Faraz Rabbani – The Rawha #156 The Love of Speaking in Front of People and its Cure

Faraz Rabbani
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You're listening to the RoHa, daily guidance for

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seekers with Sheikh Jarrah Beni.

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Alhamdulillah.

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In our lessons on

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Imam Soleami's

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work on the blameworthy traits

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of

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the human self

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and their treatment,

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we've

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reached

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the 32nd

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of the blameworthy

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traits.

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So he tells us

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From the blameworthy traits of the self

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is

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its liking

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or its loving

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to speak

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before people.

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And

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to delve into the subtleties

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of knowledge.

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To capture

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with that

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the

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hearts

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and attention

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of the inexperienced.

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Right?

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So

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and

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to steer

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through

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appealing

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words,

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the

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attention

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of people

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towards 1.

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And so this is from

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the love of being manifest.

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And one of the ways that people do

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that

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is to when they speak to people,

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they may not actually have that much knowledge,

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or they may not be specialists,

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but they'll mention

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subtle things.

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Why?

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Just just to impress

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people. Not because

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not

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for the sake of guidance,

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what will benefit people.

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Not for the

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sake of strengthening their

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confidence

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in the way

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of Ahlul Sunnah, the way of mainstream Islamic

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scholarship.

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Not for the reason of

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strengthening their

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confidence

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in the scholarly method

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in our religion,

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not

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to to to increase people in confidence about

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you

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know, the depth and nuance, the sacrifice of

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the scholars of the religion. These are all

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worthy

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because

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part of guidance is the way that the

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guidance

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was preserved and transmitted,

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and the transmitters of that guidance.

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Right?

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But rather just to impress.

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Right?

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To

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literally

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capture

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the hearts of the inexperienced.

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And Abu

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Madian

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in his hikam says,

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The claimant

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is the one who points to themselves.

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That

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the the claimant,

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the one who's seeking

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personal attention,

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Right? The one who's calling to themselves,

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is the one whose

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words are

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if

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you

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you know,

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if one were to consider them, are pointing

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to themselves

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rather than pointing to Allah

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Because

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right?

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The true person calls to Allah. The Prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam is commanded in the Quran

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to say

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Say this is my path.

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And one of the reasons he said to

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connect

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the path

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of our religion to the Prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam is that

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the way of guidance is embodied in the

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Prophet SAW.

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And

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what does the Prophet do?

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I call to Allah.

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That is

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being

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that is trueness

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embodied.

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As for the one making so the sincere

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points to Allah.

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The claimant

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is pointing to themselves.

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Okay. So one has to be careful about

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that oneself.

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Be

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with people be cautious.

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Be cautious.

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You don't have a right

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to think ill of others,

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but you do have a right to be

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cautious.

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You do have a right to be cautious.

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And the ulema in Damascus for example, would

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caution

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students from not quoting their teachers too much.

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Right. Because if you say

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our sheikh so and so said this, and

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our sheikh said this, the danger is

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that if you say well so and so

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is my sheikh, you say well he's you

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know what a big deal he is. So

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it's a

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derivative

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affirmation of consequence,

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right. Like say oh like sheikh Solon is

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really big and he's my sheikh, so you

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know like I may not be that big

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but I'm big enough for you. Right? Kind

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of thing. And so that's

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from the tricks of the self.

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So one of the things I must say

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regarding that is the focus on any

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religious

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discourse

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is

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that is the Quranic paradigm. What will benefit

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people

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in any

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religious response,

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answer, teaching?

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Be wary of trying to impress anyone.

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Rather

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focus

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on benefiting them for the sake of Allah.

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Mufti rafi Usmani,

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the grand Mufti of Pakistan, he expressed it

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in beautiful words by saying

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says please

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the medicine

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where

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the where the hurt is.

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That that's

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you know, the prophetic teachings have been described

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as medicine.

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So you apply the, you need to consider

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what does the person need, you need to

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diagnose what does the person need,

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and

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give that much

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to the

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what what the need is

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and

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renew your intention that this be for the

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sake of Allah.

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One of the ways of safety in that

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is always,

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they say

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from the blessing of knowledge is to ascribe

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it to its people.

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So they mentioned that

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one of

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the one of the scholars,

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he

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asked Sheikh Abdul Rahman al Shahudi

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that what is the best way of arranging

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of

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of making after

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the obligatory prayer.

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And this is someone who's

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one of the giants of Damascus

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and the sheikh of the sheikhs of Damascus,

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and person of known, you know, spiritual depth

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and profundity and adherence to the sunnah. He

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said

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where's

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Kitab al Athkar of Yamanawy?

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And he, you know,

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they got him the copy of and

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he looked through it, found the section on

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what is said after, and he read that

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section.

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So he's not answering from himself, he's saying

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well this is what Imam Nawi says and

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that's safer.

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Right? On the side of restraint in one's

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response.

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Right?

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That and

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beware because you know you want to benefit

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them, but you don't want to harm yourself.

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And you know you have a self that

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is a congratulatory

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self.

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It likes to clap at your

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at you.

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So be careful. So he says,

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so that's

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something to keep in mind. He says,

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from its treatment is to act on what

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you admonish others with.

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Right?

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And part of that is you intend to

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anything you're telling people,

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you intend

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to advise to be the first one advised

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by it.

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And

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to admonish people by one's actions, not merely

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one's words.

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That as is related that Allah Most High

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revealed

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to Jesus the son of Mary, peace and

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blessings be upon them both and upon our

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beloved prophet

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If you wish

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to admonish people then admonish yourself.

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And if you take heed

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yourself,

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then admonish others.

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Otherwise,

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feel shy of me.

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And this particularly in the general call to

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the good. This does not apply to commanding

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the good and forbidding the wrong because that's

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a public obligation,

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but in giving people advice.

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And at the very least is that one

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should be striving for it.

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Right?

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Because someone may struggle with something.

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One of the great scholars of India,

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in the early half of the 20th century,

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he said that any fault that I found

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within myself,

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I would

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start telling people about it,

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intending

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to remind myself

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until,

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and I'd keep admonishing them until I got

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rid of that fault myself.

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But that requires

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intention.

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The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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said

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and,

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then this

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hadith in similar narration is found in the

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works of Sunan

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that on on on the night of the

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and

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on

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the night of the night journey,

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I passed by some people whose whose

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lips

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were being raked

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by rakes of fire.

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The rakes which you collect leaves with etc.

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So the Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, I

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said who are these,

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my brother Jibreel?

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Those are

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the preachers

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of your community.

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They command people to virtue

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and they forget themselves.

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And yet they recite the book.

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And that's

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from Surat Al Baqarah verse 44, where Allah

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said,

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Do

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you command people to virtue?

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And you forget yourselves.

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And

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you recite the book.

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So

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so

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this goes back to sincerity.

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Sincerity, and to be careful about oneself. And

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also by looking

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at always being in consultation

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of

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the people of knowledge. That any step one

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takes on the path of calling to Allah,

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one of the things we see from the

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sunnah of the prophet

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is to

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consult.

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And the Ulemmat used to take that very

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seriously.

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Imam Abu Hanifa

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had great students.

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The greatest of whom was Al Qadi Abu

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Yusuf.

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And he was teaching in the lifetime of

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the

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of Imam Abu Hanifa, but then he started

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a class

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on the outskirts of the city without

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seeking Abu Hanifa's permission. Even though he had

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permission to teach,

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But any class he'd start he would consult

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Imam Abu Hanifa. And he was attending daily

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in Abu Hanifa's class, and he used to

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be right at the front.

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And he wouldn't sacrifice the front seat to

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the extent

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that one day his own son died,

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and he only attended the beginning of the

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washing of his son.

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And then said, I need to leave now

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because if I don't go now, I'll be

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late for the front row of Abu Hanifa's

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class.

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So he left.

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He bade his son farewell, and he left.

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So he started this class, and he would

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be there daily in Abu Hanifa's class. But

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Imam Abu Hanifa sent him

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a message

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with a messenger,

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to where his class was, asking him 3

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questions. What is the answer to these 3

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questions?

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And he answered one way, and he was

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shy, so he sent it with the messenger.

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Abu Hanifa sent the message back that this

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is wrong.

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So Abu Hanifa said, then it must be

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this way.

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Abu Hanifa wrote back, that too is wrong.

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Then Abu Hanifa came and said, you asked

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me the question, I answered this way, and

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there's subtle subtleties.

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Answered

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in one way. Then you and you said

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it's wrong. So I said, then it must

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be the other way. And he trusted his

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teacher.

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And you said it's wrong then. What's the

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answer? He said, a tafsir. There's detail.

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In some circumstances, the answer would be this,

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and in other circumstances the answer would be

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that.

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And the point he was making is that

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doesn't matter

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how much you attain always

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consult.

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This is a central sunnah that one only

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neglects at one's peril.

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You know the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, the

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greatest

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intellect in humanity

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was commanded,

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consult them in all your affairs.

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Even though they're

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all less than his

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intellect, less than his wisdom.

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. So this is one of

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the

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keys of safety when it comes to

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being in any situation of leadership

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etc. Likewise,

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activists need to be very careful about this

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quality

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that in anything in which you're calling to

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Allah or standing for the representing the religion,

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the intent in it must be

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not to impress

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but

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to seek the pleasure of Allah.

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We ask Allah

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for ease and assistance and facilitation, wa salallahu

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alayhi wa

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sahabi assalamu

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alhamdulillahi

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robilaalameen.

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