Fariq Naik – What to Do When Parents Command me to Do Haram

Fariq Naik
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The speaker discusses the importance of respecting parents' teachings and not obeying them. They stress the need to be kind to parents and not obey them. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of using the media to convey the message of Islam to non-muslims and to those who are not dressed.

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			Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu I am a student
		
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			from Baku, Azerbaijan.
		
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			My name is Muhammad.
		
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			My parents forced me to do something that
		
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			is haram.
		
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			Such as listening to music and watching TV.
		
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			What should I do?
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the
		
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			glorious Quran Surah Luqman chapter 31 verse number
		
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			14 And we have enjoined upon man to
		
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			be kind to his parents and if the
		
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			parents they do jihad strive and struggle to
		
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			make you worship others besides Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala then do not obey them.
		
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			So we should be kind to our parents.
		
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			We should respect our parents.
		
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			We should love our parents.
		
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			But all of this should be as long
		
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			as our parents do not command us to
		
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			do anything against the glorious Quran or against
		
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			the authentic teachings of our beloved prophet Muhammad.
		
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			May peace and blessings be upon him.
		
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			For a believer, the most important is Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala and his messenger.
		
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			So if the parents tell us to do
		
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			something that is contrary to the teachings of
		
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			the glorious Quran, authentic hadith of our beloved
		
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			prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
		
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			As far as this aspect is concerned we
		
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			should not listen to them.
		
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			But we should yet be kind to them.
		
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			We should yet be generous to them.
		
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			Just because our parents are telling us to
		
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			do something that is haram for example listening
		
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			to music or any other thing that is
		
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			haram that does not give us the liberty
		
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			to disrespect them.
		
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			To be ungrateful to them.
		
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			To raise our voice and argue with them.
		
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			Even though they are telling us to do
		
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			something that is haram, we should yet respect
		
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			them.
		
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			We should yet love them.
		
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			In fact disrespecting our parents it is not
		
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			only a sin but it is a major
		
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			sin.
		
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			So if our parents are telling us to
		
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			do something that is haram, we should sit
		
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			and discuss with them.
		
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			Explain to them that what they are requesting
		
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			us or what they are commanding us to
		
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			do, it is haram.
		
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			It is prohibited.
		
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			Give them evidence from the glorious Quran, authentic
		
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			hadith of our beloved prophet Muhammad, peace be
		
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			upon him.
		
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			And inshallah they will not tell you to
		
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			do something that is haram.
		
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			And there is a famous saying in the
		
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			Arabic language لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق
		
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			لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق That there
		
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			is no obedience to the creation when there
		
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			is disobedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			So in order to obey our parents we
		
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			cannot disobey Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			We cannot commit shirk that is associating partners
		
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			with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			If our parents command us to do shirk,
		
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			we cannot obey them.
		
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			If our parents tell us not to offer
		
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			salah five times a day, we cannot obey
		
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			them.
		
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			If our parents tell us not to fast
		
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			in the month of Ramadan, we cannot obey
		
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			them.
		
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			So if our parents tell us to do
		
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			anything which is compulsory in Islam, if our
		
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			parents tell us not to do anything which
		
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			is compulsory in Islam, then we should not
		
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			obey them.
		
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			If our parents tell us to do something
		
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			that is haram, we should not obey them
		
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			as far as this haram thing is concerned.
		
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			But besides this, if our parents tell us
		
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			to do something that is Mubah, we should
		
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			go out of the way to obey them
		
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			for example if our parents tell us to
		
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			wear black clothes or to wear blue clothes
		
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			and we do not like the color blue
		
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			or the color black we should go out
		
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			of the way in order to obey our
		
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			parents even though we do not like it
		
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			and we will receive immense reward from Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ta'ala so as far as the
		
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			things that are Mubah are concerned if our
		
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			parents are telling us to do something that
		
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			is Mubah even if we do not like
		
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			it we should yet obey our parents and
		
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			I would urge the reverts of Islam those
		
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			people who have reverted and have entered into
		
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			the fold of Islam and their parents are
		
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			yet non-muslim to convey the message of
		
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			Islam to the non-muslim parents and to
		
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			be more kind more generous more loving more
		
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			respectful to their parents the parents should think
		
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			that what has happened to my child what
		
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			has happened to my son what has happened
		
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			to my daughter after he has embraced Islam
		
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			after she has embraced Islam my son is
		
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			more good to me my son is more
		
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			kind to me my son is more respectful
		
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			to me this will draw them closer towards
		
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			the religion of Islam so I hope that
		
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			answers your question and as far as television
		
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			is concerned the latter part of the question
		
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			which you mentioned television per se it is
		
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			not haram there are things that are bad
		
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			and at the same time we can use
		
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			it for the good I do agree that
		
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			majority of the things that come on television
		
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			on TV they are haram but we can
		
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			use the same television in order to convey
		
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			the message of Islam and that's the reason
		
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			we have the four satellite channels peace TV
		
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			English peace TV Urdu peace TV Bangla and
		
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			peace TV Chinese the media it is a
		
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			very important weapon in the world it can
		
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			convert black into white day into night hero
		
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			into villain villain into hero the media it
		
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			is very powerful we Muslims we need to
		
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			use the media convey the message of Islam
		
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			to the non-muslims to those who are
		
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			unaware of it so when we are watching
		
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			something on the television we should watch only
		
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			channels which are Islamic unfortunately we have very
		
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			few Sharia compliant channels certain channels they claim
		
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			to be Islamic but unfortunately they have music
		
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			they have women appearing who are not dressed
		
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			in hijab all of these go against the
		
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			teachings of Islam so if we are watching
		
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			television we should watch only those channels which
		
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			are halal and which do not break any
		
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			rules of the Sharia so I hope that
		
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			answers your question