Life of Aisha RA #09 – Relationship with the Prophet & His Wives

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Dear brothers and sisters As salam o Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome to another episode of Aisha are the Allahu and her Mother of the Believers.

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On the eastern side of the Prophet's mosque, there were a row of mud huts. And these were the living quarters of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his wives. One of those huts belonged to our mother, our Asia or the Allah Allah. And the heart was about 10 foot long, with mud walls, and a roof of date leaves and branches was a very simple little abode. In fact, you could even call it a room. The roof was so low that if you reached up, you could touch it.

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There was a door that went straight from her house to the masjid. And the door had some kind of curtain over it. It was a very simple home, but it was a home from which the light of guidance emanated and spread throughout the world.

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Dear Brothers and Sisters, when we hear about the life of a shadow of the law, and how with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, sometimes we don't realize that actually, you know, when he passed away, she was only 18 years old, which means that the majority of her life she actually spent after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. However, those years with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was so intense and so beneficial and so beautiful, that she narrated all the information that we could ever want to know about those years. Right? Everything that she could tell us about the Sunnah about living with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam, that would be

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beneficial for us. Our mother, Aisha radi, Alana, used to tell us about

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and so through that we learn what is it to have a happy and positive marital life? How do problems get resolved in marriage? All of the things the human things that we experience, you know, all the interactions, all the ups and downs of life are sown allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also experienced some of those.

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We said last time that even though the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a statesman, and was very busy with the affairs of the Ummah, He taught his companions to have balance in their lives. We said that our Isha described him as he used to keep himself busy serving his family. And when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for prayer. So yes, he was there for his family. Yes, he was serving his family. But he always knew that the Salah, his connection with Allah subhanaw taala was number one. And when it came for the time for prayer, he used to get up and leave for the prayer.

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There were many special moments that are a share or the alarm on her head with the Messenger of Allah. And if it wasn't for the fact that she was his wife, and and we had access to this knowledge through her, we wouldn't know about these lovely moments. For example,

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I actually reported

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when I saw the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with a cheerful face, I said, O Messenger of Allah, make dua for me supplicate for me. The Prophet said, Oh Allah, forgive our Aisha for her past and future sins in secret and then public. And Aisha was so happy when she heard this dua from the lips of Rasulullah. That she said she laughed so much, that her head fell from his lap. So she was lying there with her head and with her head in his lap, and asking him to make dua. And when he made this Doha she was so happy ahead, fell from his love. The Prophet said to her, does my dua make you happy? I just said, Why would you do and not make me happy? In other words, she realized that not

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only was it the Messenger of Allah who was making dua for her, but he made a dua that was so comprehensive, that you know if it came true, she would definitely be a woman of Jana. Right all your past

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future sins, sins that you do in public sins that you do in private. If they were all forgiven, then you know what more could a person want.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, By Allah, this is my dua for my nation, in every single prayer. This is my dua for my ummah, in every prayer Subhanallah such a touching moment, and such a special thing for us as the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to know. Right? And we wouldn't have known about this. If it wasn't for our mother, Ayesha.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not shy to mention, and to let it be known that he loved Aisha

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wants it to be bit Alas, Radi Allahu said that he asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which person is most beloved to you? And the Prophet said, Asha.

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He said, I said, I mean amongst the men, and the Prophet said her father, her father,

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I said, then who are the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Omar, then I'll hop up. And then he mentioned some other men.

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In this narration, we see that Subhan Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not afraid to openly express that he loved his wife, even in front of men.

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And it shows you how much he loved her that when he mentioned the man who he loved the most. He connected it back to her right, he said her father.

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I showed her the Lana was jealously protective over the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam.

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And, you know, we know that she was once she got up in the middle of the night, and she couldn't see the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam there. So she felt around in the dark. And she felt the prophets foot. So she realized that he was in prayer. And she said, Oh, what was I thinking. And other times she heard him leave in the night. So she became worried that he'd gone to visit one of his other wives. So she quietly snuck up behind him and followed him to the burial ground where he went, he went to the burial ground of Bucky.

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And he went there to make the art for the dead. Then he started to go back home. And she realized that she better go back home too.

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And he was going really fast. So she started to go very fast as well so that she would enter the house before him without him realizing. So when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam entered, he found her at home, but she was out of breath. So he asked her, you know, why, why she was out of breath. And she tried to kind of not mentioned what happened. She tried to conceal the matter, but he insisted and he said to her, if she didn't tell him then Allah would tell him. So Asha, rather than her realize that she'll, she'll have to own up.

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The messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked her, was it you who was walking in front of me? She replied, Yes. So the Prophet. Again, he said to her, Do you think that I would be unfair towards you? Do you think I would basically go visit one of the other wives when it's your night.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then informed her that Gibreel had come and informed him that Allah wanted him to go to the Bucky graveyard and supplicate for the dead. And that's why he had gone out secretly. And he'd go out secretly because he didn't want to wake her up and didn't want her to be scared that he was leaving her alone in the night.

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And look at our mother Aisha, even though this funny incident happened, and you know, she was like, obviously, very sheepish by the end of this because she realized that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam had gone out for such a beautiful and beneficial reason. At the end of this, our Isha Dylon has student quality still remain, you know, and she, she couldn't help it but ask us all Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, what do you add that she should make when she goes to the graveyard? And this is when the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam taught her the Dar Salam why Allah Allah Allah, Dr. Medina will Muslimeen

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and you know how to what to make when you go to the

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graveyard. So it shows you that even though you know she was, she had these kinds of funny moments where her personality would really come out. She was still a student at heart. She wanted to know how to please Allah, that was her primary concern. And she realized that she was with the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who could tell her everything that she could ever want to know. And that's why we see that she would ask him to make dua for her. That's why we see that she would be so inquisitive and ask him anything that she could, that was beneficial.

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There was sometimes jealousy between the wives, we already mentioned that. One example was once when the prophets Allahu alayhi salam was in the house of one of his wives. And it's been Malik says, one of the Mothers of the Believers sent a meal in a dish, the wife at whose house the Prophet was, and we know that it that it was Aisha, basically whose house the Prophet was in, she struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. Okay, so in other words, the prophet is in his house, and one of the other wives sends a dish of food, and Asha, or the LAN have felt some jealousy because of this. And she struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gathered the broken pieces of the dish. And then he started to collect the items of food, which had been in the dish. And then he just simply said, your mother has become jealous, right? So he kind of covered up, you know, her kind of misdemeanor if you like, and he didn't make a big deal out of it.

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Then he told the servant to wait. And he went and asked, he asked, I Should I shut it down, had to bring a dish to replace the one that she had broken. And so then she gave the dish and then, you know, that dish was returned to the about wife. So we see that here,

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the Messenger of Allah instead of criticizing her, instead of, you know, making a big scene, he overlooked those human feelings of jealousy that were natural for his co wife, the CO wives to feel for one another. He was forbearing. And he understood that sometimes feelings and emotions can get the better of a person.

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And instead of rebuking and criticizing, he focused on showing people including his wives, how to make amends, how to fix things.

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In sha Allah after the break, we're going to continue with this topic. So until then, a salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Welcome back. We were talking about the relationship of Aisha DeLanda with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and also with with her co wives. I showed her the law on her said, I never felt so jealous about any woman, as I did for her deja vu, you know, Khadija de la Anna.

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I should have not even met for the job. You know, she had she had just been a child when for the job, or the law and her had passed away. She had died three years before what I saw before I saw allah sallallahu Sallam married Aisha.

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And I actually said I heard him mention her so often. And his Lord ordered him to give her glad tidings of a palace in Paradise. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would slaughter a sheep and distribute its meat among her friends. So in other words, you know, sort of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam had such a such a special relationship with Khadija even after her death, he would send gifts and he would remember her friends. And Alisha had heard so much about this great woman. And so she felt a sense of jealousy towards her. And once she made a comment, you know, that Allah has given you a wife that's better than her. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, no, no. And he

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made it very clear that her visa status was unmatchable. Right because she had supported him when everyone else had abandoned him. She had given him wealth when everyone had withheld their wealth from him. And she had an Allah had blessed him with two

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Aldrin through her as well. So although I should have been on her felt this sense of jealousy, it didn't stop her from being honest and just when it came to Haneda and the other wives, so we find that many of the narrations that talk about Khadija that give us information and you know, that tell us about a mother Khadija are actually narrated by Aisha. We also find that later on, whenever the situation came, where one of the wives of the Prophet had to say something about another wife, she would always say something good, I should have done her, praised the other wives in various stages, you know, in various situations. So, we see that that sense of jealousy is a natural sense of

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jealousy that sometimes bubbles up. But it didn't stop her from being honest. And it didn't stop her from being just when it mattered.

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I shot a villa on her, had no doubt about who the head of the house was, you know, the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam her husband was the head of the house. Although he served his family and was very helpful towards his family. She also of course, served him, she obeyed him. She supported him in his work. She prepared his miswak for him, for example, or his water for ablution. She would need dough for bread, and she would wash his clothes and comb his hair.

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To Aisha the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was a role model. You know, she famously described saying his character was the Quran. That's how she described Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So in examining their relationship, we learned a lot about

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human interaction, emotional sensitivity between spouses and within families.

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So by now, I think we've all realized that the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam had a very special relationship with Russia or the law now.

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Now one group of people who knew that I had a very special place in the prophets heart, were the hypocrites of Medina.

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Now, the hypocrites the Mona Cohn. They were those people who had not sincerely embraced Islam. They were pretending to be muslims hoping that you know they could cause the prophets downfall one day and eventually regained their status in Medina. And the head of the mafia Cohen was Abdullah bin obey bin Salman. He was always looking for an opportunity to harm the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his mission.

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And one of the things or persons enemies will do to get to a person is to attack them through the thing that they love the most, and through the relationships that they love the most. And that's what Abdullah bin obey, tried to do. One day, Abdullah bin obey got his chance to not only try to undermine the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and hurt him with regards to his most beloved, but to try to attack his honor to ruin his marriage. And, you know, cause this into the disintegration of the Muslim community.

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In the month of Siobhan in the fifth year of hijra,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam led an expedition against bundle al metallic. During this journey, a large number of munafo Hypocrites join the expedition, and they try to cause trouble between the unserer and the MaHA judo and dancer were the Muslims of Medina, the natives of Medina, and the hydrophone were those who had who had emigrated right from Mecca to Medina.

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Abdullah bin obey was publicly exposed by the unser during this incident, and he felt humiliated and miserable. And because of this, he was looking for a way to hit back at Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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on will macmini in Arusha very eloquently tells us about this story in Viet and in vivid detail.

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And this is of course the story of the slander of Arusha or the Alana and our mother Aisha in very vivid detail talks about it and explains what happened herself

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She narrates that when Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam intended to go on a journey. He used to draw lots amongst his wives. And so then through drawing lots he would decide which of his wives would come with him. He drew lots amongst us during one of the other words, which were in which he was going to fight. And the lot fell on me says Ayesha, and so I proceeded with Allah's Messenger after Allah's ordering of the hijab had been revealed. So I should have been setting the scene and the context, right? She's saying that basically,

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and this was in the fifth year of her journal, we said, you know, battle have been a bunny. stehlik

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Shana Dylan, who was traveling with Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam. And this was after hijab had been revealed. So she says, I was carried on the back of a camel in my hotel edge. And we said that the hotel was like a little tent or a kind of a box that people could lift up. And inside there was usually a seat of some sort in which on which our Isha Donna are one of the wives could sit. And this was a way of giving the wives extra privacy, and you know, to be able to travel in a dignified manner. So she says she, she was carried in how Dutch. And

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so she says,

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we went on, until Allah's Messenger had finished from that as well from that battle of his and returned. When we approached the city of Medina, he announced at night that it was time for departure. So when they announced the news of the departure, I got up and went away from the army camps. Okay, so what was happening is obviously, a journey at that time was long, right? It took a long time, you didn't just travel in a few hours, not even a few days, could take weeks and months. So the entire caravan would stop at intervals, right? They would take all their things down, the whole edge would come off, people would relax, they would maybe sleep, they will do whatever they

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needed to do. And then at intervals, then they would carry on right, they would pack everything back up, and then carry on. So the Prophet salallahu Alaihe, Salam had announced that they were going to go, so actually realize that she needed to go and answer the call of nature. And so she went away from the camp. And she went to answer the call of nature. And she said she came back to her riding camel.

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And when she came back, she said, I touched my chest to find that my necklace, so her own Onyx necklace was missing. So she returned to look for her necklace. And she was looking and looking and because of that she got delayed. And she was outside of her holder, of course. Right. So what happened was, she says, In the meantime, the people who used to carry me on my camel, so those who used to carry her Holdrege and lift it up onto the camel, they came and they took my whole dodge and put it on the back of the camel on which I used to ride. They thought that she was in there. And she says very eloquently in this hadith that she says in those days, women were light in weight, where

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they did not get fat. And flesh did not cover their bodies in abundance as they used to eat only a little food. So she says In other words, she was really light in those days. And because of that the people who were carrying the Holdrege they didn't realize that she wasn't in there. They assumed that she was in there because everyone was ready to leave. So she must also be in there ready to leave.

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She says those people therefore disregarded the lightness of the whole dodge while lifting it up and carrying it. And at that time, she says I was still a young girl so she was only about 14 years old at the time.

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She says they made the camel get up and all of them left to Pamela. So there is a mother Aisha a young teenage girl. She is in the desert. And the entire Caravan has left. So she said she found her necklace after the army had gone.

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And then when she came to the camping place, she realized everyone had gone and so what she decided to do was just to sit there and wait. Okay,

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because she knew that it was the habit of traveling caravans, they would always send somebody one like a scout to come back and look and make sure nobody had been left behind, or nothing important had been left behind. So she realized they're probably going to send somebody. So she sat in the middle of the desert, waiting and she fell asleep.

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In sha Allah in the next episode, we're going to continue with the story that led to the slander of our mother Asha Delana. And see what happened when she was left in the middle of the desert. And the caravan and the Messenger of Allah had left and already gone to Medina. So until then, desert Camilo Harun wa Salam o alaikum, Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Subhanak. Allah Houma will be Hendrik eyeshadow Hola, ilaha illa Anta esta fue Luca, what are two Bucha like