Haifaa Younis – Heart Check-Up #02
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He will reward me. Remember what I told
you? He'll reward you for the effort,
not the result
because he blocked you
or he blocked me.
This will change your life.
This concept
will change your life. You will stop complaining
and blaming. You know the blaming game?
We are so good at it.
It's always someone else's fault.
You're all laughing
because it hits home as we say.
So Bismillah. So let's come to reality. What
is the first sign? How many of you
say I have al Busaleen?
Alhamdulillah.
There was no hand.
Period. I didn't see what but how many
of you say, I may have some signs
of Al Qalbousaline?
Some. I didn't say number. Maybe 1. Maybe
2. There are 11. I don't have the
11 all of them.
Maybe. How many?
We all have. You will see it. We
all, but it's not a constant
character.
And what we are gonna try be even
glad to do is to say to myself
and to yours, I'll work on it.
It's gonna be in my to do list.
Do you have to do list in Malaysia?
Right? We all do. Right? Every morning, and
the list gets longer, and the achievement gets
shorter.
Right? Exactly.
Like, Bismillah.
So the first sign which I shared with
you yesterday and I'm gonna just repeat it
quickly for or again for those of you
who joined us may Allah reward you that
your focus
is al akhira.
Your focus
when you wake up in the morning till
you sleep in the evening,
your focus in everything, you're seeing your place
in the hereafter.
You're seeing your place in the hereafter,
meaning
I came this morning as I am driving.
I know Allahu will reward me, and this
will elevate my state my state from maybe
the first level of Jannah to the second
level of Jannah.
I know this is something pleasing to Allah,
and I'm gonna be standing in front of
him. He'll say, Saturday,
you did not sleep and missed your fajr.
No. You woke up and did your fajr,
and you came.
So the focus is at Aqirah.
And I asked you this question yesterday,
why do you wanna get married?
Why do you wanna have children?
Why do you wanna have a career?
Why do you wanna be rich?
All these daily questions
we all ask ourselves
and we teach our children.
This the answer should be
for my akhirah,
Meaning I wanna be rich. Why?
Majority of us to have good life.
That's not akhirah.
So I can serve Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
better. That's your akhir.
This
is beautiful
and he knows you and me very well.
And he said,
whomsoever
this life, this worldly life
is the focus.
What will happen?
He or she, because they are so focused
on duniya, on this life,
what will happen is you will have so
many things to worry about.
So many you look at somebody and says,
what is wrong with you this morning? You
don't know how many things I have to
think of.
God, this list never ends.
Every time I finish, the list gets longer.
Things to worry
because I'm focused on this duniya.
And the Raswari Sahota was that I'm teaching
you and me, if you make your focus
accurate,
the worries of dunya,
because he said the opposite.
Allah will make you see things very easy.
Not a big deal. It's gonna happen. And
people look at you and says, how? I
don't know. Allah will take care of it.
When you say it this way, your focus
is at Akhirah. Are you all with me?
Okay. Good.
And so so first thing is your worries.
You want your worries to be less nothing
will change in your life, by the way.
The worries are there. The kids are giving
you a hard time. There is sickness in
the family. There is a job job,
possibly, I will be laid off. All these
worries of dunya, they're not gonna change. There's
not Allah gonna remove them. He can. But
in general,
he will make you worry less.
And
1. And then Allah will always make you
see that you are rich here.
You will feel you're rich. Rich meaning not
necessarily you have.
You know what is the best definition of
richness?
When you don't
need. When you don't need people
or you don't feel your need.
You see people buying and buying and you
say I don't need it
and you really don't need it and you
can buy it and you say I don't
need it. Then Allah
puts richness inside your heart, and the third
one is the best one. And he says,
who makes akhira his focus?
Allah will make all your worries. 1,
richness in your heart
and the third one. Look at this.
Dunya will run after you.
You don't want it,
and it will run after you. If anybody
in this room lived this,
anybody
lived this.
You really don't care about something
at all, and you spend that worries and
that time in something pleasing to Allah. You
don't know how it is and that thing
that everybody wants fall in your lap.
Yes?
I don't hear it. Yes.
Ready?
Alhamdulillah.
That's it. So number 1,
you have
a Qalbun Sereem, a sound heart
when what you think,
when you wake up and you go to
bed and during the day, the focus is
at akhir. Is this lecture will get me
to Jannah? Is this computer will make will
witness for me,
not against me?
Is the dress I am wearing? Is the
thing I am buying? Every single detail.
In the beginning it will be overwhelming, but
it will become a habit.
Practice it. Remind each other.
Practice it. It's for Allah.
That's for Allah when your focus is al
akhirah. That's number 1.
Number 2. This is gonna be the new
things we'll start today.
How many of us disobey Allah again on
daily basis?
Really? There's angels in this room.
Where is brother Ammar? I don't think I
need to give lectures.
Masha'Allah Tabarakallah.
Come on.
Right?
So what happens when I disobey Allah? This
will tell you where is your
heart. There's 2 there's 3 scenarios,
at least what's coming to my mind.
First one is what? The most common one,
denial.
Yes?
I didn't do it,
especially if someone is seeing you.
It's not me.
Well, I saw you
and Allah is seeing you, has already seen
you. 2, the communist one is what?
You justify it.
You justify it.
I need it.
I I didn't mean to look at it.
It just came. I don't care about it.
You're looking.
You justify it. What is the big deal?
Why you're making this deen so difficult?
Don't you hear this all the time? All
the time.
Nobody tells you think of Al Akhirah, it's
like why you're worried? Why you're making the
deen too hard? Come on, it's a big
deal. Allah is Ghafoor Rahim. Allah will forgive.
The constant.
Justify.
And the third,
belittle it.
Belittle what you are doing or what I
did,
and I want you to memorize this statement.
You'll hear it a lot
In 2 weeks another book is gonna come
out. It's called
with the barakah in it. It's called Sins,
the poisons of the heart.
It's already on preorder on Amazon, and you
can order it from the, publisher also. The
publisher is actually in England.
And one of the
and it's all about what the sins do
to me and to my heart.
We never think of this.
We never put 1 +oneequal
to 1 it sins. When I looked at
something haram, it is gonna affect me.
It will, but we don't pay attention to
it.
Don't you belittle any bad deed you do.
Don't say what did I do. It's minor.
And this is what they teach you. They
say,
Memorize this.
There is no major sin
if you followed it by asking Allah for
forgiveness.
And there is no minor sin
as if you keep doing it. It will
become major.
So don't you ever belittle a small sin.
Now I when I share this with you,
I don't want you to think of anybody
else.
This is not about somebody you know.
This it's about
me.
Taskea,
the process of purification of the heart is
all about me, not you.
And I say this all the time, all
of you are better than me
in the sight of Allah.
So don't judge people by the outside because
the outside means nothing with Allah.
Allah.
Allah doesn't look at the way we look
and the shape.
But he looks at the hearts and what
we do.
So when you do something, again I'm gonna
keep keep saying you and I,
not somebody else.
When I do something,
I didn't wake up for fajr. How common
is this? Especially on weekends.
How common?
Not common?
If it's not common, I'm leaving.
Again, you don't need me. Right?
How common? Come on.
Common. Right? Especially when the day become when
the night becomes
short.
When Isha at 11, Uhudur at 3.
And this is happening next week when I'm
gonna be in London. That's that's how it's
gonna be.
By the time you say, assalamu alaykum for
the Isha, it's Allahu Akbar Fajr.
Right?
Almost.
So the point is
when I
didn't wake up for fajr
and I want you all to think with
me, and then after this, we'll take a
break, little bit.
What is the normal scenario?
I didn't wake up for 5. Don't think
of your children. It's you.
What happens usually?
I was tired.
The alarm did not go on.
Can you hear one time in in the
week?
Don't you hear this?
Yes?
Yes?
And then what do I do?
Nothing.
I let's go and do qada and I
will pray and and life goes on.
I did not look at it
as I have done something
big in the sight of Allah, and
this is what they teach you is don't
look at what you did.
Look at who you disobeyed.
Don't look at what you did.
Look at who you disobeyed,
and you should say,
wow.
Still doing this?
Still fajr is a struggle?
When are we gonna change?
Yarrangby, please help me.
And then you sit, and you think,
and you say why did I not wake
up today?
What happened?
You're you're analyzing. It's a complete different
so this the second
sign of a sound heart
when the human being
disobey him, turn to him right away,
Right away.
Think of it. How many of you and
show me hands, this is not related to
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. You have someone you
love in your life.
Could be children, spouse, parents, it doesn't matter.
How many of you?
All of us. All of us. Right? Somebody
who's dear to us.
Dear.
Love. And when their name comes in, you
smile.
Right?
So if this person that you love got
upset with you,
something you did,
what is your normal response?
You're gonna feel sad? How did I do
that? Why did I say this? And I'm
gonna let's see how I'm gonna make it
up. You call your friends, can't tell you
what I did today.
Would you advise me? How should I make
it up?
Right?
Yes? Yes.
So what do we do when we do
this to Allah?
That's the sign your heart is sound when
you act exactly the same way. You run
to Allah says, you Rabbi,
please forgive
me. You Allahu Allahu Allahu I don't know.
You Rabbi help this poor guy, this poor
girl,
Help her. Forgive her. You need,
they say. In the in the in the
Islamic language of the Inaba, it's not a
Tawba, it's not repentance, Inaba. You turn back
right away to Allah.
You know when you text somebody and and
you feel the the way they responded, they
got upset?
You feel it. Right? You all do.
And then what do you do?
Are you upset with me?
Question mark.
And the person, no answer, then you know
they are upset.
Right? Plea and then it depends with this
person.
Forgive me, I really didn't mean it. No
answer. Now you're gonna leave a voice note
or you're gonna call.
Why? Because you care about
them. You don't want them to get upset
with you. That's our relationship with Allah should
be.
I care about him,
pleased with me,
and he doesn't need me.
You know that.
He doesn't need me a bit. He doesn't
need my salah. He doesn't need my siyam.
He doesn't need my Quran. He doesn't need
my hijab. He doesn't need as Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala said in the hadith Qudsi,
If the first creation and the last creation
and the ins and the gent, all
all
the billions,
all were
as if they have the purest heart, everybody.
The
Allah subhanahu ta'ala kingdom will not increase a
bit.
So when I obey Allah, it's for me.
And when I obey Allah, I wanna say
it this way, and I love doing it.
I I like feeling it this way. I
don't do it because I want to go
to Jannah.
I want to go to Jannah for sure,
but I do it because I love him.
He deserve it.
He gave me a lot,
and I don't want him to be upset
with me.
I don't want him to say
how much I gave you, and you still
do that.
That relationship of love,
we need to bring it back to our
life.
We don't have this relationship with Allah
on a on a constant basis.
We have the fear
and jahannam
and the grave and the death, and I
need this, I need that.
Change it.
Change it to a relationship
of love. So the second one is you
always turn to him. He gives you Alhamdulillah,
first thing.
He took away Qadralla Masha Afar. I need
something. I'm not going to anybody.
I'm asking him
first. You Allah send me
the person who will help me. You Allah,
make the people who will interview me
see
my strength.
It's always him
through people.
Is that clear for everybody?
If you have this, and by the way,
this is not hard, wallahi,
this is easy.
It's just you have to keep reminding yourself,
and then it becomes
habit.
So we are covering Al Qalbous Salim,
and you can once you know what where
I should be, then you know where I'm
where I am right now, what is the
issues. So the first two we said, remember
yesterday, number 1, is that this heart has
nothing in it but Allah, love,
fear,
attachments,
is all
to Allah
by Allah.
So when you love someone,
and we all do,
you have to ask yourself this question.
Why do you love this person?
She or he? Children,
spouse,
parents, friends, why?
If the answer, they are my children, that's
not for Allah.
If the answer, they make me feel good,
that's not for Allah.
If the answer is,
I don't know, I just feel good around
them, that's not for Allah. There has to
be a reason that you love someone,
and that reason, in a simple
words,
the person you love
brings you closer to Allah.
The person you love brings you closer to
Allah.
That doesn't mean you're not gonna love your
family
or your spouse or your children.
But that love, natural instinct, of course you
love your children.
But the love of the children, if it
is taking me away from Allah, I'm gonna
put
put Allah number 1. If the love of
my spouse taking me away from Allah, I'm
gonna put Allah number 1.
That's why Al Khalbu Salim
is not something easy,
but it is the goal, the ultimate goal.
So that's number 1. We said number 2
is what happens when you disobey Allah.
What feelings?
How you gonna make it up? How you
gonna
correct it?
Number 3.
Remember, we have 11.
And I want all your questions and answers
I
requested
the organizers.
We're going to do it all in the
afternoon
because you may have questions, I may cover
it. And then in the afternoon,
as you see it, I think, on your
screens, you can submit your questions. We had
lovely questions yesterday.
Or also sometimes, if not, I will take
questions from the audience. So all the questions
and answers, Insha'Allah, will be in the afternoon.
Number 3. I'm gonna ask you a question,
of course, to make you keep you awake.
Right?
What's
your relationship with the remembrance of Allah?
And dhikrullah
is
many ways, many forms, so don't feel
do not let your brain think of one
thing only. The dhikr of Allah could be
saying Astaghfirullah.
So the dhikr in the tongue
could be reading the Quran,
Could be salah. Could be Quran inside salah.
Could be thinking of Allah
reflecting on his creation?
So many ways.
Du'a is a major dhikr of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. When you need something, you want
something.
A question comes to you.
Everybody, you write in your notes
and analyze yourself.
Where I am from the zikr of Allah?
10 out of 10 is a Rasool alayhi
salatu wa salam, always in dhikr.
May Allah make us. That's by Allah.
0.
0. I don't remember Allah had told.
Period.
We are neither this
nor that.
True?
Everybody?
Where are we now on the scale?
Each one of us is different. I, as
a person, am different
per day
Or even by time,
I wake up in the morning, I'm so
attached to Allah, I'm doing my qiyam, I
did my fajr, did my zikr, did my
Quran beautiful, then I go to life.
And Allah completely,
not there
in my
dhikr,
in my thinking,
in my tongue.
And then I come back and then I
go, so we swing.
The fact, and let's be also practical
and optimistic,
the fact that you think of Allah every
single day is good news.
However,
if you think of Allah only when you
need him,
that's a huge problem.
Only when you need him. Think of it
this way.
I claim that you are my best friend.
I claim,
and I really love you and care about
you. I claim.
What do you hear from me?
I call you only
when
I need you,
to the point that when you see a
text message from me, or you see my
phone number ringing, it says, okay, what does
she need?
How do you feel about me?
How do you feel about me? Not genuine,
not true,
opportunistic.
Is the message clear?
What's your relationship with Allah?
When do you remember him?
When?
When everything is
absolutely the
way
you
want.
Children are perfect. The husband and the wife
are perfect. Job is perfect. Weather is perfect,
I have a home, everything.
Do you remember Allah here?
Or when things goes wrong?
Which one?
Which one? I wanna hear it.
And Allah repeated this concept in the Quran.
He said that he saw knew Surat Yunus,
Jona, and twice in Surat
Zumar. 1 time with alif and lam and
one time without.
What happens when the human being is afflicted
by Bor?
Bor, something I don't like. It can be
anything.
Anything.
Headache,
that I took the medication, it's not going
away.
Child is giving me a hard time.
The
spouse is is giving me problems.
Job, I don't like it. I don't have
enough money to fill to fulfill all what
I need. Whatever it is.
Look at this how Allah said it. He
call upon his Lord
with full return to him.
Is that familiar?
Your child, you wake up in the morning,
and child is sick.
And you come to the physician, and they
tell you, you know what? We don't know.
This is really not going well. How is
your dua? How is your dua? Tell me.
And how is the tear? Where it's coming
from?
Fully turn to Allah, your heart is focused.
Right?
And then see what Allah says.
Then when we give him a blessing from
us,
Forgot completely what he was calling
and whom he was calling.
And he and dad actually, and he made
to Allah
partners.
Does that sounds familiar?