Fariq Naik – Criteria for Selecting a Life Partner for My Son Fariq who is a Da’ee

The second question

from Muhammad Yunus, Mumbai, India,

masha Allah, you have a family of life,

what would be the criteria you would look for while selecting a

life partner for your son Farik, considering he's also die.

By the mambo, Julius has posed the question that what would I look

for a life partner, if I have to choose the life partner, for my

son 40 calls a day. Number one,

the choice will depend on my son, not on me. Because my son would be

leading a life with his right.

He should select the right one. But natural I being a father can

give guidelines because of experience. If I was to guide my

son, and you're aware of the criteria, and we discussed this,

many times Alhamdulillah we are on the same wavelength. And the

reason is because of my wife, whatever my son today is, and my

daughter's maximum credit, you could say 80% or more goes to my

wife. And I pose this question very often, that when is the

latest?

You would like to plan for the future of your son. So some people

say, you know, I would like to plan maybe when my son goes in

university or my daughter goes in university, some people say when

she would go to college, some would say in school, some would

say I would plan for my children when they enter nursery. But the

Islamic Methodist and the Islamic criteria is that the latest you

plan not nearly latest is when you select a life partner. When you

select the life partner, then you're planning how would you want

your children so I wanted my children to become dive. That's

the reason I selected the year. I wanted them to be religious, that

is the reason I selected a religious girl.

And today, most of the people think that my children are di e

then Alhamdulillah I had in the field of Dawa and Flama

hamdulillah it because of me. If percentage wise I have to give

myself 50% Due to my wife, my guidelines there my support is

there everything is there but the credit goes to my wife recommend

to the question, what are the criteria that I would see or look

for? In a life partner for my son FEYERICK was a die? As I mentioned

in my earlier answer, our beloved prophet masala Salam said

inside Buhari wire number seven, Hadith number 5090. And the same

Hadith repeated in say Muslim, while number four Hadith number

3635. Abu Huraira may Allah be pleased him said that Prophet

Muhammad peace be upon him said that women

are chosen for four things in marriage. We when you marry a

woman, go look for four things.

Wealth,

lineage, nobility,

beauty,

and religion. Choose her for her religion. But the prophet said

though people look for four things in a life partner while choosing a

woman for marriage.

Wealth, lineage,

beauty, and religion. Choose her for religion the best is religion.

And as

I mentioned earlier, that I would tell my son, that while choosing a

life partner, see to it that you give 95% weightage to religion.

The other three

are time bound mainly for worldly things. Religion Hardeen Estrada

Hara, and for the phone. And Allah smart Allah says in the Quran,

that if you seek for this world, Allah will give you this world but

not the Akira. If you seek for Kira, Allah will give you Accra

and this word, as far as the wealth is concerned, I would not

like my son to use the wealth of his wife for delivery.

He should be a man he should look after himself. He is the one. So

what difference does it make whether the girl is rich or poor.

So as far as the wealth is concerned, there is no waiting at

all. Only thing you should be careful that poor achieve, the

better it is, the richer she is. It is difficult, but if she's

extremely rich, then you have to be careful. If she's extremely

rich and used to that luxury of life, she may be a billionaire's

daughter, then I would say, Be careful unless a dean is 100 out

of 100 Then maybe she would not care for the wealth that she has.

But otherwise, if she's too wealthy, you have to be careful

you may not be able to take care

refer. So poor are the better. So the weightage for the wealth is

zero, but only be careful that she's not extremely rich is poor

the better if she's normal also no problem rich also no problem but

not too rich or excessively rich.

Point number two, the lineage of the family

I would say that makes no difference, but if you're coming

from a religious family make it a very small, maybe half percent

weightage according to me, if it is good, but whether it is or not,

the deen is more important some people from the very good family

may not be good, we have the example of children of the amoebas

of messengers who Mushriks you have examples of children and

mushriks who became messengers. So, your body the example. So

lineage is important, but not that much, I would hardly give an

invitation that maybe half percent,

as far as beauty should not be repulsive, but natural message

should like and beauty differs. It's in the eye of the beholder,

and everything is in the mind. So I would say okay, you can give

about maybe three or 4% marks of beauty 95% minimum should be 14.

This is what our guidance and this is what I believe everybody

believes in regarding the criteria and the requirement, but natural

the basic requirements that Muslimah should be

in the criteria,

I would have eight criteria which are compulsory. Number one, she

should be a practicing Muslim Ummah, following Islam as per the

Glorious Quran, and the Hadith, and she should do all the fries. I

repeat, the first criteria and the most important is she should be a

practicing Muslim who follows Islam as per the teachings of the

Glorious Quran and the say Hadith and she should do all the Friday.

All the for me they all should have Tawheed Tisha Taqwa she

should provide them today. She should give zakat if she has to

give, she should first in the month of Ramadan. If she has to do

it, she should do it. Hijab and all these can speak for us

together. Number two, she should abstain from all the Haram

activities. All the major sins all the minor sins, as much is

possible but natural. If it's one or two minus and no human being

can say that he does not send it all

represent from all the major sins obtained from all the sins if

possible, almost all

number three, she should be virtuous and do as much as mazahub

as much as Sunnah of the Beloved Prophet masala Salah

third is a virtuous girl

who follows as much as sunnah of the Prophet does as much as

mazahub What is recommended in the Quran and say Hadith

that is,

at the core level should be high

believe it

besides the fight times Salah should offer the tagit Salah she

should bring the sunnah to Makkah listen to the yarmulke, she should

give charity besides the first circuit with a fasting in the

month of Ramadan she should fast the Day of Arafah

fast. The first nine days of Zilla Jaya the three days of moram

910 11 She should keep the six fast of Shawwal she should fast

three days I am will be every month. She did fast on Monday and

Thursday and so on and so forth.

As much as of the Mustafa as possible, as much as virtuous as

possible.

And you can speak for us together on the third point.

The fourth point is she should have the passion for Dawa and

spreading the message of Islam amongst the Muslims anonymous

passion

for Dawa and spreading Islam teachings. Fourth point, fifth

point she should encourage and support her husband that is my son

for doing Java completely that we should support in all the

activities of my son she should completely support and encourage

and help him in all of our activities.

Number six, she should be willing to lead a simple life which is non

luxurious. Inshallah my son's life is quite comfortable. But if

required for the sake of Islam, she should be able to sacrifice

all comforts.

Seven she should be fluent in English because my son is Sudanese

And you would want her to be fluent in English. The eighth is

she should be willing to settle in Malaysia or wherever my son would

shift, but his plans are to stay and live in Malaysia. So she

should be willing to settle in Malaysia. These are the eight

compulsory criteria, if I would mention the criteria for selecting

life partner for my son, as far as the criteria which are very

important, but not compulsory number one would be I would want

her

to be fluent in fossa, Arabic, the classical Arabic, the Arabic of

the Quran, she should be fluent.

And that

the reason is that I would want my children to be fit and Arabic. My

son knows Arabic fluently fossa, I would want his wife to know so

that the children are fluent in english and arabic both.

Number two,

she should be a Daya.

She should propagate Islam to the non Muslims and the Muslims.

Number three,

she should have a bachelor's degree in any of the Islamic

Studies,

whether it be Islamic studies in general, or in Sharia, or in Quran

or Hadith.

These are preferable, not compulsory, if little bit is less

or more no problem, but preferably the third Bachelor's in Islamic

Studies. The fourth is I would also want her to be a half of the

Quran.

My son is halfway that want to be honest with the children also half

us

and being half as is preferable. For example.

Number five, she shouldn't be associated with an Islamic

organization.

And number six, that she should have watched

many of the English speaking days, so that she knows

what is Java and

what is the surrounding atmosphere. So these are the six

additional points which are not compulsory, but preferable if one

is missing, or a little bit less, doesn't matter, but there are

eight compulsory points. And there are six highly recommended

preferable points that I would look for in a life partner for my

son. These are the main criteria, the initial of course, is there,

that there are many additional points, for example, the culture

should match. And the other things are there you can't expect a

Chinese to live with an African then if the first eight criteria

95 or above in Max. And if the additional point six are very

good, then the other things can be compromised. The culture differs

between the people. So these things are which are secondary and

tertiary. But the first compulsory points I've mentioned it, then the

six points and then other points are later on. So this was in brief

what I would look for in life partner for my son Farik. Hope

that answers the question.