Haifaa Younis – How Islam honored women I Women of Paradise P3
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And since she entered.
Right? She was young.
A woman
entered.
Stand up.
Go to her.
Hold her hand. Kiss the hand in public,
and bring her and make her sit in
his place.
What is this? And then people say Islam
does not, give the woman rights.
And it's our
fault because we don't know all this,
and we don't know how to present it.
And then she responded
when she does exactly the same thing to
her.
She grew up she she grew up as
a Muslim,
like the other daughters of Rasual,
and they were born before Islam.
She was very young.
Who raised her up?
This is Sarah. Good morning.
Right?
This is why did Rasul, alayhi, sallam? La
la, next time,
Where is brother,
Amr?
Why did Rasul Islam
marry the Seyda Sauda,
the second wife?
And she was much older than him.
Because
she helped him taking care of his children.
So she actually was raised by her older
sister, Anseida Souda,
her mother, her stepmother.
And when she migrated to Medina,
migrated with them, actually.
She lived with her sister, Umma Kharfon,
and then
migrated with her
and Souda Usaid Na Ali. They all he
took them to Medina
because
the household of Rasul Islam did not migrate
with them. You all know that.
He went only with Sayid Nabu Bakr,
and all went before him.
And some, of course, went after him. Right?
Now Saeed Nari ibn Talib, again, he escorted
her to Medina along with Sayid Zaynab,
and Sayid Souda.
Now she married him,
and she was very young.
She was 15, as I said, and he
was 21.
Right?
And she got they got married, meaning they
the marriage was
consummated when she was 18.
He was very poor,
and the Rasul, alaihis salat, who was then,
prepared her for marriage.
He didn't say he's very poor, what does
he have, how she will live.
No.
He prepared her for marriage, and he he
didn't look at poverty,
and she didn't look at poverty
as an obstacle to get married. And he
financially
helped them.
Now you know the famous story. How many
of you love
cleaning the house?
No hands. 0.
Love. I didn't say you have to.
You have to is a different story.
Right? But love,
I can understand.
Right? So she actually you know, this I'm
sure most of you know this this story.
So she she was getting tired, and her
hand was, like, shows the the
the marks of cleaning and cooking and baking.
So she went to
Rasul and said, You Rasulullah,
I need help.
I'm done. I can't do this.
Can't do this anymore.
Right? She had children.
Who are her children?
Sayedna Hasan al Hussein.
Sayedna
Shabadi al Jannah. They are the masters of
the youth of Jannah.
She is the master of the woman, and
they are the master. What is that? What
family is that?
Right? And her husband is was given Jannah,
one of the 10.
SubhanAllah, what a lineage is this?
So, anyway, so she went to Rasul, alayhis
salatu wasalam, and I can't do this anymore.
I need help.
Right? This is the most now
So she went to Rasuari, I saw it,
was saying, I can't do this. This is
too much.
Right? Look at my hand.
What did now this is the part of
him.
Didn't we say she's part of him? What
did he say?
What did he teach her?
Say what?
Subhanallah.
He said, say this 33 times. Subhanallah,
Alhamdulillah,
Wa la ilaha hagulla, Wa Allahu Akbar, 34
times before you go to bed and things
will be easy.
What is the lessons you learned?
Again, apply it to your life these days.
We're all busy. We have so many things
to do. We get overwhelmed,
so she's not the only one.
She went to her father, and this is
in Medina. And the father is the Rasool
alayhi salatu wa sallam. And couldn't he call
anybody and says, just go once a week,
help her?
Can he do that?
Will you rush to help?
Why didn't he do it?
What is he teaching her?
I need to hear it from
you. It's related to yesterday
Friday.
What is he teaching her?
What is he teaching her?
And this is when somebody asked, I think,
yesterday, how do we teach our children?
Right?
Here you go. What is what was the
lesson
that he did not send the helper to
her? Or he said, I'll come and help
you. Don't worry. I'll talk to Ali and
say, no. Ali will help you.
No.
Rely on Allah,
but more important, definitely rely on Allah. What
is he saying to her when he said
No one will make things easy
except
number 1. Number 2, few words.
It all doesn't take less 2 minutes or
3 minutes. These are the ethkar we do
after.
Sala.
This is the adkar we do before we
go to bed. Right? You all know that.
33 times and the 4th 34 time, you
say Allahu Akbar.
What is he teaching her?
And this is the lesson for everybody,
myself number 1.
When you need something,
the first thing you do is what?
Turn to him.
Turn to Allah
and ask him.
Ask him, even if you have all the
means in the world,
he did. He could.
But he taught her that no one will
make your life easy.
No one will help you except
Allah
What else he's reminding her? Remember yesterday, Al
Qalboussareem. What did we say? One of the
signs of Al Qalboussareem was what? He's always
a person who has, she or he,
the sound heart.
They always their heart is in constant,
what,
Dhikr. Remember?
Remembrance of Allah. What did he teach her?
Remembrance of Allah
And before you ask anybody, turn to him.
And even if she is the most beloved
person to you,
he didn't say, it's okay. You know what?
But I love her. I can see her
I can see her hand like this. Let
me just go and help her. No. What
you teach outside, you teach inside.
What you teach the people who are not
related to you, you teach the people that
is
closest to you. What is also the famous
statement he said
when he said,
You know this.
When when they say when
they came to him and one of the
elite of Madinah
was accused of stealing.
And this is after the ruling of cutting
the hand, and they said we have cut
his hand, and then this is a dignitary.
So they came to Rus' war ii, maybe
he will change his mind because this is
this person, that person. What did he say?
If it was Fatima,
the most beloved,
the peace of me, but he didn't he
said,
If it was Fatima,
will steal or cut her hand.
Justice.
You treat everybody the same.
You teach everybody the same. Not because she's
my daughter, I love her, or this is
my son-in-law. This is whatever. I will need
them in the future. So yeah.
So the what he teaches people,
he teaches in his house, and he practice
it, alayhis salatu wa salam. SubhanAllah.
Later
later on,
sent her a servant.
So he did not not support her.
But the first thing is the most important
lesson,
learn who's Allah
and rely on him.
And then later on, they said when he
was financially,
stable, he said,
One time he got very angry
because of her. Does anyone know the story?
Yeah. Hi, Sarah. We have to do it.
It's it's mandatory
in column number. So Said Nahari wanted to
get married,
and that's very norm in that day and
age.
Everybody.
Right?
But got
angry.
Why?
Not because he loved her.
Because who Al Sayed Na Ali was getting
married to? He wanted to marry the daughter
of Abu Jahl.
And when a
was sent, it's a hadid, and I'll read
it to you. He stood up and said
the following,
and she came to him,
smart girl.
She yes. When she heard that,
Ali is planning to get married to the
daughter of Abu Jahad. She came to him
and
says,
People are saying
that you do not get upset for your
daughters,
and here you go. Ali is gonna go
and marry the daughter of Abu Jahl.
Smart woman.
What did she say?
She said things she knows Rasool alaihi sallahu
alaihi wasallam will not accept.
She didn't say,
how do you I'm gonna get hurt, and
she was making it a drama, you know,
and crying and the usual things we do.
This is what we need as women,
is you stand up for your right, but
you stand up for right when it is
right.
She didn't say he's gonna go and get
married, and I am the daughter of Rasulullah
SAW. How can how dare he does that?
No.
He said your the people, the talk of
the town,
that Ali is gonna get married to the
daughter of Abu Jahl.
So who's gonna be
now remember, Sayid Ali is his cousin.
So who's gonna be the relatives of Rasool
alaihis salatu wa sallam now by marriage?
Now Abu Jahl. Well, you say Abu Jahl
is his uncle. Yeah. But that's before Islam.
Now it's a choice.
So Rasool alaihis salatu wasalam
said the following.
He said, first,
He said, in the beginning, let me read
this.
So I married my daughter, Zainab, to to
Abu ibn al-'Aas,
to, Abu Abi l-'Aas,
I mean, Abi Rabia.
And he spoke to me, and he was
speaking the truth. Fatima bintu Mohammed
is part of me.
I have I and I hate
to see her
faced with trouble
by Allah, the daughter of Rasool, alayhis salatu
wasalam.
He was this is what he said,
by Allah, the daughter of the messenger of
Allah
and the daughter of the enemy of Allah
will never be joined together
in marriage to a one man.
By Allah, the daughter of the messenger of
Allah and the daughter of the enemy of
Allah will not be joined together in marriage
for to one man,
and absolutely say, no. He did not do
it.
Why? It's not because this is his daughter.
Because some people will say, well, it's the
usual.
Right? He married Rasulullah
Why he didn't allow Sayidina Ali, and you
will hear this? And he explained to you.
And it's all related to what?
I wanna hear it.
Related to what?
Oh, come on. I don't hear anything.
To Allah because he said the messenger,
the daughter of the messenger of Allah
and the daughter of the enemy of Allah
will not be joined together with 1 man.
What was the number one importance in his
life,
Because what you say
reflect what's in your heart.
As they say in the Arabic language, they
say,
The tongues are the spoon of the heart.
The tongues are the spoon of the hearts.
What you have in your heart is gonna
come out. And, of course, Said Ali did
not do it.
When she died,
he remarried,
but he did not marry the daughter of
Abu Jahal. She gave birth to 4.
She has 4 children. We know Sayid Al
Hassan was Hussein. What about the next 2?
She had and
Zaynab,
same as her sisters.
So halakh has both died,
so she called her children
after her
sisters,
the 2 eldest sister.
Now let me come to this one.
Arasweli, this is beautiful love
of a father to a daughter and to
their grandchildren.
Please do this with your children.
Again, mothers and fathers. So he was walking
in the road of Medina, and he was
wearing like a cloak.
Okay? So
so who comes in? Al Hassan,
and he puts him under,
and then Al Hussein,
and he puts him under.
You know when you get very close, Then
he said Fatima, he put her under,
and he said, Na'ali, I was like, where
did they all fit? Don't ask me.
In public.
Why I'm saying in public? Because that's a
hadith
narrated and we are reading it.
And then when he had them all under
him, he recited the verse of the Quran.
Allah wants to remove
all the impurity
from you, people of the house. This is
his household.
And he wants to purify you, complete
purification.
Last thing about her, and only her actually,
is when he was dying
Now you can imagine
what happened to her.
So she entered, and he was dying
She saw her mother died, her 2 older
sisters died, and now her father,
and going through the pain of death.
And she says, oh,
my
distress for you, agony, my father.
I feel for you, daddy.
You're in pain,
and I feel for you. And he said
there is no more pain on your father
anymore.
And then he called, and she was crying.
And then he called her,
and nobody knew what he said to her
in her ears, and she starts smiling.
Actually, he said no. First, he said, and
she starts crying.
That's what it says. She approached him, and
he said something in her ears,
and she starts crying.
And then he said something in her ears,
and she start laughing.
And then later on, Saida Aisha asked her,
what did he said to you
after he passed away? She said,
he said to me in the first time,
I think my time,
my term is near,
so be fearful
for law
and be steadfast.
What an advice.
He's dying. The say the Fatima,
woman of paradise
woman of paradise.
He report he said the hadith,
and he said, fearful of Allah
and be steadfast.
And then he said, and you should be
the first one of my family who will
follow me.
She died 6 months later.
May Allah be pleased with her.
She really cried heavily
when,
they,
when he died. And then they took him
for burial. This is very famous also
moment.
So they took him for burial and was
buried by his family, washed and buried by
his family.
She came they came back. She was crying.
She looked at them and says, how could
you even do it?
And she was in pain. How can you
throw the dust
on on him?
So you can imagine the emotions
at that moment.
And look at the Sahaba.
You Allah, what faith they had. Now you
need to feel this. This is a Raswadi
Sadu al Hasan just died. The death of
Rasuari, his father, was the worst calamity
the Muslim ummah ever faced.
That's it.
Not because they only lost him, but number
1, there is no more Quran.
Once he died, no more Quran.
So here they came.
Right? And she was crying, including her husband,
because Sayid N Ali was one of the
people.
And how can she was crying in pain.
How can you do that?
How did your nafs, how did your soul
allowed you
to put dust on him?
What did they answer?
That's faith.
That's certainty.
They said, he taught us that.
He taught us that.
That's sunnah.
That's how you follow the sunnah.
That's how you look at
In the lowest, most painful moment, the sunnah
was number 1.
And this is a daughter who is absolutely
sad for,
her father.
SubhanAllah.
And then he said,
you
know this. The prophets do not leave any
inheritance.
So Saeed Abu Bakr did not give her
anything, and she was not happy. What did
Rasuwari saw to Islam anyway he had? But
anything, she was upset with him and then
again
applying the sunnah and applying his teaching, and
he said that's what he taught us.
The prophets will not leave any inheritance.
She passed, may Allah be pleased, with her
6 6 months after Rasul al Hisrat wasa.
She also passed in Ramabah.
27 night of Ramabah.
27th night of Ramadan, 11 year after Hijra,
and she was 28
only.
She was buried in Al Baqiyyah. May Allah
be pleased with her, and may Allah
make her a model to all of us
to follow. And I want you now to
to think again
why she was one of them, a woman
of paradise.
May Allah make us again follow her footsteps,
and may Allah make us, You Rabbi Amin,
from those people who listen to the word
of admonition
and follow,
listen,
learn and follow the best.
In the next session, we will cover the
other 2 women,
the best woman of Jannabi'imillah.
And I actually just met
a beautiful Khadija and a beautiful Mariam,
and they were so focused. I asked them
what did we talk about.
The I I'm sure if I asked you,
I don't know what you will answer me,
but they definitely answered Tabarak Allah. May Allah
protect them. One is 10 years of age,
and the other one is 8.
Yes. And they are the daughters of the
Ka'ara. May Allah reward
him for the beautiful
recitation. So you this also teaches you,
remember, I'm gonna keep reminding you,
everything comes from Allah as a message
and everything we learn from.
The children is like sponges,
they absorb.
Exactly. When I asked Khadija,
did you attend? She said, yes, I attended.
And I said, what did you learn? Oh,
the story of the marriage of of Khadija
with the Rasool
I was like, woah.
10 years of age.
So what you do,
what you say in your homes,
the children may not say anything, but they
listen
and they absorb.
And again, the best way of tree of
of teaching is
by example.
Walk the talk, as we say, always in
the United States, in everything, by the way.
Even in medicine, they tell you this,
is you what you wanna do, what you
wanna teach, you do it first.
Basically, when we do procedures,
like in medicine, we say,
see 1,
do 1,
and teach 1.
So be careful when you're around your with
your children.
What you are watching, they will notice.
What you are saying, they will notice.
And they will copy
and paste.
And may Allah protect all the children.
Now the next one we're gonna be covering
is one of my personal favorite, actually.
I just of course, we have not met
her anyone, but it's Sayida Mariam.
And Sayeda Mariam is very different from
the two stories and the two women that
we covered
simply because
she's not related to Rasool, alayhis salaam, neither
a daughter nor a wife.
But what is so special about Sayeda Mariam?
Can anyone tell me?
The only woman name
that is mentioned in the Quran
is Mariam.
The mother of Sayeda Musa, no name.
Musa, and we have revealed to the mother
of Musa, No name.
The daughters of Sayyina Shoaib.
Right?
One of them came
walking with humbleness.
Who is she? We don't know the name.
All the names, all the the woman referred
to in the Quran, there is no name
except Sayeda Mariam.
Sayeda Zaina bin Jahish, the wife of
her name is not mentioned, but the story
is mentioned.
When
when the marriage
or between Zayd and her, her is Zayd
is Zaynab,
but no name.
SubhanAllah, there's so many women referred to,
but no name.
And the last one which we're gonna be
cover is is the wife of of,
Firaun. No name.
To Firaun. That's how it is usually referred
to in the Quran. The wife of Firaun,
but no name except to Sayeda Maria.
Her name is mentioned.
Subhanallah.
Not only her name is mentioned, but what
also mentioned,
a whole chapter of the Quran
is by her name.
You don't have Surat Musa in the Quran.
You don't.
You have Surat Ibrahim.
You have Surat Muhammad.
Right?
You have Surat Nuhai.
You have Surat Hud,
and you have Surat Maria.
Unique, special. That's when it when it is
is,
she is.
That
she has that much status with Allah
that Allah
identified her by a whole
chapter in the Quran in her name. Although
that chapter, for those of you who know
the Quran, all the names of the prophets
are mentioned.
Starts by Said Nasukariyah.
Said Na Ibrahim is mentioned. Said Na Musa
is mentioned. Sma'in Idris,
all of them. Uh-uh. It's her name.
And this is another hadith, and he said,
They say the best of the woman
of their of each woman or their woman
is Mariam, and the best of their woman
is Khadija. And they said, what does that
mean? They said the best woman in her
time is Mariam, and the best woman in
her time, Sayida Khadija.
Are we the best woman in our time?
Inshallah, I love Inshallah.
As Allah said,
don't say I'm gonna do something tomorrow unless
Allah wills.
How many years I lived and you lived?
Am I categorized as the best woman of
her time?
What did she do?
That's the thing. Isn't isn't it just not
a title?
I have to earn the title, let alone
the title is given to me
by Allah
There is some and you may hear this,
and this is why I am actually mentioning
it. Some reports, they say that Sayedeh Meriam
was a prophet,
and this is not correct.
This is a weak opinion, very weak, because
Allah
said it in the Quran.
And we have not sent before you but
men, and we reveal to them.
And the reason some scholars said that she
is a prophet is because she was revealed.
Allah talked to her. Sayed I'm sorry. Sayedna
Jibril talked to her. So they said, well,
Sayedna Jibril talked to her, so she could
be. But the the correct opinion, she is
not. Doesn't really matter.
If enough for me, my name is mentioned
in the Quran more than 50 times.
Maria.
You repeat this. Maria.
And sometimes not her name, but she was
referred to,
the womb that
she who guarded
her private part.
So she is names.
Right? And guess what? I actually looked in
the non Islamic sources.
So I wanted to see what the others
say about her also.
It's not only us.
Subhanallah.
One of the titles she had, they used
to we call her a.
Right? Norm,
which basically mean our lady,
and that's actually what the Christian also called
her,
our lady.
To me, this is why, actually, I I
I feel a,
a special connection with her.
Because what did Allah described her?
Repeatedly in the Quran.
The what what,
the sheikh recited in the beginning of today's
session is actually this verse to the end
of Surat Al Taheem.
The 4 women, Allah
mentioned. The 3 without name, it's only Maria
Sayedah Maria.
Right?
Allah gave a parable
to the disbeliever.
The wife of Noah and the wife of
Lot.
They were under the care living together with
a very righteous man.
She's the wife of Sayid Anuha and the
wife of Sayid Anuha, but they betrayed them.
And they said go to Jahannoah
with those who is entering Jahannoah.
It doesn't matter who's your husband.
It doesn't matter who's your father.
Nothing
will help on the day of judgment except
my and your
deed.