Fariq Naik – Is It Haram to have Sexual Thoughts

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The speaker discusses two opinions on sexuality, one of which is considered a sin and the other is forgiven if the person refuses to act upon it. They also mention a ruling in theductions of theductions of the church that advises against following footsteps and not following the church's rules. The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking precautions to avoid going too far and avoid going too far into a sin.

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			We will take the next question.
		
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			Assalamu alaikum.
		
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			I do not want to mention my name,
		
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			but I'm a student from Pakistan.
		
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			My question is that if someone has deliberately
		
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			sexual thoughts, is it considered haram?
		
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			Our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him
		
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			said that the passing thoughts that cross an
		
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			individual's mind, they are forgiven as long as
		
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			he does not speak or act upon it.
		
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			From this hadith of our beloved Prophet Muhammad
		
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			peace be upon him, we understand that the
		
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			passing thoughts that cross an individual's mind, they
		
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			are forgiven as long as a person does
		
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			not talk or act upon it.
		
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			As far as deliberately thinking about sexual thoughts
		
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			are concerned, is it haram?
		
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			And is it a sin?
		
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			The scholars, they have deferred upon this into
		
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			two opinions.
		
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			The first opinion is the opinion of the
		
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			majority of the scholars, wherein they say that
		
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			if a person gets passing thoughts, and if
		
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			he dwells upon these thoughts, and if he
		
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			deliberately thinks about sexual thoughts, then it is
		
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			a sin and it is haram.
		
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			And Ibn Abdeen, who is a famous Hanafi
		
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			scholar, he says that the passing, if a
		
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			person deliberately thinks about sexual thoughts, then it
		
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			is haram.
		
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			For example, a person who thinks about a
		
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			woman, who is a naam-ehram, and he
		
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			thinks and he fantasizes about this woman while
		
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			he's having sexual relationships with his wife.
		
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			It is haram.
		
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			So if a person deliberately thinks about sexual
		
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			thoughts or sexual fantasies and desires, it is
		
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			haram, according to the first group of scholars.
		
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			And Imam al-Nawwi, he rightly says that
		
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			if a person gets passing thoughts, and if
		
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			he dwells upon these thoughts, then it is
		
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			haram.
		
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			So whenever we get passing thoughts, we should
		
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			ward it off.
		
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			We should not continue thinking about these sexual
		
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			thoughts and these sexual desires.
		
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			For example, if a person gets a passing
		
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			thought regarding a particular woman, so he should
		
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			ward it off and he should stop thinking
		
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			about it.
		
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			But if he continues thinking about this and
		
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			fantasizing about this woman who is a naam
		
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			-ehram, then it is a sin, as according
		
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			to the opinion of the first group of
		
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			scholars.
		
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			And if a person is having sexual relationships
		
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			with his wife, he cannot fantasize about another
		
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			naam-ehram woman.
		
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			This is not permitted.
		
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			The second opinion is wherein the scholars say
		
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			that if a person he dwells upon these
		
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			thoughts or if he deliberately thinks about regarding
		
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			these thoughts, it is not a sin because
		
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			he has not acted upon these thoughts.
		
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			And if he is given an option to
		
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			act upon these thoughts, he may not resort
		
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			to acting upon them.
		
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			And this is the opinion of the later
		
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			Shafi'i scholars, including Ibn Subqi.
		
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			They say that if a person deliberately thinks
		
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			about something, he has not acted upon it.
		
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			So that's the reason there is no sin
		
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			upon him.
		
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			But the majority of the scholars, they say
		
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			that if a person deliberately thinks about these
		
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			thoughts and if he dwells upon these thoughts,
		
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			then he is committing a sin.
		
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			But naturally, it is haram to think about
		
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			these thoughts because if a person thinks about
		
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			these sexual thoughts and sexual fantasies deliberately, then
		
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			it could lead to something that is even
		
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			greater.
		
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			It could lead to even a major sin
		
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			like Zina.
		
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			And there is a ruling in Usul-ul
		
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			-Fiqh, which is called As-Sadd-ul-Dhara
		
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			'i.
		
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			All the things that lead to something that
		
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			is haram, we need to close the doors
		
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			and we should avoid doing such things.
		
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			So these sexual desires, they can lead to
		
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			something that is haram.
		
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			So the moment we get these passing thoughts,
		
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			we should ward it off immediately.
		
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			And we should not continue thinking about these
		
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			thoughts.
		
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			We should not continue dwelling upon these thoughts.
		
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			So the moment we get any evil thought
		
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			from the Satan, we should immediately recite أعوذ
		
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			بالله من الشيطان الرجيم I seek refuge in
		
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			Allah from Satan the accursed.
		
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			We should ward off this thought and immediately
		
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			recite أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم I seek
		
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			refuge in Allah from Satan the accursed.
		
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			And we should try to engage in the
		
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			remembrance of Allah.
		
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			Try to remember Allah more often and divert
		
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			our mind away from these thoughts.
		
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			The more we dwell and think upon these
		
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			thoughts, the more it will have a bad
		
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			effect on us.
		
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			And the more we engage in the remembrance
		
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			of Allah, the more we read the glorious
		
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			Quran, the more we will find peace, tranquility
		
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			and satisfaction.
		
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			And whenever we get these thoughts, we should
		
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			divert our mind and we should always try
		
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			our level best to be in the company
		
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			of good and righteous people and at the
		
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			same time try to read the glorious Quran
		
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			with understanding more often.
		
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			The more we are connected to the glorious
		
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			Quran, the more we will be on the
		
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			صراط المستقيم on the straight path and it
		
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			will help us and prevent us from not
		
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			falling into the temptations of the shaitan and
		
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			not following the whispers of the shaitan.
		
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			The seeth in his purpose is to tempt
		
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			us human beings and he uses different strategies
		
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			and techniques.
		
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			Many a times he may merely just tempt
		
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			us and put these thoughts into our mind
		
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			and we may think that these are mere
		
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			thoughts but we do not know that these
		
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			thoughts could lead us to actually doing something
		
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			that is haraam.
		
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			For example, we may want to go and
		
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			look at a woman unnecessarily after having these
		
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			sexual fantasies and we may want to meet
		
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			a naam-ehram woman and a person may
		
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			go to the extent of even having haraam
		
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			relationships with a woman.
		
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			So that's the reason we should not follow
		
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			the footsteps of the shaitan.
		
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			The moment we feel that anything is haraam,
		
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			we should stop it at the first stage
		
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			itself.
		
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			We should not take it lightly.
		
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			That's the reason Allah says in the Glorious
		
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			Quran, Surah Baqarah, Chapter 2 وَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا خُطْوَاتِ
		
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			الشَّيْطَانِ Do not follow the footsteps of the
		
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			devil.
		
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			Leave aside following the devil which is a
		
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			great sin.
		
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			Allah in this verse of the Glorious Quran
		
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			is telling us do not follow the footsteps
		
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			of the devil.
		
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			So we should take utmost precaution that we
		
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			should not commit anything that will lead us
		
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			to something that is haraam, or something that
		
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			is prohibited.
		
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			I hope that answers your question.