Haifaa Younis – Are human better than angels- I Faith and Feminism – Part 3
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The speaker discusses various misunderstandings with their wife and their children, including the belief that they should take care of their children and not just their own. They emphasize the importance of faith and trust in Islam, as it is crucial for everyone to trust. The deification of men and women in general, including the belief that only one person can choose between men and women, is emphasized. The transcript describes a surah in which men focus on the deen, where only one person can choose between men and women, and where the man who has the choice to obey Allah is the one who has the choice to obey it.
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People will misuse this word, and some get
very offended.
I call it take care.
And I'm going to say, why?
And you're going to respond, and you say,
because I have to take care of you.
Listen to this.
You taking care of your wife is a
responsibility.
Me taking care of my husband is responsibility.
Both.
Both.
So I cannot say as a man, I'm
not going to take care of her because
she doesn't take care of me.
Don't do it.
It's your choice.
But Allah will ask you.
And the same thing applies here.
You can't come and say, you know what?
I'm not talking about abuse.
Always abuse stays in another place.
I'm talking about regular.
But he doesn't take care of me.
And I was like, what does that mean?
If he is taking care of you the
way he pleases Allah, fulfilled the qawamah, the
caregiver, then you need to take care of
him.
Otherwise, Allah will ask you also.
That is not understood in feminism.
Feminism is understood in this equal, 50-50.
You know the 50-50 rules?
50-50.
Islam is not 50-50.
Islam is a wholesome.
In the house, wholesome.
Not you wash the dishes one day, and
I will wash the dishes next day.
That's not Islam.
Islam is the house needs to be clean.
If I am working 18 hours, and for
some reason Allah made your job easy, then
there is nothing wrong with you washing the
dishes.
Because that's what he did.
But if you are working 18 hours, and
I am not, then I need to do
it.
What is the big deal?
Why do I look down at taking care
of my house?
That's my responsibility.
That's taking care.
Are you with me?
Because all these misunderstood things about the deen
needs to be cleared.
Remove the culture.
The culture is a huge issue here.
What is faith?
What is faith?
Everybody in this room is a believer?
Of course.
Why we are in the masjid?
Alhamdulillah.
What is faith?
I'm sorry?
Don't tell me believing.
I know that.
What does the word faith mean?
Have you ever looked it up?
You want to learn anything?
You know when I prepare any talk, the
first thing I do, I go and look
at the linguistic meaning.
So if I'm reading, alhamdulillah, I speak Arabic,
so I always go to the Arabic word
first.
What does it mean?
The word.
Not Islam.
The word itself.
Faith, and I actually wrote it here.
Faith is, and this is for every religion
associated with, trust in Allah, God, and his
promise.
Trust in Allah and his promise.
Faith also have secular meaning outside religion.
What is it?
Don't we say, trust me, I have a
good, or I say, I trust her.
I have a good faith in her.
What is that?
Or I have a bad faith in her.
What is that?
Trust.
Faith is trust.
You trust in Allah.
What does that mean?
Everything he said is good for me, even
if I don't understand it.
Everything he said do, it is good for
me.
Everything he said don't do is not good
for me.
Now the issue is I don't understand the
religion for many reasons.
I'm talking about depth of religion.
Then I need to go by the good
faith.
And I wouldn't say it's not fair.
And I wouldn't say this is exactly what
you have to do.
I need to know Allah is just.
Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, anything he put
in this religion, even if externally does not
fit where we are living, it doesn't matter.
Because I know my creator, the one who
created me, is what he said is good
for me.
I'm just going to keep some, I want
to leave some time for, what time is
Isha?
8.30?
Okay.
Here I'm going to say one thing.
Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, made a human
being honored.
True or false?
Human being in general.
Yes or no?
Are we honored?
Okay, you're so confident.
You're right.
وَلَقَدْ كَرَّمْنَا بَنِي آدَمَ وَحَمَلْنَاهُمْ فِي الْبَرِّ وَالْبَحْرِ
وَرَزَقْنَاهُمْ مِنَ الطَّيِّبَاتِ وَفَضَّلْنَاهُمْ عَلَى كَثِيرٍ مِّمَّنْ
خَلَقْنَا تَغْضِيلًا We have honored.
Actually, takrim is even exalt.
The human being, he didn't say man or
a woman.
Bani Adam, children of Adam.
وَلَقَدْ كَرَّمْنَا بَنِي آدَمَ وَحَمَلْنَاهُمْ فِي الْبَرِّ وَالْبَحْرِ
We facilitated for them to walk and move
on this earth and in the sea.
وَرَزَقْنَاهُمْ مِنَ الطَّيِّبَاتِ We have gave them from
the best we have sustenance.
وَفَضَّلْنَاهُمْ عَلَى كَثِيرٍ مِّمَّنْ خَلَقْنَا Allah have exalted
you and me over a lot of other
creation.
So when you see a bird, when you
see a cat, when you see any animal,
there's two things you say.
This is what I always say.
I'm actually envy of that animal.
I'm jealous.
You know why?
Because there will be no accountability.
That animal is not gonna stand in front
of Allah and says, Why didn't you do
this or do that?
And what do they do in life?
Eat and drink and fulfill their desires.
Done.
But at the same time, he did not
exalted.
When Allah said, I exalted Bani Adam.
I have honored.
He didn't say, I honored the man.
Second, when the word man comes in the
Quran, because again, majority of you read English.
When Allah says man, doesn't mean the male
gender necessarily.
No.
For example, رِجَالٌ Allah said this in Surah
An-Nur, talking about masajid.
Right?
And he says, رِجَالٌ لَا تُلْهِيهِمْ تِجَارَةٌ وَلَا
بَيْعٌ عَن ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ If you read the
translation, this is in Surah An-Nur.
Men, because that's how you translate.
Men that will never get distracted from the
remembrance of Allah by money or by work.
Does that mean men only?
But you read it as men.
Men, if Allah did not describe it in
the Quran, that means the both gender.
So when you read a man, not necessarily
it is man only.
When Allah says, كَرَّمْنَا بَنِ آدَمٍ The children
of Adam, this is all of us.
So that's number one.
We all have been exalted by Allah, and
you all know the famous ayah when Allah
told the angels, what?
I am gonna be, do what?
إِنِّي جَعَلُونَ فِي الْأَرْضِ خَلِيفًا I am gonna
make a successor in this earth.
What did the angel says?
Why?
The argument you all know.
That's basically an exaltation for the human being.
He did not leave angels on earth.
Can I ask you a question just to
bring your attention back?
Which one is better?
Us or the angels?
Us.
Oh, mashallah.
And why is that?
Why is that?
Well, what does that mean?
I know what you mean, but I need
you to explain it.
Always when we speak about the deen, especially
living in a non-Muslim country, talk in
the mind of the people who don't know.
Not the mind of you and me, of
course we know.
So if you are gonna talk to a
15-year-old or 16-year-old, and
I keep saying this when I come to
you on Friday, because normally on Thursday, I
teach the youth girls.
And many of the things that we take
for granted and we understand, believe me, they
have no idea.
And you have to explain it.
So when we say, when we come and
say, what do you just answer me?
Why?
So, is angels better or us?
Us.
Why?
There's a huge debate between scholars, basically, because
I have ability to choose.
When I don't have the ability to choose,
what is the problem?
Fasting, but the water, I'm so thirsty.
And I can pick up the water right
away and drink it.
So I have a choice.
When I have a choice, it's very difficult.
It's one of the reasons we, living in
the West, we're not happy, as the simple
people who live in villages.
And we have everything, and they have nothing.
Because they don't have a choice.
What do you want to eat for dinner?
What do you want to eat for dinner?
This is the only thing in dinner, and
Alhamdulilah Rabbil Alameen.
For us, So when we have a choice,
I can choose to please Allah, and I
can choose not to.
And this is a question always I am
asked.
Is hijab for the woman a choice?
Yes, it is her choice to obey Allah
or not.
It is her choice to obey Allah or
not.
And that's up to you.
And we can also say many other examples
for the woman.
So basically, we have been exalted, we have
been honored, man and a woman.
Many of the things they talk about, we
as Muslim women, we have it already.
Now back to the hadith the brother said.
I'm going to bring you the verse.
Next.
People.
And Allah, He did not address believers.
He addressed people.
We have created you from a man and
a woman.
And this is a very good way to
respond to the LGBT argument.
But that's a different story.
And Allah said man and a woman.
And we have made you nation and tribe.
Look at each other.
The men look at each other, the women
look at each other.
Are we the same?
Do we come from the same place?
Even if you come from the same country.
Are we the same?
How many dialogue you have?
How many foods?
Different.
But we are different.
But to know each other, and the best
among you, neither man or woman, nor young
nor old, white or not white, have accent
or don't have an accent, none of that
in the sight of Allah.
The most pious.
And only Allah knows who is the most
pious.
So when I come back to feminism, when
I come back to feminism, and I say
let me take you back to the definition,
so you can connect together.
This is the definition of feminism in Wikipedia.
A range of social, political, ideological movement, aim
to define and establish equality, political, economic, personal,
and social.
Does Islam gives me that?
Not 50-50.
I want to re-emphasize this.
It is not 50-50.
One day he does that, the next day
I do that.
And it is not zero and a hundred.
She does everything and he does nothing, or
he does everything and she does nothing.
That's not in Islam.
Nobody is better than the Rasul, peace be
upon him, and he served his family.
And he used to even, literally, sew his
clothes.
The best of the creation.
Right?
Last but not the least, is a story
which really, really moved me.
There is two women in our deen, in
the Quran.
Two women in the Quran.
One by name, and the other one not
by name, who really tell you, can faith
and feminism live together?
Does anyone know who those are?
One, her name is mentioned, the other one,
her name is not mentioned.
I'm sorry?
Sayyida Maryam.
Maryam's name is mentioned.
And the other one?
No.
Sorry?
No.
No?
The Sayyida Aisha without her name.
What is feminism here, and what is faith
here?