Faraz Rabbani – Weekly Q&A How to Deal the Discovery That My Father Committed Zina

Faraz Rabbani
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The speaker discusses sensitive questions about a father committed child out of wedlock, causing trauma and difficulty. They emphasize seeking counsel from localoller or counselors and direct people to pray for guidance and seeking guidance to improve their circumstances.

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			There's a very sensitive question that my father
		
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			committed
		
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			out of wedlock,
		
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			and we discovered that he had child out
		
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			of wedlock.
		
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			And
		
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			this is causing a lot of difficulty and
		
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			trauma.
		
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			May Allah grant you and your family ease
		
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			and assistance.
		
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			We
		
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			these are very sensitive matters.
		
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			The wrong is wrong and it's not acceptable,
		
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			right.
		
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			We whether
		
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			particularly if the person is repentant, whether we
		
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			have
		
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			the capacity
		
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			to forgive them.
		
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			We also have to consider what is the
		
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			best way forward for us ourselves
		
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			in our deen and in our dunya
		
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			with regards to
		
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			the error commit the the wrong committed by
		
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			your father.
		
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			And we also have to consider what is
		
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			best
		
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			for all involved
		
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			in accordance with the good pleasure of Allah.
		
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			There is merit in forgiving
		
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			and in rectifying
		
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			and in healing,
		
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			but sometimes there's also wisdom in being firm
		
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			being firm
		
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			until a person,
		
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			particularly if they,
		
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			if we want them to to to rectify
		
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			their affairs.
		
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			In such sensitive matters, it is critical for
		
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			you to consult
		
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			local
		
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			scholars
		
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			or counselors
		
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			to help you work through this. You are
		
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			not alone. You are not alone.
		
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			The prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			is a
		
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			has emphasized
		
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			seeking
		
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			the counsel
		
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			of the wise.
		
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			Shah wirul hukama, consult the wise.
		
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			And the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam himself,
		
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			though the most intelligent
		
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			human being
		
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			ever, he would always consult his noble companions
		
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			So we should embrace consultation,
		
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			you are not
		
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			alone.
		
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			And do do istighara,
		
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			Perform the prayer the istikhara, the prayer of
		
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			seeking guidance, and see what is it that
		
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			would be the best response in
		
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			your particular
		
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			circumstances.