Fariq Naik – Criteria for Selecting a Life Partner for My Son Fariq who is a Daee

The second question

from Muhammad Yunus, Mumbai, India,

masha Allah, you have a family of Dinesh,

what would be the criteria you would look for? While selecting a

life partner for your son Farik considering he's also the

brother Mambo, Julius has posed the question that what would I

look for a life partner if I have to choose the life partner, for my

son five equals a day? Number one,

the choice will depend on my son, not on me. Because my son would be

leading a life with his right.

He should select the right one. But naturally, I being a father

can give guidelines because of experience. If I was to guide my

son, and you're aware of the criteria, and we discussed this,

many times Alhamdulillah we are on the same wavelength. And the

reason is because of my wife, whatever my son today is, and my

daughter's maximum credit, you could say 80% or more, goes to my

wife, and oppose this question very often. That when is the

latest?

You would like to plan for the future of your son. To some people

say I would like to plan maybe when my son goes in university or

my daughter goes in university. Some people say when you go to

college, some would say in school, some would say I would plan for my

children when they enter nursery, but Islamic Methodist and Islamic

criteria is that the latest you plan not nearly latest is when you

select a life partner. When you select a life partner, then you're

planning how would you want your children so I wanted my children

to become dive. That's the reason I selected the year. I wanted them

to be religious, that is the reason I selected a religious

girl.

And today, most of the people think that my children are di e

then Alhamdulillah I had in the field of Dawa and Islam

Alhamdulillah because of me, if percentage wise I forgive myself

50% Due to my wife 100 My guidelines there my support is

there everything is there, but the credit goes to my wife. But coming

to the question, what are the criteria that I would see or look

for? In a life partner for my son FEYERICK was a die? As I mentioned

in my earlier answer, our beloved prophet masala Salam said

inside Buhari wire number seven, Hadith number 5090. And the same

Hadith repeated in say Muslim, while number four Hadith number

3635. Abu Huraira Mala BP, the team said that Prophet Muhammad

peace be upon said that women

are chosen for four things in marriage, when you marry a woman

or look for four things.

Wealth,

lineage, nobility,

beauty

and religion to the for her religion. But the prophet said

though people look for four things in a life partner while choosing a

woman for marriage.

Wealth, lineage,

beauty, and religion. Choose her for religion the best is religion.

And as

I mentioned earlier, that I would tell my son, that while choosing a

life partner, see to it that you give 95% weightage to religion.

The other three

are time bound mainly for worldly things. Religion Hardeen is for

the hara, and for the fold. And Allah Subhana Allah says in the

Quran, that if you seek for this world, Allah will give you this

world but not the akhira if you seek for Kira, Allah will give you

Accra and this world as far as the wealth is concerned, I would not

like my son, to use the wealth of his wife for delivery.

He should be a man he should look after himself. He is the one. So

what difference does it make whether the girl is rich or poor.

So as far as the wealth is concerned, there is no waiting at

all. Only thing you should be careful that poor achieve, the

better it is, the richer she is, it is difficult, but if she's

extremely rich, then you have to be careful. If she's extremely

rich and used to that luxury of life, she may be a billionaire's

daughter, then I would say, Be careful unless a dean is 100 out

of 100 Then maybe she would not care for the wealth that she has.

But otherwise, if she's too wealthy, you have to be careful

you may not be able to take care of

For the poor or the better, so the weightage for the wealth is zero

but only be careful that she's not actually marriage is for the

better if she's nominal, so no problem britches oh no problem but

not too rich or excessively rich.

Point number two, the lineage of the family

I would say that makes no difference, but if you're coming

from a religious family make it a very small, maybe half percent

weightage according to me, if it is good, but whether it is or not,

the deen is more important, some people from the very good family

may not be good, we have the examples of children of the Amir's

of messengers, who Mushriks you have examples of children and

mushriks, who became messengers. So your body the example. So

lineage is important, but not that much, I would hardly give any

mutation that maybe half percent.

As far as beauty, she should not be repulsive, but natural medicine

should like and beauty differs. It's in the eye of the beholder,

and everything is in the mind. So I would say okay, you can give

about maybe three or 4% marks of beauty 95% minimum should be 14.

This is what our guidance and this is what I believe everybody

believes in regarding the criteria and the requirement, but

naturally, the basic requirements that are Muslimah should be

in the criteria,

I would have eight criteria which are compulsory. Number one, she

should be a practicing Muslim Ummah, following Islam as per the

Glorious Quran, and the Hadith, and she should do all the fries. I

repeat, the first criteria and the most important is she should be a

practicing Muslim who follows Islam as per the teachings of the

Glorious Quran and the say Hadith and she should do all the

all the all Tawheed Krishna Taqwa she should pray five times a day.

She should give Zuckerberg if she has to give, she should first in

the month of Ramadan. If she has to do it, she should do it. Hijab

and all these can speak for us together. Number two, she should

abstain from all the Haram activities. All the major sins all

the minor sins as much as possible but natural. If it's one or two

minus and no human being can say that he does not send it all.

But Abstain from all the major sins, abstain from all the sins if

possible, almost all

number three, she should be virtuous and do as much as mazahub

as much as Sunnah of the Beloved Prophet masala Salah

third is a virtuous girl

who follows as much as sunnah of the Prophet does as much as

mazahub What is recommended in the Quran and say Hadith

that is,

article 11 should be high.

Believe Tauheed

besides the fight times Salah she should offer the title salah, she

should pray the sooner the Makkah descended the yarmulke she should

give charity besides the first zakat. Beside fasting in the month

of Ramadan, she should fast the day of alpha.

First, the first nine days of Zilla Jaya the three days of moram

910 11 She should keep the six last Prof. Chawan she should fast

three days that aim will be every month should be faster on Monday

and Thursday and so on and so forth.

As much as of the stock as possible, as much as virtuous as

possible.

And you can speak for us together on the third point.

The fourth point is she should have the passion for Dawa and

spreading the message of Islam amongst the Muslims anonymous

passion

for Dawa and spreading Islamic teachings. Fourth point, fifth

point she should encourage and support her husband that is my son

for doing Java completely that we should support in all the

activities of my son she should completely support and encourage

and help him in all of our activities.

Number six, she should be willing

to lead a simple life which is non lectures. Inshallah. My son's life

is quite comfortable. But if required for the sake of Islam,

she should be able to sacrifice all comforts.

Seventh, she should be fluent in English. Because my son is

Sudanese you

And he would want how to be fluent in English. The eighth is she

should be willing to settle in Malaysia or wherever my son would

shift, but his plans are to stay and live in Malaysia. So she

should be willing to settle in Malaysia, these are the eight

compulsory criteria. If I would mention the criteria for selecting

life partner for myself, as far as the criteria which are very

important, but not compulsory number one would be I would want

her

to be fluent in fossa, Arabic, the classical Arabic, the Arabic of

the Quran, she should be fluent.

And that

the reason is that I would want my children to be fluent and Arabic.

My son knows Arabic fluently fossa, I would want his wife to

know so that the children are fluent in English and Arabic,

both.

Number two,

she should be a Daya.

She should propagate Islam, to the non Muslims, and the Muslims.

Number three,

she should have a bachelor's degree in any of the Islamic

Studies,

whether it be Islamic studies in general, or in Sharia, or in Quran

or Hadith.

These are preferable, not compulsory, if little bit is less

or more no problem, but preferably the third Bachelor's in Islamic

Studies. The fourth is I would also want her to be a half of the

Quran.

My son had half either want to be office on the children also office

and being half as is preferable for our

number five, she shouldn't be associated with an Islamic

organization.

And number six, that she should have watched

many of the English speaking days so that she knows

what is Java and

what is the surrounding atmosphere. So these are the six

additional points which are not compulsory, but preferable if one

is missing, or a little bit less, doesn't matter, but there are

eight compulsory points. And there are fixed, highly recommended

preferable points that I would look for in a life partner for my

son. These are the main criteria, the initial, of course, is there,

that there are many additional points, for example, the culture

should match. And the other things are there you can't expect a

Chinese to live with an African can if the first aid criteria are

95 or above in Max. And if the additional points six are very

good, then the other things can be compromised. The culture differs

between the people. So these things are with a secondary and

tertiary. But the first compulsory points I've mentioned it, then the

six points and the points are later on. So this was in brief

what I would look for in life partner for my son Farik hope that

answers the question.