Haifaa Younis – Changing focus It’s time to swiftly pivot I Me Journey to Allah (part 4)
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We love our children. Very unlikely. These are
the exceptions to the rule.
Right?
Majority of the women
disobey Allah
because of children.
True or false? Especially when you really love
them.
Sometimes may Allah forgive the children, and may
Allah forgive the parents.
The children actually abuse this love
abuse this love.
Now you prefer that child over Allah.
You will suffer from this child.
And examples I have seen,
true with my own eyes,
1 of my teachers,
her daughter was getting married.
There in Saudi, usually the weddings are all
women only,
and the husband to be or the groom
doesn't come.
So the woman usually dress.
She told her daughter. Her daughter really wanted
her husband to come, so they do you
know the zafah? Like when the when the
the boy the groom
and the bride comes in, you know, it's
a moment of happiness and joy.
She told her daughter,
this is not pleasing to Allah because all
these women sitting,
right, they are not his.
There's younger. There is older. You know.
If you wanna do that, look at this.
If you wanna do that,
do it. I'm not coming.
She did not go.
This is the woman's still living. It's not
like Sahaba.
Honestly, she's still I just saw her when
I was there 2 months ago.
When you put
Allah, I'm just sharing that story, I know.
But in general,
anything you put above Allah, you take off
your hijab or you don't wear your hijab
because you're worried they will not
hire you or they will fire you.
That job,
you will suffer in it.
Even by 2 not necessarily
because we think of suffer always in a
negative
way. No.
The job will be the best and you
will be paid the best, but you will
be so attached to the job that's taking
your life.
That's torture.
Versus if I said, you know what?
I'm coming with hijab. You wanna fire me?
Fire me because the risk has come from
Allah.
Done.
And if they fired you, said Allah
put my risk somewhere else.
So khanbu Saleem, the true heart, is the
heart that is
dependent
fully,
completely
on Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala.
By Allah, most of you know, I came
from Gaza 2 weeks ago.
I stayed the last 10 nights from Iran
there. Have I seen this?
By Allah, I
did. It's amazing.
Women,
children, I don't call them children. I do
not call 11 year old. The 1 I
saw only 12 or 13 are children. They're
not children. They're grown up men in the
body
of a child.
Well, a woman looked at me. In my
eyes, I interviewed her.
And she said, I never lived for this
zodiac. She had a whole life in the
north.
And I said and she was telling me
her story. I mean, the story,
and she and I said, how did you
live it?
Honestly, her husband and and son, older son,
they took them. She has no idea where
are they,
And then
she walked 10 kilos
from the north down to the middle with
no food,
with 11 year old boy with her, and
all the soldiers
all the way she said they are up,
and we are walking
next to the sea, and they are all
up
with no shoes.
And this was cold. This was in December.
And at 1 point, I was like,
what I'm gonna say?
What I'm gonna ask?
And then she came. Now they are very
happy. They're living in a tent. The tent
is please forgive me the size of the
bathroom,
average bathroom of this country. I'm not talking
about big bathrooms.
And at 1 point, I said,
you teach me,
tell me,
what keeps you going?
This is what she said.
And I have it. It's actually on social
media. I just translated.
She said, I always lived for the akhirah.
We're talking about 37, 38 year old. She's
not 40.
I always lived for the akhirah.
The only thing I want. I want to
live in halal.
I want to raise my children in halal.
They know Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
I'm working for there. She looked at me
in the eyes,
and she said,
and she doesn't know me. I see Quran
on your face, She doesn't know
me.
It's amazing. I mean, I was like, I
was like, I mean,
it's like,
I'm not gonna say no. Right? Maybe you
saw something I'm not seeing, but the idea
is the focus.
This woman La Uzaki Allah, I don't even
know her name now. I don't even remember
her name,
but she told me all her story.
What is the difference between this woman and
me
and any 1 of us?
The focus.
The focus.
Focus on Akhir. She said look at me.
This is how we sleep
and walk every single day. You know? You
have seen the pictures. They they dress,
and I didn't even say why. She immediately
said, so if I die, I die covered.
Die covered.
They're worried about their death covered,
So don't ask me about how she
lived. That's and again, I'm not gonna say
she's Al Qalbous Salim. I don't know the
woman that was a kia lama. Well, that's
what I heard.
This is what we need.
All of us.
Where are we living?
What Allah gave us? Enough is this.
Enough is this.
Right? Some of you are feeling hot,
right? Let's go to Hazza.
No electricity for 6 months
at all.
Dark in the night,
except the hospital.
All these Niyam,
All these blessings Allah gave us.
And then,
Abu Duaira,
I worship other than him.
And he said it, SubhanAllah. He said it
in a hadith.
I create,
and someone else is worshiped.
And not only creates me and you, create
Create.
Everything
around us is the creation of Allah. I
create,
and they worship other than me.
And I give sustenance,
and they give thanks to someone else.
You know, like as a physician, patients comes
to me, and I know they don't mean
it, but it comes out, oh, why are
you the Torah? If it wasn't for you,
I will never have had a baby.
I said, don't say it.
Say if it wasn't for Allah
who brought me to you
and put back in whatever I did.
You whenever I got pregnant.
Do you get the point?
The meaning of it I'm not remembering it
very well, but the meaning in English is
their sins comes up to me,
and all my goodness comes down to that.
Oh, everything he send me,
now I'm too tired to pray. Yes.
And I just can't get up. It's Sunday.
I can't get up for Fajr. Come on.
Fajr, it's 5 o'clock. What are you telling
me? It's Sunday.
But he gave me the bed,
and the temperature,
and the peace,
and whatever else you have,
and I am just can't.
If he was not Raheem,
this is how I reflect on the names
of Allah. If he wasn't
really
merciful,
please
forgive me, but none of us deserve a
sip of this.
Right?
From being ungrateful.
And we say, alhamdulillah.
Very, yeah. We say it, but how much
we need?
It? How are you doing?
Let alone good.
Let alone don't ask me.
And I look and I say, what is
going on?
You had a breakfast. Right? You have a
home. Right? You have a school to go
to. Right? You're healthy. Right? What is the
issue? I'm nervous. I have an exam tomorrow.
Alhamdulillah. You have an exam tomorrow. That means
you have?
School.
That means you have feelings and you have
brain.
So turn again, I don't wanna overwhelm you,
but the sound heart is
a very tough subject.
But we need to learn it
because that's how I will change.
If I think I'm
fine and you are fine and what's wrong
with me, then I'm gonna say, You Rabbi,
please show her what is wrong with her.
You Allah, please show me what is wrong
with me.
Because once I know my issues, let alone
someone comes and say this to you. We
get very upset. You should thank them.
Someone look at you and says, you know
what?
Please forgive me, but I'm gonna say it.
And I say, what is this?
Your hijab is not the best.
You get so upset
that 99.9%
of the people are scared to say a
word.
Let alone if they come and tell you
your daughter,
oh, 0, or your son,
or if your husband said something.
That's a different story.
Anytime
someone say negative thing about you,
Think of it completely opposite.
Allah made her or him
speak.
True or false?
And Allah make you or made
you hear it.
True or false?
Next question, what do you want me to
do?
Now you're Qalb al Saidin.
You didn't see the person.
You didn't see why. You didn't see my
yourself or myself. I saw Allah sending me
a signal.
The question has to go directly to him,
what do you want me to do, you
Rabbi?
Or I got very upset.
We're human, we're not angel.
I
got very upset.
I need you to change this feeling in
me, your albu sarin. Don't think your albu
sarin has no feelings.
You're human,
but the way
you fashion
and mold
your feelings, it depends how much and what
is your relationship with Allah
And, again, I saw this in Gaza. The
way they speak I saw a 24 year
old man. They took me to see him.
They said, the Torah, you speak Arabic. You're
probably gonna be very happy to see somebody,
a physician, speaking Arabic coming from America. I
said, sure.
The man, 24 year old.
I can imagine how handsome this man was,
but now he's very emaciated.
You see the bones.
Right?
If it's for the bones, it's okay.
Lost his 2 legs up from
the hip,
and this
right hand on.
Only the left.
I
went and I spoke with him personally, and
I just couldn't
record this for many reasons.
And nothing I heard from this man except
2 things. 1 is a big smile,
and the second 1,
Those people, their focus is not when is
the iPhone 15 is gonna come,
Or,
when is the new homes? And I live
in a very good home, but when is
the new home?
Or you know that the please forgive me
but the dunya focus. I call it dunya
focus.
I'm not saying dunya your dunya but don't
make it your focus as he said Alayhi
Salat wa Sallam.
You Allah give me this dunya. I want
to be rich. I want to be educated.
I want to be strong. I want to
have power. Why?
Because The strong believer
is more beloved and better in the sight
of Allah than the other 1, the other
believer,
but I don't want to be attached. Now
back to Qalbous Salim. I don't want to
be attached to it.
If I have it, alhamdulillah.
If it goes away, alhamdulillah,
that alone
I will give it
willingly
for the sake of Allah.
So I hope I think I gave you
enough.
I can see your faces all over you,
but we need to learn that.
We Muslims
will not change
unless we learn
the real knowledge
about the heart and about Allah Subhana Wa
Ta'la.
This is what changed them.
When they believed in Allah did not believe,
and I say it like a bird.
They practiced I bear witness.
There is no God but Allah.
I bear witness.
Nothing in my heart but Allah. And every
action you read the seerah. Many of you
have listened to it or read it or
studied it. You see it in their actions.
In their actions, Allah is number 1.
Allah is number 1.
It's painful to live this way, to be
very honest with you, especially in the beginning
because you're gonna be 1
between 1, 000.
You're gonna be the abnormal.
You're gonna be the people who will 0,
she's crazy. Oh, look what she's doing. You
know what? I am so happy to be
crazy in this dunya
than being crazy there.
I am so happy to be 1%
here
than being
the 1% as the last person to enter
Jannah.
It's all perspective,
and it's all the way you look at
things and think.
And may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala make this
dua.
You Allah purify my heart
from anything but
you. Now you understood this Dua.
Meaning, I have everything in me. I have
it. It's not in my heart. They're not
living in my heart. My heart has 1
address.
1
Allah.
Not many. And has 1 person lives there
and is not a person, is him, Subhanah.