Channel: Fatima Barkatulla
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah the brothers and sisters Welcome to another episode of the life of our Isha Mother of the Believers with me your sister Fatima Baraka tila.
One of the benefits of the Messenger of Allah marrying Aisha Radi Allahu Anhu was that she was an excellent student. You know, her personality was that she was curious. She was open to new ideas. She was observant. She could recall so much of what she saw, she was sincere. And the scholars of Islam say that there, there are two types of people who can't really seek knowledge properly. Okay, the person who's too shy, and the person who is too arrogant. So a person who's too shy, is going to get embarrassed to ask questions, they will have the guts to follow the curiosity.
Maybe there'll be afraid of making a fool of themselves. So they won't really be able to seek knowledge to the full potential.
And a person who's arrogant.
You know, if a person is arrogant, then
they think they know at all already. So they won't ask the questions in the first place. Because they don't want people to think that they don't know. So
aren't you sort of Elon has she had the humility to be able to ask questions. And she was not shy at all right?
She used to ask follow up questions. She was intelligent. She was she had a sharp mind. She had a good memory. She was confident.
You know, she didn't feel that there was any question that was a silly question.
She had excellent communication skills. And, you know, even from a young age, there are incidents that show her wit and her intelligence.
She was really playful as a child, as we know, and or, you know, when she was younger, and she had certain toys that she used to play in her house, and she used to invite others to come and play with her.
She reports that once when the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam arrived home after the expedition to to book or Haber.
The wind raised the end of a curtain which was hanging in front of her room, and it revealed her dolls, so she used to have certain dolls that she used to like to keep the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her, Oh, actually, what is this? I should said, these are my dolls. And among them was a horse with wings made of rags. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, What is this? I see? She said a horse. The Prophet said, What is this on it? And she said, two wings. The Prophet said, a horse with two wings, and actually replied, Have you not heard that Solomon had horses the two wings. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam laughed so deeply that his molar teeth could be seen.
Please see, she was very playful, she was very sharp witted, and she could refer to stories and even verses of the Quran whenever she needed to.
And the relationship the relationship between the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and Aisha teaches us also many things about thick about, you know, the rulings of Islam in different situations, for example,
that a menstruating woman is not impure, that although full sexual intercourse is prohibited during the menses spouses can still be intimate in other ways. We wouldn't have known that unless we had the testimony of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu when he was selling them like Aisha
we learned from her also, for example, that kissing one's wife doesn't break a person's will do their state of ablution Aisha on the line hand aerated to her nephew Ottawa, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kissed some of his wives and then left for prayer without renewing ablution meaning he used to kiss his wives and he used to go out
for prayer and Ottawa, her nephew said
I know that you're talking about yourself, right? In other words, she said, he said, Who was that wife if it was not you, and actually the land her loft. So there was something special about the fact that she had an intimate relationship with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and was his student. And then that she has nephews like Ottawa, who she could talk to about these kinds of things in a way that you know, she she wouldn't feel shy. And so because of that, we the believers, we get to learn so many rulings are fake, right, especially those to do with the private space.
Another example is that her student al Assad once asked her
what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do at home?
And she replied, he used to keep himself busy serving his family. And when it was time for the prayer, he would get up for the prayer. So again, having that little camera into the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salams private space, his intimate life the way he was with his nearest and dearest, we wouldn't have got that if it wasn't for the testimony and narrations from people like our mother, Aisha, when the Lana
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was her beloved husband. But he was also her mentor.
He used to joke with her. He humored her, he showed her a lot of affection. But he also expected his wives to have a high standard of worship, of selflessness and detachment from this worldly life. So whenever he was going to pray at night, he would also encourage his wives to do the same.
One incident that shows you their pay for relationship is, when Abubaker a severe, or issues father, asked permission of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe salam to come in one day. And he heard or he overheard at Isha, speaking in a loud voice to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, if you remember, in a previous episode, we said that the rules between the wife of the Prophet the wives of the Prophet SAW Salem and the Prophet in that interaction were a bit more relaxed than they would be for, say, somebody like us, right one of us. If we were to address the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam in a loud voice, that would be extremely inappropriate. But because of the nature of the
marital relationship, there was a little bit of Yanni, we could cut the wives of the prophets on slack when it came to the way they spoke to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam at times.
So one day he heard or he overheard, I shouted, the LAN Ha, maybe speaking in loud voice to the Prophet sallallahu. And he was a limb. So him as the Father as his father, he felt really bad about that, right? So he entered the house when he was given permission, and he grabbed her hand and or he grabbed her and, you know, he was actually going to give her a little hit. And
she said, he said, dee doo, I hear you raising your voice to the Messenger of Allah.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tried to stop him,
he began to prevent Abu Bakr and I'm bucker. So he stood in front of a worker to stop him from, you know, coming near Aisha, his daughter, and so a burqa he left.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when a worker went out, he said to Alisha, do you see how I rescued you from that man? You see how I protected you from that man? And Abu Bakr after a few days came back. And when he came back, he could hear that [???] and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had had made their peace. And they were laughing together and they were enjoying each other's company. You know, such as such as marriage, right? Yeah, days when you're getting on very well and sometimes, you know, even the best of couples, they will have their arguments etc. Right?
So when he saw that they had made peace and they were having a loving conversation together. He came in smiling and he said, bring me into your peace just as you brought me into your
War and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, we have done so we have done so.
So you see these little incidents, they really tell you about the human relationship that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had with his wives, right, and the way they used to interact, and that just like any marriage, there were times when things were going very, very smoothly. And there would be times when, you know, things were not perfect. But the most important thing is that they made peace, and they were still amazing role models for us because any setback, any trial that they faced, they emerged from that trial, triumphant, they emerged from that having fought their knifes, and we're going to see examples of that, throughout the life of our mother, Aisha,
up to now you will have begun to realize that there was a key role that our mother Aisha was playing in the life of our soul, allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and in the history of Islam.
Now we're going to talk about the verses of hijab and how hijab was revealed.
So before we go into the break, just to tell you that the verse is of hijab, the dress of a Muslim woman when she goes outside her home, or when she's in the presence of non Muslims, this wasn't something that was revealed right from the beginning, right? So the women at that time they would have dressed culturally,
But then verses of the Quran were revealed, instructing the women how they should dress when they go outside the home or when the in the presence of non Muslim men, right? Because our deen tells us about interaction between men and women. It tells us guidelines for all aspects of life. In sha Allah after the break, we will continue talking about how the verses of hijab affected the wives of the Prophet and Ramadan, Asia in particular. I'll see you after the break. Salaam aleykum.
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. Before the break, we said that the verses of hijab were revealed it was around the fifth year of Hijra. So this is after the Muslims had moved to Medina right and establish themselves in Medina before that, the women at the time would have dressed in whatever the traditional way, it was for Arab women to dress. Okay, typically they would wear, you know, long loose clothes, they might have, they would wear a head covering of some sort, but usually they would leave the front, open right then next and
the chest even sometimes they would leave it open. That was the cultural dress of that time. But,
of course, Islam came to guide human beings in all spheres of life. And Allah subhanaw taala revealed verses for, for men and women about how they should interact. He revealed versus telling the believing men to lower their gazes when they're interacting with non Muharram women, and the believing women to lower their gazes when they're interacting with non Muharram men. Allah subhanaw taala revealed verses about how the Muslim women should dress when they are in the presence of non Muharram men, and in the presence and in public in general. So it became like a type of uniform right? For Muslim women.
Before that, as we mentioned, the wives of the Prophet, of course, they would have dressed modestly, but they would not have covered themselves in the Islamic way. That is famous now. Right? So
what was it that changed
the way that Muslim women would dress? It was the verses of hijab, the various verses in the Quran that talk about the Muslim woman's dress. Of course, we know that Islam gave men guidelines for dress as well, right? So for example, a Muslim man typically he must always cover the area between his navel and his knees, whether he's in the presence of men or women, right with loose clothing.
But because men and women are physically, physiologically psych psychologically different. Allah subhanaw taala, our Creator gave guidelines
It's for women that are different to the guidelines that are for men in terms of the way we dress in public and in the presence of non Muharram men, men who are not very closely related to us. So
some of the verses that were revealed in this regard, were, for example,
the verses in Surah Noor, or the verse in surah.
Number 31, verse number 31, where Allah subhanaw taala said,
what Khalil Minetti Yahoo told me about sorry, hidden away fast enough for Raja Allah. So Allah Subhana Allah subhanho wa Taala said in this verse, and tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and to protect their private parts, and not to show off their Zina their beauty or their beautification, except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils their head coverings over there, do you, okay, which means they're next, the front of their bodies, the bosoms and the, you know, the, the face as well, some of the scholars said, and not to reveal their adornment, except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands, fathers or their sons, or their
husbands sons, or their brothers, or their brothers, sons or their sisters, sons, or other women,
or slaves, who their right hand possess, or old male servants who lack vigor or small children who have no sense regarding, you know, feminine matters, these matters intimate matters, and let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. Right. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you, or believers that you may be successful. So, when these verses were revealed, Asha matalon. Has she said about this idea? May Allah subhanaw taala have mercy on the muhajir women on the women the muhajir women or the women from from Makkah who traveled to Medina right?
She said, may Allah have mercy on the module woman when Allah revealed the words while the adorable Nabi hamari, Hina Allah do you begin to draw their head coverings over the next, okay all over their bodies. They taught the thickest of their garments, and covered their faces with them. In another narration, she said the women of the Quraysh are good, but by Allah, I have never seen any better than the women of the unsolved. So the answer of course the women who were in Medina, right the native woman of Medina, or any who believed the book of Allah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation when Surah to nor was revealed, while the other Ribena be humare Hana, Allah do you be
in, tell them to pull the EMRs or the head coverings over their bodies.
Their menfolk came to them and recited these verses to them. And there was not one woman among them who did not go and get some cloth. And the following morning, they prayed, wrapped up as if they were crows on their heads, he said. So in other words, she was connecting
the observing of the hijab of the, you know, the Muslim woman's dress, with it the being an act of faith, an act of belief in Allah, an act of obedience to Allah subhanaw taala has come on, right? And she was marveling at the fact that the women at the time, and we can learn from this dear sisters, you know, when they heard that Allah subhanaw taala had commanded them with something. They said summit in our Aparna we hear and we obey, you know, there wasn't a debate. There was no discussion going on there. When they understood what Allah subhanaw taala required of them, they acted on it. Why? Because they know that this is their Creator speaking to them. You know, it is our
Creator who said to us that we should dress in the way that we do in public. It's not some man it's not some other person. It's the Creator of the heavens and the earth, the one who knows us best, the one who loves us and wants what is best for
us right? So we too should note that our acting upon these verses, stems from our belief in Allah and our faith in the revelation in the book of Allah.
And by observing the hijab by observing the Muslim woman's dress, in front of non Muslims and in the public space, it's an act of faith, an act of obedience to Allah. We're proud that Allah subhanaw taala gave us guidelines for behavior and dress in public. He gave us a type of uniform.
Today in the West, this topic is being debated because of the fear of sexual harassment in the workplace. The topic of you know, how should human beings dress appropriately in the workplace? What are the appropriate rules for interaction? Should women have to wear heels to work? Or is that sexist? is shaking hands necessary? is embracing appropriate or is it like encroaching on somebody's personal space? How much flesh is okay to display? You know, what are the rules of male and female interaction? All of these debates are still taking place in you know, in the UK and in countries around the world. But we are blessed their brothers and sisters in that Allah subhanaw taala already
gave us. You know, the rules for engagement. He already gave us the guidelines, and they are full of wisdom. They're full of hikma. So we don't need to go by trial and error to figure these things out. Right?
Another verse that Allah subhanaw taala revealed
was in Surah Tula zap iron number 59. Allah Subhana Allah said, yeah, you hadn't be you call me as well jika webinar, chico. And he said, Ill meaning you Dineen, Allah hindlimb Angela, BB hinda. There Lika Adena and your Ruffner follow you then. Why can Allah who are for Rahima
Allah subhanaw taala said, oh Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers, the believing women to draw their
cloaks all over their bodies. Okay. So, the word used here is the gel Arbib that jilbab right, which is like an outer garment that the Muslim woman wears outside of her home. So Allah subhanaw taala said, tell them to draw their cloaks their gel Arbib over their bodies, that will be better, so that they will be recognized as free respectable women. And I'm not harassed. And Allah is Ever oft forgiving, Most Merciful. So, when these verses were revealed, the believing women began to cover as eyeshadow Golan has said right, so they would cover the entire bodies.
Some of the scholars said except their faces and hands, and some scholars said, including their faces and hands, there's a difference of opinion regarding that. And they would be able to go out, go to the masjid, etc.
Omar bin al hubub, one of the Allah know, he used to feel quite uncomfortable with the fact that anyone who visited the houses of the messenger, the Messenger of Allah would see his wives, right or be in their presence. And because of the roll the rank and the social standing of the Messenger of Allah, he wanted there to be measures in place which would prevent unrelated men from having any kind of contact with the wives of the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam. So he said, O Messenger of Allah, the righteous and the sinful enter your house. So why don't you tell the Mothers of the Believers to be behind a curtain?
In sha Allah? In the next episode, we're going to see what happened with regards to Omar, Radi Allahu, and who's request and we're going to continue talking about the verses of hijab. So join me in the next episode, episode eight, and until then, desirable Lau Hira was salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Subhanak. Allah, homophobia handig, a shadow Allah Allah, Allah and a stuff Yukawa to bunich