Haifaa Younis – Building My Eternal Abode #2
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The speakers discuss the challenges of men in their early stages of their lives, including fear of social media and the Anxury of their partner's "interrupted relationship." They stress the importance of giving advice, practical advice, and being a Islam-pleasing host. They also stress the need to control oneself and not be the victim of others, and to learn to control oneself and not be the happiest person in the world.
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So the most important thing, Qalb al-Saleem,
and we all have to have this goal,
is non-optional, I say this to myself.
Because I want to go to Jannah, and
all of us wants to go to Jannah,
and we should have this desire.
Because what is Jannah?
Fil jannati maa laa raa ta'eem, wa
laa samiAAat oodhun, wa laa khatar AAala baali
bashar.
What's in Jannah, no one have ever seen.
What's in Jannah, no one have ever heard.
And look at the next one, and in
Jannah, nobody can imagine.
That's even a thought in your mind can
imagine.
Every time I see beauty, especially when I
travel, you know, and I'm looking at the
earth down, and you see beautiful things.
And you say, ya Allah, what is more
beautiful than this?
And the Hadith comes in, wa laa khatar
AAala baali, you cannot even think of, or
comprehend how it's gonna look.
I wanted it, and every one of us
in this room should want it, and I'm
sure you all do.
But what did you do for it?
As the Bedouin came to Rasul alayhi s
-salatu wa s-salam, he says, matas saAAa?
When is the day of judgment?
When is it?
Give me a time so I can plan.
And look what he answered alayhi s-salatu
wa s-salam.
He said, maada AAadatta laaha?
What did you prepare for it?
And this question and answer is for every
woman in this room, and definitely for myself.
What did you prepare for your Akhirah?
I am traveling to London, when I was
coming, of course I prepared.
And as I was packing, this Hadith came
to my mind.
What did you prepare for the Akhirah?
What did you pack?
What's already in the suitcase?
It's there, you know?
Sometimes you put a list so you don't
forget, and you start checking.
What did you prepare for the Akhirah?
And which part was checked already?
Truly, not imagining, thinking.
And the best thing you pack for your
Akhirah, for the Qalb al-Sareem, guaranteed is
Ikhlas, is sincerity.
The issue.
Subhanallah, and this is scholars of pure hearts,
not me.
He said, the most difficult thing in this
deen is to be sincere.
And he explained why.
I think it was Sheikh Abdullah ibn Mubarak.
And why is that?
He said, because the nafs, me, has no
sheer in it.
When I do something, and it's very difficult
and hard, and no one sees it, let
alone no thank you, no jazakallahu khair, no
gifts, no rewards, I'm gonna get upset.
I'll give you an example that you all
gonna feel, and it's contemporary one.
When you post on social media, anything, what
is the first thing you look?
What is it?
I wanna hear it.
Likes.
And you get very happy, you say, wow.
Thousand likes in 10 minutes.
What is this?
What is this?
That's me, very happy.
Versus zero, no likes.
Are you gonna get upset?
Yes.
Because my nafs, me, have no sheer in
it.
I had this beautiful conversation, casual, without planning,
with a 15-year-old young man.
We were leaving the masjid.
And then he came to me and he
said, I think I know you, I think
I heard your voice.
We were giving a talk.
And he said, I think you are on
social media.
I said, yeah, I am, you can check
it.
Right, obviously, he was not following me.
Look at this.
So he immediately, you know how the youth
are these days.
And it's actually not only the youth these
days.
So he immediately checked it.
He looked at me and says, wow.
You have that many followers.
And I said, alhamdulillah, Allah made it happen.
I didn't even plan it.
Immediate question.
How do I do that?
Subhanallah.
And he was very serious, 15-year-old,
in front of the masjid.
And I said, perfect, let's use this to
guide this young heart to Allah.
I said, what do you like?
Oh, he said, how did you do it?
And I said, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
put barakah in everything.
He said, I know, but what did you
do?
This is us, this is very normal, all
of us.
I said, I posted everything.
I know that is pleasing to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
He said, how do I do that?
Sincerity.
I said, what do you like in this
world?
I'm a 15-year-old.
He said, I love football, which is soccer,
we call it in the United States, like
football for you.
I said, excellent.
You can easily do it.
He looked at me and says, what do
you mean?
I said, you post everything about soccer or
football that pleases Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And he looked at me, and how is
that?
Your favorite team won.
As you are posting, you don't only say,
oh, they played very well, they were amazing,
which is true.
You're gonna say, see how Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala made the team that the least
expected they will be, the winner, but Allah
put barakah in their effort.
Done.
If it was a Muslim player, who now
it's becoming walillah alhamdulillah, that they prostrate to
Allah when they score or when their team
win, because that's actually Islamic concept.
Sajdat al-shukr is you prostrate to Allah
out of gratefulness, meaning you're telling Allah, I
didn't win because I'm a good player.
I won because you made it happen.
Sincerity.
I said, you comment on that.
You comment on that.
One person will read it.
One person.
And you are changing people.
Back to sincerity.
And especially we women, may Allah forgive me,
but I'm a woman like you.
We crave for being appreciated.
We crave for compliments.
And we're very sensitive about it.
Men, for some reason, may be a little
bit different than us.
But we all are, we crave and we
get upset when someone does not appreciate what
we do.
Leave it.
Practically now.
Leave it.
And say, ya Allah, I know you are
seeing me.
You saw my effort.
You saw how not easy this was for
me.
And you saw I was doing it to
please you by pleasing these people.
It doesn't matter what they say.
Are you happy with me?
Learn to have this personal relationship with Allah.
Nothing will give you the happiness you're looking
for, the serenity you are looking for, other
than this.
And he will tell you.
Change everything you do and make it for
Allah and Allah only.
And the Rasul, peace be upon him, said
this.
He said, three characters in the heart of
the human being.
Again, we're talking about the heart.
Three things in the heart of the human
being.
If he or she does it, their heart
will never have or harbor.
He said, la yaghil.
Your heart will never have this ill feeling
or anger or anger and hate if you
have these three characters.
Number one is al-ikhlasu lillah.
You do it for Allah and Allah only.
Literally, you're driving speed limit.
It's not because the police is seeing you.
That's not for Allah.
Because you're following the rules.
And following the rules is an Islamic concept
pleases Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Or because if I drive on the speed
limit, I am probably gonna not hurt somebody.
And that's something pleases Allah.
I'm gonna be the human being walking on
this earth in a way pleasing to Allah
that pleases Him.
I hope I am making it very clear
that everything you do, you say is related
to Him.
So three characters.
One of them, sincerity to Allah.
Second is giving advice specially to the leaders.
Specially to the leaders.
So whoever is a leader in your home,
and if you were the leader, then accept
the advice from somebody else.
And don't look again for praises.
Oh, you're the best mother I have seen.
No, no.
And as human beings, don't do that to
the others because you're engraving in them and
you're inviting them to lack of sincerity.
You are teaching them how not to be
sincere.
It should be la uzakiki ala Allah.
The first thing you say when you praise
somebody, you say la uzakiki ala Allah.
I am not gonna be completely removing any
ill character from you because la uzakiki ala
Allah because Allah is perfect.
So you are not better than that.
Even in the way we deal with each
other in words, you have to be very
careful.
I call it, this is me again, the
filter of sincerity.
Did it pass?
Look at me.
Did it pass through the filter of sincerity?
Is it true?
You invited your friends to a meal to
your home.
Is it only and only and only to
please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala not because
they invited me, they did, but also making
them happy, having a good relationship with the
Muslims indirectly, but not the main reason.
Throughout having people in your home, you're gonna
learn and teach both how to be the
Allah-pleasing host.
See the words I'm using?
An Allah-pleasing guest, are you?
When I go to your home or you
come to my house and I say, ya
Rabbi, in every step I'm gonna get a
good reward, every step.
If you are not focused on Allah, you're
gonna miss a lot of it.
But if you are focused on Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, the way you ring the
bell, the way you stand till they open
the door, when you enter, the way you
greet people, the way, for example, where you
put your shoes, where do you sit, where
you allow your eyes to fall on when
you are in that house.
Every step, I want you to be practical
Muslim.
I don't want us to be, not you,
all of us, to be the Muslim in
the masjid, the Muslim in lectures, and the
Muslim in life.
We chopped it, and that's not our deen.
Rasool alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam was
always nice.
He wasn't nice when everything was his way.
And then, but you don't know, ya Allah,
what they did to me, they throw garbage
on me.
He didn't do that.
Sayyidina Umar was always standing up for the
truth, whether people like it or didn't like
it.
People praised him or didn't praise him, because
they were all focused on Allah.
He was dying, he was dying.
I mean, every time I read this, I
was like, ya Allah, what is these hearts
are?
Dying, stabbed, right?
And what did he say?
Put his cheeks on this earth.
And Sayyidina Umar was given Jannah already, done.
And Rasool alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam
said about him, if there was one prophet
to come after me, it would be Sayyidina
Umar.
And what did he say?
Woe to you, O son of Al-Khattab,
Allah has not forgiven you.
Woe on you, son of Al-Khattab, he
didn't even call himself his name, if Allah
did not forgive you.
Focus on Allah, everything.
Once he was stabbed, he sent his son,
Abdullah, to Sayyidina Aisha.
Is it okay if I get buried next
to Sayyidina Abu Bakr instead of you?
Hadi.
Now this story by itself tells you how
both people were focused on Allah.
Sayyidina Aisha, it's her house.
She was supposed to be buried next to
Rasool alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam and
next to her father, who is more worthy
of this place.
Sayyidina Umar sent his son, and he's the
khalifa.
He could have easily sent an order and
says, you bury me next to her.
She said, yes.
Before he died, he told his son, after
I die, you go and ask her again.
In case she said yes, because she was
afraid of me, and I was the khalifa.
I want to make sure this is okay
with her.
Because if this is not okay with her,
then he's not pleasing to Allah.
He took the right of somebody else.
And they went and she said yes.
That's why Sayyidina Aisha is buried in Baqi'
and when you go to Rawdah, Sayyid Rasool
alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam, Sayyidina Abu
Bakr, and then Sayyidina Umar.
They are focused on Allah.
Their life is for Allah, by Allah, and
with Allah.
With Allah.
Lillah wa billah wa ma'Allah.
With Allah.
Not only when you're in Mecca and Medina.
With Allah, He's always with us.
And by Allah, I speak.
Allah made me speak.
I didn't talk.
I am in London, oh, I planned it
a long time ago and this and this,
and they, no.
Allah brought to me.
And for Allah, that's what we have been
talking about.
I should care less, not a breath in
me, or a blink of an eye in
me, and Allah give it to me.
If you left all of you and said,
this is the best lecture I ever heard,
or this is the worst lecture I ever
heard, should not change anything in me.
Because when I came in on this stage,
I said, ya Allah, this is for you.
And I want to see it on the
Day of Judgment.
This how it should be, all of us.
Al-ikhlas, Allah said it.
Wa ma umiru illa liya'budu Allaha mukhlasina
lahu al-deen.
Wadhalika deenul qayyama.
They have not been ordered, but, again, but
to obey, to worship Allah, ya'budu Allah,
mukhlasina lahu al-deen, with sincerity.
Lahu, sincerity to Allah, and this is the
real religion.
This is the real religion.
As Muslims, we are moving away from this.
Even, quote-unquote, practicing people.
Quote-unquote, religious people.
Allah knows who's the religious.
But we see people way before we see
Allah.
And we get upset from people way more
than with the thought of Allah is not
pleased with me.
I say this to myself, and I'll share
it with all of you.
Do you ask Allah, are you happy with
me?
How many times you've asked people you love,
do you love me?
Do you appreciate me?
Do you see how much I'm doing for
you?
We all say this.
Do you say this to Allah, in your
private conversation with Him?
If we even have a private conversation with
Allah, we spend hours on the phone, text
message, online, FaceTime with people.
And there's nothing wrong with this as long
as this whole conversation is with Him.
This whole conversation is halal.
But how much we do it with Allah?
How long is your sajda?
I say this.
How long?
If the Imam said 10, subhanarabbiyal a'la,
we all feel eternity.
Because I don't have this private, oh, I'm
so close to Him.
Oh, He said it.
Aqrabu ma yakoon al-abd li rabbihu wa
huwa sajid.
Rasulullah, peace be upon him, said that.
The closest moment, the servant of Allah, to
Allah is when he or she in prostration.
You're the closest.
When you hug your child, sometimes what do
you say?
I don't wanna let it go.
I love it.
Is that you in sujood?
Is that the relationship with Allah?
The qalbus salim, that's the relationship.
The qalbus salim, feel it.
The qalbus salim, long for it.
And the qalbus salim, miss it.
Miss it.
You should miss those moments in Ramadan.
Two months ago, when you were so close
to Allah, when you didn't want the Imam
to stop reading, when you didn't want Ramadan
to end.
Why?
Because you were close to Him.
You were way closer to Him.
Wama umiru illa liyabudullaha wamukhlusina lahuddeen.
That's the only order Allah want from us.
Wallahi, everything else is addition.
The most important thing is sincerity.
Qul inni umirtu an a'budallaha mukhlusan lahuddeen.
Wa umirtu an akuna minal muslimeen.
That's what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said
in surat al-Zumar, and the Rasul alayhi
salatu wassalam is saying this.
Qul, say, say to them.
Ya Rasulullah, say to them.
Say to the Muslims, you read it.
Umirtu an a'budallaha mukhlusan lahuddeen.
Only, I was ordered, I was ordered to
worship Allah with full sincerity.
In surat al-Zumar, the first verse in
surat al-Zumar, tanzeelul kitabi minallahi al-azizil
hakeem ala lillahi al-deenul khalis.
Tanzeelul kitabi, the book was sent from Allah,
Almighty, All-Wise.
What?
And then, tanzeelul kitabi minallahi al-azizil hakeem
inna anzanna ilayka al-kitaba bil haqti fa
'abudallaha mukhlusan lahuddeen.
This is to Rasul alayhi salatu wassalam.
Worship Allah with sincerity.
Wallahi, wallahi, wallahi.
And I said his name three times.
If we all, all, reach that point, and
it is possible, it's not impossible, it's not
easy.
It's a choppy road with a lot of
failures, but we can do it, bi-idhnillah.
You start becoming the sincere person Allah wants
you to be, you will be the happiest
one.
I will be the happiest one.
You know why?
Because it doesn't matter.
Or if I want to use the current,
I don't care, as we say it, you
see all the young people say, I don't
care.
If you can say this sincerely, sincerely about
whether people like you or don't like you,
whether people say negative things or positive things,
I don't care.
The most important thing to me is what
Allah think of me.
You're the happiest person.
You're the purest person.
And again, I don't own Jannah, but I
can say you're getting very close to Jannah.
Ikhlas, ikhlas, ikhlas.
One thing I want to share with everybody,
because this is related.
And I kept telling you everything we do
is we can change it to an act
of worship for Allah.
What is act of worship?
And the moment I learned this years ago,
things changed.
Perspective changed.
Al-ibadah, act of worship.
Because this will change me.
We are, I don't know, we are more
than thousand people probably here, but everybody's life
is very different than the other.
Some of you are mothers.
Some of you are mothers and wives.
Some of you are mothers and widowed.
Some of you are mother and grandmother and
a daughter.
And some of you, all of the above
add to it, you are a woman works
not only in the house, but outside the
house.
Some are this, some are that.
So what is al-ibadah?
How I'm gonna be sincere to Allah?
Al-ibadah, I can't give one fit all,
not in the deen.
Learn this and apply it to Allah only.
Hadith only, capital letter, big font, it repeated
in your mouth and in your brain.
Everything you do and you say external, internal.
Everything you do, you say internal, external.
Now coming the most important one.
That Allah loves and Allah is pleased with.
Everything you do, everything you say, external, internal,
Allah loves, Allah is pleased with, there's two
of them.
I'll give you some examples.
You do this for Allah only, you are
in state of worship.
Someone really said things absolutely not true about
you in your face, in the most harshest
way.
And you are absolutely capable of answering.
They said this, I'm gonna say 10 times
worse than what they said, I can.
But I held myself back.
And I said, that's not the act of
worship.
I am gonna say nothing, and I can
for you, Allah only.
Because you love it and you're pleased with
it.
That's an act of worship.
It's not because you're polite.
It's not because what people will say about
me.
It's not because this is not me, I
just can't do it.
Or it doesn't befit me, or oh, they
are filming me.
That's all not for Allah.
Verses, I know you will not be happy
with me, and you're not gonna like it,
Ya Rabbi.
I'm not saying it.
That's act of worship.
That's Ibadah.
Remember how many rivers we are missing.
Words and actions, you came in here today.
You purchased your ticket, Allah knows how long.
For some reason or the other, you couldn't
get the seat you wanted.
If you're gonna make a big deal of
it, and you're gonna say, no, I'm gonna
show them, what does that mean?
That's not pleasing to Allah.
That doesn't mean we are weak.
Don't misunderstand me.
That doesn't mean people can cross over me,
if you wanna use the word.
No.
But I'm gonna make sure I affirm my
stand.
I speak my mind.
I do what needs to be done, but
only in the frame.
And I call, this is me, I call
this frame, is what Allah loves and is
pleased with.
What Allah loves and pleased with, add to
it, I care less what people will think.
Oh, you didn't answer her?
You let it go?
What people will say about you?
You're weak?
You don't know how to say things?
No.
The hardest thing is to control you when
you can.
No.
Learn to say this to yourself first, and
don't say it to people.
Because you may come out, not many will
understand your real intention.
Say to yourself the following, I want to
go to Jannah.
I want to go to Jannah.
In five years from now, I'm sure in
England is the same as we are in
the States.
There's always goals.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Where do you see yourself at this time?
In five years, I wanna see myself closer
to Jannah.
In 10 years, if I'm still alive, I
wanna see myself, Jannah is definitely there.
The question is how high we are.
The goal is always Jannah.
And let alone seeing Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
To get to this, I'm gonna be focused.
Even when I drink, even when I buy.
You know, I was telling people, subhanAllah, especially
after I came back from Gaza, things completely
perspective, completely changed.
And I said, how can you buy a
$6 or a four pounds coffee?
It's not haram.
I said, I'm not gonna say it's haram.
I have no proof to say it's haram.
You're not stealing it.
You're paying your own money.
But it's not at this time.
At this time is what pleases Allah, number
one.
So learn this.
And we're gonna take a break in a
second.
Learn, change everything you do, everything you say.
The way you enter, the way you leave,
the way you behave outside in the break.
Everything, don't see you, see Him.
When you see Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
Allah will give you the sincerity that you
need and you want, and that the only
thing that will get you to Jannah.
And then your lake, you will have a
lake, and the lake will be the biggest,
and the lake will be the cleanest, and
the purest, and the most beautiful, and will
fly you to Jannah.
Not take you, it will fly you to
Jannah.
Subhanakallahumma wa bihamdik.
Ashadu an la ilaha ila ant, astaghfiruka wa
atubu ilaih.
Sallallahu ala sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala alihi wa
ashabihi tasliman kathira.
We'll take a break.
Inshallah, I'll see you in a while.
As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.