Fariq Naik – How to Control Anger

We will take the next question assalamualaikum My name is de

Xiang. I am from Pakistan.

How can I control my anger? I'm worried about this habit. There

are various ways in which we can control our anger and a prophet

peace be upon him has mentioned it in the ahaadeeth V's how to

control or curb down our anchor. The first and the most important

is saying I was bIllahi min ash shaytaan regime, I seek refuge in

Allah from Satan that occurs, this is the first step that we need to

do. So whenever we are angry, we should immediately say out bIllahi

min ash shaytani R rajim. I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the

accursed.

The second is that we should remain silent. Many times, when we

get angry, we say things that we normally would not say, for

example, we may use abusive language, we may use foul

language,

we may raise our voice in front of our elders in front of our

parents, etc. Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said

that if you are angry, you should remain silent.

The third is that you should change your position.

And Abloh Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that if you are

angry, and you're standing, you should sit down. If you are

sitting, you should lie down. So if you're standing and you are

angry, you should sit down. If you cannot control your anger, then

you should lie down. And we have the example of a Buddha or the

Allah one

when he was feeding his animals at a trough that he owned.

And certain people they came to this trough and they also started

feeding the animals which resulted in the trough of Abu Dhabi, Allah

one who to break a Buddha Radi Allahu Anhu he was angry. But he

immediately acted upon the teachings of our beloved Prophet

Muhammad peace be upon him. And he sat down, the people around in the

US that why did you sit down?

So Abu Dhabi Allahu Anhu. He said, that I was following the teachings

of our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, when our

beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that if you get

angry and you're standing sit down the fourth is and this is a

personal advice is that you should leave that place. So, for example,

if you are having some arguments with your brother in a room,

so, you should leave that room.

Because you may see things you may do things which you will regret

later on, in the state of anger in the fit of rage a person he says

things which he normally would not use it, he may use abusive

language, he may use foul language, he may fight to the

other person. To the extent he may even kill someone in the fit of

rage in the state of anger. And later on, he will regret it. But

many times the damage is irreversible. For example, if he

killed someone, even if he regrets it later on, the person has

already lost his life.

So it is very important. We control ourselves in the fit

fridge.

Control your anger, or your anger it will control you.

And being patient,

when you're angry, saves 1000 moments of regret later on.

If you are patient in this state of anger, it will prevent you from

doing things that are wrong will prevent you from doing things that

are haram. For example, if you're angry with someone, and in the fit

of rage, you kill this person.

We seek refuge in Allah from this.

And later on even if you regret this act, this act it is

irreversible. This person has already lost his life.

And our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon himself. The strong

believer is not the one who wrestles down his opponent. The

strong believer is the one who controls himself when he's angry.

We have the example of a leader the Allah one wherein he was

fighting for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala against non Muslim

and a leader there alone he's about to kill this non Muslim

wherein

then this non Muslim he's about to be killed. He spits on the face of

a leader their loved one a leader of the ALLAH and he immediately

stops fighting this non Muslim he shocked Why did earlier the Allah

one stop fighting and didn't kill me when he could have done it so

easily. So earlier the Allah one he responds to this unbelievable

to this non Muslim and he says that before you spat on my face

If I was fighting for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. But after

you spat on my face, I would be fighting for a personal grudge.

And I did not want people to see that I was fighting for personal

courage.

Imagine look at the Eman of a leader the law one

that he stops fighting with this non Muslim

just because he spat on his face.

This was the man of the sahaba.

And if you look at the lifestyle of our beloved Prophet Muhammad

peace be upon the first 13 years of Prophethood in Makkah, towards

the end of this first 13 years were in Sahaba, like Amara de la

one Hamza of the Allah one, they embraced Islam, the Muslims, they

started getting powerful.

They had the strength, and many of the Sahaba they wanted to fight

back against oppression that was done to them. But it was the

commandment of Allah subhanaw taala to remain patient.

Even though they wanted to fight back, they were angry at this

Kuffar at these Mushrikeen kid they bought it with patience and

perseverance. So many times you have the means to get angry, but

to prevent yourself that is greatness.

So you should abstain from doing anything that is haram control

ourself in the fit of rage in the fit of anger. And our beloved

Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that the one who controls his

anger when he has the means to act upon it. Allah subhanaw taala will

fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection

Subhanallah water Hadees Imagine having contentment on the Day of

Resurrection. When people are in panic.

And they are scared about the questioning of Allah We should

always be patient, be calm when we are angry.

And we should curb down our anger follow the teachings of our

beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.

And you should always remember the true strength of a believer is not

in wrestling down or fighting another believer, but it is in

controlling yourself when you are in the fit of rage when you are in

the state of anger.