Fariq Naik – How Can I Reunite with my Wife whom I Divorced Three Times Three Years Ago

Fariq Naik
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A doctor from Pakistan explains to a caller that they want to reunite after divorce. The doctor discusses the three opinions of Islamic law, including the opinion of one person versus two people, and advises the caller to remarry their wife if they want to live together. The doctor also advises the caller to pray for the marriage to alleviate issues between the husband and wife.

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			Assalamu alaikum. I'm doctor Erdogan from Islamabad, Pakistan.
		
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			I divorced my wife 3 years ago on
		
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			telephone by saying the word three times and
		
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			hung up the phone. Since then, we are
		
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			not living together.
		
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			Now after 3 years, we want to reunite.
		
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			So can we live together?
		
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			Kindly advise me. What should I do? Should
		
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			I remarry her again? Because I'm confused
		
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			as I have listened to different Islamic scholars.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless you
		
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			and give you ajaf.
		
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			1st,
		
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			let us discuss the Islamic ruling on triple
		
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			talaq.
		
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			If a man
		
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			tells his wife that you are divorced 3
		
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			times or
		
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			talaq talaq talaq. Three times.
		
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			Is it considered as 1 talaq or is
		
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			it considered
		
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			as 3 talaq and it is irrevocable talaq?
		
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			The scholars, they have differed upon this into
		
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			2 opinions. The first opinion is the opinion
		
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			of the former madahib.
		
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			That is the Hanafi,
		
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			maliki, shafi,
		
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			and humbly school of thought. All the former
		
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			madahib say that if a man tells his
		
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			wife talaq talaq talaq, or if the man
		
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			tells his wife talaq talaq talaq three times
		
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			in the same sitting, it is considered as
		
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			3 talaq and it is irrevocable
		
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			and
		
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			if he wants to return back to his
		
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			wife, but not after the Ida period is
		
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			over, then
		
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			it he needs to marry someone else.
		
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			And if that marriage doesn't work out, then
		
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			he can return back to his
		
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			wife that he has divorced.
		
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			This is the first opinion. The second opinion
		
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			is the opinion
		
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			of that if a man tells his wife
		
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			talak talak talak three times, in the same
		
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			sitting it is considered as one talaq. And
		
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			this is the opinion of Sheikh Islam Ibn
		
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			Taymiyyah and his student Ibnu Qayyim,
		
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			Rahim Ummulla. May Allah have mercy on them.
		
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			As well as the opinion of bin Baz,
		
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			Rahim Ummulla and Ibn Uthaimin, Rahim Ummulla and
		
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			Imam Shookani and other scholars as well.
		
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			That 3 talaq, if it is given in
		
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			one sitting, it is considered as 1 talaq.
		
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			And
		
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			the second opinion,
		
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			inshallah,
		
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			it is a more appropriate opinion. And Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
		
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			Now coming to your question that
		
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			you call up your wife and over the
		
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			telephone you told her
		
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			and you hung up the phone. So is
		
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			does divorce take place in this place?
		
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			And is it considered as 3 divorce or
		
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			1 divorce? The scholars, they say that if
		
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			a man over the telephone tells his wife
		
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			that you are divorced or anti talip, then
		
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			it is considered as divorce.
		
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			But since you have said this three times
		
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			and it is same sitting and while you
		
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			made the phone call, then as per the
		
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			second group of scholars that I mentioned,
		
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			that inshallah, it will be considered as only
		
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			one tala. And now if you want to
		
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			remarry
		
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			your wife and you said that it has
		
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			been 3 years, so in this situation, what
		
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			you should do, you can remarry your wife,
		
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			but it should be with the new nika
		
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			and a new mehre.
		
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			And I pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			that may make it easy for you. And
		
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			we pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that
		
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			whenever
		
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			there are any
		
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			issues or dispute between a husband and wife,
		
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			we should see to it that we try
		
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			to resolve it.
		
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			And talaq, it should be the last resort
		
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			because marriage, it is an integral part of
		
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			Islam.
		
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			So we should try our level best to
		
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			solve the issue if a husband and wife
		
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			have an issue. Talk with the parents
		
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			of the wife, the parents of the husband,
		
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			and try to solve the issue.
		
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			And the last resort should be talak if
		
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			it does not work out and there is
		
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			no hope. If we pray to Allah
		
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			that may he make it easy for all
		
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			of the brother and sisters.
		
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			And we pray to Allah
		
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			that all those people who are married, may
		
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			they have a happy,
		
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			married,
		
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			Islamic
		
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			life
		
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			on the teachings of the glorious Quran and
		
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			the authentic
		
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			teachings of our beloved prophet Muhammad. May peace
		
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			and blessings be upon him. So I hope
		
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			that answers your question.