Faraz Rabbani – Weekly Q&A How to Deal the Discovery That My Father Committed Zina

There's a very sensitive question that my father

committed

out of wedlock,

and we discovered that he had child out

of wedlock.

And

this is causing a lot of difficulty and

trauma.

May Allah grant you and your family ease

and assistance.

We

these are very sensitive matters.

The wrong is wrong and it's not acceptable,

right.

We whether

particularly if the person is repentant, whether we

have

the capacity

to forgive them.

We also have to consider what is the

best way forward for us ourselves

in our deen and in our dunya

with regards to

the error commit the the wrong committed by

your father.

And we also have to consider what is

best

for all involved

in accordance with the good pleasure of Allah.

There is merit in forgiving

and in rectifying

and in healing,

but sometimes there's also wisdom in being firm

being firm

until a person,

particularly if they,

if we want them to to to rectify

their affairs.

In such sensitive matters, it is critical for

you to consult

local

scholars

or counselors

to help you work through this. You are

not alone. You are not alone.

The prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam

is a

has emphasized

seeking

the counsel

of the wise.

Shah wirul hukama, consult the wise.

And the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam himself,

though the most intelligent

human being

ever, he would always consult his noble companions

So we should embrace consultation,

you are not

alone.

And do do istighara,

Perform the prayer the istikhara, the prayer of

seeking guidance, and see what is it that

would be the best response in

your particular

circumstances.