Fariq Naik – How to Control Anger
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A speaker discusses the importance of anger in wrestling down or fighting another believer, but also in wrestling and wrestling. The speaker emphasizes the importance of anger in managing one's anger and control your own anger when it comes to actions. They also mention the importance of being patient when angry is in the fit of rage. The speaker suggests that controlling one's anger when it is in the fit of rage when one is in anger is the true strength of a believer.
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We will take the next question assalamualaikum My name is de
Xiang. I am from Pakistan.
How can I control my anger? I'm worried about this habit. There
are various ways in which we can control our anger and a prophet
peace be upon him has mentioned it in the ahaadeeth V's how to
control or curb down our anchor. The first and the most important
is saying I was bIllahi min ash shaytaan regime, I seek refuge in
Allah from Satan that curse. This is the first step that we need to
do. So whenever we are angry, we should immediately say out bIllahi
min ash shaytani R rajim. I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the
accursed.
The second is that we should remain silent. Many times, when we
get angry, we say things that we normally would not say, for
example, we may use abusive language, we may use foul
language,
we may raise our voice in front of our elders in front of our
parents, etc. Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said
that if you are angry, you should remain silent.
The third is that you should change your position.
And Abloh Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that if you are
angry, and you're standing, you should sit down. If you are
sitting, you should lie down. So if you're standing and you are
angry, you should sit down. If you cannot control your anger, then
you should lie down. And we have the example of a Buddha or the
Allah one
when he was feeding his animals at a trough that he owned.
And certain people they came to this trough and they also started
feeding the animals which resulted in the trough of Abu Dhabi, Allah
one who to break a Buddha Radi Allahu Anhu he was angry. But he
immediately acted upon the teachings of our beloved Prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him. And he sat down, the people around in the
US that why did you sit down?
So Abu Dhabi Allahu Anhu. He said, that I was following the teachings
of our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, when our
beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that if you get
angry and you're standing sit down the fourth is and this is a
personal advice is that you should leave that place. So, for example,
if you are having some arguments with your brother in a room,
so, you should leave that room.
Because you may see things you may do things which you will regret
later on, in the state of anger in the fit of rage a person he says
things which he normally would not use it, he may use abusive
language, he may use foul language, he may fight to the
other person. To the extent he may even kill someone in the fit of
rage in the state of anger. And later on, he will regret it. But
many times the damage is irreversible. For example, if he
killed someone, even if he regrets it later on, the person has
already lost his life.
So it is very important. We control ourselves in the fit
fridge.
Control your anger, or your anger it will control you.
And being patient,
when you're angry, saves 1000 moments of regret later on.
If you are patient in this state of anger, it will prevent you from
doing things that are wrong will prevent you from doing things that
are haram. For example, if you're angry with someone, and in the fit
of rage, you kill this person.
We seek refuge in Allah from this.
And later on even if you regret this act, this act it is
irreversible. This person has already lost his life.
And our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon himself. The strong
believer is not the one who wrestles down his opponent. The
strong believer is the one who controls himself when he's angry.
We have the example of a leader the Allah one when he was fighting
for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala against non Muslim
and a leader there alone he's about to kill this non Muslim
wherein
then this non Muslim he's about to be killed. He spits on the face of
a leader their loved one a leader the ALLAH and he immediately stops
fighting this non Muslim he shocked Why did a leader the Allah
one stop fighting and didn't kill me when he could have done it so
easily. So earlier the Allah one he responds to this unbeliever to
this non Muslim and he says that before you spat on my face
If I was fighting for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. But after
you spat on my face, I would be fighting for a personal grudge.
And I did not want people to see that I was fighting for personal
courage.
Imagine look at the emaan of a leader the law one
that he stops fighting with this non Muslim,
just because he spat on his face.
This was the man of the sahaba.
And if you look at the lifestyle of our beloved Prophet Muhammad
peace be upon the first 13 years of Prophethood in Makkah, towards
the end of this first 13 years were in Sahaba, like Amara de la
one Hamza of the Allah one, they embraced Islam, the Muslims, they
started getting powerful.
They had the strength, and many of the Sahaba they wanted to fight
back against oppression that was done to them. But it was the
commandment of Allah subhanaw taala to remain patient.
Even though they wanted to fight back, they were angry at these
kuffaar at these Mushrikeen in case they bought it with patience
and perseverance, so many times you have the means to get angry,
but to prevent yourself that is greatness.
So you should abstain from doing anything that is haram control
ourself in the fit of rage in the fit of anger. And our beloved
Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that the one who controls his
anger when he has the means to act upon it. Allah subhanaw taala will
fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection
Subhanallah water Hadees Imagine having contentment on the Day of
Resurrection. When people are in panic.
And they are scared about the questioning of Allah We should
always be patient, be calm when we are angry.
And we should curb down our anger follow the teachings of our
beloved Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.
And we should always remember the true strength of a believer is not
in wrestling down or fighting another believer, but it is in
controlling yourself when you are in the fit of rage when you are in
the state of anger.