Faraz Rabbani – The Rawha #165 The Lowly Trait of Loving to Expose the Faults of ones Brothers and Friends Shaykh Muhammad

Faraz Rabbani
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The speakers discuss the importance of acknowledging and exposing faults of others, as it is a personal responsibility. They stress the importance of avoiding blaming one for a wrongdoing, avoiding publicity, and not sharing secretaries and wrongdoings online. They also emphasize the importance of patience when wronged by a member of a class and avoiding going out on social media, especially if there is a divorce or separation.
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You're listening to the RoHA, daily guidance for

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seekers with Sheikh Rasra Behni.

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So, Alhamdulillah, after, praising Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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and sending salutations upon the prophet, sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam,

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so this is a

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daily reminder,

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discussing the topic of,

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the ailments or the

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the, the ailments of the self and their

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treatment,

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work by Al Imam Abu Abdul Rahman al

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Salami.

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And we've reached the,

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41st,

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or,

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the ailment of the heart,

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and its treatment.

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And he says here about Abdulhamid al Salami

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and of its ailments,

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is the is its love to

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expose

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the faults of its brothers,

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and and and friends. For one to expose

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the faults of their brothers and their friends.

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So this blame worthy quality

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of loving

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to expose the the bad qualities of the

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brothers and the friends is part of,

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of ghiba, of,

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backbiting.

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And this is something that the lower self,

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the the treacherous

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lower self

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may incline to.

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And there's no doubt that this blameworthy quality

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of the lower self,

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even is even if it's within someone who's

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outwardly,

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looks like they are a student of knowledge

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or someone that looks like outwardly they have

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the the the looks of someone who's religious,

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if it's there,

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then it takes them into,

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pitfalls,

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and and it it exposes them

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in front of people as someone who is,

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treacherous

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to,

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backbite

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their brothers

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by saying their bad qualities.

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So this blameworthy quality or this very lonely

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and treacherous quality of backbiting and and loving

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to expose,

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the bad qualities of others,

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this is obviously something that the

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the people of intellect

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and any person with a sound,

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mind and heart will will deem as something

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that is blameworthy and lowly.

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And,

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no one

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likes for themselves,

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to be exposed and have their bad qualities

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be mentioned in front of others.

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And this is someone this comes from someone

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whose lower self has not been

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purified and has not been disciplined, and so

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that someone that has that quality of backbiting

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and exposing others needs to be purified and

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needs to be, have their their their lower

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self

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disciplined.

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And everyone

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should think about themselves before they do something

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like that. Who is free of any

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bad qualities?

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We're not even talking about something that is

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is major even if it's if it's minor,

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the day to day,

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dealings.

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People fall into into,

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mistakes all the time and may have some,

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bad qualities or some,

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defects,

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here and there, and no one likes to

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to

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be exposed about that. So someone so someone

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who who before they go and and expose

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others and backbite others, they should think about

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themselves or, you know, who if they like

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it for themselves or not, and there's no

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doubt that no one likes for their faults

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to be exposed,

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to others.

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And so,

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someone,

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that has that,

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala may,

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enable them or or grace them with someone

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that,

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will come along their path and give them

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advice and give them counsel

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to stop,

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backbiting others and stop exposing the the the

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faults of others. So they should take that

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counsel, and they should take that advice

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and see it as a blessing, that it

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is a reminder that they should stop that

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wrongdoing.

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And they should,

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repent and turn to Allah,

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seeking his forgiveness from,

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that that bad quality.

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And so in treating that blameworthy qual quality,

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Imam Soleim, he says, and its cure is

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that for someone to go back to themselves

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and love for others what they love for

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themselves,

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Like what has been mentioned, what the prophet

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says in in the hadith, in the narration,

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that the Muslim does not is not pleased

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or is not content for their brother,

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with that that they are not content with

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regarding themselves.

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And so,

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one looks and turns to themselves,

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and there is no doubt that no one

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likes to be to to have their faults

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exposed.

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So they should think about others that they

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shouldn't do the same to others and that

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they only,

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be pleased and content to, with what,

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regards others,

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with that that they would be content with

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for themselves.

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And there is no doubt that when someone

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exposes others, then that is going to, in

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turn, come back to them

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and that they themselves will be exposed.

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The if they go and backbite others, then

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someone will come and backbite them.

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So Imam al Salami brings forth another narration

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by the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, and

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he says that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam said that whoever

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covers up the faults of their brother, their

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their their Muslim brother, then Allah

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will cover up their faults.

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And here the word that is brought forth

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is and

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is something that is that needs to be

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covered. And so this could be literally or

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figuratively. And so we know that the the

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the literal or that that which is tangible

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is for, for example, for men between their,

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their navel and knees or even more private

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than that, their their their front and back

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private parts. And

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figuratively,

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it is the faults

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of of of people that that needs to

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be covered up. That's their their aura. And

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so if someone covers up the aura of

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their brother, then Allah

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will cover up their their their faults and

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their defects.

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And,

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and we know,

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for for example,

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that,

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you know, people that we we come into

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close encounter with, they have faults, and so

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we shouldn't go around and expose

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those faults to others. So, for example, someone

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in their in their house when they're dealing

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with their father, and their father, for example,

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sometimes,

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raises their their voice or gets

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angered or annoyed or something like that. And

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so the the the son shouldn't go out

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and,

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expose that to his friends and say, oh,

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my father does such and such when when

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he's, you know, when he gets upset and

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raises his voice, because that is not something

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that is becoming and that is something that

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the father wouldn't like to be mentioned about

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him in public. And so,

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someone doesn't doesn't mention that, but they should

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hold their father and mention their father with

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respect and with with high regard.

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Likewise, another example

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is, in between the spouses,

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the relations between spouses.

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One shouldn't mention their,

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their for example, their wives go out to

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their friends and mention some of her,

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bad qualities or some things that even that

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happened between an intimacy between

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the man and and the and the and

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the woman or, like, the spouses between each

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other. They shouldn't go out and and expose

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that to their friends because that is one

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of the the the the grave mistakes and

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the grave faults and those things should be,

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kept private. And there's a hadith by the

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prophet

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of someone who does that,

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which the prophet,

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he he makes them like or or describes

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them like cattle that they go and they

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they spend the night

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with,

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with their spouse or or with their with

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the other, with other cattle and then they

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go out and expose that to to others.

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Meaning, putting it he's he's mentioning it in

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in in a lowly,

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state blameworthy state that this is unbecoming of

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of a person. That one, things that happen

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between spouses should be kept private. So,

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we understand from that that generally speaking that

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one doesn't expose the faults or the private

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affairs,

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that happen between them and the people around

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them or the people at their household or

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those that that they are,

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close with.

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So,

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Sheikh Badib mentioned 2 narrations

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regarding the the gravity

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and the,

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the the the extreme,

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the the the the extreme

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prohibition

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of

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saying or delving into the secrets that happened

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between the spouses. And those two narrations,

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just to to to paraphrase them, is,

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are saying that on the day of judgment,

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the one of the gravest things that one

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will be taken into account for or one

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of the greatest things that,

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that is is, you know,

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one goes,

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and wrongs others with is that when,

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the spouses,

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they,

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they say their secrets to each other, and

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then one of them goes and exposes them

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exposes that secrets publicly or to others.

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And so from before he was in, I

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didn't mention that, is that this matter is

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one of the gravest matters and causes

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divorce and causes familial problems and causes many

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societal problems. So one shouldn't do that, and

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there is a a very severe,

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prohibition,

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against

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doing that. And,

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and,

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likewise,

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when one,

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is has a companionship with 1 of the

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the the a teacher or a scholar,

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that they,

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deemed to be, you know, righteous or they

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thought, they had a good opinion of. But

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then something happened,

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and and they separated

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likewise. So in separation in marriage, like, when

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the when there's a divorce or when separation

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happens

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between,

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a student, for example, and and their teacher

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or something like that, then one shouldn't go

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out and expose the faults of others even

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in that, matter. They should withhold.

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So it's not because the the the 2

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don't are not spouses anymore

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or there's that relationship between a teacher and

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a student is not there anymore that they

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go out and they expose each other. And

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especially with with regards to he mentions with

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regards to students and teachers that they go

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out on the social media, like on Facebook

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and from, you know, put out messages on

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WhatsApp that I've been wronged, and

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this person,

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you know, has has has,

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wronged me and and

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and exposed their faults and all of that,

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one should withhold from that. 1 should depart

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with, with goodness.

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And,

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and so so one shouldn't go out and

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and expose others

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like that even if there is a separation.

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And one should be,

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the one who is wronged, and this is

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referring back to hadith, that one should be,

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a servant of Allah who is wronged and

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not a servant of Allah who is wronging

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others

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or who is tyrannical towards others.

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So so one should just have patience if

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they're wronged and not go out and just

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expose the the faults of others.

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And we take an example of that in

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the prophet

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The the the and and Sayda Aisha,

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his his wife, may Allah be pleased with

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her and and grant her peace, is that,

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there was the incident of Al Iq

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when,

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people went out and and claimed false things

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about Saydai'isha.

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However, they were patient with it. They didn't

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go out and expose the faults of others.

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And then

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when her father said,

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when that

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happened, someone that was involved in carrying out,

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those,

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those made up,

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stories

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and and and did some of the the

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the the tail bearing,

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when he learned that that this person it

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was a person that Sayna Abu Qasiddiq used

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to,

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give of his money and and sponsor.

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And so

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once, he learned that he was involved in

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this,

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then in the in in those rumors, then

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the,

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then Sayna woke us at least stopped,

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sponsoring him, stopped giving him of his money.

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And so the verses,

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were revealed to the prophet

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about,

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the, you know, the people that,

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Allah

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has has expanded and gave expansion and gave

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money to,

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that that, you know, that do do they,

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Yeah. So so they they shouldn't stop from

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giving those that they were that that were

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in need that they were already giving money

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to.

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And and then the the verse ends by

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saying, do you not love,

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for Allah

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to forgive you?

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And so Sayyidina Abu Qasadik said that,

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indeed we do, oh Allah, indeed we do.

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And he took heed of that

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verse that was revealed in particular regarding him

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and and in general regarding others.

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So so this was Allah

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instilling those

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noble characters and those manners and disciplining

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the, the companions of the prophet

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So should we not take heed and should

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we not take a good example in that?

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And and whenever if we're wronged that we,

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doesn't mean that we go out and expose

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the faults of others, but we deal with

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it and separate in goodness and do not,

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fall into those faults that are,

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of qualities of the lower self. And so

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the it's nothing but qualities of the, like,

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blame worthy qualities of the lower self, and

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one should take heed and one should, strive

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to purify and rectify,

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and and cure those,

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ill qualities,

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of one's lower self.

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