Fariq Naik – Criteria for Selecting a Life Partner for My Son Fariq who is a Da’ee
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The speakers discuss the importance of choosing a woman for marriage, particularly if she is rich or poor. They also caution against overly rich and overly poor women and suggest that women should be natural and not be too expensive. The speaker provides eight core criteria for selecting a partner, including following Islam, abstaining from major sins, being fluent in English, being fluent in Arabic, being a halfway between Arabic and English, having a strong culture, and being a halfway between Arabic and English. The success of a life partner is measured by the factors that could make it challenging, including having a strong culture and being a halfway between Arabic and English.
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The second question
from Muhammad Yunus, Mumbai, India,
masha Allah, you have a family of life,
what would be the criteria you would look for while selecting a
life partner for your son Farik, considering he's also die.
By the mambo, Julius has posed the question that what would I look
for a life partner, if I have to choose the life partner, for my
son 40 calls a day. Number one,
the choice will depend on my son, not on me. Because my son would be
leading a life with his right.
He should select the right one. But natural I being a father can
give guidelines because of experience. If I was to guide my
son, and you're aware of the criteria, and we discussed this,
many times Alhamdulillah we are on the same wavelength. And the
reason is because of my wife, whatever my son today is, and my
daughter's maximum credit, you could say 80% or more goes to my
wife. And I pose this question very often, that when is the
latest?
You would like to plan for the future of your son. So some people
say, you know, I would like to plan maybe when my son goes in
university or my daughter goes in university, some people say when
she would go to college, some would say in school, some would
say I would plan for my children when they enter nursery. But the
Islamic Methodist and the Islamic criteria is that the latest you
plan not nearly latest is when you select a life partner. When you
select the life partner, then you're planning how would you want
your children so I wanted my children to become dive. That's
the reason I selected the year. I wanted them to be religious, that
is the reason I selected a religious girl.
And today, most of the people think that my children are di e
then Alhamdulillah I had in the field of Dawa and Flama
hamdulillah it because of me. If percentage wise I have to give
myself 50% Due to my wife, my guidelines there my support is
there everything is there but the credit goes to my wife recommend
to the question, what are the criteria that I would see or look
for? In a life partner for my son FEYERICK was a die? As I mentioned
in my earlier answer, our beloved prophet masala Salam said
inside Buhari wire number seven, Hadith number 5090. And the same
Hadith repeated in say Muslim, while number four Hadith number
3635. Abu Huraira may Allah be pleased him said that Prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him said that women
are chosen for four things in marriage. We when you marry a
woman, go look for four things.
Wealth,
lineage, nobility,
beauty,
and religion. Choose her for her religion. But the prophet said
though people look for four things in a life partner while choosing a
woman for marriage.
Wealth, lineage,
beauty, and religion. Choose her for religion the best is religion.
And as
I mentioned earlier, that I would tell my son, that while choosing a
life partner, see to it that you give 95% weightage to religion.
The other three
are time bound mainly for worldly things. Religion Hardeen Estrada
Hara, and for the phone. And Allah smart Allah says in the Quran,
that if you seek for this world, Allah will give you this world but
not the Akira. If you seek for Kira, Allah will give you Accra
and this word, as far as the wealth is concerned, I would not
like my son to use the wealth of his wife for delivery.
He should be a man he should look after himself. He is the one. So
what difference does it make whether the girl is rich or poor.
So as far as the wealth is concerned, there is no waiting at
all. Only thing you should be careful that poor achieve, the
better it is, the richer she is. It is difficult, but if she's
extremely rich, then you have to be careful. If she's extremely
rich and used to that luxury of life, she may be a billionaire's
daughter, then I would say, Be careful unless a dean is 100 out
of 100 Then maybe she would not care for the wealth that she has.
But otherwise, if she's too wealthy, you have to be careful
you may not be able to take care
refer. So poor are the better. So the weightage for the wealth is
zero, but only be careful that she's not extremely rich is poor
the better if she's normal also no problem rich also no problem but
not too rich or excessively rich.
Point number two, the lineage of the family
I would say that makes no difference, but if you're coming
from a religious family make it a very small, maybe half percent
weightage according to me, if it is good, but whether it is or not,
the deen is more important some people from the very good family
may not be good, we have the example of children of the amoebas
of messengers who Mushriks you have examples of children and
mushriks who became messengers. So, your body the example. So
lineage is important, but not that much, I would hardly give an
invitation that maybe half percent,
as far as beauty should not be repulsive, but natural message
should like and beauty differs. It's in the eye of the beholder,
and everything is in the mind. So I would say okay, you can give
about maybe three or 4% marks of beauty 95% minimum should be 14.
This is what our guidance and this is what I believe everybody
believes in regarding the criteria and the requirement, but natural
the basic requirements that Muslimah should be
in the criteria,
I would have eight criteria which are compulsory. Number one, she
should be a practicing Muslim Ummah, following Islam as per the
Glorious Quran, and the Hadith, and she should do all the fries. I
repeat, the first criteria and the most important is she should be a
practicing Muslim who follows Islam as per the teachings of the
Glorious Quran and the say Hadith and she should do all the Friday.
All the for me they all should have Tawheed Tisha Taqwa she
should provide them today. She should give zakat if she has to
give, she should first in the month of Ramadan. If she has to do
it, she should do it. Hijab and all these can speak for us
together. Number two, she should abstain from all the Haram
activities. All the major sins all the minor sins, as much is
possible but natural. If it's one or two minus and no human being
can say that he does not send it all
represent from all the major sins obtained from all the sins if
possible, almost all
number three, she should be virtuous and do as much as mazahub
as much as Sunnah of the Beloved Prophet masala Salah
third is a virtuous girl
who follows as much as sunnah of the Prophet does as much as
mazahub What is recommended in the Quran and say Hadith
that is,
at the core level should be high
believe it
besides the fight times Salah should offer the tagit Salah she
should bring the sunnah to Makkah listen to the yarmulke, she should
give charity besides the first circuit with a fasting in the
month of Ramadan she should fast the Day of Arafah
fast. The first nine days of Zilla Jaya the three days of moram
910 11 She should keep the six fast of Shawwal she should fast
three days I am will be every month. She did fast on Monday and
Thursday and so on and so forth.
As much as of the Mustafa as possible, as much as virtuous as
possible.
And you can speak for us together on the third point.
The fourth point is she should have the passion for Dawa and
spreading the message of Islam amongst the Muslims anonymous
passion
for Dawa and spreading Islam teachings. Fourth point, fifth
point she should encourage and support her husband that is my son
for doing Java completely that we should support in all the
activities of my son she should completely support and encourage
and help him in all of our activities.
Number six, she should be willing to lead a simple life which is non
luxurious. Inshallah my son's life is quite comfortable. But if
required for the sake of Islam, she should be able to sacrifice
all comforts.
Seven she should be fluent in English because my son is Sudanese
And you would want her to be fluent in English. The eighth is
she should be willing to settle in Malaysia or wherever my son would
shift, but his plans are to stay and live in Malaysia. So she
should be willing to settle in Malaysia. These are the eight
compulsory criteria, if I would mention the criteria for selecting
life partner for my son, as far as the criteria which are very
important, but not compulsory number one would be I would want
her
to be fluent in fossa, Arabic, the classical Arabic, the Arabic of
the Quran, she should be fluent.
And that
the reason is that I would want my children to be fit and Arabic. My
son knows Arabic fluently fossa, I would want his wife to know so
that the children are fluent in english and arabic both.
Number two,
she should be a Daya.
She should propagate Islam to the non Muslims and the Muslims.
Number three,
she should have a bachelor's degree in any of the Islamic
Studies,
whether it be Islamic studies in general, or in Sharia, or in Quran
or Hadith.
These are preferable, not compulsory, if little bit is less
or more no problem, but preferably the third Bachelor's in Islamic
Studies. The fourth is I would also want her to be a half of the
Quran.
My son is halfway that want to be honest with the children also half
us
and being half as is preferable. For example.
Number five, she shouldn't be associated with an Islamic
organization.
And number six, that she should have watched
many of the English speaking days, so that she knows
what is Java and
what is the surrounding atmosphere. So these are the six
additional points which are not compulsory, but preferable if one
is missing, or a little bit less, doesn't matter, but there are
eight compulsory points. And there are six highly recommended
preferable points that I would look for in a life partner for my
son. These are the main criteria, the initial of course, is there,
that there are many additional points, for example, the culture
should match. And the other things are there you can't expect a
Chinese to live with an African then if the first eight criteria
95 or above in Max. And if the additional point six are very
good, then the other things can be compromised. The culture differs
between the people. So these things are which are secondary and
tertiary. But the first compulsory points I've mentioned it, then the
six points and then other points are later on. So this was in brief
what I would look for in life partner for my son Farik. Hope
that answers the question.