Fatima Barkatulla – Maintaining Family Ties in Islam

			I'd love to speak to you about something that I think sometimes we forget about as people as human
beings, and that is Scylla to ram the value of Scylla. To Rahim, what is silica RAM?
		

			Well, silica means joining the relationships of the womb, technically, or literally, that's what it
means, right? So keeping your relationships with your relatives alive. And it's something that is an
obligation for us as Muslims. And in fact, the opposite, which is cutting off from our relations, is
considered a major sin in Islam. Can you imagine? And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
actually said to us, that whoever loves that he be granted more risk more wealth, and be given a
longer life, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin. SubhanAllah. So if we want to
have a longer life, and we want to, we want Allah Subhana Allah, Allah to bless our provision, our
		

			risk, and risk can be so many things, right? It can be a wealth like literal wealth, it can be the
baraka in our time. It can be, you know, children, so many things, then, the quickest way or one of
the key ways in order to increase your risk, and the length of your life is to keep the relations of
the war. And the person who keeps the relationship the womb, or relationships, you know, blood
relationships, ties of kinship, is called a Walsall Walsall. Now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam actually told us that, whilst Elora him, the person who keeps those relationships is not a
person who, you know, does. So when it's easy, right? Because, you know, that's something that all
		

			of us can do, right? It's actually when somebody is cutting off from you, when one of your family
members is maybe treating you badly, or who doesn't want to keep in touch with you, or is avoiding
or neglecting keeping in touch with you. And you still proactively try to keep in touch, you
proactively, you know, invite them, you proactively go out to seek them, find out how they are,
phone them, give them gifts, all of those kinds of things, then that is what I was a little Rahim is
actually. And of course, those of you who are listening and viewing from all over the world, you
will know that that's not easy, is it? It's not easy at all, the easiest thing to do is when
		

			somebody isn't being very nice to you, or somebody isn't really proactively seeking connection with
you to kind of leave them right and ignore them.
		

			But Subhanallah our deen is so beautiful.
		

			The guidance of our Prophet sallallahu wasallam is so comprehensive, that he's telling us that
regardless of how people are treating you, you go out of your way to make those relationships. And
lastly, on that topic, I'd like to highlight that, unfortunately, some people, they seem to think
that if they're not getting getting on with somebody, it's completely understandable that sometimes
you know, we don't get on with every member of our family. Sometimes some members of our family
could be harmful to us. Right.
		

			And it's completely understandable to kind of maybe have a little bit of a distance, not to cut off.
Cutting off, by the way means you don't, you know, say salam to them, or you don't, you know, reply
to their invitations or that you're having you're you're not leaving the doors of communication
open, you know, you've completely kind of withdrawn
		

			it's completely understandable to kind of have a bit of a distance, you know, that that might be
necessary. But unfortunately, some of some people, they use their children in order to seek revenge,
or to weaponize, you know, they weaponize their children against their relatives, or they weaponize
a you know, a wife might an ex wife might weaponize her children against her ex husband or an ex
husband might weaponize his children against his wife. This is a very despicable thing for people to
do. You know, we should not be doing that. If you have a personal problem with somebody, that's your
personal problem.
		

			Children and other relatives you
		

			We should try to minimize the effect on them and allow them to have a good relationship as much as
possible.