Haifaa Younis – Faith And Feminism

Haifaa Younis
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The segment discusses the topic of feminism, which treats men and women differently and is a movement that treats both men and women. The segment also touches on homophobic media and how it affects men and women. The segment emphasizes the importance of faith and faith in religion for everyone and gives a recommendation for a book on homophobic media and the importance of voter education. The segment also discusses the definition of feminism in the Bible and how it is defined by the Queen. The segment also touches on the struggles of women in their community and the importance of balance and being true to their system.
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Thanks be to God, and to his family,

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his companions, and those who follow him.

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O Allah, teach us what benefits us, and

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benefit us with what You have taught us.

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You are the All-Hearing, the All-Responsible

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for supplication.

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O Allah, I seek refuge in You from

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knowledge that is of no benefit, and from

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a heart that does not humble itself, that

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is not satisfied, and from a prayer that

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is not heard.

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O our Lord, do not shake our hearts

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after You have guided us, and grant us

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mercy from Yourself.

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You are the bestower.

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O Lord, open my heart and facilitate my

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affairs, and release the knot in my tongue,

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so that my speech will remain.

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It's always good to be back.

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It's becoming home more and more.

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So, Alhamdulillah, Rabbul Alameen.

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May Allah keep the blessing in this place.

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Ya Rabbi, Ameen.

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And increase You, and give You more.

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And most importantly, make You among the grateful.

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If I can ask that we have the

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children.

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Where is...

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If we can have the children in the

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room.

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For many reasons, but especially the topic.

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And if I can ask everybody in the

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back to come a little bit to the

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front.

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And, can we do that?

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Jazakallah Khair.

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So, I was asked, actually, to talk about

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this subject.

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And we're going to talk about it also

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in a different way in the morning for

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the youth.

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And we will talk about it definitely in

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way more details tomorrow for the women.

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From 11 to 1.

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So, what is faith and feminism?

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And I'm going to ask you here.

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I'm not going to just give you a

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lecture.

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And I'm going to start from feminism, and

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then I'm going to come to faith.

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What is feminism?

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I don't want you to Google or give

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me the definition.

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As the word comes to your mind, and

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this includes the brothers also.

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Because, by the way, this subject is for

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both.

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What is feminism?

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It's a very common word.

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You hear it all over, thrown in our

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faces day and night.

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What is feminism?

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Who can tell me?

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Please.

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Okay, so, realizing the potential of what woman

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is and can be.

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So, why it's negative?

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This is a very beautiful definition, positive.

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But it's usually comes as, most of the

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time, as something negative.

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Am I right?

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She is feminist.

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And then that's a question mark after it.

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Why?

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Yes.

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So, the fact that the man, the woman

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wants to be equal with the man is

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a negative thing.

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This question is to the brothers.

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When I did, we did, just to give

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you the background of this topic, we had

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a woman conference two weeks ago in California,

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in Irvine.

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And it was only for the women.

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And we had 750 women attended.

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And I received many requests from the brothers,

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but also from scholars.

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And I said, this is a woman place.

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However, we're going to open it for live

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stream.

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And you are free to listen to it.

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So, this subject is not only for the

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women.

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This subject is actually for both.

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And this is, again, I'm saying to everybody,

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when I travel, especially overseas, and I meet

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scholars, very frequent question I get, what do

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you think of feminism?

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Me, as a woman.

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So, if I ask the brothers, what is

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feminism?

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For you, as a brother.

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So, you heard what the woman said.

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Anyone can raise their hand and tell me.

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Negative, negative.

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Let's hear it.

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Positive, alhamdulillah.

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What is feminism for you?

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Anybody?

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No, you're not raising your hand.

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That's going to be tough on you.

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Yes, anyone?

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No idea?

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Yes, please.

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Say that again.

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Man and woman are equal?

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Anybody has anything to add?

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Anyone?

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So, next question.

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It's going to be questions and answers, because

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this subject cannot be covered in 45 minutes.

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Are men and women equal?

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That's the biggest question.

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As Muslims, I'm not talking about outside.

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Outside is a completely different story.

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We, as Muslims, do you, as a woman,

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do you, as a man, a sister and

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a brother, a husband and a wife, a

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brother and a real sister, are we equal?

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Are we the same?

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It's two important questions here.

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Are we the same?

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Yes or no?

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Are we equal?

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Yes or no?

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So, what is feminism then?

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You all answered right.

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We are equal, but we are not the

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same.

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That's confusing for a 15-year-old, or

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13, and even some of us.

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So, what is feminism?

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I'm going to give you some background.

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There was a lot of history.

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I don't want to give you a lot

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of history.

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But feminism, basically, it's a movement.

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Bismillah.

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I didn't finish it.

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I just said one word.

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What is the movement?

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And where did it come from?

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Unless you know the background, don't judge yet.

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And then we're going to bring whatever this

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movement, and then bring it to our faith,

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and see.

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And you have to be extremely balanced, and

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not judgmental.

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Don't say Islam is against feminism.

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Because, please forgive me, you're wrong.

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And don't tell me Islam is all feminism.

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You're also wrong.

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Okay?

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Bismillah.

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So, what is feminism?

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It came at the end of the last

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century.

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At the end of the 1800s, 1900s.

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A range.

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This is the definition in Wikipedia.

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So that's easy.

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You all can see it.

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It's a range of social, political, ideological movement.

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It's a movement.

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Social.

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There's no religion here, by the way.

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Social, political, and ideology.

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And what is the goal?

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What is the goal?

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Establish political, economical, personal, social equality of the

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two genders.

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Are you with me?

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So are we equal?

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In front of Allah, are we equal?

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Absolutely.

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So the first thing Islam, when I go

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back to Islam, and I said, I don't

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need this.

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I don't need this.

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I don't need this movement.

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Islam came to me 1400 years ago, and

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I'm going to quote the verse, which a

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woman asked the Rasul, peace be upon him,

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how come when we read the Quran, the

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reward goes to the men?

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What about us?

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And Allah revealed it.

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It's in Surah Al-Ahzab.

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Innal muslimina wal muslimat.

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Some of you may be familiar with it.

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Verily, the Muslim, men.

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Muslim, women.

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wal mu'minina wal mu'minat.

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Believing, men.

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Believing, women.

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wal qanitina wal qanitat.

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wal sadiqina wal sadiqat.

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All the description, including those who are in

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always a state of dhikr, but he in

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every act of worship, he put men, and

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he put women.

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In general, in the Quran, when Allah does

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not differentiate between the genders, that means both.

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But this was revealed because a woman asked

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about that.

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Where is my reward?

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Am I equal in the sight of Allah?

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And Allah revealed it.

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All the above, men and women.

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So bring back the feminism.

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Am I, and again, I'm not talking about

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culture.

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Both sides.

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Culture is a complete different story.

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And this is where the confusion is coming.

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Culture treats men and women differently.

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You know, the biggest question I get from

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the youth, you may be a little bit

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surprised, and this was actually in a program

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I did in Irvine, I did mother and

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daughter program.

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The masjid was packed.

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There was more than 500 people.

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Because the youth, they really wanted to hear

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it.

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And mothers wanted to see what is going

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on.

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So a 14 or 15 year old, she

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stood up.

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And I said, what is the issue that

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you face with your parents?

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Right?

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Your mothers are here, let's talk about it.

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She raised her hand.

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And she said, me and my brother are

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treated differently in the house.

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I was like, tell me about it.

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Because sometimes our perception is wrong.

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I said, how come?

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She said, my parents say, and actually she

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said, my mother said, I have to be

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home by 9 o'clock p.m. But

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my brother can be up out till 2

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a.m. That's not fair.

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What is the answer?

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Let's hear it from you before I tell

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you what I said.

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This is one of the roots where women

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get absorbed to feminism.

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How many of you do this in their

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homes?

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Now I'm exposing the community.

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Don't raise your hand.

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Okay.

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How many of you think what is wrong

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with this statement?

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It's okay.

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I tell my son come at 2 a

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.m. but my daughter needs to be home

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at 9 p.m. How many of you

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say that?

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You're too quiet today.

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I had a feeling because this is a

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very tough, sensitive subject.

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We don't want to admit it.

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But unless you admit it, we will lose

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these girls.

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Unless we start looking at this as Muslims

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and we know how to respond, in 10

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years those who are playing the masjid, there's

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a good possibility we will lose them.

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Because unless you understand your deen very well

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and you practice it the way it pleases

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Allah, you can easily be pulled to the

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other side.

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I said to her, both of you need

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to be home before 10 p.m. Because

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they are absolutely right to be worried about

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you.

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But what they are worried about you maybe

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does not apply to your brother.

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But there is a lot of other things

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that applies to your brother that doesn't apply

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to you.

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Both of you need to be at home

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before 10 to the house.

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So feminism is not exactly equality, but it

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is also equality.

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There's a beautiful book written by Sheikh Jamal

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Badoui more than 20 years ago.

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It's a very small book.

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I highly recommend everybody reads it.

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It's in English, beautiful, easy.

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And he said, I can't remember the title,

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but something in meaning, we are equal but

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we are not equal.

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We are the same, but we are not

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the same.

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But I want all of us to come

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from this base.

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Now I'm going to ask everybody, and all

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of you will answer me, inshallah.

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You will not hesitate.

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Is Allah just?

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Show me your hands.

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Everybody.

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Allah is just.

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We have no doubt.

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Absolutely.

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Even if what we see is not just,

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but that doesn't mean it is not just.

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It's just what I'm seeing right now with

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my limited knowledge.

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So when Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, said

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the woman cannot do that and the man

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can do that, or the opposite.

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I come to this verse or to the

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hadith of the Rasul, alayhi salatu wa salam,

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from the base that it is just.

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I'm just not seeing it.

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How many of you, adult, in this room,

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when you were a teenager, myself included, a

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lot of what my parents wanted me to

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do, I didn't like it.

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And it's not fair.

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And why I have to do this?

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And we did it because they are our

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parents.

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Twenty years later, you're telling your children exactly

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what your parents told you, because now you've

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seen that this is right.

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So the first thing when you come to

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feminism, it's a movement for equality because there

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was no equality.

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The woman paid less than the man.

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The woman cannot vote.

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Did you know that?

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We're getting to the voting very soon.

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Did you know that in this country, at

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one point, the woman had no right to

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vote?

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Yes or no?

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Let me ask you now.

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Let's see how much you know about your

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deen.

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Does Islam allow the woman to vote?

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Yes?

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Brothers?

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Anyone disagree?

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What is your proof?

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You cannot just throw things on Islam and

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you don't have a proof.

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You answered right, all of you.

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What is the proof that the woman can

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vote?

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Because that's one of the things feminism went

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for.

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Women should vote.

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Yes.

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I can't hear you.

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Absolutely, when the delegates left Medina, went to

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Rasul before he migrated, to give him the

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allegiance, the first allegiance, there were two women

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with them.

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You're talking about 14 plus hundred years ago.

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Two women came from Medina to Mecca, right?

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Not two hours train or five hours car.

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This is two weeks at that time.

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Allah knows walking or they were on an

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animal.

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To give him allegiance, who were they?

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Two women.

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I'm sorry?

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Nusayba bint Ka'b.

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Yes.

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Umm Amara.

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I want you to feel this.

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Fourteen hundred plus years ago, woman living in

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Medina, coming all the way and Rasul still

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not yet the Rasul that he had the

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power, he had the presence.

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No.

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The people in Mecca actually were against him

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and they were pushing him out.

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She came all the way against majority of

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people to tell him, yes.

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I vote for you.

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Why do I need feminism?

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Voting is number one.

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Equality.

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Socially.

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Because this is what the movement is all

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about.

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Socially at that time and if you're going

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to listen to the talk, it was a

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whole day conference.

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Highly recommend listen to Sheikha Aisha Prime because

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she brought the history of this country.

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And how they looked down.

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The women among them looked down at the

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colored women.

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But they want them because of numbers.

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She kept saying because we're numbers.

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What did Islam say about me in front

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of Allah?

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Spiritually.

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Am I the same?

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Am I the same?

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I want to hear it.

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I want one of you, especially the brothers

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because that hadith many of the brothers knows

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it and some of the women knows it

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too.

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I want you to challenge me with this

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statement I just said.

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I said we are the same spiritually in

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front of Allah.

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Does anyone know a hadith of Rasul that

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challenged this statement externally?

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You better know it because that's one of

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the things the feminist movement will come against

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Islam.

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Anybody knows it?

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Can you speak up please brother?

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That's for and I'm looking for against.

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You're absolutely right.

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There is no difference between Arab and non

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-Arab.

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There is no difference between Arab and non

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-Arab except at the level of their piety.

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That's for and I'm looking for a hadith

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externally can easily be taken especially by the

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brothers and the feminist movement against Islam and

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they tell her the woman is not the

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same.

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Yes, that's inheritance.

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We'll come to this later because that's another

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one.

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The majority of the dwellers of Jahannam is

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from the sisters.

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That's another one but that's not the main

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one.

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Yes.

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There's a hadith of Rasul you all have

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to know it and you need to read

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about it and understand what he said.

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I'm very surprised the men don't know it

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or maybe you're too shy to say it.

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He said to the woman.

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Now listen to the external and you're going

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to say really?

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Really?

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I have not seen.

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He was talking to the woman.

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I have not seen more than you and

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he didn't say woman.

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He said they have less wisdom and their

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deen is less yet they can affect and

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manipulate the man.

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So when you look at it externally wow.

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So I'm less in my deen and I

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am less in my wisdom.

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The woman asked him Why we are less?

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And he said because of the monthly period

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so your prayer and your act of worship

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number wise are less and then because of

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the witness the testimony.

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Is that a compliment or this is not

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a compliment?

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Because this is one of the hadiths and

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the verses in the Quran if Allah gives

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me time I will cover it too where

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the woman Muslim woman and the non-Muslim

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men and women come and attack and say

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Islam don't give the woman the same Islam

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say the woman has less wisdom and less

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religion.

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Okay.

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I'll give you a parable of the hadith

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and inshallah you will understand it.

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If any of you know Arabic, go to

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Al-Jazeera.

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I did an interview with them, subhanallah, the

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day before October 6th last year.

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It's on a Friday and this was the

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topic and this was the hadith.

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Let's clarify what Islam say about women.

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The parable I'm going to give you let's

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say this girl in front of you may

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Allah protect her and make her from the

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righteous right?

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So I'm assuming she's three years old so

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I look at her with her father right?

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And I see her pulling her father arm

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to take him to where she wants.

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And I'm going to say what a three

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year old this one can make a man

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do what he wants.

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Did I praise her or I attacked her?

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Done.

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That's the hadith.

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That's how you have to understand it.

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That in spite you pray less because of

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what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala made it

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unconditional on me.

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In spite of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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said your witness in the economy economical matters

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need two women instead of one yet you

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have I wouldn't say full control but you

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can absolutely move the man or make the

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man do what you want.

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Is it a compliment or not?

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Done.

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You need to learn this.

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You need to learn this.

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Inheritance, that's the second attack.

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Who knows Quran here well so I don't

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have to.

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Like you know Quran.

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I don't mean hafidh, I mean you understand

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it all.

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Did Allah says the man inherited twice than

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the woman?

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Yes or no?

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Yes, of course.

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Absolutely, I can't.

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يوصيكم الله في أولادكم للذكري مكلو حظ الأنثيين.

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I can't change the Quran.

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يوصيكم الله في أولادكم Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala have made it obligation on you that

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your son أولادكم will inherit double what your

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daughter will inherit.

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Yes?

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Is that anti-feminism?

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Why?

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He's taking double than me?

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It's not fair.

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Just a second.

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Yes or no?

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If you're going to say no, you have

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to explain it.

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Second question for everybody.

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See how you really have to learn your

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deen.

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Because once you know then you're absolutely fine.

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Nobody will affect you.

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Is this rule in every situation the man

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inherit double the woman?

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Just a second.

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As you're doing this, give me the proof.

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No, you don't say you don't speak about

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this deen without a proof.

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That's not my opinion and yours.

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You just said the right.

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What is the proof?

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I'm sorry.

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Go ahead, brother.

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Can't hear you, unfortunately.

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The mother can take more than the father.

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Right?

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And the double is only for the brothers

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and the sisters.

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Sometimes the woman inherits more.

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Sometimes the woman inherits less.

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And sometimes equal.

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It's all in Surah An-Nisa.

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This is very clear in chapter the woman.

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Isn't it interesting?

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Subhanallah.

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Third, am I equal in the sight of

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Allah?

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When I'm gonna stand, you're gonna stand and

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you're gonna stand.

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Are we the same?

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Completely?

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If I sin as a woman, am I

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gonna be punished the same as a man?

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Yes or no?

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Yes or no?

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Give me the proof.

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Again, don't say yes or no unless you

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tell me.

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Because if you're gonna be debating somebody who

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knows a little bit about the Quran, knows

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only the verses that is not very clear,

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then it's gonna be tough on you.

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What happens if I steal and you steal?

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If I steal, a woman steals, and a

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brother steals, is the punishment the same?

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Absolutely.

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...

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The woman thief, the man thief cut their

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hand.

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Both.

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What about adultery?

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Both is the same.

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...

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...

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...

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...

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Punishment?

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Same.

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Reward?

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You fast, I fast.

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You do qiyam, I do qiyam.

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You do charity, I do charity.

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Right?

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Same?

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...

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...

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...

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...

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Whomsoever do a good deed.

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Here, he said, a man and a woman.

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...

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You have to be a believer.

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We're gonna make you live a very good

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life, and we're gonna reward you both the

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same.

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So what's feminism then?

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Feminism, basically, as a woman and as a

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man, you need to know that Allah gave

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me rights but at the same time gave

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me responsibilities.

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And he honored the man.

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...

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honored the man with certain things I don't

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have, but he's gonna be asked about it.

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Back to the son inherited double, why?

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Just a, why?

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Why Allah give you double than me?

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It's not fear.

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I'll do better, but I'm telling you what

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I hear from the mouth of Muslims, the

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mouth of Muslims.

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Maybe they don't say it in front of

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you, but I get these emails and questions.

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How are you gonna respond?

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This is your daughter, 15 years from now,

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she's 25.

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And she says, are you telling me this

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house, my brother will take two third and

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I will take one?

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Why?

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That's not fear.

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And imagine she's saying this to her friend

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in college, her coworker, how you will respond?

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Yes, the man is responsible for the woman

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throughout her life.

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Who said so?

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And now we are talking, because this is

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one of the, this is one of the

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most misunderstood verse in the Quran, and you

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really have to learn it.

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It's also in Surah An-Nisa.

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Ar-rijalu qawwamuna ala an-nisa, and the

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men use this.

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Right?

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And when the woman wants, she use this

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verse also.

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What is qawwama?

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What is a man is qawwam.

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Anybody knows Arabic here?

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From the men I'm asking, yes?

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They are caretaker.

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That's one of the translation.

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Second, protectors.

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Third, I'm sorry, provider.

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Okay, but mainly, mainly the first two.

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Protector, caretaker, and then provider.

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If you have the money.

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Because Allah said, bima fadhalallahu ba'dahum ala ba'dum,

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wa bima anfaqoo min amwalihim.

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So when I say to my wife, and

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now coming to the brothers, that you need

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to take care of me, and I never

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use the word obey me, because it's very

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negative in this country.

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Although in deen, ista'a, but in this

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country, obey is usually used for slaves.

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So be very careful, especially when you speak

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to non-Arab.

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For us, we know what's ta'a, it's

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very easily understood.

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But when you say obey, people will misuse

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this word, and some gets very offended.

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I call it take care.

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And I'm gonna say, why?

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And you're gonna respond, and you say, because

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I have to take care of you.

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Listen to this.

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You taking care of your wife is a

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responsibility.

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Me taking care of my husband is responsibility.

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Both.

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Both.

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So I cannot say as a man, I'm

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not gonna take care of her, because she

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doesn't take care of me.

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Don't do it, it's your choice.

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But Allah will ask you.

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And the same thing applies here.

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You can't come and say, you know what,

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I'm not talking about abuse.

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Always abuse stays in another place.

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I'm talking about regular.

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But he doesn't take care of me.

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And I was like, what does that mean?

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If he is taking care of you the

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way he pleases Allah, fulfilled the qawamah, the

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caregiver, then you need to take care of

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him.

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Otherwise, Allah will ask you also.

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That is not understood in feminism.

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Feminism is understood in this equal, 50-50.

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You know the 50-50 rules?

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50-50.

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Islam is not 50-50.

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Islam is a wholesome.

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In the house, wholesome.

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Not you wash the dishes one day and

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I will wash the dishes next day.

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That's not Islam.

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Islam is the house needs to be clean.

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If I am working 18 hours, and for

00:31:10 --> 00:31:11

some reason Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A

00:31:11 --> 00:31:13

'la made your job easy, then there is

00:31:13 --> 00:31:15

nothing wrong with you washing the dishes.

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Because that's what he did, alayhi salatu wa

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salam.

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But if you are working 18 hours and

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I am not, then I need to do

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it.

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What is the big deal?

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Why do I look down at taking care

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of my house?

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That's my responsibility.

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That's taking care.

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Are you with me?

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Because all these misunderstood things about the deen

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needs to be cleared.

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Remove the culture.

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The culture is a huge issue here.

00:31:45 --> 00:31:46

What is faith?

00:31:49 --> 00:31:49

What is faith?

00:31:49 --> 00:31:51

Everybody in this room is believer?

00:31:51 --> 00:31:52

Of course.

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Why we are in the masjid?

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Alhamdulillah.

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What is faith?

00:31:56 --> 00:31:56

I'm sorry?

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Don't tell me believing, I know that.

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Right, what is the word faith mean?

00:32:03 --> 00:32:04

Have you ever looked it up?

00:32:04 --> 00:32:06

You wanna learn anything?

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

You know, when I prepare any talk, the

00:32:09 --> 00:32:10

first thing I do, I go and look

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

at the linguistic meaning.

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So if I'm reading alhamdulillah, I speak Arabic,

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so I always go to the Arabic word

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first.

00:32:18 --> 00:32:19

What does it mean, the word?

00:32:20 --> 00:32:21

Not Islam, the word itself.

00:32:22 --> 00:32:23

Faith, and I actually wrote it here.

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Faith is, and this is for every religion,

00:32:28 --> 00:32:33

associated with trust in Allah, God, and his

00:32:33 --> 00:32:34

promise.

00:32:35 --> 00:32:38

Trust in Allah and his promise.

00:32:38 --> 00:32:41

Faith also have secular meaning.

00:32:42 --> 00:32:44

Outside religion, what is it?

00:32:45 --> 00:32:49

Don't we say, trust me, I have a

00:32:49 --> 00:32:52

good, or I say, I trust her, I

00:32:52 --> 00:32:53

have a good faith in her.

00:32:54 --> 00:32:55

What is that?

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

Or I have a bad faith in her.

00:32:57 --> 00:32:58

What is that?

00:33:00 --> 00:33:01

Trust.

00:33:02 --> 00:33:04

Faith is trust.

00:33:04 --> 00:33:06

You trust in Allah, what does that mean?

00:33:07 --> 00:33:10

Everything he said is good for me, even

00:33:10 --> 00:33:12

if I don't understand it.

00:33:13 --> 00:33:16

Everything he said do, it is good for

00:33:16 --> 00:33:16

me.

00:33:16 --> 00:33:18

Everything he said don't do, is not good

00:33:18 --> 00:33:19

for me.

00:33:20 --> 00:33:23

Now the issue is, I don't understand the

00:33:23 --> 00:33:25

religion, for many reasons, I'm talking about depth

00:33:25 --> 00:33:28

of religion, that I need to go by

00:33:28 --> 00:33:29

the good faith.

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

And I wouldn't say it's not fair.

00:33:32 --> 00:33:36

And I wouldn't say, this is exactly what

00:33:36 --> 00:33:36

you have to do.

00:33:36 --> 00:33:39

I need to know, Allah is just, Allah

00:33:39 --> 00:33:43

subhanahu wa ta'ala, anything he put in

00:33:43 --> 00:33:47

this religion, even if externally, does not fit

00:33:47 --> 00:33:50

where we are living, it doesn't matter, because

00:33:50 --> 00:33:53

I know my creator, the one who created

00:33:53 --> 00:33:56

me, is, what he said, is good for

00:33:56 --> 00:33:56

me.

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I'm just gonna keep some, I wanna leave

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some time for, what time is Isha?

00:34:03 --> 00:34:03

8.30?

00:34:04 --> 00:34:05

Okay, we still have, okay.

00:34:06 --> 00:34:08

Here, I'm gonna say one thing.

00:34:12 --> 00:34:14

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala made a human

00:34:14 --> 00:34:19

being honored, true or false, human being in

00:34:19 --> 00:34:20

general, yes or no?

00:34:21 --> 00:34:22

Are we honored?

00:34:22 --> 00:34:25

Okay, you are so confident, you're right.

00:34:37 --> 00:34:41

We have honored, actually, takrim is even exalt,

00:34:43 --> 00:34:44

the human being, he didn't say man or

00:34:44 --> 00:34:48

a woman, Bani Adam, children of Adam.

00:34:52 --> 00:34:56

We facilitated for them to walk and move

00:34:56 --> 00:35:00

on this earth and in the sea, we

00:35:00 --> 00:35:02

have gave them from the best we have

00:35:02 --> 00:35:09

sustenance, Allah have exalted you and me over

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

a lot of other creation.

00:35:12 --> 00:35:14

So when you see a bird, when you

00:35:14 --> 00:35:16

see a cat, when you see any animal,

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

there's two things you say, this is what

00:35:19 --> 00:35:19

I always say.

00:35:20 --> 00:35:23

I'm actually envy of that animal, I'm jealous.

00:35:24 --> 00:35:24

You know why?

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

Because there will be no accountability.

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

That animal is not gonna stand in front

00:35:31 --> 00:35:33

of Allah and says, why didn't you do

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

this or do that?

00:35:34 --> 00:35:36

And what do they do in life?

00:35:36 --> 00:35:39

Eat and drink and fulfill their desires, done.

00:35:40 --> 00:35:42

But at the same time, he did not

00:35:42 --> 00:35:43

exalt it.

00:35:43 --> 00:35:46

When Allah said, I exalted Bani Adam, I

00:35:46 --> 00:35:47

have honored, he didn't say, I honored the

00:35:47 --> 00:35:48

man.

00:35:50 --> 00:35:52

Second, when the word man comes in the

00:35:52 --> 00:35:55

Quran, because again, majority of you read English.

00:35:55 --> 00:35:58

When Allah says man, doesn't mean the male

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gender, necessarily, no.

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

For example, Rijalun, Allah said this in Surah

00:36:05 --> 00:36:08

An-Nur, talking about masajid, right?

00:36:09 --> 00:36:12

And he says, Rijalun la tulhihim tijaratun wala

00:36:12 --> 00:36:13

bay'un an dhikrillah.

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If you read the translation, this is in

00:36:15 --> 00:36:18

Surah An-Nur, men, because that's how you

00:36:18 --> 00:36:24

translate, men that will never get distracted from

00:36:24 --> 00:36:26

the remembrance of Allah by money or by

00:36:26 --> 00:36:27

work.

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

Does that mean men only?

00:36:29 --> 00:36:31

But you will read it as men.

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

Men, if Allah did not describe it in

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

the Quran, that means the both gender.

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So when you read a man, not necessarily

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

it is man only.

00:36:41 --> 00:36:45

When Allah says, karramna bani Adam, the children

00:36:45 --> 00:36:46

of Adam, this is all of us.

00:36:47 --> 00:36:48

So that's number one.

00:36:48 --> 00:36:52

We all have been exalted by Allah, and

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

you all know the famous ayah when Allah

00:36:54 --> 00:36:55

told the angels, what?

00:36:56 --> 00:36:57

I am gonna be, do what?

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

inni ja'alun fil ardi khalifa I am

00:37:01 --> 00:37:04

gonna make a successor in this earth.

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

What did the angel says?

00:37:06 --> 00:37:06

Why?

00:37:06 --> 00:37:07

The argument you all know.

00:37:08 --> 00:37:11

That's basically an exaltation for the human being.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:14

He did not leave angels on earth.

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

Can I ask you a question just to

00:37:16 --> 00:37:17

bring your attention back?

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

Which one is better, us or the angels?

00:37:20 --> 00:37:21

Us, oh, mashallah.

00:37:22 --> 00:37:23

And why is that?

00:37:24 --> 00:37:25

Why is that?

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28

Will, what does that mean?

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

I know what you mean, but I need

00:37:30 --> 00:37:31

you to explain it.

00:37:32 --> 00:37:35

Always when we speak about the deen, especially

00:37:35 --> 00:37:38

living in a non-Muslim country, talk in

00:37:38 --> 00:37:40

the mind of the people who don't know.

00:37:40 --> 00:37:42

Not the mind of you and me, of

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

course we know, right?

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

So if you are gonna talk to a

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

15-year-old or 16-year-old, and

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

I keep saying this every, when I come

00:37:50 --> 00:37:52

to you on Friday, because normally on Thursday,

00:37:52 --> 00:37:54

I teach the youth girls.

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

And many of the things that we take

00:37:57 --> 00:37:59

for granted and we understand, believe me, they

00:37:59 --> 00:37:59

have no idea.

00:38:01 --> 00:38:02

And you have to explain it.

00:38:03 --> 00:38:08

So when we say, when we come and

00:38:08 --> 00:38:10

say, what you just answered me, why?

00:38:14 --> 00:38:17

So is angels better or us?

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

Us, why?

00:38:19 --> 00:38:22

There's a huge debate between scholars, basically, because

00:38:22 --> 00:38:24

I have ability to choose.

00:38:25 --> 00:38:27

When I don't have the ability to choose,

00:38:28 --> 00:38:28

what is the problem?

00:38:31 --> 00:38:33

Fasting, but the water, I'm so thirsty.

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

And I can pick up the water right

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

away and drink it.

00:38:37 --> 00:38:38

So I have a choice.

00:38:38 --> 00:38:41

When I have a choice, it's very difficult.

00:38:41 --> 00:38:42

It's one of the reasons we, living in

00:38:42 --> 00:38:47

the West, we're not happy, as the simple

00:38:47 --> 00:38:48

people who live in villages.

00:38:49 --> 00:38:52

And we have everything, and they have nothing,

00:38:54 --> 00:38:55

because they don't have a choice.

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

What do you wanna eat for dinner?

00:38:57 --> 00:38:58

Mafi, what do you wanna eat for dinner?

00:38:59 --> 00:39:00

This is the only thing in dinner, and

00:39:00 --> 00:39:02

hamdullahi rabbil alameen.

00:39:02 --> 00:39:07

For us, so when we have a choice,

00:39:07 --> 00:39:11

I can choose to please Allah, and I

00:39:11 --> 00:39:12

can choose not to.

00:39:12 --> 00:39:14

And this is a question always I am

00:39:14 --> 00:39:14

asked.

00:39:15 --> 00:39:16

Is hijab for the woman a choice?

00:39:18 --> 00:39:20

Yes, it is her choice to obey Allah

00:39:20 --> 00:39:20

or not.

00:39:22 --> 00:39:24

It is her choice to obey Allah or

00:39:24 --> 00:39:24

not.

00:39:25 --> 00:39:26

And that's up to you.

00:39:27 --> 00:39:28

And we can also say many other examples

00:39:28 --> 00:39:29

for the woman.

00:39:29 --> 00:39:33

So basically, basically, we have been exalted, we

00:39:33 --> 00:39:35

have been honored, man and a woman.

00:39:36 --> 00:39:39

Many of the things they talk about, we

00:39:39 --> 00:39:42

as Muslim women, we have it already, right?

00:39:42 --> 00:39:45

Now back to the Hadith, the brother said,

00:39:45 --> 00:39:46

I'm gonna bring you the verse.

00:39:46 --> 00:39:51

Ya ayyuhan naas, inna khalaqnakum min dhakarin wa

00:39:51 --> 00:39:54

untha wa ja'alnakum sha'uban wa qabaila

00:39:54 --> 00:39:56

li ta'arafu.

00:39:56 --> 00:39:59

Next, inna akramakum indallahi itqaakum.

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People, and Allah, he did not address believers.

00:40:03 --> 00:40:04

He addressed people.

00:40:05 --> 00:40:07

We have created you from a man and

00:40:07 --> 00:40:08

a woman.

00:40:09 --> 00:40:11

And this, a very good way to respond

00:40:11 --> 00:40:12

to the LGBT argument.

00:40:14 --> 00:40:15

But that's a different story.

00:40:16 --> 00:40:17

And Allah said, man and a woman.

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

And we have made you nation and tribe.

00:40:19 --> 00:40:20

Look at each other.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

The men look at each other, the women

00:40:23 --> 00:40:23

look at each other.

00:40:23 --> 00:40:24

Are we the same?

00:40:25 --> 00:40:26

Do we come from the same place?

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

Even if you come from the same country,

00:40:28 --> 00:40:29

are we the same?

00:40:29 --> 00:40:31

How many dialogue you have, how many foods

00:40:31 --> 00:40:32

different?

00:40:32 --> 00:40:34

But we are different, but to know each

00:40:34 --> 00:40:36

other and the best among you, neither man

00:40:36 --> 00:40:40

or a woman, nor young, nor old, white

00:40:40 --> 00:40:42

or not white, have accent or don't have

00:40:42 --> 00:40:44

an accent, none of that in the sight

00:40:44 --> 00:40:45

of Allah.

00:40:45 --> 00:40:46

The most pious.

00:40:48 --> 00:40:51

And only Allah knows who is the most

00:40:51 --> 00:40:51

pious.

00:40:52 --> 00:40:55

So when I come back to feminism, when

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

I come back to feminism and I say,

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

let me take you back to the definition

00:40:59 --> 00:41:01

so you can connect together.

00:41:01 --> 00:41:04

This is the definition of feminism in Wikipedia.

00:41:05 --> 00:41:10

A range of social, political, ideological movement aim

00:41:10 --> 00:41:17

to define and establish equality, political, economic, personal

00:41:17 --> 00:41:18

and social.

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

Does Islam gives me that?

00:41:22 --> 00:41:23

Not 50-50.

00:41:23 --> 00:41:25

I want to reemphasize this.

00:41:26 --> 00:41:28

It is not 50-50.

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

One day he does that, the next day

00:41:30 --> 00:41:31

I do that.

00:41:32 --> 00:41:34

And it is not zero and 100.

00:41:34 --> 00:41:37

She does everything and he does nothing or

00:41:37 --> 00:41:39

he does everything and she does nothing.

00:41:39 --> 00:41:40

That's not an Islam.

00:41:41 --> 00:41:43

Nobody is better than the Rasul, peace be

00:41:43 --> 00:41:47

upon him, and he served his family.

00:41:48 --> 00:41:52

And he used to even, literally, sew his

00:41:52 --> 00:41:57

clothes, the best of the creation, right?

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

Last but not the least, it's a story

00:42:00 --> 00:42:03

which really, really moved me.

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

There is two women in our deen, in

00:42:06 --> 00:42:09

the Quran, two women in the Quran, one

00:42:09 --> 00:42:11

by name and the other one not by

00:42:11 --> 00:42:14

name, who really tell you, can faith and

00:42:14 --> 00:42:15

feminism live together?

00:42:16 --> 00:42:18

Does anyone know who those are?

00:42:19 --> 00:42:21

One, her name is mentioned, the other one,

00:42:21 --> 00:42:22

her name is not mentioned.

00:42:23 --> 00:42:23

I'm sorry?

00:42:24 --> 00:42:27

Sayida Mariam, Mariam name is mentioned.

00:42:28 --> 00:42:29

And the other one?

00:42:30 --> 00:42:30

No.

00:42:32 --> 00:42:33

Sorry?

00:42:34 --> 00:42:37

No, no.

00:42:39 --> 00:42:41

The Sayida Aisha without her name.

00:42:42 --> 00:42:44

What is feminism here and what is faith

00:42:44 --> 00:42:45

here?

00:42:46 --> 00:42:50

All the names you mentioned, you're absolutely right,

00:42:50 --> 00:42:52

especially those without a name, but not in

00:42:52 --> 00:42:54

the context of this.

00:42:54 --> 00:42:56

Let's take Sayida Mariam, where is faith and

00:42:56 --> 00:42:56

feminism?

00:42:58 --> 00:43:01

This is a single woman, right?

00:43:02 --> 00:43:07

Unmarried, virgin, very pious, everybody knows her, whenever

00:43:07 --> 00:43:10

they see her, she is worshiping Allah, right?

00:43:11 --> 00:43:12

Because Allah described her in Ahlul Imran.

00:43:13 --> 00:43:15

Kullama dakha alayha zakariya al-mihraba.

00:43:15 --> 00:43:18

Zakariya, her uncle, where does he find her?

00:43:18 --> 00:43:19

In the masjid.

00:43:20 --> 00:43:22

Mihrab is her place of worship.

00:43:22 --> 00:43:25

Wajida indaha risqa, he found food.

00:43:26 --> 00:43:27

And where is this, Mariam, where did you

00:43:27 --> 00:43:28

get this from?

00:43:28 --> 00:43:30

Qalat innahu min indi Allah, this is Allah.

00:43:31 --> 00:43:33

Yarzuqu ma yasha, what happened to this woman?

00:43:38 --> 00:43:40

Come on, what happened to this woman?

00:43:41 --> 00:43:43

She got pregnant, right?

00:43:44 --> 00:43:48

And gave birth to a boy without marriage.

00:43:48 --> 00:43:51

Imagine this here, you are a tight community,

00:43:51 --> 00:43:53

everybody knows everybody, right?

00:43:53 --> 00:43:56

You have a single girl here, right?

00:43:56 --> 00:43:59

Comes in the masjid, not pregnant, carrying the

00:43:59 --> 00:43:59

baby.

00:44:01 --> 00:44:02

Yes, right?

00:44:02 --> 00:44:05

Huge, huge.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:08

And what the community said, they expected.

00:44:09 --> 00:44:13

Qalu ya Mariam, ma kana abuki mraa sawiin,

00:44:13 --> 00:44:15

wa ma kanat umuki baghiya.

00:44:15 --> 00:44:18

Your father was not a bad man, and

00:44:18 --> 00:44:23

your mother was not baghiya, meaning she, I

00:44:23 --> 00:44:26

can't say the word because of the age

00:44:26 --> 00:44:27

in here, right?

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

But you all understood.

00:44:28 --> 00:44:30

And if you don't, just go back to

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

Surah Mariam, you will find it.

00:44:33 --> 00:44:34

Where is feminism here?

00:44:36 --> 00:44:38

Did she stood up and said, it's my

00:44:38 --> 00:44:41

right, you have nothing to do with it,

00:44:43 --> 00:44:43

right?

00:44:44 --> 00:44:46

Did she said, ya Allah, this is not

00:44:46 --> 00:44:48

fair, why me?

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

Right, did she look at the men and

00:44:51 --> 00:44:53

said, because the community asked her, did she

00:44:53 --> 00:44:55

looked at the man and says, that's not

00:44:55 --> 00:44:57

your business, you mind your own business.

00:44:57 --> 00:44:58

Did she, that's what she said?

00:44:59 --> 00:45:00

What did she do?

00:45:02 --> 00:45:03

Pointed to him.

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

To whom?

00:45:06 --> 00:45:06

Why?

00:45:07 --> 00:45:08

Why?

00:45:10 --> 00:45:13

Because Allah told her so, through him.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:16

fa idha ra'iti, fa imma tari'inna

00:45:16 --> 00:45:19

minal bashari ahadan fa quli, inni nazartu lilrahmani

00:45:19 --> 00:45:24

sawman falan ukellima alyawma insiya When you see

00:45:24 --> 00:45:30

anybody, don't speak, sawm, hear fasting from speech.

00:45:31 --> 00:45:35

And say, he's talking, baby, newborn, just delivered.

00:45:36 --> 00:45:42

Say, don't speak, don't answer, rather say, I'm

00:45:42 --> 00:45:44

fasting, right?

00:45:44 --> 00:45:46

falan ukellima alyawma insiya I am not gonna

00:45:46 --> 00:45:47

talk to anybody.

00:45:48 --> 00:45:49

How many of us will believe this?

00:45:49 --> 00:45:53

And bring the baby, and don't speak a

00:45:53 --> 00:45:56

word, because Allah told you, and then you

00:45:56 --> 00:45:57

point to the baby, and you don't know

00:45:57 --> 00:46:00

if the baby will speak, to defend you.

00:46:02 --> 00:46:04

That's faith, and that's feminism.

00:46:05 --> 00:46:07

Did you get my point?

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Faith and feminism.

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And by the way, there is a lot

00:46:11 --> 00:46:13

of the same story for the men, but

00:46:13 --> 00:46:14

the subject is feminism.

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

Second one, which you all need to know,

00:46:18 --> 00:46:22

that story is very strong, very powerful, and

00:46:22 --> 00:46:23

very impactful, you all know it.

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

What happened to Sayyida Aisha, and how they

00:46:26 --> 00:46:29

accused her, and then 40 days no Quran,

00:46:30 --> 00:46:31

and everybody is talking about her.

00:46:31 --> 00:46:33

I'm gonna end up with just this, because

00:46:33 --> 00:46:38

see how feminism and faith.

00:46:39 --> 00:46:40

Was Sayyida Aisha strong?

00:46:42 --> 00:46:42

Yes or no?

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

Was she very knowledgeable?

00:46:46 --> 00:46:49

Was she the most beloved to Rasul A

00:46:49 --> 00:46:52

.S.? Absolutely, he said it.

00:46:52 --> 00:46:53

She did not brag about it.

00:46:54 --> 00:46:55

There is no Hadith.

00:46:55 --> 00:46:57

She's bragging about, I'm the most beloved.

00:46:58 --> 00:47:00

No, but he said it.

00:47:00 --> 00:47:03

So here you go, end of the story.

00:47:03 --> 00:47:05

She came to find out that all the

00:47:05 --> 00:47:06

town is talking about her.

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

Imagine this, I really want you to feel

00:47:09 --> 00:47:11

this, because also you're a tight community, but

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

a good-sized community.

00:47:13 --> 00:47:16

Everybody is talking about you, or you, or

00:47:16 --> 00:47:19

you, and talking in the most negative way,

00:47:21 --> 00:47:23

and your father is not Abu Bakr, and

00:47:23 --> 00:47:25

your mother is not Umar Oman, and your

00:47:25 --> 00:47:28

husband is not Rasul A.S., which means

00:47:28 --> 00:47:34

I can easily fall into mistake, and you

00:47:34 --> 00:47:35

are not living in a house where the

00:47:35 --> 00:47:39

Quran is being revealed, and you are not

00:47:39 --> 00:47:41

at that point the Quran stopped.

00:47:41 --> 00:47:42

So the husband comes in.

00:47:43 --> 00:47:43

Who's the husband?

00:47:44 --> 00:47:48

Rasul A.S., he said one word, and

00:47:48 --> 00:47:50

you read the Hadith, you have to all

00:47:50 --> 00:47:52

read it, because she said it.

00:47:53 --> 00:47:54

She said, from the moment I know, the

00:47:54 --> 00:47:57

whole community is talking about me, this I

00:47:57 --> 00:48:03

did not, there's not a drop, my eye

00:48:03 --> 00:48:04

would never dry.

00:48:05 --> 00:48:08

This is actually the word she said, and

00:48:08 --> 00:48:09

then she said, I was in my parents'

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

house, crying and sobbing.

00:48:12 --> 00:48:12

Will you?

00:48:13 --> 00:48:15

Absolutely, I'll be dead actually before that.

00:48:16 --> 00:48:21

He comes in, A.S. Now think, Rasul

00:48:21 --> 00:48:23

A.S., he sat in front of her,

00:48:25 --> 00:48:27

looked at her, her father on her right,

00:48:28 --> 00:48:31

her father on Rasul A.S. right, and

00:48:31 --> 00:48:32

her mother next to her, and he said,

00:48:33 --> 00:48:39

Aisha, Aisha, if you have done it, say

00:48:39 --> 00:48:41

it, and Allah will forgive you.

00:48:43 --> 00:48:44

What happened?

00:48:44 --> 00:48:45

Look at your faces now.

00:48:45 --> 00:48:47

This is 1400 years ago.

00:48:48 --> 00:48:49

You know what she said?

00:48:49 --> 00:48:52

She said, at that moment, not a single

00:48:52 --> 00:48:54

drop of tears came out of my eyes.

00:48:55 --> 00:48:56

I didn't say anything.

00:48:57 --> 00:49:00

I looked at my father, and I said,

00:49:01 --> 00:49:06

answer Rasul Allah, in her top anger, and

00:49:06 --> 00:49:09

quote unquote, because his question implies what?

00:49:12 --> 00:49:13

There's a doubt.

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

And we women know this.

00:49:16 --> 00:49:19

When the man is doubting his wife, or

00:49:19 --> 00:49:20

you men know this, when the wife is

00:49:20 --> 00:49:25

doubting you, it hurts, because when you don't

00:49:25 --> 00:49:29

trust me, it hurts, whether it is the

00:49:29 --> 00:49:30

man or the woman.

00:49:32 --> 00:49:34

So she's, no, not a single drop of

00:49:34 --> 00:49:34

tears.

00:49:35 --> 00:49:39

Daddy, ajib Rasul Allah, ya abi, respond to

00:49:39 --> 00:49:42

Rasul A.S. What's Sayyidina Abu Bakr was

00:49:42 --> 00:49:42

saying?

00:49:45 --> 00:49:47

Now imagine your father did not defend you.

00:49:48 --> 00:49:49

Looked at her mother.

00:49:50 --> 00:49:53

You answer him, what do you think your

00:49:53 --> 00:49:54

mother will defend you?

00:49:54 --> 00:49:57

Who's gonna defend you against Rasul A.S.?

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

Not a single word.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:00

No one.

00:50:01 --> 00:50:02

You're alone.

00:50:03 --> 00:50:04

Talk about feminism now.

00:50:04 --> 00:50:05

You're alone.

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

In that room, the whole town talking about

00:50:08 --> 00:50:12

you, talking very negatively about you, and now

00:50:12 --> 00:50:13

your husband is doubting you.

00:50:14 --> 00:50:14

Ouch.

00:50:16 --> 00:50:20

She said, I'm not gonna say anything.

00:50:21 --> 00:50:24

I'm only gonna say what the father of

00:50:24 --> 00:50:24

Yusuf said.

00:50:25 --> 00:50:26

Sabrun jameel.

00:50:27 --> 00:50:28

Beautiful patient.

00:50:29 --> 00:50:31

Allahumusna'anu ala ma taqooloon.

00:50:31 --> 00:50:35

And Allah is my helper against what you

00:50:35 --> 00:50:35

are saying.

00:50:36 --> 00:50:37

And look at now, feminism.

00:50:38 --> 00:50:40

She said, I turned my back to Rasul

00:50:40 --> 00:50:43

A.S. And to my parents.

00:50:44 --> 00:50:45

Is that feminism?

00:50:46 --> 00:50:48

But that's feminism with faith.

00:50:49 --> 00:50:51

That's why absolutely they live together.

00:50:54 --> 00:50:55

Two seconds, two minutes?

00:50:56 --> 00:50:57

Very soon.

00:50:57 --> 00:51:01

Her mother said, because the description is the

00:51:01 --> 00:51:04

face of Rasul A.S. changed in the

00:51:04 --> 00:51:06

way that Quran is being revealed.

00:51:07 --> 00:51:08

So her mother looked at her.

00:51:08 --> 00:51:10

He said, Ya Aish Abshiri.

00:51:11 --> 00:51:12

Good news, Ya Aisha.

00:51:12 --> 00:51:16

Your innocence came from the sky.

00:51:16 --> 00:51:17

She didn't say a word.

00:51:17 --> 00:51:17

She didn't turn.

00:51:19 --> 00:51:19

Ya Allah.

00:51:21 --> 00:51:25

And then her mother, go and hug Rasul

00:51:25 --> 00:51:28

A.S. Your innocence came.

00:51:29 --> 00:51:29

No.

00:51:31 --> 00:51:33

Father, no.

00:51:34 --> 00:51:35

You know what she said?

00:51:35 --> 00:51:38

I am not gonna be grateful to anyone

00:51:38 --> 00:51:41

but to the one who sent my innocence

00:51:41 --> 00:51:42

to Allah.

00:51:44 --> 00:51:46

That's feminism and that's faith.

00:51:47 --> 00:51:50

You stand up for your right but the

00:51:50 --> 00:51:53

way it pleases Allah is not by following

00:51:53 --> 00:51:56

everything outside there because majority of outside there

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

is not pleasing to Allah.

00:51:58 --> 00:51:59

And as a woman of faith, you will

00:51:59 --> 00:52:00

be tested.

00:52:01 --> 00:52:04

Doesn't mean when I obey Allah, life will

00:52:04 --> 00:52:04

be smooth.

00:52:04 --> 00:52:06

No, you will be tested, all of us.

00:52:06 --> 00:52:10

But my response always has to be the

00:52:10 --> 00:52:11

way it pleases Allah.

00:52:12 --> 00:52:15

And what she did to Allah that he

00:52:15 --> 00:52:19

sent Quran till this day is revealed, is

00:52:19 --> 00:52:21

being read about her innocence.

00:52:22 --> 00:52:24

So when you wanna be like Sayyida Aisha,

00:52:24 --> 00:52:28

build the relationship with Allah so when you

00:52:28 --> 00:52:31

are tested, he sent you the right action,

00:52:31 --> 00:52:33

the right words that pleases him.

00:52:34 --> 00:52:38

May Allah make us like Sayyida Aisha.

00:52:38 --> 00:52:41

May Allah make all the brother I can't

00:52:41 --> 00:52:44

say like Rasulullah, I wish.

00:52:44 --> 00:52:46

But I'm gonna say, not because you are

00:52:46 --> 00:52:48

not but because who is he.

00:52:49 --> 00:52:51

But I will say on his footsteps, exactly

00:52:51 --> 00:52:52

on his footsteps.

00:52:52 --> 00:52:54

And we are on the footsteps of him

00:52:54 --> 00:52:57

as a woman but also on the footsteps

00:52:57 --> 00:52:59

of his wives.

00:52:59 --> 00:53:01

May Allah be pleased with them all.

00:53:01 --> 00:53:02

Subhanakallahumma wa bihamdik.

00:53:02 --> 00:53:05

Ashadu an la ilaha ila anzal astaghfiruka wa

00:53:05 --> 00:53:08

atubu ilaih Sallallahu ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ala

00:53:08 --> 00:53:10

alihi wa ashabihi tasliman kathira.

00:53:10 --> 00:53:11

Any questions?

00:53:11 --> 00:53:13

I think we have some time for questions

00:53:13 --> 00:53:13

or no?

00:53:14 --> 00:53:15

You tell me, brother.

00:53:15 --> 00:53:17

It's your masjid, five minutes.

00:53:18 --> 00:53:20

Can I ask the sisters, because I'm doing

00:53:20 --> 00:53:23

the topic tomorrow and we have two hours.

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

If there's any question from the brother's side,

00:53:25 --> 00:53:26

I'll start with it.

00:53:28 --> 00:53:28

Yes, please.

00:53:32 --> 00:53:34

Yes, yes.

00:53:38 --> 00:53:38

I love that.

00:53:46 --> 00:53:47

Oh, okay, okay, okay.

00:53:49 --> 00:53:49

These two?

00:53:50 --> 00:53:52

Okay, so there is two also.

00:53:53 --> 00:53:57

Two verses, two hadiths of Rasulallah sallallahu alaihi

00:53:57 --> 00:53:57

wa sallam.

00:53:57 --> 00:54:01

Second one is, la kuntu amiran basharan an

00:54:01 --> 00:54:04

yasjud li bashar la amartul mara an tasjud

00:54:04 --> 00:54:05

li zawjiha.

00:54:05 --> 00:54:06

That's another one is used.

00:54:07 --> 00:54:07

Jazakallah khair.

00:54:08 --> 00:54:14

He said, if I have the authority for

00:54:14 --> 00:54:17

a human being to prostrate to another human

00:54:17 --> 00:54:20

being, I would have ordered the woman to

00:54:20 --> 00:54:21

prostrate to her husband.

00:54:23 --> 00:54:24

Wow, right?

00:54:25 --> 00:54:27

You need to know, you know Arabic?

00:54:27 --> 00:54:30

Lovely, because then I can explain very easy.

00:54:30 --> 00:54:31

Because he said law.

00:54:32 --> 00:54:35

Law is a term, is a tool in

00:54:35 --> 00:54:35

Arabic.

00:54:36 --> 00:54:38

They said, harf umtina in limtina.

00:54:38 --> 00:54:42

It's a tool that is used for something

00:54:42 --> 00:54:43

will never happen.

00:54:44 --> 00:54:46

Will never happen.

00:54:47 --> 00:54:50

It's not can happen if this thing, but

00:54:50 --> 00:54:51

it will never.

00:54:51 --> 00:54:53

If you wanna change, if you said in,

00:54:53 --> 00:54:55

then that may not happen.

00:54:55 --> 00:54:57

But if this happened, it can.

00:54:57 --> 00:54:58

So that's number one.

00:54:58 --> 00:55:00

So why did he say that?

00:55:01 --> 00:55:02

He was telling the woman.

00:55:03 --> 00:55:05

Now, when you take this hadith, you have

00:55:05 --> 00:55:07

to say, okay, what did he tell the

00:55:07 --> 00:55:08

husbands also?

00:55:09 --> 00:55:12

Islam, and this is why really important that

00:55:12 --> 00:55:17

you study the social, the social components, or

00:55:17 --> 00:55:21

the social makeup of the Muslim society.

00:55:21 --> 00:55:23

It is not what we have outside there.

00:55:24 --> 00:55:25

It is not what we have back home

00:55:25 --> 00:55:26

culture.

00:55:27 --> 00:55:27

Neither.

00:55:28 --> 00:55:29

Neither.

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

He is telling the woman, the husband has

00:55:32 --> 00:55:34

a lot of rights upon you.

00:55:34 --> 00:55:36

At the same time, he looked at the

00:55:36 --> 00:55:38

man and says, khairukum khairukum li ahli.

00:55:38 --> 00:55:40

The best among you is the best of

00:55:40 --> 00:55:41

their wives.

00:55:42 --> 00:55:44

And he said, wa ana khairukum li ahli.

00:55:44 --> 00:55:47

And that was in the last sermon he

00:55:47 --> 00:55:47

gave.

00:55:47 --> 00:55:48

He khutbatil wada.

00:55:48 --> 00:55:50

So when you look at these hadiths, you

00:55:50 --> 00:55:52

cannot just get the hadith by itself.

00:55:52 --> 00:55:54

Like you get, la takrabus sala.

00:55:54 --> 00:55:55

Don't get close to sala.

00:55:56 --> 00:55:58

Wa antum sukara, when you're intoxicated.

00:55:58 --> 00:55:59

He talked to the woman.

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

I'll tell you what, this probably gonna make

00:56:02 --> 00:56:03

it easy.

00:56:04 --> 00:56:06

One of my friends, she had always issues

00:56:06 --> 00:56:06

with her husband.

00:56:07 --> 00:56:09

Right, but not major issues.

00:56:10 --> 00:56:11

And I said, what did you do?

00:56:11 --> 00:56:13

She said, I always remembered my mother advice.

00:56:13 --> 00:56:14

I said, what is it?

00:56:14 --> 00:56:16

She said, whenever things goes bad, but not

00:56:16 --> 00:56:17

bad, bad.

00:56:17 --> 00:56:18

You know, different opinion.

00:56:19 --> 00:56:22

Think of one thing he did good for

00:56:22 --> 00:56:22

you.

00:56:23 --> 00:56:24

What a wise mother.

00:56:26 --> 00:56:27

And I said, and she said, once I

00:56:27 --> 00:56:29

think about it, I become calmer.

00:56:30 --> 00:56:32

It's not like it's not an issue anymore,

00:56:32 --> 00:56:33

but I become calmer.

00:56:34 --> 00:56:36

So what is he saying, alayhi salatu wassalam?

00:56:36 --> 00:56:39

He wanted to calm the woman, to remind

00:56:39 --> 00:56:41

her, because we can say it's not fair,

00:56:41 --> 00:56:43

whatever, or I tell you it is not

00:56:43 --> 00:56:43

fair.

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

He's trying to calm me down.

00:56:46 --> 00:56:48

And he's trying to remind me that marriage

00:56:48 --> 00:56:50

is give and take.

00:56:50 --> 00:56:52

There is rights you have to fulfill.

00:56:52 --> 00:56:54

Then he looks at the man and say

00:56:54 --> 00:56:55

the same thing.

00:56:55 --> 00:56:56

Brings the balance to the house.

00:56:57 --> 00:56:59

If I keep telling the woman, you need

00:56:59 --> 00:57:02

to prostrate to your husband, now this is

00:57:02 --> 00:57:03

gonna be impossible.

00:57:04 --> 00:57:05

And if I keep telling the man, you

00:57:05 --> 00:57:07

need to be very good to her with

00:57:07 --> 00:57:09

no rights, there is no balance.

00:57:10 --> 00:57:12

Islam is a dean of balance.

00:57:13 --> 00:57:16

And unfortunately, we are tilting the balance.

00:57:16 --> 00:57:18

Whether we women tilting the balance or the

00:57:18 --> 00:57:20

men tilting the balance.

00:57:20 --> 00:57:23

Jazakumullahu khayran, subhanakallahumma wa bihamdik, ashhadu an la

00:57:23 --> 00:57:26

ilaha ila an, astaghfiruka wa atubu.

00:57:26 --> 00:57:29

I was asked to remind you that there

00:57:29 --> 00:57:30

is a fundraising gala.

00:57:31 --> 00:57:32

Can we put it there?

00:57:32 --> 00:57:34

I would love to attend if I was

00:57:34 --> 00:57:37

in the country, but I am not, unfortunately.

00:57:37 --> 00:57:39

Honestly, I would have flu to attend.

00:57:39 --> 00:57:42

Because your presence, the gala is for what?

00:57:43 --> 00:57:46

Is for the most jealous from masjid in

00:57:46 --> 00:57:47

the country, in case you don't know.

00:57:49 --> 00:57:51

Yes, and you are extremely blessed.

00:57:52 --> 00:57:55

But this masjid doesn't get sustained by itself.

00:57:55 --> 00:57:57

Allah does not send like, you know, bags

00:57:57 --> 00:57:59

of money goes on the masjid.

00:58:00 --> 00:58:04

We need to start the bag, and Allah

00:58:04 --> 00:58:05

will put the baraka in it.

00:58:05 --> 00:58:08

So when you have a gala, and I'm

00:58:08 --> 00:58:08

sure it's gonna be beautiful.

00:58:10 --> 00:58:11

Yeah, I'm sure it's beautiful, because I attended

00:58:11 --> 00:58:13

one of your Eid gala.

00:58:13 --> 00:58:15

I came back to California, and I was

00:58:15 --> 00:58:16

like, what is this?

00:58:16 --> 00:58:17

We need to improve.

00:58:17 --> 00:58:19

So please come in, and if you can't

00:58:19 --> 00:58:20

come in, at least buy the ticket.

00:58:21 --> 00:58:23

Buy the ticket, and then give the ticket

00:58:23 --> 00:58:24

to somebody else.

00:58:25 --> 00:58:26

May Allah make it easy.

00:58:26 --> 00:58:27

Jazakumullahu khayran.

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