Faraz Rabbani – The Rawha #136 Treating the Loss of Resolve

Faraz Rabbani
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The speaker discusses the importance of self-consciousness and the importance of not losing the drive of one's actions to achieve their goals. They emphasize the importance of taking oneself to account for their actions and character, watching their actions for their success, and learning from their Bible and seeking guidance on how to achieve their goals. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of finding purpose and intention, action that is driven by 2 prophetic qualities, rectifying one's affairs, and following the light of the sun.
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You're listening to the

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daily guidance for seekers with Sheikh Rasra Behni.

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In our

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Roha sessions, we are looking

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at

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Imam al Suleimi's work on healing hearts,

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his treatise

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on

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the blameworthy traits of the self

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and how to treat them.

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To

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her. The blameworthy traits of the self and

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how to

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rid oneself of them.

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So

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we

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human beings have temperaments.

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Right? Have.

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Right?

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And

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these temperaments

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have

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propensities

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towards good and propensities

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towards bad.

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Everyone,

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we understand from the Quran and the sunnah,

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is born

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with inclinations

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towards good

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and inclinations towards bad.

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It is

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what influences

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affect

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a person

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and what choices are made by the person

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that cause

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then

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the inclinations of good

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to be fulfilled

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and the inclinations

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towards

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bad

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to be restrained.

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And both good and bad are means to

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Allah

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The good

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by

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acting upon it, by making it a habit,

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by and by making it

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a trait

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of character.

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Right? It is by acting on the tendencies

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of good, on the inspirations of good, that

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it they become good actions,

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and good actions become good

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states,

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akhwal,

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and good states become

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good

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traits of character.

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Right?

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Good.

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Right?

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And the opposite.

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Right? The opposite.

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But, ultimately,

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we are responsible for our choices. We're not

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responsible for our environment.

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And so someone who had

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a had a difficult upbringing.

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They're raised in a corrupt family, in a

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corrupt environment,

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etcetera.

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Now by the time they hit

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adulthood, they're going to have more challenges.

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Right? They may have more tendencies towards

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the sinful or the harmful than others.

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They're responsible for their choices, and there's a

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perfect balance that we leave to Allah.

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Right? And someone in brought up in challenging

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circumstances,

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how they'll be judged dealt with

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will may differ from someone who's brought up

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in a facilitated environment.

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Right?

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We ask Allah

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to facilitate for

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us the good. So we've been looking at

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the

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the

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the traits of the self,

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and we began just to recap the first

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three, what was the first one?

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Being self satisfied. Being self satisfied.

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Right?

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And there's no

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nothing more harmful than being self satisfied.

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Because if you're self satisfied, then you will

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not want to change.

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You'll continue making the same choices.

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The second is

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the second blameworthy trait

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Cry

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empty. Yeah.

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Is

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where

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one has religious inclinations,

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but that are just

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feelings

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that don't

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translate into real change.

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Is to when to be 1 once in

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a while, one cries about one's mistakes or

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whatever, but then really doesn't do anything much

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about it.

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Right?

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That won't produce change. That itself

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is a type of indirect

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self satisfaction.

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And once in a while, you feel kinda

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bad about yourself. I'm such a loser.

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And you feel good about feeling such like

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such a loser in your back to feel

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good about yourself.

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I I had a good cry.

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And then what happened on Monday? The same

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old.

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Right?

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The 3rd laymor the trait is

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To not have trust in our love, to

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be

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to busy oneself with with provision and not

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have trust. Yeah. It's to busy oneself

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with provision

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without trust in Allah.

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And that's dunya.

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Dunya. That one seeks the that one

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seeks

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provision, which is fine,

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but

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one

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beholds

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that benefit and harm comes from other than

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Allah

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Whereas the sunnah is to take the means

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with a heart reliant upon Allah

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Right?

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To study

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said

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Trust in Allah was the state of the

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messenger of

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Allah. And the taking of means was his

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example,

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was his practice,

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was his way.

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Whoever seeks a state,

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let them let them adhere to the sunnah,

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and that's the balance.

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Is to

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inwardly

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trust in Allah and outwardly take the means.

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And

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that is the right balance.

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Merely trusting without taking the means

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is leaving

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the

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sunnah,

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and merely taking the means without trusting

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is also contrary to the sunnah.

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So today, we're going to be looking at

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the 4th

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trait

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onwards.

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The 4th being

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2

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is the 4th blameworthy trait is losing resolve

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in fulfilling rights,

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and he gives it

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this kind of statement.

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But let's see what is meant

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by it.

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Right? What is meant by losing losing resolve

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in fulfilling rights?

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So he says,

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It

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is

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it's losing

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resolve,

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losing

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commitment

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with respect to rights

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that it was fulfilling

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before.

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Right? Right? It's losing resolve. Why?

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That you are doing the right thing

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and you're consistently doing it

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for a while. You're fulfilling rights. You're performing

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your prayers. You're upholding

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your

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beauty to Allah.

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Your social

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your religious

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responsibility socially,

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but then

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you lose the resolve.

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Right?

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Because actions are driven by intentions.

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Right?

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Intentions are driven by

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purpose.

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Okay?

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So what happens

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that

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and that's the danger of habits.

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The danger of habits

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that

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the,

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right,

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Become your

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your your acts of worship

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becoming

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habits

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is very good to become routines.

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But,

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if they become routines,

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it is easy then to neglect what?

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To neglect the intention driving it, because you

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just do it. It is normal. You do

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your. Before, you had to struggle to do

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your. You had to gather your intention, remember

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your purpose, and now it's just become routine.

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But what happens?

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The you you lost

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the driving intention. Because before you had to

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press yourself to do it,

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but that pressing yourself to do it

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may meant that the intention was there. There

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was a driving purpose. I need to start

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I need to do my.

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But then when they become habits,

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you can lose it.

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Right?

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And

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worse than that, he says,

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And worse than that

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is

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the one who's not concerned

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about their falling short.

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Because the it starts slipping away.

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Right? It starts

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slipping away.

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And one of the things this requires is

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muhasaba.

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You have to keep taking yourself to account.

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And the muhasaba,

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taking oneself to account is not only

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with respect to actions,

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but it's also with respect to intentions.

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Right?

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And Imam Al Ghazali

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talks about what one takes oneself to account

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for.

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Right?

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Right?

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You know, one takes oneself

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to account with respect to to to one's

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actions,

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but also one's intentions.

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Right? The actions are outward actions and actions

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of the heart.

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One's.

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Right? And each of them, one takes them

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to account the outward manifestation of that action,

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but also the

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excellence in that action. So am I praying?

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Yes. I am. But am I praying with

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excellence?

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K? And,

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talks a lot about how one takes oneself

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to account.

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And in the seminar we had,

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which will be available as an on demand

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class as well. Is it available? Yes.

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No.

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No. Oh, it's not you. Yeah. The on

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on how to take oneself to account,

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There's a very beautiful discussion of Imam al

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Ghazalis about that.

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Imam al Haddad,

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in the book of assistance, the chapter on

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how to take oneself to account,

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he summarize that

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really powerfully.

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And that's translated into English, of course.

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So

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one one has to always watch over one's

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one's actions

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and one's character.

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Likewise, one has to watch

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in both what one is doing

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and the excellence by which one is doing

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it. Also has to watch over one's

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intentions.

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K?

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Or is one acting with intention?

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K? Which is the baseline. Am I doing

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it for Allah? And also, the excellence of

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one's intention.

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How much

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purpose is there in in my intention?

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Okay? And this anyone who loses out

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right? Anyone who's doing something and they stop,

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there's a cause.

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Very often, it's an internal cause. They just

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lost purpose. The simple thing. They don't know

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why they're doing it. Or they could be

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external things that move them away. But even

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the external factors that move them away, ultimately,

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the external factors, what did they do?

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They changed their resolve.

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Right?

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They changed

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their resolve.

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Right? So one even external factors go back

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to

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internal

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resolve.

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Right? That okay, now you're in a bad

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environment. So and so convinced me

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not to continue my

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studies or so on. That bad company

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busied them away from their night worship. No.

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It didn't.

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Right? That tugged at them, but ultimately, what

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happened?

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It affected

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their intention

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and their sense of

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purpose.

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Whoever hopes for Allah and their

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and the last day.

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Right?

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So

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and the the person who

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starts developing

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shortcomings,

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starts losing resolve,

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that's a blame worthy trait. But worse is

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when one loses concern.

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Doesn't even worry about it. Like, someone,

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they were doing their sunnahs, but now they're

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slacking off on their their emphasized sunnahs.

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They were careful about

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their with people, but now they're not. Someone

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may note realize that I have something to

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work on.

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It's still a blameworthy trade, but someone who's

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working on something,

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that's a good place.

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The worst case is is it's bad when

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one no longer cares.

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Right?

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But even worse than the one who doesn't

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care about their shortcoming

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is the one who doesn't even see the

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fact that they're they're falling short. Everything's fine.

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K?

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And what did the prophet say?

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Do not place our tribulation

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in our deen.

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Right? That's one of the harms of worldly

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success. People say,

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everything's fine. Got a new job. We have

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an we have

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new new children, new house, new this,

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but

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we got a whole bunch of new things

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in the life, except there's

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less and less.

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Right?

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Right. And that's the inshikal bidunya.

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And worse than that,

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And even worse than that, worse than not

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seeing

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your your shortcomings is to think that you

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are doing well. It's not only that you

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you don't see your shortcomings, but you actually

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think I'm doing well. Alhamdulillah.

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I support Islamic relief. I do this. I

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do this.

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Right?

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And one of the dangers of that is

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that you need to know what what are

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you responsible for.

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Okay? I sponsored an orphan.

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I well, I didn't, by the way. But,

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you know,

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I did this. I did but what are

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you responsible for?

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Warns about this kind of thing.

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Is what?

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That

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another

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that one of the signs

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of Caprice

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governing you

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is being busied

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by superogatory

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works,

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by knefil works. You don't it's not personally

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obligatory on you to sponsor an orphan,

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but it is personally obligatory on you to

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pay your zakat.

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It's you don't have to give charity

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to that person, but you do have to

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provide adequately for your own children.

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Right?

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I'm doing well. No. You're not.

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Right?

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Are you fulfilling the rights of Allah in

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your life? Are you fulfilling the rights other

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people have over you in your life? The

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obligatory rights.

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Right.

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What is the governing

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cause for for this loss of purpose

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that leads to loss of intention,

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which leads to the loss of good.

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Right?

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Yes.

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This arises from a lack of gratitude.

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When?

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This arises from a lack of gratitude

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when you were granted

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the tawfiq, the facilitation

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to fulfill those rights. Whether the rights of

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Allah or the rights of

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Allah's creation.

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This is this is the

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It is the cause.

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Lack of

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gratitude.

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Which is why what did the prophet

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say?

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In the in the hadith is in the

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4 in AUI?

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That's Hadith

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of. Right?

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Yep. The hadith of.

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It's a very special hadith

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because it's it was contiguously transmitted by Damascus.

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Right?

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And people used to travel to Damascus just

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to hear this hadith of Abu Zar.

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Right? Abu Zar who wasn't originally from Damascus,

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but he became resident of Damascus.

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And and there's chains of transmission all the

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way to our

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time that's related just by Damascus.

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Right?

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And you could find it in it's in

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the mid thirties in the, it says,

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whoever finds a good, let them praise Allah.

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Right? So whenever you do the good,

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it when you start ascribing the good to

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yourself,

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I did it.

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Oops.

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Right? That is the beginning

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of

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your of the spiritual that's the beginning of

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spiritual decay. It's ascribing the good to yourself.

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And that's the beginning

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of

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potential spiritual harm.

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It won't happen right away,

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but it'll happen.

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Right? It'll happen.

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Right? It says, this arises from the lack

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of gratitude at the time that you had

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the success to fulfill the rights. Because how

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did you have the

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success, the facilitation?

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From Allah Subhata.

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My success is only by Allah.

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Right?

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So

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because

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one's gratitude

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was insufficient. One's gratitude meaning to Allah

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was insufficient.

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One goes for being in the state

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of

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plenitude

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of good, tawfir,

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to the state of shortcoming

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when it comes to the good. Because from

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Allah, and if you're not grateful,

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it'll be taken away.

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Right?

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And then given this lack of gratitude, and

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lack of gratitude

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leads

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to lack of thinking about Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala because now you're ascribing the good to

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yourself.

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So

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do you now feel need of Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala? No. I'm doing fine. Whereas before

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you felt an urgent need for Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala.

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Right? It's only through gratitude that you maintain

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your relationship

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with Allah.

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So then you don't feel a need for

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Allah, so

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even your shortcomings become veiled from you.

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And eventually you start liking the bad things

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you you did.

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K. So the the urge to the good

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diminishes if you have a lack of gratitude

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and the urges towards

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the the vile gets strengthened.

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As for the one

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who sees

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their act who for whom

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their

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ill deeds

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are made seemingly.

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So they see them as if they're good.

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Right? And this, what does it do?

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So woe be to those whose hearts are

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hardened

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away from being conscious of Allah.

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And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says

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about people who have this, again, type of

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self satisfaction.

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And they imagine that they're doing well.

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Right?

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That's from

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Surat

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Al Kahf 104.

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Right?

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But he says there's one cause, right, which

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is lack

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of gratitude.

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Then it continues.

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And this is how we have made made

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seemingly for each

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people

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their actions.

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Right? And this is also this idea of

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self,

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self justification.

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Right?

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You know,

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you can't how can you live with yourself

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if you think that I'm doing the wrong

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thing? You have to justify it. Because at

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the at the root of it, you're a

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rational animal.

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You have to have a reason for doing

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something. If the reason isn't right, then what

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are you gonna do about it? You're gonna

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justify

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it. That's self justification.

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And I'll just say it's a right if

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it's a right thing then it's good. There's

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a reason. Why do you beat him up?

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Well, look how he was behaving.

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Rather than seeing your action,

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you blame the other.

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That's what Allah asks

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you. Right? And that's how Allah says, we

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have made seemingly,

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we've made

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pleasing to each. Umma is each group of

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people,

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their actions.

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That's the nature of the human being.

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K?

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And that's from

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verse 108.

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Each group

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is well pleased with what they have.

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Meaning, what they what they do.

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Right?

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They justify it.

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So they they no they no longer see

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that this is not the right thing. I'm

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not falling short. I'm not seeking Allah. Just

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I am fine.

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Right?

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And what's the warning of that?

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We will lead them on from whence they

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could never imagine.

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Right?

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From Surat Al Araw verse 182.

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But where does it arise from? It arises

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from lack of gratitude.

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The problem happened when you did the good.

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You don't ascribe it to Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala,

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then

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that's the big the beginning of the social

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the spiritual corruption

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of falling short,

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losing resolve,

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becoming self satisfied is not when the shortcomings

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started happen. It happened

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from the lack of gratitude when you did

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the good. That's when the problem happened.

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That's why a lot of

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worry about that.

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Right?

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When people do the good, they worry at

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that point, not when they start having shortcomings.

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It was coming.

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Why?

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Because where's the intention?

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And where's the intention?

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Right?

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So where's the the safeguard there is gratitude.

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Whenever there is good,

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if you behold it as being from Allah,

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you are safe.

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If you behold it as being from yourself,

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ascribing the good to yourself

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is the beginning of spiritual

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downfall.

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And then we'll lead them astray by their

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own choices.

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And the safety from that is constantly

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turning

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towards Allah

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Right? And

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is

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turning

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is to

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is to seek protection from Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. It's to flee to Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. This is why one of the things

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one should never do

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is just to stick

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to to a habit

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of

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sunnah, zikrs,

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and duas, etcetera, and and and not to

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change it up.

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This is why the prophet he didn't just

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teach you, okay, These are the zikrs you

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that you do in the prayer. These are

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zikrs you do after the prayer.

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He did so many zikrs after

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in the prayer after the prayer. Why? Because

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he variegated it.

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Right? Right?

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Is to always have this attitude that you

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need to express your neediness to Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala.

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And one of the things practically for that

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in our own worship

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is that just as you make

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the transmitted duas of the Quran and the

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sunnah in the prayer after the prayer, always

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have some personal needs

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personal

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spiritual needs that you ask Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala for

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in your own words.

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And they say, if you had a dichotomy,

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you could eat you could either

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just say the sunnah duas or make dua

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heartfelt dua. Which one is greater in reward?

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If that's the choice, just say the sunnah

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dua or make heartfelt dua in your own

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words. Which one is superior?

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The heartfelt dua. And it's almost politically it's

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of course a false dichotomy.

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Because what's the ideal case

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that you say the sunnah duas and make

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them heartfelt.

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Right? But if it was only just say

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the sunnah duas, say

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read it.

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Was that really du'a?

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Because what is dua? Dua is an expression

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of need. Did you express any need? No.

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Now if someone asks us in this way,

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we wouldn't give them. But Allah is merciful.

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But that's not the same as asking with

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need. Right?

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So with the sunnah duas, we refresh

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our sunnah duas always be learning some, you

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know, there's so many different amazing duas of

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the prophet

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reflect on it. But also say some from

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your own own words. But and we should

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get out of the habit of only asking

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Allah for our worldly needs. Oh, Allah have

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an exam. Please make me pass.

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Your exam is not the biggest need you

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have. The biggest need is your relationship with

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Allah. That's number 1.

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It is constantly turning to Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala in need.

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And to constantly remember Him. Because remembrance of

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Allah

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stirs consciousness of Allah,

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reminds us to intend Allah

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in what we do.

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Reminds us of the purpose of life, which

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is to seek Allah

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in life.

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Reminds us to be grateful.

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And how does one save oneself

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from this?

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Is to recite

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the book of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Right?

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And,

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and to reflect on its meaning.

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Right? And again, don't just have a routine

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of reading Quran.

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Right? Read the Quran but also

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seek its meaning. The other way I say

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a very practical thing with this is whatever

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routine you have daily of the Quran, try

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to look up 1 verse a day.

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Try to look up the meaning of 1

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verse a day.

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Just one.

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And that's not just a little

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because hopefully you live another 20 years.

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If you look up one verse a day

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of the Quran, in 20 years you you

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will have

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looked up the tafsir of the whole Quran.

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That's the power of consistency.

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Because

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365 days a year times 20

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goes into 7,000 something. There's 6,000 something versus

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the Quran.

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Depending on how you count. I'm not very

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good at counting, but you'll get it done.

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Right? Just one verse at a time. Right?

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What you read, make a little note. I'd

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like to look that one up and look

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that one up. For whatever reason, it resonated

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with you. Sound what what's that talking about?

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Just one verse.

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And also

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falling short in fulfilling rights

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is to consider great

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the rights of people. Because falling short in

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fulfilling rights, you have to realize that people

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have serious rights over you.

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Right? Wronging them is very serious.

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Right? Whether this be,

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you know, the

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our immediate circle of people, but also others.

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People will ask. None of you believes until

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they wish for others of the good that

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they wish for themselves. They have great rights

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over you. Your faith is dependent

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on genuinely caring for their good and fulfilling

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that.

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And asking

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the righteous servants of Allah

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to

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make dua for 1. So that one returns

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to a better state.

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Okay? And this is one of the things

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that you see many hadiths of the prophet

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salallahu alaihi wa sallam. One of the most

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

frequent dua's of the prophet salallahu alaihi wa

00:32:12 --> 00:32:14

sallam and it's related that this was from

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the frequent dua of of of Sayyidina Dawud

00:32:16 --> 00:32:17

alaihis salam

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is Allah Oh Allah I ask you for

00:32:20 --> 00:32:21

your love.

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And the love of those who love you.

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Why?

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Because a person will be with those they

00:32:28 --> 00:32:28

love.

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And we know that the dua of others

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benefits 1.

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Many hadiths on that. So if you could

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you make dua yourself, but one of the

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ways

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one one of the benefits of asking someone

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else to make dua is self recognition.

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Right? Because we are given to self justification.

00:32:49 --> 00:32:52

I'm fine. You're not that bad. Like, what

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I mean, I just

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told her she was really fat. I didn't,

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

like, I didn't do anything really bad. I

00:32:57 --> 00:32:59

didn't hit her. And you broke her heart.

00:32:59 --> 00:33:01

Didn't hit her, but broke her heart.

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Right?

00:33:02 --> 00:33:04

I have a friend that I keep mentioning

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this story, but it's true. It's been over

00:33:06 --> 00:33:08

a decade, a friend of mine, 10th anniversary

00:33:08 --> 00:33:10

of their wedding. He told his wife, she

00:33:10 --> 00:33:13

came down wearing the wedding dress, said,

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

honey, how do I look? He said, you

00:33:15 --> 00:33:17

look like a balloon that's about to burst.

00:33:17 --> 00:33:18

And he said, I'm just being honest.

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Broke her heart. And it's been, like, ages.

00:33:22 --> 00:33:23

She still got

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like, hamda, this their marriage survived with a

00:33:26 --> 00:33:27

lot of intervention,

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but she's still very self conscious.

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Right?

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So but sometimes

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one way of

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beating self justification

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is to ask someone to make the offer.

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Because you're admitting, yeah, I'm I'm mucked up.

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Right? That yes, I messed up. I'm not

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I'm struggling to do my sunnahs etcetera. So

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you go to someone to make dua. Their

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dua will benefit you, but also telling someone,

00:33:54 --> 00:33:57

not just talking publicly about it, because then

00:33:57 --> 00:33:59

you because talking publicly about it is self

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justification.

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I'm fine.

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Could you tell everybody then they'll say, I

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I don't do my sunnah either, and they're

00:34:06 --> 00:34:07

sort of celebrating in slackness.

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But you go tell someone, like, I'm I'm

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

mocked up. What do I do? Please make

00:34:12 --> 00:34:12

dua for me.

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So that admission

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in this concerned admission

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lifts self justification,

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and their dua does benefit too.

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Right? Of course, you make dua yourself to

00:34:26 --> 00:34:29

change your state, but that dua benefits. There's

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just

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so many hadiths about the dua of a

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believer, for another believer

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in their

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is answered.

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The prophet

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asked say no Umar to make dua for

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him.

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And he he was headed for Umrah,

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and the prophet

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said,

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yeah. My dear brother, make dua for me.

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Said no Umar said, after becoming Muslim, I

00:34:52 --> 00:34:54

did not rejoice on anything as much as

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the prophet saying this to me.

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Right? So this is

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is a good thing. And if you're gonna

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ask anyone to make dua, ask people of

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of righteousness, of good to make dua for

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one. You should always ask your parents to

00:35:07 --> 00:35:10

make dua for you. You should always ask

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elders. They say

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2 practical thing. If you meet someone learned,

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especially, you know, learned or someone righteous,

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always ask them to make dua for you.

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Just practically. Anyone who's older,

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even if they're grumpy, a lot of old

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people are grumpy. Like, grumpiness does not discount.

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Like, you go to the masjid, there's some

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of this old auntie who's telling everybody off.

00:35:30 --> 00:35:32

Why are you doing this? But,

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she, you know, she seemed like a righteous

00:35:34 --> 00:35:36

but grumpy lady. Just ask her to make

00:35:36 --> 00:35:37

dua for

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you. Very low chance that she'll make dua

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

against you. Even if she does, it won't

00:35:41 --> 00:35:42

hurt you. Right?

00:35:43 --> 00:35:46

But just ask anyone of knowledge or righteousness

00:35:46 --> 00:35:47

to make dua for you. It's a it's

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a good investment. So it's very simple investment.

00:35:50 --> 00:35:53

Also, the other thing to ask someone of

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of knowledge is to ask them for some

00:35:55 --> 00:35:56

advice.

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You don't have to act on everything people

00:35:59 --> 00:35:59

say.

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Right? But you're inspired by their advice.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:13

So that it may be that Allah opens

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for 1 the door of obeyed obeying him

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and serving

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him again.

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Right?

00:36:21 --> 00:36:22

So this is

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the, you know, the the the main keys

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are 2. Gratitude,

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Right? Gratitude

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and purpose.

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Right?

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Because

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if you lose purpose,

00:36:38 --> 00:36:39

you lose intention,

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and

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you're in a state of loss. And it's

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so clear in the Quran.

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Truly you have in the messenger of Allah

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

the most beautiful example for for whoever hopes

00:36:52 --> 00:36:55

for Allah and the last day. And this

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is

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purpose.

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Right?

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In surah and and the end of,

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

Surat Al Kahf?

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So whoever

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hopes for the meeting of their Lord,

00:37:19 --> 00:37:21

then let them do actions that are righteous.

00:37:22 --> 00:37:24

Actions that are righteous are actions, the Ullama

00:37:24 --> 00:37:28

tell us, Righteous actions are good deeds coupled

00:37:28 --> 00:37:29

with good intentions.

00:37:29 --> 00:37:31

That is a righteous action

00:37:32 --> 00:37:33

is

00:37:33 --> 00:37:35

an action that is good in itself

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

accompanied by good intention.

00:37:38 --> 00:37:40

But what is it that drives good intention?

00:37:44 --> 00:37:44

So ever

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

hopes for the meeting of their Lord has

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

a purpose. What are you trying to do?

00:37:49 --> 00:37:50

I'm trying to get to Allah in a

00:37:50 --> 00:37:52

good state. I'm trying to earn the pleasure

00:37:52 --> 00:37:54

of Allah, the closeness of Allah, the love

00:37:54 --> 00:37:57

of Allah. If you have purpose, then

00:37:57 --> 00:37:59

have a good intention

00:37:59 --> 00:38:01

and good actions will arise. But you don't

00:38:01 --> 00:38:02

have purpose, you won't do anything.

00:38:03 --> 00:38:04

Once in a while, you have a flicker.

00:38:04 --> 00:38:06

I should recite Quran.

00:38:06 --> 00:38:07

Why?

00:38:09 --> 00:38:10

I should

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makes no sense.

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And guess what? You won't.

00:38:16 --> 00:38:17

Right?

00:38:17 --> 00:38:21

Right? So we should have a clear sense

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

of purpose, and that will help us drive

00:38:23 --> 00:38:26

our attention. Well, look, The next one is

00:38:26 --> 00:38:29

quite brief, so we'll just look at it.

00:38:29 --> 00:38:30

The 5th trait

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is losing the sweetness of obedience, and this

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is very

00:38:34 --> 00:38:35

similarly related.

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Right? It's losing the sweetness of obedience.

00:38:43 --> 00:38:46

And is to obey yet not find

00:38:46 --> 00:38:50

the sweetness of obedience, the the pleasure of

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obedience.

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And this inevitably happens.

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

1, because, you know, initially, there's this burst

00:38:59 --> 00:39:00

of enthusiasm

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and it's novel. And people like novel things,

00:39:05 --> 00:39:06

but then it becomes a routine.

00:39:07 --> 00:39:09

So one is because you lost intention, so

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

it's related to the one before. You lost

00:39:11 --> 00:39:13

intention, and you stop being grateful.

00:39:13 --> 00:39:15

Before, you're so amazed. Oh my god. I

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

got to I managed to to to to

00:39:17 --> 00:39:20

do whatever. Oh, so so how do you

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

like you know, like, you have childlike amazement

00:39:22 --> 00:39:25

when you start getting serious about things. And

00:39:25 --> 00:39:26

then you're like, whatever.

00:39:27 --> 00:39:28

So even if you get up and you're

00:39:28 --> 00:39:31

like, whatever. Right? So you lost

00:39:31 --> 00:39:32

the purpose.

00:39:33 --> 00:39:36

Number 1, you lost your intention. But also

00:39:36 --> 00:39:39

sometimes Allah takes it away from you. Why?

00:39:39 --> 00:39:40

To

00:39:40 --> 00:39:41

test

00:39:41 --> 00:39:42

you.

00:39:43 --> 00:39:44

In some traditions, they refer to this as

00:39:44 --> 00:39:46

the dark night of the soul.

00:39:48 --> 00:39:51

Right? Allah, from the mercy of Allah, is

00:39:51 --> 00:39:53

generally the initial

00:39:53 --> 00:39:55

experience of people who turn to Allah is

00:39:55 --> 00:39:56

bust,

00:39:57 --> 00:39:57

is expansiveness.

00:39:59 --> 00:40:00

Right?

00:40:03 --> 00:40:05

But you you you find pleasure in it,

00:40:05 --> 00:40:07

joy in it, but then Allah, at some

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

point, may take that away. Why?

00:40:10 --> 00:40:13

Are you worshiping him for the buzz

00:40:14 --> 00:40:16

or you worshiping him for him?

00:40:19 --> 00:40:19

Right?

00:40:21 --> 00:40:21

Right?

00:40:25 --> 00:40:25

And

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and that's where and sometimes one will find

00:40:29 --> 00:40:30

it. You stand up to pray, and you

00:40:30 --> 00:40:31

feel

00:40:33 --> 00:40:34

like, you don't feel it.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:37

But it's not about the feeling.

00:40:38 --> 00:40:38

Right?

00:40:39 --> 00:40:40

Right?

00:40:40 --> 00:40:41

It's about

00:40:42 --> 00:40:42

Allah.

00:40:46 --> 00:40:48

So sometimes there's there's a test element in

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

it, but also inwardly,

00:40:51 --> 00:40:52

it happens because

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Because your acts of obedience become

00:41:01 --> 00:41:01

admixed

00:41:01 --> 00:41:03

with showing off,

00:41:03 --> 00:41:05

with acting for other than Allah. That's why

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

it's he keeps this one quite brief because

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

related to Yahweh. You stop having intention.

00:41:10 --> 00:41:13

Or your intention start getting mixed up with

00:41:13 --> 00:41:13

other motives.

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

Before you're just doing it, I need to

00:41:16 --> 00:41:18

you know, or even in your service,

00:41:18 --> 00:41:20

you're helping in the masjid etcetera. Initially,

00:41:21 --> 00:41:22

you really you really want to do something

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

pleasing to Allah. But now,

00:41:25 --> 00:41:27

you know, and you gave that one, you

00:41:27 --> 00:41:30

know, that one announcement and you're like, oh,

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

Allah, please make this, you know, make me

00:41:32 --> 00:41:34

not show off or this, that. But now

00:41:34 --> 00:41:35

you're like,

00:41:36 --> 00:41:37

I can do this.

00:41:38 --> 00:41:38

Right?

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

And then you you learn how to impress

00:41:41 --> 00:41:43

people by it And this and that. And

00:41:43 --> 00:41:44

what happens?

00:41:45 --> 00:41:46

Insincerity

00:41:46 --> 00:41:48

creeps in. And if insincere

00:41:48 --> 00:41:51

and you won't find benefit in something that

00:41:51 --> 00:41:51

is insincere.

00:41:56 --> 00:41:58

Or because of the lack of sincerity

00:41:59 --> 00:41:59

in it,

00:42:01 --> 00:42:02

you stop making the intention.

00:42:04 --> 00:42:04

K?

00:42:10 --> 00:42:11

Or by leaving

00:42:11 --> 00:42:14

one of the sunnahs related to it.

00:42:15 --> 00:42:16

Because the sunnahs

00:42:16 --> 00:42:17

safeguard

00:42:17 --> 00:42:18

sincerity.

00:42:19 --> 00:42:20

Because what is the sunnah?

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

The sunnah is the embodiment of what it

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

means to be pleasing to Allah.

00:42:25 --> 00:42:28

And adherence to the sunnah genuinely

00:42:29 --> 00:42:30

expresses

00:42:30 --> 00:42:32

being pleasing to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

00:42:35 --> 00:42:38

Of course, there's outward sunnah and inward sunnah

00:42:38 --> 00:42:39

is related to something.

00:42:41 --> 00:42:42

So how does one treat it?

00:42:42 --> 00:42:43

He says

00:42:47 --> 00:42:50

The cure for this losing sweetness of obedience

00:42:51 --> 00:42:52

is to demand

00:42:53 --> 00:42:53

sincerity

00:42:56 --> 00:42:57

from oneself.

00:42:58 --> 00:42:59

How?

00:42:59 --> 00:43:00

By

00:43:04 --> 00:43:07

The prophet said the smart person is the

00:43:07 --> 00:43:09

one who takes themselves to account

00:43:10 --> 00:43:11

and who acts for what comes after this

00:43:11 --> 00:43:13

life. They have purpose.

00:43:14 --> 00:43:14

So

00:43:15 --> 00:43:15

every night,

00:43:16 --> 00:43:19

one should look back over one's day. What

00:43:19 --> 00:43:20

did I do today?

00:43:21 --> 00:43:23

Whoever anything of the good, thank Allah Subhanahu

00:43:23 --> 00:43:26

Wa Ta'ala for it. Anything that you didn't

00:43:26 --> 00:43:27

do

00:43:27 --> 00:43:29

or you did with insufficient

00:43:30 --> 00:43:32

excellence or insufficient sincerity,

00:43:32 --> 00:43:36

seek Allah's forgiveness for it. Ask Allah to

00:43:36 --> 00:43:37

help you change

00:43:38 --> 00:43:39

it. Right?

00:43:40 --> 00:43:42

Weekly, monthly, you should look back at what

00:43:42 --> 00:43:44

what's going on in my life?

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

Right? And ask Allah for change.

00:43:48 --> 00:43:49

Right? And then take the means.

00:43:51 --> 00:43:53

That's number 1. It's a demand

00:43:53 --> 00:43:55

sincerity for oneself. Secondly,

00:43:59 --> 00:44:02

and to hold oneself to the sunnah in

00:44:02 --> 00:44:03

one's actions.

00:44:04 --> 00:44:05

Right? Particularly,

00:44:05 --> 00:44:06

when you don't feel it.

00:44:07 --> 00:44:09

Right? Particularly, when you don't feel it. You're

00:44:09 --> 00:44:11

like, whatever. Let me just get it over

00:44:11 --> 00:44:12

with. No.

00:44:13 --> 00:44:15

Hold yourself as best you can to the

00:44:15 --> 00:44:15

sunnah.

00:44:16 --> 00:44:16

Right?

00:44:18 --> 00:44:20

1 is the one of the one of

00:44:20 --> 00:44:21

the prophetic

00:44:22 --> 00:44:22

criteria

00:44:23 --> 00:44:26

for being someone who adheres to the sunnah

00:44:26 --> 00:44:26

is

00:44:27 --> 00:44:27

that

00:44:28 --> 00:44:29

even when one is

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

feeling lazy,

00:44:32 --> 00:44:34

right, one feels lack of resolve,

00:44:35 --> 00:44:36

then one's fatra

00:44:37 --> 00:44:38

is to the sunnah.

00:44:39 --> 00:44:40

Right? That even when one feels

00:44:41 --> 00:44:42

feeling tired,

00:44:43 --> 00:44:46

you know, the minimum standard is the basic

00:44:46 --> 00:44:46

sunnah.

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

Right? So you just wanna pray isha and

00:44:49 --> 00:44:50

go to sleep. So you say, well, I'll

00:44:50 --> 00:44:52

pray isha. I'll do it properly, but I

00:44:52 --> 00:44:53

won't do it long. So you leave some

00:44:53 --> 00:44:55

of the recommended actions, but you stick to

00:44:55 --> 00:44:56

the emphasized sunnah.

00:44:57 --> 00:44:58

I'll do my emphasized sunnah,

00:44:59 --> 00:45:01

and I won't compromise on that.

00:45:02 --> 00:45:04

And you ask Allah for forgiveness for the

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

extra that you weren't able to do.

00:45:06 --> 00:45:09

Right? But to adhere at least to the

00:45:10 --> 00:45:13

emphasized sunnah even when you don't feel it.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:14

And thirdly,

00:45:22 --> 00:45:23

is to rectify

00:45:24 --> 00:45:27

the foundations of one's affairs so that the

00:45:27 --> 00:45:29

endings are made sound. What are the beginnings

00:45:29 --> 00:45:30

of one's affairs?

00:45:32 --> 00:45:34

It's purpose and intention.

00:45:34 --> 00:45:35

What are you what are you doing in

00:45:35 --> 00:45:39

life? That's the basic question. Right? That underlies

00:45:39 --> 00:45:40

all inter

00:45:42 --> 00:45:43

Where are you headed?

00:45:44 --> 00:45:46

If you don't know you don't have for

00:45:46 --> 00:45:48

yourself a clear answer to that, then everything

00:45:48 --> 00:45:49

else is trouble

00:45:49 --> 00:45:51

because you're confused.

00:45:51 --> 00:45:53

Right? So if you're confused about what you're

00:45:53 --> 00:45:54

doing in life,

00:45:54 --> 00:45:57

then confusion is gonna creep in into your

00:45:57 --> 00:45:57

choices.

00:45:58 --> 00:45:59

K? So

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

the foundation is

00:46:04 --> 00:46:05

have have clear purpose,

00:46:07 --> 00:46:09

translated into clear intention.

00:46:12 --> 00:46:14

Action that is driven by 2

00:46:15 --> 00:46:16

prophetic qualities.

00:46:19 --> 00:46:20

Should I not be a servant

00:46:20 --> 00:46:22

who is truly gratitude? That is the prophet

00:46:22 --> 00:46:25

sallallahu alaihi sallam's expression of why he did

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

things. Should I not be a servant

00:46:27 --> 00:46:28

who is truly

00:46:28 --> 00:46:28

grateful?

00:46:31 --> 00:46:32

So those are,

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you know, some of the

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qualities of how.

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And

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the purpose isn't the sweetness.

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Right? One of the great scholars

00:46:43 --> 00:46:45

wrote a treatise called,

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Things that are not

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of consideration.

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And one of them is

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the sweetness of of worship.

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If you find it great, you don't,

00:47:03 --> 00:47:04

that's not why you worship.

00:47:06 --> 00:47:07

Right?

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

As the poet said,

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Being spiritually

00:47:15 --> 00:47:16

expansive or spiritually

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constricted,

00:47:18 --> 00:47:20

I have I am not in any way

00:47:20 --> 00:47:21

limited by these.

00:47:24 --> 00:47:24

Why? Because

00:47:26 --> 00:47:28

as long as you are seeking Allah. What

00:47:28 --> 00:47:29

what what are you doing in life? I'm

00:47:29 --> 00:47:31

seeking Allah. What are you doing in this

00:47:31 --> 00:47:32

action?

00:47:32 --> 00:47:33

I'm trying to do my action in a

00:47:33 --> 00:47:35

way that's pleasing to Allah.

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

Like I'm seeking Allah in my action. My

00:47:38 --> 00:47:40

purpose in life is to seek Allah.

00:47:41 --> 00:47:44

My my intention in this specific act is

00:47:44 --> 00:47:45

to seek the pleasure of Allah. How am

00:47:45 --> 00:47:46

I doing the action?

00:47:47 --> 00:47:49

In a manner pleasing to Allah.

00:47:49 --> 00:47:51

Right? In accordance with

00:47:51 --> 00:47:52

the guidance

00:47:52 --> 00:47:54

that Allah has given with respect to the

00:47:54 --> 00:47:56

limits, trying to adhere to the sunnah in

00:47:56 --> 00:47:59

it. If you're doing that, then you're in

00:47:59 --> 00:47:59

bliss.

00:48:00 --> 00:48:02

Whether you feel it or not, doesn't matter.

00:48:04 --> 00:48:05

Right? So

00:48:05 --> 00:48:07

how you feel about it doesn't really matter.

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

It's like someone asked Bob Dylan on a

00:48:09 --> 00:48:12

Monday morning, hope you had a good weekend.

00:48:12 --> 00:48:13

Said I had better things to do.

00:48:14 --> 00:48:16

Right? It doesn't matter. Right?

00:48:17 --> 00:48:19

The one who really wants to get

00:48:19 --> 00:48:21

to the one they love, whether it's raining

00:48:21 --> 00:48:23

or not, doesn't matter because they're not worried

00:48:23 --> 00:48:24

about the rain.

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

You know? I need to go visit.

00:48:28 --> 00:48:29

Zubeir leaves home because,

00:48:30 --> 00:48:31

you know, he's now finally

00:48:32 --> 00:48:33

you know? They've had their.

00:48:34 --> 00:48:36

So Zubay is married to Zubaydah. He's headed

00:48:36 --> 00:48:38

to go go see Zubaydah. Does he really

00:48:38 --> 00:48:40

care that it's raining or not?

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

Well, he will say, Zubaydah, honey,

00:48:44 --> 00:48:45

know I'm gonna visit you, but there's a

00:48:45 --> 00:48:47

little bit of rain. I don't like the

00:48:47 --> 00:48:48

rain, so I'm not gonna visit you today.

00:48:49 --> 00:48:51

Does that make is that love? No. If

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

you love, you don't really care.

00:48:54 --> 00:48:55

Right? There's a traffic jam.

00:48:56 --> 00:48:58

Deal with it. Right? Because I am

00:49:00 --> 00:49:02

yeah. And Allah deserves even better.

00:49:04 --> 00:49:06

And those who believe are more intense

00:49:06 --> 00:49:08

in their love of Allah.

00:49:09 --> 00:49:10

So we ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to

00:49:10 --> 00:49:11

grant us

00:49:12 --> 00:49:13

purpose and resolve and clarity

00:49:14 --> 00:49:14

in

00:49:16 --> 00:49:17

all that we do.

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