Haifaa Younis – Building My Eternal Abode – Part 5 I
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The meaning of a " dead heart" is not complete lack of heart, but rather a result of a thought or desire. The speaker describes their desire for their loved ones to be safe, pure, and safe from everything. They stress the importance of preparing for one's life and embracing the way of the world, as well as forgiveness and embracing the way of the world.
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What light you have that your heart is
seeing and following.
They are not the same.
The dead is the following.
Very simple again.
You cannot differentiate between right and wrong by
the standards of Allah.
You justify it.
You accept it.
You do it or I do it.
We do it with no remorse.
Pay attention to this word.
The remorse word is a million dollar word.
It moves your heart all the way.
You didn't wake up for Fajr, I was
tired.
End of the story.
Dead.
I didn't wake up for Fajr.
And I keep asking myself, when this will
end?
When will I change?
Your heart is okay.
Sick but not dead.
I didn't wake up for Fajr.
And it is the end of the world
for me.
And today, I am going to do way
more good deeds than I did yesterday.
I'm going to be begging Allah to forgive
me.
I'm crying.
I'm feeling down.
My heart is setting.
Did you see the difference?
So the dead heart, number one, good news
for everybody.
At this moment, all of us, our hearts
are alive.
Otherwise, you will not be here.
And I'm not bragging about me or you,
but it's reality.
Anytime you are in a place or a
state of obedience to Allah, your heart is
not dead.
Not dead.
Opposite.
Every time, every minute, may Allah forgive us
all.
And I don't mean anybody.
But this could be anyone of us.
When I'm doing disobedience to Allah, no different
opinion, it's obviously haram.
And I am watching it or listening to
it or saying it.
And I'm enjoying it.
At this moment, my heart is dead.
And that's why Rasulallah s.a.w. says
it's weak.
The real believer will not commit zina, intimate
relationship, outside marriage.
And he's in a state of iman.
He or she is not kafir.
But the heart is dead at this moment.
The nafs, the joy, the desire overtook.
So the dead heart.
Now come to the sound.
Completely the opposite.
And they say the following.
It's two things.
Two things.
Write it down and take it as you
go.
And keep asking yourself.
There's two forces in me that makes me,
when I'm thinking, making a decision.
Not the one who says don't do it
and do it.
As I am entertaining the idea, either I
like it, that's called desire.
Or it makes sense.
That's shubha.
They call it thought.
So either there's a thought or there's a
desire.
And most of the time are both.
Are you all with me?
Yes?
Now you grade yourself.
The pure heart.
Every thought.
Every thought in the pure heart.
Goes along with what Allah and the Rasul
said.
There is no, but we're living in 2024.
Now I'm thinking.
Well, they were sahaba and I am not.
Well, it was Medina or it was Mecca.
Well, I'm not sure about the hadith.
Why do I have to follow the hadith?
All this justification.
Thought justification.
The heart is not pure.
The pure heart.
Allah said, the answer is, I want to
hear it.
Exactly.
I hear and I obey.
When Allah said backbiting.
Does anyone of you want to eat the
flesh of the dead brother?
Or a sister?
You don't like it.
That's Qur'an, that's clear.
This ayah is clear.
Cannot have more than one meaning.
Why do I do it?
Think of you internally.
Well, it's true.
She is this or he is that.
But as I say this, I'm justifying my
thought.
It doesn't come to me that he was
asked.
And he was asked, Ya Rasulallah, how about
if it was true?
We said something negative about somebody that he
or she is not there.
That they don't like it if they hear
it.
But it's true.
She is a liar.
She is mean.
She is whatever.
And he said, if it's true, then it's
backbiting.
And if it is false, it's slander.
So when I'm thinking, this comes to me,
it's true.
But the other one doesn't come to me.
Why?
Because my thoughts following what my nafs is
telling me.
What does that mean?
I feel good when I backbite her.
I vented.
She talks about me.
I'm going to talk about her.
She thinks she's better.
Let's see what I'm going to do.
That's my nafs.
The thoughts in the mind follows what Allah
said.
I am not going to.
I could say, I know I shouldn't do
it.
And I am weak.
I am really trying.
Ya Allah, help me.
That's very good news.
You'll change.
Because you know you are doing wrong.
I know I'm not doing the right thing.
I am in the shades of Al-Qalb
al-Saleem.
Let's put it this way.
When I know I'm doing wrong, and I
say, Ya Allah, help me.
Ya Allah, make it easy.
I'm in the shades of it.
I'm not yet there.
But I'm in the process getting there.
There, when I do it, with no difficulty.
Like you turn on your phone.
What is the big deal?
So every thought inside that person, with a
pure heart, that it definitely pleases Allah.
Now come to the second.
The desire, which is the biggest one.
Every desire in me.
Ya Allah, give it to me before anybody
or all of us.
Ya Allah.
Every desire in me, and I said every,
goes along with what he did or said,
alayhi salatu wa salam.
The result, look at this result.
I loved the way they said it.
This is Imam Ibn al-Qayyim.
He put it in a way, every time
I read, the only thing that comes out
of my mouth, Ya Allah, please give it
to me.
I can't do it, alone.
And he said, that heart that is sound
and safe, safe from, look at this, safe
from every thought that goes along against what
Allah said, do or don't do.
And every desire goes with everything Rasul alayhi
salatu wa salam did or wanted.
The result, this is what I want to
share with you.
The result, every feeling, may Allah give it
to us.
Every feeling inside that heart, and I want
you to think of your heart.
Every feeling in that heart, love, fear, reliance,
thoughts, movements, is all for Allah.
Every feeling inside that heart, wanting, love, reliance,
returning, fear, attachment, is for Allah.
Then your heart is pure.
You love your children, that doesn't mean you
don't have a pure heart.
But why you love them?
And that love, a feeling, what is taking
you to, what is that feeling is doing
to you.
Sayyidina Sa'd ibn Abi Waqas, every time I
think of this, I think of this incident.
He became a Muslim in Mecca, right?
And his mother loved him.
And she said, you went crazy, literally.
You keep doing this, and I will not
eat or drink till you see me dead.
That's mother, that's your imagine, this is you
and me, right?
Not eating, not drinking.
Then he came to her and said, Wallahi,
if I see you dead, seven times, and
every time you're dead, Allah brings you back,
and you're still not eating, and you die,
and you come back, I will not change.
Of course she starts eating.
That's the attachment.
He loves her.
And that's why she wanted to blackmail his
feelings by showing him that she will die
if he doesn't eat.
But when it came to between Allah and
his mother, Allah came first.
Same thing with the Rasul, peace be upon
him, said, Fatima, which he said about her,
she is piece of me.
And she actually used to be talked about,
described, meaning she's so much like Rasul, peace
be upon him.
People thought that from the resemblance, it's like
his mother because he's so much like her,
and she is like him.
They said, look and character.
Still he looked at her and said, Fatima,
I'm not gonna be able to save you
from anything from Allah.
And Allah said it in the Quran, you
all have read it.
The day.
Now again, description of the day of judgment
without saying it's a day of judgment.
But what happens there?
The day that the human being, the mar'
is human, ran away from the brother or
the sister.
The mother and the father.
The spouse and the children.
Those that we are so attached to.
Those that we disobey Allah because of.
The day of judgment, we're running away from
each other.
Every one of them, that day, day of
judgment, worried about something way more important than
the others.
Why not in dunya?
Why don't I train myself that nothing is
gonna come before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala?
Why not?
Because morning and evening, I feed the nafs.
I give the nafs everything it want.
I don't put Allah as number one.
I don't put Allah as a priority.
Rather, is what I like and I want.
And these days, the famous word, I want
to fit in.
I wanna be like everybody.
And I say to myself, why not everybody
should be like me?
I talk to myself.
Why don't you be the example that everybody
wants to fit in with you?
That's what the Muslims did in Indonesia and
Malaysia.
They made people fit in in them.
Not them fit in with people.
And that applies to us living in the
West.
Why don't we change the people around us
to what we fully believe it's the truth?
Why do I have to fit in?
Why I am scared of what they think
of me and how they look at me?
And I'm not scared from Allah and say
to myself, what do you think of me,
ya Rabbi, when you see me?
Because people is more important than him.
Am I right?
Am I making this up?
Where is the problem?
The nafs.
The nafs.
Control it.
Don't give it everything it wants.
Don't live your life, don't at all.
Don't live your life to please human beings
or to please you or me.
Live your life to please the one and
only.
Wallahi, if you learn to do this, it's
a process.
We'll fail for sure.
We're still failing.
But we get up.
When you put him number one in your
life, everything else will come to the way
you want.
Or, which I saw again in Gaza, everything
around me was not what I want or
fear or uncomfortable.
But there is peace inside them.
Peace inside them to the point I said
to Allah, give me what you have them,
what you gave them internally, not externally, because
I don't know if I can live it.
But I want what they have inside them.
I want it.
I want when everything around me is not
what it should be, I'm living in peace.
I'm living in peace.
That doesn't come unless you prepared yourself for
it.
We prepare for everything, subhanAllah.
It's almost seven months since we prepared this.
Seven months preparing this.
How long are we preparing for our Akhirah?
If we are preparing.
If it is even a thought in my
mind.
Al-Qalb al-Saleem.
And Rasulallah said, and you all know this
hadith, but it's good to remember and to
remind.
أَلَىٰ إِنَّ فِي الْجِسَدِ مُضَىٰ إِذَا صَلَحَتْ صَلَحَ
الْجِسَدُ كُلُّهُ وَإِذَا فَسَدَتْ فَسَدَ الْجِسَدُ كُلُّهُ Verily
in that body, there is a piece of
flesh.
عليه الصلاة والسلام Piece of flesh.
If that piece is correct, sound, everything else
will be correct and sound.
And if that piece is not correct or
sound, everything is not.
So don't ask yourself, why I cannot wake
up for Fajr?
Ask yourself, what is wrong with my heart
that cannot fight my nafs who wants to
sleep?
When you look at something haram, don't say,
why, why I cannot close my eyes?
Ask yourself, why my heart is not pure
enough to give the order to my eyes
and says, lower your gaze.
Turn it off.
Don't go.
Don't speak.
Because, morning and evening, I'm feeding my nafs.
And Hassan al-Basri said to a man,
I really loved it.
Every time you hear the name Al-Hassan
al-Basri, think of this.
He said, Treat your heart.
Work on your heart.
What Allah wants from his servants is their
hearts.
Work on your heart.
Treat, when he actually said, treat your heart.
Treat, because we are all sick hearts.
Different levels, different timings.
Treat your heart.
What Allah wants and needs from his servants
is the pure hearts.
We all worry about the way we look.
We are women.
Nothing wrong with that.
We all want to be beautiful.
Nothing wrong with that.
We all want to look nice.
I want to feel good about myself.
Nothing wrong with that.
But what about the heart?
Allah does not look to your bodies or
the way you are shaped, but he looks
into the hearts that's inside your chests.
Imam al-Muslim narrated that.
We spend so much time about the external.
The way I look, my face, my eyes,
my weight.
But how much time I spend on my
heart and Allah will not look at it.
You know why?
Because I have no control.
I have no control on the color of
my eyes or the shape of my face
or my height.
Maybe the weight of the body, my body
build.
I have no control.
Some people are petite or some people are
tall or some people have thick bones or
some people have thin bones.
I was born like that.
But I have full control, full, hundred percent
control over my heart, what I feed, what
I take away, what I clean, what I
leave, what I feed my nafs, what I
give her when she wants and anytime and
what she wants.
That's my control.
That's my choice.
So you all decide who are you, what
you want to be, where are you going,
where you will end up in.
Because once this life is gone, once you
and me will be and we all will
be under this earth, كل نفس دائقة الموت.
Every soul will taste death.
Allah said it three times in the Quran.
كل نفس دائقة الموت.
Every soul will taste death.
And in one verse he said, ونبلوكم بالشر
والخير فتنة وإلينا ترجعون.
And we will test you with evil, things
you don't like and خير, good.
And you will come back to us.
Allah said this in Surah Al-Anbiya, the
prophets.
And كل نفس دائقة الموت.
Every soul will taste death.
فمن زحزحها عن النار وأدخل الجنة فقد فاز.
وما الحياة الدنيا إلا متاع الغرور.
Every soul will taste death and whomsoever will
be pushed away from the Hellfire and enter
Jannah, he's victorious.
And this life is all but the deception
of the deceiver, which is the Shaytan.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us
all among those who listen to the word
of admonition and follow the best of it.
May Allah forgive our sins.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us
the superior heart quickly and keep us on
the right path and don't forget your brothers
and sisters in Gaza.
May Allah keep them strong.
May Allah give them victory.
And may Allah accept all those who died
as martyrs and may Allah give health and
cure to all those who were sick, injured,
still sick.
Ameen.