this so many times
in the previous session.
Allah said this in the Quran. You really
need to know your Quran. We heed you
for the sake of Allah. We don't want
any
reward
or even a word of thank you. When
you cook,
putting it on the table
to feed your children, it's your responsibility
and you're doing it to please Allah. If
they like it, alhamdulillah.
If they tell you thank you, mom, alhamdulillah.
If they complain from a to z, alhamdulillah,
and you tell them,
teach them
to do things for Allah. I am doing
it
to please Allah,
and I'm sure he will reward you. If
you get upset, you're not doing it for
Allah. Same thing with this special need child.
The mother who's taking care of a special
need child, she's not gonna have a time
to do 2 hours
tahajjud every night. She's not because she's gonna
be exhausted.
Right?
But every step she's doing to take care
of that special need child, she needs to
look at her knee and she's doing it
for Allah because that's her test that's her
responsibility
The same as somebody else has all the
time in the world and that they do
2 or 3 hours tajjud.
There is so many ways to worship Allah.
Don't narrow it
Quran and fasting
and extra salah
and this and that there's many people can
do it There's people blind.
There's people who cannot pray
the way stand up for 2 or 3
hours. Physically, they can. They still can get
the same reward.
Alright. So there's somebody without reading the whole
detail.
The first line is very nice. I lost
my connection with Allah.
And you're gonna say why is that? She's
saying it. As I start disobeying him. She
didn't say what it is, and, alhamdulillah, we
don't need to know. But obviously,
there's some major sins here.
And then the good news.
And
that. I cry days and night asking Allah
for forgiveness,
but I still don't have the connection with
him. So how can I reconnect
and stop doing these things?
In general,
there is a reason why you are repeatedly
disobeying God.
You need to sit down with yourself and
look around you.
And actually in the book sins I've one
of the chapter I talked about this. One
of the results of sin is it severed
your connection with Allah. One of the same
questions he said.
Why do you disobey Allah?
Is it your friends?
Is it what you are seeing and watching?
Is it what you are listening to?
You think this doesn't affect?
Affects.
When you're gonna go and watch that movie
or this series,
it's gonna have dots on your heart.
And the result of the dot, you'll be
lazy
in your act of worship.
Gradually,
by the way, the connection with Allah is
not, like, cut like that.
Very unlikely.
It's usually gradual.
And you can see this, and I'll give
you example about salah because that's
probably will resonate with almost everybody.
You will not stop praying salah stop praying
right away.
Never happens.
Usually the what what happens is the following.
You're gonna number 1 lose the sunnah.
2nd, you will be delaying your.
3rd, you will be doing 1 or 2
together,
so you miss 1 more time.
Then you will instead of doing 5, you're
gonna do 3 or 4 a day.
And the first one to go is usually
fedur.
2nd is Aisha.
And within a 6 months or 8 months,
you'll see yourself praying once a day, and
later on it's gone.
Never happens
suddenly.
Anyone who's disobeying Allah constantly,
there is something in your environment
that is
putting a block between you and Allah.
Know Allah said this in
know that Allah will put a block
between him and your heart. The block is
the sins.
It's a circle
keeps going,
vicious circuit.
You disobey Allah,
the connection gets weaker. The connection gets weaker,
you disobey Allah. You disobey Allah, it's weaker.
You repent, but you did not repent as
strong
as your sin or you did not remove
the reason.
The reason is the most important why are
you disobeying Allah?
Most of the time
you're watching something haram,
You're listening to something haram.
You're saying something haram.
You are spending time with people who are
doing things haram.
Even if you're not doing it, but they
are doing it, and your heart gradually becomes
hard.
So look at the environment.
As I said this, as I have just
said this, don't lose hope. Get up and
ask Allah for forgiveness.
Is that how shaitan gonna come to you?
Use this. How many times you're gonna do
this? Forget it.
Lose
hope.
Never.
Every time you sin and get back and
ask Allah for forgiveness, Allah is very happy.
You went back to him.
But remove the reasons for sins.
Remove the reasons for sins. I'll give you
one simple example so you can make it.
You are with your friends,
and going forward, yes, let's have dinner.
In that dinner,
all the topics, all what you're saying was
disobedient to Allah, whether backbiting, whether haram or
whatever. Look at your Isha when you go
home, if you prayed Isha.
That's the result.
Turn it around the other way around. You
went again for dinner, but everything you talked
about moved your heart. Doesn't have to be
lecture.
Somebody. Somebody went for umra, came back and
all the discussion was what happened to her
during umra? In any mood, look at your
Isha and look at your fajr.
Make this connection.
We don't disobey Allah just like that.
Disobey Allah because of a reason.
And usually it is sins, small ones. What
did I say? It's a major sin. You
just backbite. What did I say? She has
it. It's a major sin.
If she doesn't have it, that's even more.
That's.
So again, pay attention. Make the connection,
and, and this is the hardest one, remove
everything
that will put a block between you and
Allah.
Let alone things you love.
Put a block.
That series on the TV
that you love and enjoy,
and it's blocking you from Allah,
that TV needs to be out of the
house.
If that
home is taking me away from salah,
if you are Sayyidina Umar,
when he was he has
one farm,
and he was working in the farm, and
the farm took him away
from the jama'a'asur.
Praying asur in congregation,
He gave it for donation.
Right away.
So we need to take things
more serious,
Yeah. Sure.
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That's a disobedience to Allah.
It's not funny. It's painful.
It's a repeated
phenomena
in masajid.
Repeated phenomena in masajid.
Men come for jumuah.
They come late.
They block people,
and they stay outside talking.
And that person who has to run back
to work or to class or to something,
they have to make this announcement. And now
here we are, woman.
What is the point you're coming to learn
about Al Qalboussani?
And you blocked people, and you did not
even think that I need to rush
and move it and walk a little bit
more, more ajr as you are walking to
the Masjid.
That happens when my qalb needs to be
cleaned.
Because if I park double parking
and my heart is salin,
the first question will be, is that pleasing
to Allah?
And the answer is
no.
But I'm gonna be late for the lecture.
Which one is more?
Or which one is less
pleasing to Allah? Blocking somebody or coming late
to the lecture?
Definitely
coming late to the lecture is less pleasing
to Allah.
Then I'm gonna move.
But when you're focused on yourself,
did you see how Allah send us all
these examples?
Do you think this is by the way?
Do you think this announcement just came?
This is how Allah
teaches us and test
us, but we don't.
The majority of them don't know. I'm too
busy. I'm too busy to connect.
Why you think this announcement came in to
teach me?
Focus on Allah.
Focus on Allah. Same thing again, as always
wherever I go I say this. When I
was coming in, why the shoes are at
the door?
It's not funny. It's painful.
And I said, well, maybe this is how
I said to myself. Well, maybe because it's
a huge number, masha'Allah, and maybe they don't
have enough.
And then I
turned. There was places
empty.
How much it's gonna cost you time wise?
Time wise. Just pick it up
and put it in the place
because my heart needs works.
If I said to myself
2 seconds
conversation,
putting these shoes
may hurt somebody,
Right? And it's not pleasing to Allah because
I am against the rules. Anytime you do
something against the rules, don't you think you
are smart
with disobeying the law?
Just pick it up.
When I was studying in my Quran school,
we had the the head of the school
and we all have to leave had to
leave our shoes outside because all the school
was carpeted.
And there was plenty of this. If you
leave your shoes the way I saw it,
you're gonna come out of the class and
you will have no shoes.
She picks it up,
and you will never see the shoe again.
You're gonna go home
barefoot.
People thought that was hard. I said no.
Personally, my Allah reward her.
Why?
Because if I don't have the next to
discipline me, I need someone to discipline me.
Because at the end, I wanna obey Allah.
Allah, I am 84 year old.
What is the best thing I can do?
This is a very good question to whoever
is
still young and healthy
my eyes
are not the same
and I feel I'm not doing much
What if
you are doing what you said
eyes on the prize
Is there a place
for getting tired?
I believe salah could be your break, but
what is
but what if
you don't feel it?
How can I be better?
How many 24 year old asked this class
or 40
or 50?
The fact you are in this class, I'm
jealous.
The fact you are in this class at
age 84,
I'm jealous.
Right?
The fact you are asking this question tells
me you care about Allah.
She didn't say, oh, look at me. It's
at the young people. We do this all
the time. Look at me. I'm 84,
and I am here.
No. She felt
and again, I don't know who, there's no
name. She felt she's not doing much
for Allah.
Sayedeh Musa asked Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and
Sayedeh Musa is Kareemullah
is the one who talks to Allah. So
he said, you Allah,
k Fasqoq
how can I be grateful to you and
I am who I am?
Sayyidina Musa, you know what Allah responded?
Al Anshatartan,
now you are grateful.
Did you see the point? Now you are
grateful
when you find out that
whatever you are doing is not enough.
What will I do?
For this woman,
pray for us.
You are
interested in learning at age 84. Many 80
fours will tell you, now I'm gonna laugh.
Or we say this, where were you all
these years? Never too late.
You came, your eyes is not as strong
as before, then Allah is not gonna take
you accountable
why you're not reading 5 Aqsa a day.
But he will take me and you.
Why you're not reading the Quran? And you
can see the words beautifully.
The fact 2 fee you're not doing enough,
you are dealing with Rabun Kareem.
We all are dealing with Allah, the most
generous. I always say this to Allah. I
don't deserve it, but you are generous.
Whatever he gives me. And may Allah make
us all
like this woman.
Ameen.
Oh, the saying this is a beautiful saying.
And so ever know who is she or
he when they know who's Allah.
This is a very deep
statement, and many people don't know what it
exactly means, because the question is, how do
you get to know yourself, and what does
it mean to know yourself?
In the Quran?
Just go through the Quran. These days you
don't even have to go through the Quran.
Just type.
This many apps. Right?
And you put the word human. If you
know Arabic, put it inside. If you don't
know the Arabic, you put a human being.
What did Allah describe the human being? There's
no praise for the human being, by the
way.
Ignorant
and does injustice to him.
Human being was created weak.
Right?
And
very few of my servants are grateful.
Right? And way more.
If I know that
I know I am ignorant,
I know I am
ungrateful,
I know I am weak.
Then I know who's Allah.
That's the meaning of the statement.
Then I know Allah is all knowing.
And then I I know Allah is the
strong
that I know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
the one who gives everything
And I know Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is
a shakur.
He is the grateful. How come? How is
that? Because I disobey him and he still
feed me.
I disobey him and he still forgive me.
Did you get it?
So don't and this actually comes into this
is a statement of tazkiyah. Don't praise yourself.
On the contrary,
always put yourself, I'm nothing. Say this to
Allah. Don't tell me what about myself. I
get I know what especially the youth. What
about my self esteem? This has nothing to
do with the self esteem.
This is between you and Allah.
There's no self esteem with Allah. What self
esteem?
With my creator?
What self esteem with Allah?
On the contrary, your self esteem is you're
connected with Allah. You're connected with the strong.
You're very strong.
You're connected with Al Aleem, and I'm talking
about the connection. We talked about it before.
Then he will teach you, and your self
esteem will be up there.
So
and again,
know who you are. As I started the
first thing I said in the class, I
said who are you?
Who are you? And when Allah looks at
you or me,
what he will describe you?
Right? Forget the names. Names have no meaning
with Allah.
They're all his servants.
But he's gonna describe you like he described
Sayed He was a grateful servant.
Is he gonna describe you or me like
he described?
What a servant of mine he is. He
always return to me, come back to
me. That's me and you.
By our past
sins despite
sincerely
repentance,
especially
when the haunting comes
during
salah, that's.
There's 2 possibilities. Either you did not repent
sincerely,
or if you really repent sincerely,
don't open that door to Allah,
to the shaytan.
I don't care. This is I get this
question very common. They're like, you don't know
what I did.
My answer, you know what? I don't care.
You repented.
You repented sincerely.
You felt it. You regret it. You didn't
do it again.
It's
gone. Gone from your,
from your book.
The person who repent, shiurahi,
from a sin as if they have not
had
a sin. This is how shaytaan comes in.
You lost it. You have no hope. Oh
you'll know what I did. I don't care.
They were kufa.
He
came to kill his sister.
Now he's one of the 10 that was
given Jannah.
So don't let shaitan do this to you.
How do I know if it is my
disobedience, ignorant thoughts,
or are these whispers of?
The question is not clear. What do you
mean? What thoughts?
If you want to disobey I'm I'm assuming
and I'm just gonna comment.
If the thought coming to you is disobey
Allah, it's usually your nafs and shaitan is
operating on it. This is how usually it
works.
So for example, you turn on the TV.
You really wanna see what is going on
in Gaza. So you literally turn on the
TV to see the news.
Well, guess what?
As you are looking for the channel, something
came up. That's something you like,
and that's something is obvious
disobedience. I'm not talking about maybe, obvious.
Now, Shaipan is gonna operate on your mess.
Shaipan
whispers
and then if you're gonna use the medicine,
he's gonna
settle
down. So he's gonna come to you and
says, oh, what is that? That's something you
like.
Now your nephew likes it.
You're gonna hold your
remote. Versus if you immediately say, no. No.
No. This is not it's not pleasing to
Allah. Move on.
Now he's gonna come down.
He's gonna think of another
trick.
You really need to be
extremely alert, not alert,
extremely alert
to the main
enemy.
Is your enemy.
That's what Allah I'm not using my words.
Is your enemy.
You act with him as an enemy. What
does the enemy want? What's good for you?
No.
But we let him come in.
We pay money
to let him come in.
We invite him.
Right?
You want me to give you examples or
the examples are already clear? Alhamdulillah.
Right.
What practices do you use daily habits to
build and maintain a pure heart, albusaleem,
and a focus on the akhirah?
Dhikr of Allah is number 1.
There is no one
that will put Allah in her heart as
number 1 without remembering him.
If you love somebody and you all will
feel this,
every woman in this room
you have loved, you are as as we
speak, you love someone.
I'm not talking about Haram relationship.
This could be your children. This could be
your spouse. This could be be your spouse
to be. This could be your mother. This
could be your father.
Somebody. When you love someone,
and I'm talking about real love,
they're always living here.
You think of them. You wake up, you
think of them. They text you. You read
the text 1,000 times.
Right? That's love.
And there's nothing wrong with this if it's
there is no disobedience to Allah. To build
this relationship
of real love
and connection to Allah
I need to remember Him
and the best remembrance of Allah is 2
things either His words
which is the Quran
or the dikr
Astaghfirullah,
alhamdulillah, subhanAllah.
Like how many of you now after your
salah
you sat down for 2 seconds
and you said the athkar of salah
versus
picked up your phone and looked at your
phone or you start talking to the person
next to you.
You must sit.
To be connected with Allah, you really need
to be always in a state of dikr.
Sometimes dikr loud
and sometimes
dikr in the heart. And the best is
both.
It's when I am in
saying it and I am feeling it.
And Quran, when you love someone, you read
their text message 1000 times. This is his
words.
How many of you are still reading Qur'an
sis from Allah?
Don't answer me. I don't wanna know. That's
a question for for everybody. So dik dik
and dua.
Dua. I always say this to Allah.
Don't forget me when I forget you.
Yeah. Because it's a verse in the Quran.
They forget Allah, He forget them.
So you don't wanna forget Allah? Ask him.
It's Allah Kareem. It's not like you and
me. You don't remember you don't call me
I'm not gonna call you. It's how we
do. Allah is generous
way more than we are.
So ask Allah to keep you remembering him.