Hacene Chebbani – Supplications And Divine Cures For Our Family Affairs
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Dear brothers and sisters,
I would like to talk today about some
of our affairs,
some of our issues in our community,
and this is something
that is extremely important because it has to
do with a family unit.
And when we talk about these issues, we're
trying to help our families.
We're trying to solve
our problems
because when the family is safe,
when it is strong,
we will have we'll end up having a
strong community,
When we are able to save our marriages
and keep people together
and peep keep families together,
We will keep our community
strong
and everything happens with his will, with his
assistance, with his help.
We're just humans
trying to do our work,
trying to do our homework.
In in the last summer,
July August, I was traveling. When I came
back, I was able to keep track on
something.
I came back August 15
and I was trying to look at the
issues that
I was
forced to deal with
because I didn't have a choice.
From August 15 till
till August 19,
within 5 days or 4 days 5 days
actually, from Thursday to Monday,
I found myself dealing with 10 cases of
divorce
within 5 days.
For half of them were old issues. We
dealt with them before,
and
half of them were new issues.
I understand maybe people were waiting,
and then when I came back, they start
contacting us. That's fine.
But
I decided to talk about it.
So I would like to bring to your
attention the severity of this issue in our
community.
And, of course, there are people who misunderstand
our message,
because we're not talking about names, we're not
talking about families.
We're not we don't mean any person. Nothing
is personal here, but still we have people
who misunderstand
the message coming from the member.
Rasulullah
used to talk about
communal issues on the member.
He would say
Why are some people saying this and this?
And he wouldn't mention names
and some people might know whom he's talking
about
but he has to talk about it because
it has to do with the community, the
well-being of the community
And why are some people doing this and
this?
So people who are struggling
and we are all struggling as humans because
life is not perfect, it will not be
perfect
for anyone.
And family
life will never be perfect
because there are humans who are dealing with
each other.
You have parents dealing with children or husband
and wife dealing with each other.
They might have different views. They have different,
you know, level of education. There are many
issues that are there, Knight. People look at
things differently.
She's a human being who grew up in
a different family. He's another human being, grew
up another, maybe another family, another
environment.
These sometimes come together and they form a
family with and they have opposing views,
and that's normal.
That's normal. You don't we don't get married,
didn't expect your wife to agree with you
about
anything you say anything you say she will
say yes. Yeah. I agree with you. That's
fine. That's not possible
because it was not possible during the life
of our prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
Rasulullah
his wife used to have different opinions sometimes
but he was the messenger of Allah and
he was very patient
and he taught us how to manage and
how to deal with these issues.
So what we need to do is
learn how to manage these affairs.
Zero issues,
zero
problems is not possible in this life.
This is what we need to keep in
mind.
We are people who are being tested on
this earth.
Perfect life is in Jannah, alhamdulillah.
Allah has created Jannah for us
and per and life
and this is what the ulama said. I
mean it here.
Life in Jannah is perfect.
No problems whatsoever.
It's perfect from every angle.
There is nothing in Jannah that has a
side effect.
And
and Jahannam is the house of pure evil.
There's nothing good about Jahannam.
Nothing good about Hawfa'ah
this is a conclusion that our muslim scholars
have made long time ago and we find
it in the classical sources of knowledge
but this life is good and bad
Allah
has promised that he will test us with
good and bad
and of course we have to exercise patience
we have to learn how to navigate we
have to learn how to deal with issues
and problems it's all about knowledge and patience
and also
sometimes wisdom.
So,
again,
I confirm this before
and I because we hear people talking and
I have to confirm it time to time,
we're not here to judge people.
We are in the business of helping
people.
Helping, we help each other
and the children who are suffering from these
issues they are our children.
And if the imams do not care about
their community then they shouldn't be leading the
community.
They should be in this position. They should
not be in this position
if they don't care
about the well-being of the community,
and this is why we have to talk
about these issues, Yajuan.
Again
and again, it doesn't mean that the one
who is standing up in front of you
is perfect or has a perfect life or
he's on the top here and everyone is
down. No. That's not true.
As I said before, my struggle is your
struggle. We are all in the same boat.
We all want our children to be saved.
We all want our children to go to
Jannah. We have the same issues. We have
the same struggles.
We do it
together. And we help one another.
We help one another. This is this is
what is this is the purpose of talking
about this this issues.
Now
this is a big issue, if one
and, you know, when we talk about it,
there are many
you can talk about it from many
from different angles.
I'm not going to talk today about technical
issues, how to
deal with each other.
The way what are the principles that we
are supposed to use when we are dealing
with family affairs.
I usually start
my counseling with the foundation
and I'll tell you something this is what
I share with the community I want to
share it in this Khutba.
I start with the foundation
what is the foundation
Our connection with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
If I have a better connection with Allah,
then I feel I believe and you should
agree with me because without his help, without
assistance,
we cannot achieve anything. We cannot save our
marriages. We cannot save our families without his
help Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. That's why this foundation
is very important.
Spiritual empowerment,
your connection with Allah, your relationship with Allah
for both parties for the whole family.
That's why I usually as I said start
with an email
that I share with the community. Whenever they
contact me, they said, okay. I'll send you
this email and then we can have a
meeting later on and we can talk about
issues.
We can see how we can solve these
issues.
But I start with an email that has
to do with our supplications,
our daily players, daily routine, how to establish
a strong connection with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Spirituality
is very important in our life
and of course when I say spirituality I
don't mean
the western perspective of spirituality nowadays.
What I mean
is our relationship with Allah practicing the deen,
praying on time the 5 daily prayers doing
our sadaqat,
doing afkaras Sabahul Masa,
being engaged in your deen,
Practicing the deen,
making the deen your priority,
making Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala on the top
of the list,
on the top of the list. This is
very important Yahuwani.
We're not here because this is part of
our culture to be here.
We are here because we want to go
to Jannah.
This is our deen, is not culture.
We're not cultural Muslims.
We're Muslims who want to go to Jannat
Al Fardaus
and that's why we Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
send us a messenger
that we need to follow his way of
life.
We need to follow his way of life
Ikhwar
and most of the things that I share
with people
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to do them
on a regular basis.
Alaihi Salat wa Salam.
So I usually
start this email
with a beautiful dua that I believe
is the most
powerful dua when it comes to family affairs.
I'm not going to to explain it here,
right. We talked about it before. Just a
reminder to myself and my brothers and sisters,
that this is a very powerful dua. We
talked about it before it is found in
Surat Al Furqan.
Ayah 74,
Our Lord grant us from our spouses and
our offspring
the coolness of our eyes and make us
an example for the people of righteousness,
the people of piety. I believe this is
a very strong dua.
What I believe is that a Muslim who
wants to save his family, he should recite
this dua on a daily basis. Very simple.
On a daily basis.
Even if you don't have issues,
don't wait for problems to happen.
Whoever wants Allah to answer his dua
during times of difficulty and hardship,
he should keep
keep making dua during good times.
You don't forget Allah when everything is fine.
When you don't have no problems, everything you're
happy with your family. You're happy with your
business.
Don't forget Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Our problem these days when we get very
happy, we forget about Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
or the rules of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
Especially during wedding these days.
Janaza
also we get very emotional when someone passes
away and we try to just follow cultural
practices and forget about the sunnah and what
Rasulullah
used to do during janaza and qedah. So
when we get emotional,
forget about Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala whether we
are very sad or very happy.
No. We need to be reasonable and
we need to know what Rasulullah sallallahu wa
ta'ala
wants us to do during all times.
The second du'a that I share with, with
people
and, of course, the first one is Surat
Al Furqan. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us
it's the habit of Ibad al Rahman. So
from ayah 61 or 60, he was talking
Allah
about he's talking about the the qualities
or the character traits of those who
are, you know, the best people. Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala is pleased with them. He called
them the the servants of the Most Merciful,
Ibadur Rahman.
And he told us about their habits,
their dua, their qiyamul layl and all these
things. And he said one of the things
they keep saying this dua,
one of their habits is that they keep
saying this dua. Go check this ayat by
yourself
from a 6061 in surah al Furqan till
the end
of the surah.
The other du'a
This dua, Rasulullah SAW
told Fatima his daughter that you should repeat
this dua.
It's a very powerful dua because there is
a possibility that this dua include al Ismail
Adam.
What is Al Ismail Adam the greatest name
of Allah?
It's a name that we are not sure.
We don't know exactly which name is
but there are possibilities. Some rulamandi said Al
Hayil Qayyum could be the name the greatest
name of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Rasoolallah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam he said if
it is used in our supplication then Allah
will answer our dua.
If you use this Al Ism Al Adam,
the greatest name of Allah in your dua,
your dua will be
answered
but he didn't tell us exactly which dua
it's there are some versions
different in in different hadith
one of the possible
options is this one
But it is enough to know that Rasulullah
used to tell his daughter Fatima,
his beloved daughter, keep saying this dua.
Keep saying this dua. Do not forget about
this dua. And someone in the community told
me during my crisis, this dua was my
my best
friend.
O ever ever living one or sustainer of
all,
by your mercy.
So we're begging Allah
for mercy here. By your
mercy, I call on you to set right
all my affairs.
And this is very powerful because it includes
all your affairs, whether you talk about business,
family life, your studies or anything.
Set all my affairs. Set right
all my affairs.
Do not place me in charge of my
soul
even for the blinking
the blinking of an eye.
So this is the second dua.
The the third habit which is an amazing
habit
is to the habit of reciting afkar Saba'hu
al Masa.
These afkar are very powerful ikhwan.
They are amazing.
They're good for risk. They're good for protection,
for good health, good ending. There are some
dua there.
They are you're asking Allah for good ending.
You don't want to suffer at the end
of your life. There are people who suffer
at the end of their life.
You know, there are people who suffer and
we feel sorry for them.
We feel sorry for them. They stay 2
years or 4 years or 3 years, sometimes
in a very bad state. Their health
is not that they're not able even to
help some of them to help themselves.
So you want
and also good ending has a different meaning
also
dying on the shahada of la ilaha illallah
Muhammadur Rasulullah
that is Ursul Khatima right?
You remember the shahada at the end of
your life This is Usn Al Khatima.
So so these these
you know topics or these subjects are all
of them included in this
afkara Sabah.
Afkara Sabahul Masa and they are found in
a small booklet
that is well
known. Everyone knows about it. Hasan al Muslim,
in English is the fortress of the the
Muslim.
You can download it. You can you can
order it. You can they they have an
app. It's widely available.
No one has an excuse we just have
to make the time for these supplications
in the morning after fajr
the best time is between fajr and sunrise
and in the evening the best time for
this adkar is between Asar and Maghri
right
and if you miss this time it's okay
you can do them in the morning time
till or
in the evening after isha it's okay after
Maghrib after isha till midnight
you can still do this dua unless allah
Alhamdulillahi
rabbilalaminu
salatwassalamu
alaasharfin Musalim Sallinu Muhammad
wa'ala Aalihi wa Saghbihi Ajmain.
The 4th step, Yahuwal,
something that we talked about again before
is that we need to take advantage of
winter time in in in Calgary.
It's,
during winter we have long nights
and it's possible, I know it's possible for
many people to wake up
before Fajr by 1 hour or 2 hours,
you can make wudu that's the best time
for Dua.
The last
third part of the night,
the last third part of the night
our duas
supplications are accepted,
our salat, our tisbeeh, our istighfar
are highly rewarded during that time.
Actually in the hadith, in the famous hadith
in Bukhari,
Allah
will say during that time,
is there anyone seeking forgiveness?
So I forgive him.
Is there anyone who is asking for something
so I should give it, I should give
it to him.
Yeah. 1, I know in the summer it's
difficult
to wake up before Fajr in the summer,
summers of Calgary
but during winter we don't have an excuse
Fajr, we pray Fajr here in the in
the Masjid at 7 o'clock.
It should be easy for
most of us to wake up at 5
o'clock or 5:30
1 hour before make wudu
and pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala between
you and him because he is the one
who has the power to solve your problems.
He is the one who has the power
to change the heart of your wife.
He has the power to change the hearts
of your children.
Wallahi change is possible.
There are people who lose hope
and they keep telling some of their children
you're gonna go to shahannam you are an
evil person you get an And then they
say no I lost hope in this in
this child. I lost hope in this woman.
I lost hope in this.
Who are you to judge them?
Even if they are your children, don't judge
them. Say our children, I have the freedom
to talk to you to them in any
way I want. I mean there's still another
human being who who deserve
deserve they deserve Allah's mercy
and you don't want to see them in
jahannam on the day of judgment. You say
it you're saying it because you are angry
you're upset and you say sometimes I don't
mean it.
Okay if you don't mean it then don't
use this language
change it with something else
make dua to to allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
because as I said
he has the power to change
their hearts in a matter of seconds
and we dealt with it with cases where
parents lost hope
and then allah subhanahu wa ta'ala at a
certain point of time
he decided to
you know bless this family and there was
a positive change that happened and everyone was
happy with the change that took place.
Number 5 is lis tafari akhwan. Lis tafari
is an amazing
cure for our issues and problems.
Abdulla Abbas if I'm not mistaken him or
another sahabi but I believe it was Abdulla
Abbas.
Someone told him came to him with a
problem.
He said
in one majlis, a second one came with
a different issue. He said Allah kabbalistilfar.
A third one came with a different problem.
He said Allah kabbalistilfar
seek Allah's forgiveness,
seek Allah's forgiveness
so he gave
one solution to 3 people who came to
him with the 3 different issues
and every time we would say
seek Allah's forgiveness
and as tafar is amazing Allah has promised
that he will forgive our sins, increase the
number of your children, increase our wealth,
bless us with rain if we need rain
so of course you know talking about people
who were involved in the old days with,
you know, agriculture and farming, but rain is
needed all the time. Everyone needs rain.
So and you can use any form of
Istilfar as long as it is prescribed in
the sunnah. There is no need to look
for
weird sometimes the people look for weird
forms of thikr taken from other people
you leave the sunnah of Rasool Allah a
sallam
and then you're gonna look for a dua
supplication that is made up by someone else.
I'm talking about this because I dealt with
this issue
I checked the dua it's weird it has
words that are not
clear
you have simple forms of istifar that are
very powerful
Using these two names
is very efficient, very powerful.
I'm reviewing Surat Al Baqarah these days. In
the first juz,
Allah mentioned these two names
in
a context of Tawba and Istifar
in the story of Adam alaihis salam, the
story of Musa with Bani Israel and the
story Ibrahim and his son Ismael.
These two names mentioned in these three stories
in the 1st Jewish of Surah Al Baqarah.
Verily you are the accepting of repentance
the merciful.
These two names were supposed to empower our
dua with the names of Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala. As Sameer Al Anim, another two names
that are very good for dua, if you
wanna use them. But at Tawab Ibrahim, we're
talking about the context of tawba here. So
this is another beautiful form
of the, of Istighfar.
Another one that is famous and mentioned in
authentic ahadith.
I seek the forgiveness of Allah the great
with whom there is none worthy of worship
except him, whom there is not worthy of
worship except him.
You
know, the other living,
the sustainer of all
and I seek his repentance or I repent
to him. So this this form of istighfar
is very powerful. Rasool Allah
he said all your sins will be will
be
forgiven when you use this form of istighfar.
You can just see use as allahmakfarli
allahmakfarliwa
our asafarullahatobullahi
one hundred times. That should be fine every
morning, every evening. It will take you a
few minutes. Astaghfirullah wa
atugooilei, one and a times.
3, 4 minutes, and that's it, and you
will be fine, Insha'Allah.
Number 5, yahuwan or number 6. Number 5.
Number 6.
You know, making dua'u for other Muslims in
their absence without their knowledge. We talked about
it again.
There is a famous hadith that is in
Sahih Muslim
that your dua'u will be accepted.
That Allah will send an angel to you
And this angel, you don't see him, but
he's there beside you because you decided to
make dua for other Muslims. You decided to
become generous
and include other Muslims in your dua.
And it's a sign that you really you
really care about them. Right? Because you're not
making dua in front of them. You're not
trying to please them. You're trying to please
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
This is a sign that you really care
about your brother, your neighbor, your friend, your
community,
your your
your brother in the community or your sister.
So Rasulullah SAWHAN
said it is accepted
number 1. Number 2 the angel
will say ameen to your dua and then
he will say
So the angel will ask Allah, look at
this, the angel will ask Allah to give
you what you wished for your brother or
sister.
The angel will make dua for you
because you decided to make Dua for another
brother in his absence. The angel will ask
Allah to give you what you
wished for your brother and sister.
An angel making Dua for you, You don't
make dua for yourself. So basically you're solving
your problems by making dua
for other other Muslims and this is well
documented as I said in famous hadith
in Sahih Muslim.
We talked before
about the power of the word.
You can use it on a daily basis.
The power
of Another dua
that I, I also share with people,
somewhere else in the community.
He said my this dua was my best
friend
during my crisis.
So they had a family crisis
and this dua was my best friend, which
means I seek refuge
with you. Oh Allah, I seek refuge with
you from worry
and grief.
So
when you worry about the future,
what will happen in the future. Al Hazan
is being sad about past events. Something that
happened in the past
is not
there, but I I feel bad about it.
You feel some pain about it. So we
are seeking refuge in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
He want Allah to relieve you from these
feelings. These are negative feelings.
Right? And from incapacity
and laziness. Incapacity is not being able to
do things, solve problems.
You have the skills, you have maybe money,
you have you have the tools but you're
not able.
You don't know how to solve this problem,
incapacity.
The other one is laziness. You are able
to solve your problems but you don't have
the desire to wake up or stand up
and do things.
So both both states are very bad. You
don't want these 2 things, 2 problems.
From miser behavior and cowardice,
and from being overcome by death
and overpowered by men. So this
dua
Rasoolullah
used to use it sometimes
before
the
the the salam
after tashahood
after the ibraheem salat salat ala Rasulillah
during our salat before salam
he would use this dua and this is
a good time actually for dua a good
time when you are ending your salat of
course when you're praying with the imam
you'll follow the imam but when you are
doing your nafila
you are the king you are the boss
you're doing your nafila you want to do
your nafila turakas pray them in 10 minutes
15 minutes it's your it's your business
right you can do choose whatever dua you
want at the end of your salat
and it is and it is your salat
your business with allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Another
one I'll end with this one rasoolallahu alaihi
wa sallam he said the Awaatil Magroob
and Makroob who is Makroob?
The one who is facing kerb. What is
kerb? It's a huge problem.
Is a deep issue.
Someone who is
like carrying ness allah sallam alafi a big
ham.
Allah
Allahu Rabbi laushirkubihi
shayah
Very simple yet very powerful because you're confirming
your belief in the oneness of Allah and
that's the best way
the best way to approach dua
and seek Allah's help. You confirm
most of the powerful most powerful supplications
they include
declaration of faith
or you confirming your belief in the oneness
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So here it
means Allah Allah is my Lord.
I did not associate anything with him.
You confirming your belief in the oneness of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and this is the
first step in any process
in any process we seek through
help and we seek relief from hardship Miss
Allah Subhanahu
Wa
Ta'ala.