Faaik Gamieldien – The rights of women that have been IGNORED by the Ulema
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Muhammad
Abu
while I'm not here, there was we skipped one holiday, Women's Day.
Very importantly,
I'm sure you many men appreciate your wife and you should have
missed I know we give them all the days, but one special day.
So today I will talk about
those things, which
those rights of women, which the ornament don't speak,
and
something which I was fine with myself about a week ago, which I
also want to talk about,
and all these things that we don't talk about men in particular,
Is that all these that I want to mention to you today are also not
in other words, you've neglected these Sunnah of the Rabi ALA
and this Banshee is has got the responsibility, Alhamdulillah, to
speak about those very Essential every sunnah is equal to the other
sun.
The first sun I want to speak about
is
Al Mahar and mahatj and Al Mahad and Mahajan.
Now the reason that we are in the situation we are is because we
come from a place the Far East. Most of us are from the Far East,
and the other half of us within the Pakistan continent,
where they have their own rules and regulations, which somehow
diminishes the rights of women in Islam, and which gives all of
Islam and all of Muslims are bad name because they say Muslims can
do what their women would. Really can do that because you say that's
it, and then she must take her back, and she must walk away, and
it's sounds really, really bad for us, and yet that is not how it
should be. How can Allah allow that? Allah doesn't allow How can
the Prophet? Prophet
doesn't allow it. Is there not a balance? There is a balance
between the rights of men and the rights of women. It cannot be that
men have more rights than women, although this is what we are told
and driven down our thirst, especially the thrills of young
men already married. You know, we have this attitude of, you know,
we tell our sons you are, you are the the other wife of the house,
Sultan of the house. And so you have this, you you can do this,
and you can do that, and you can do that. And to the wife will say,
you must be patient, my darling,
my darling, must be patient. Remember, your husband is this and
this and this towards you. That is not the case. The case is that
there is not my quality that I foist upon you. It's the quality
which Islam foist upon all of us.
And women has a special place
in the actors of Islam, very special place.
We know that there's one surah of the Quran,
which is named after
Abu Asmaa, not even in the Bible or the Torah,
a surah of their books
named in one of their women. So what is? What is ascabi less than
it? What is this mascari that we talk about? This mascara, nice,
young. It started off, it maybe 25 cents, then five grand, then 75
cents, and so forth and so on. Those, those are what people pay,
if you will, need to get five grand. Favorite 500 was above
one. So
what does this Sharia say about this? Let's look at the history of
Muhammad. Saw a little bit about Muhammad. Saw
how much did the profit pay in.
Those days, what was his mahari should
be important to know this. So the mother of the
is what he gave to all his wives.
Was 101,550
grams of silver,
because today's the price is different. 1550
grams of silver.
When I calculated somebody's mother
in 2019
it came to 12,303
12,300
sounds like
12,301
Rand. 12,301
12,301
I've been in very few niqabs where the husband gives his wife 12,000
there to take out the 300
so obviously we have been shirking the Sunnah of Muhammad Sallallahu.
Have not been following the Sunnah of Muhammad Sallallahu, and
because you haven't followed the Sunnah of Hamas assalamu, men have
taken advantage of women. And you will tell me by children, they are
poor men. They can't afford 12,000
okay,
but this whole you have the whole life for that woman to pay off
that 12,000
you don't have to have it at the day where you can marry, but you
should make
the near now,
those of you didn't give your wife 12,000 should go home and say, I
want to complete my sunnah
with you concerning my Maha that I gave you,
which for me, I get 25k
so I also have a debt suit to pay. In terms of the suit,
in the time of Omar ibn haqqab,
the city of Medina was one of the richest cities in the world.
They're
the biggest basement of the biggest bank in the world at the
time,
and really they still find out where all that money came from. It
was all in gold and silver,
and one day all are and of course, when that happens, people's
learning, learning to up. They spend more,
and people ask more. There's wages and a lot of other things. So
Allah, so the women at the time in Madina, they asked for lots of
lots of dowry.
And one day, one Friday, Allah has got to remember. And he said to
the people,
I'm going to
put
a damper or limit as to how much women can ask as they must come as
they die. And he gave an amount.
He gave an amount. He
of not more than 14 400 silver coins. So the people which use
Khalifa, he said, This is my law. Now they onwards. Women cannot ask
for more than 400 silver coins as Gaudi.
So an old lady was waiting for him at the door of the Rajit,
and the old lady said to Amma, namaz. Now he was the he was the
president
of a vast part of the world. At that time, they conquered vast
sections of the world in the time of Allah. They said, if Allah had
lived another 10 years, the whole world would have been Muslim, and
all the lands would have been Muslim lands.
So that was our
so the old lady said to Hamad,
I would like to
correct you
on the statement you made about women, only allowing, allowing, to
allow be allowed to ask for 400
silver coins. He
says, it's a surah in the Quran, because with Omar, you can't come
with anything else.
Allah said, this lady, old lady said, yeah, there's a surah.
There's a verse in the hood of Quran.
Surah four which is Suratul Nisa, verse 20,
Allah, she says to him, Allah's father says to us,
to men, if you intend to replace a wife by another, so you married to
a woman, allowing you want to replace her.
I'm adding another moment.
Allah says, The woman says to you, and you Allah say, Allah says to
Allah, and Allah says, if you had given to that first wife,
Pinta, means a.
A great amount, a very big amount, of dowry.
Allah says, don't take one cent back from them.
Now,
your husband,
okay, so you've given,
you've given her the money. Allah subhanahu says, don't take it
back.
But now, where does it say there should be a limit of 400
I'm asking the question to the lady Allah didn't ask the
question.
The way she interpreted this verse of the Quran was it means that you
can give your wife kintaran,
maybe mountains of dowry, mountains, which means you can ask
for that. You can't stop it. Allah Swaggart says the woman can ask
for any amount of money. That's what the Quran says. Then parran
So you can't say only 400
so the the the
the equalness of women and men, even women, I think, have more
rights than we have actually,
was practiced in the time of the Prophet. And who was it that
insisted on the practice? It was the women themselves, because the
women were knowledgeable. Any woman, there were women who were
knowledgeable. That's number one. Number two,
the second right
of women, which men don't implement, which the Ulama don't
speak to us about? Which men would, I think, if they were given
the choice, also wouldn't speak about,
but it is part of our faith, part about it, and that is, I said, the
Mahar mascovi, the dowry. There are two dowries in Islam,
two dowry.
The first dowry is the dowry that you pay at the time of nikkah and
how many? What did I say? What is? What is the dowry? The Muslim
forgive minimum dowry, or the prophetic dowry, 12,310
alright. So if you unfulfill the Sunnah
on the daily, you say, my wife, dowry is 12,310
but of course, you must recalculate it.
Silver has gone up quite a bit.
Then
there is another die. Another must come,
and that is called the delayed die.
Now, if we don't speak about this, we'd never know there's something
called a delayed dowry.
A delayed dowry is a dowry which a woman can ask.
Well, which should be, in fact, in every marriage contract, you know,
people say, what is the marriage contract? This is one of the
clauses that will safeguard your daughter in a marriage contract.
Those of you who have daughters sisters,
you have to keep this in mind and remember this is not from me, not
from my daughters. Luckily they
were married.
Luckily they were married. We should make our women aware that
they can ask for a dowry, a muscari to be paid upon divorce or
upon death.
Now that don't have many
of these agreements between
husbands and wives.
When I come to this,
I say to him, first, that if you divorce your wife,
which could be my daughter or somebody else's daughter,
what where must she go? What must she do? What is her protection?
Even swear by the morality is going to look after, look after
and look after her.
But in eight out of 10 times, he doesn't do that, especially when
they are children. So to save God women, what does Sharia say? She
can ask for a certain amount of money to be paid to her if he
divorces her and it's his fault.
This could be any amount of million, 2 million, 3 million, 4
million, 1 million.
So many men look at me. Give
us so much money of divorce.
Because
what is that? What happens today? Is
this a divorce? Do.
The husband says to his wife, after the I'm afraid, you know,
you'll have to go back to your mother and your father and take
the baby with you and the daddy bag and whatever clothes you have
in your wardrobe, and off you're good. She must not go to the court
to get a maintenance. Whereas,
if this is made a rule in your contract. It's a road in your
contract. So I always ask the main you know, why don't you underpay
this if you divorce it? So you're really thinking now, before you
marry me, like you may divorce, that's
why you're getting a shot. There's a girl from Mitchells just
mentioning it because she was hungry girl, and I explained this
to her, and I said to her husband, I said to what do you you know,
this is a sunnah. What do you want to ask of your husband when he
dies
and when the woman dies, then money must still be paid into a
estate and divided amongst the heirs. Alright? So
he said, Yeah, I give it a million bag. I said, but you never be able
to afford it.
He said, but I never intend to divorce her,
so I'm never going to pay
that bill. It's a
balance. So this also puts a damper on the man who just willy
nilly, wants to marry a second wife, a third wife, a fourth wife,
and he gets away with murder.
This, remember, this is for your daughters, already married or not
yet married.
This is a contract which is not only
you don't you can sign this contract after your medicals, like
your wife. She's sitting inside. She comes and says, I want
my protection or a sum of money when you die,
which is excluding. I want it that she gets out of that,
out of you,
so you can agree with it, and I'll give you the house.
And I always say to me, that is the best thing you could do,
because that will mean that she will have a house until she dies.
And we know this and that, and you know, house must be sold, and how
could daddy do this? And also, the other thing is, there are good men
who want to leave the houses to their wives, but they can't do
that.
Sharia allows you to do that or anything else for that matter,
and those things are paid out first in an estate, whatever you
read behind.
So these women here in this audience
that now knows about these Islamic principles doesn't come if the
court say this is here. Well, you know the law says that. You know
there's a new law now, and that law says you must do this. No, no,
no, no, we do it because it is the rule of Islam.
And during the course of the marriage, during the marriage,
the wife has the right to reduce the amounts that you must get
after his death, and she must get many divorces, or she says, I like
to be such a good husband. Don't think about
your children. I will just take my wallet. Which is such a good
husband.
The third one is
that we never speak about.
Ever ever speak
about, does the woman, the wife and the right of divorce, or
rather the power of
divorce, the power of divorce and the right of divorce. The right of
divorce is the right of the husband. Can you ever be taken
away from him? You can do it anytime with
a consequences.
And then there is something called the power of divorce. What is it?
It's called in Arabic,
and it is, there's no there's no disagreement among the Madame on
this point. You can't say while I'm a Shah,
while I'm a Hanafi, while I'm at this while I'm a Salafi.
All the scholars and all the Madame agree on
what is tabuit. You write in your contract that I will have
what he says. I give to you my wife, I give to you my wife, the
power to pronounce divorce upon yourself. She.
You ever know that even though that your wife could divorce you
if you gave her that power,
Islam gives you that right, we've taken it away from her. Of
course, you can put conditions. You can say, I will, I will give
you this tamidutallah If
your brother or your sister or your father or your mother, one of
them agree
for you to give me this? Did you give me the right or the power to
divorce you? Right? So these are all because, you know, today,
we live in a very difficult world.
We live in a world where there are
terrible men in this world. They beautiful men in this world. They
are very good men in this world.
But they also men will just say, Well, you know,
for no real reason,
they will withhold the Talaq from the wife. So
the woman has to go to sit at some organizations in front of a lot of
other people,
and she sometimes sit there for six months, five months, waiting
for Rafa.
Meanwhile, it is a right to pronounce divorce upon herself, if
it is written in a constitution, or if it is verbally given to her
by her husband,
in front of witness, maybe in front of her parents. So parents
must ask for these things. You have to if you really love your
daughter, and if that man really loves your daughter, then you
would not quirk or put his faith to sell. Think about
telling this is not part of this thing, but it's a Supreme Court
that put on him with a better choice. Again, we can man in
community property. Shane speak after house after house, after
car, after money off everything. And what will she say?
Sorry, brother, your divorce. May I want all this. This is part of
the division of the property, which is the rule of this country.
Kufa, the rule is placed upon us.
So what are we going to tell Allah that we have followed that rule
and abandoned this rule?
I don't blame you.
All right,
the last issue I want to talk about,
shall I blame my time?
And by the way, you all look so sad. This is not bad news. This is
good news. It's about your deen, it's good. You should be sitting
there smiling and say, Alhamdulillah, now we know the
truth,
and you should go home. Don't iron from your wife, because you have,
you have daughters. One day you will have to tell you the your the
people are going to marry your daughters. You have to give them
all these messages. Alright?
So so the last one I want to I was at the Janaza last
week. Janaza,
maybe you should come to the masjid for lectures, even also for
come to Jonah. We are even his brother.
And the Jana was held act. I'm not going to mention any name. It was
held at Toronto.
Lot of people. I haven't
seen so many people, so
guys are coming closer to the parks, quite a way back the back
of the Majid, as I trust. By the back of the Majid, I heard people
making liquor loud. So
I thought, well, I know the budget. I'm going to make salary
now, but it's just cool. I'm
looking into this area between the Majid and the horse. There
was a ring of Ben standing at some women also, and in the middle was
the cartel.
And they were not.
So I thought, said to myself, just go into the magic.
The Majid was maybe 20 people in the Majid.
So
I sat in, I said to myself,
fayek, if you're going to say anything about that gathering
outside there, somebody would kill
you. So
don't think
for now. But I said, Ya Allah,
there's something guiding me as to something I could say from the
Sunnah Muhammad.
Then I know these people don't practice. I haven't practiced for
a long part of my life. My father and his father never
practiced. But whether,
whoever did not practice, if it is a sunnah of the Prophet, it will
remain a sun of the Prophet.
So after the Salah was finished.
Was sending me an imam.
The Nima gave me the
I
said to my mom,
I just, I
want to say three words.
So I said,
I said, I would like to speak to you today about salatul janai.
I didn't, I didn't want to start by the back end. I said, I want to
talk to you about
salatul. I said, salatul janai is divided into two parts.
Salatul janai divided into
the first part is the salah.
The Salah is only for
who do
we make salah? We make Salah in whatever context we make it in.
It's always for Allah Allahu, that is
the salah that's
that is the one part,
and that consists of the fourth tag be rat the fourth takbir,
and the other part of the salatul Jada is the dua upon the person
who had passed away.
Dua to the person who has passed away.
And I said, if you look at that dua,
then we must make for the person passed away,
the whole of the Salah. We make to Allah. Every before, every single
tap being we make dua,
not three, not two, not one. Before, every tag means Allah.
What do
we do? We do? What do we read first after the first one, Al
Fatiha and what is al Fatiha dua,
the second Takbir
is what this? What is the first word of the second takbir, Allahu.
What does Allah? Ummah mean? Oh, Allah. Who are you speaking to?
Speaking to Allah. Allah, Muhammad,
number three is fun.
Allah,
for you to make dua on your brother.
There are many to make.
Must be for him in particular,
because very important dua for him. Because if Allah SWT says all
the DUA that everyone didn't mix in the Salah, and after the third
that Be it, the chances are very good that you will he,
welcome to generation. I And then Allah, before the last time is
also Sure. So after every we say Allahu, Akbar, and then we say
Allah,
and we make Suzu to Allah. There is no Suzu.
So I said, Why is it that we should not make dua after the
Salah of
Jannah?
You may ask me the question, Why Can't We? We can make in the Salah
out of the Salah.
But then I will ask you the question, why is it that in every
rag, every before every bead, there is a DUA?
Why is it that only this Salah is dua from beginning to end?
It is because the Prophet salallahu, sallAllahu did not make
dua after the Salah,
not even once,
not even once. So if you say, Make Salah where, of course, we make
salah, maki Pak, Baki Allah, they don't like dua. Of course, they
don't understand
them. And sell it the food of a alim or a sheik or in a book, we
accept whatever come to us.
And all this, I'm afraid,
including myself, when I was in the time of
when I didn't know better,
all of this is just all
I'm going to say, and I said to them, that is the reason that we
do not make dua after the Salah. It's not about the DUA. It's about
the sun of Muhammad, Salah, Ali, salatu, Salah.
And if you come to qiyama and you stand by the pool of.
Water.
There'll be no other water except that water. And you stand in that
queue, and the sun is so much from you, so much from
you, your brain is boiling. And you want your tight you want to
get to the front as quickly as you can.
And when you get there, and I can you imagine you are standing in a
long queue of maybe a trillion to 20, I don't know how many billion,
millions of people.
So you get there, then
the angel says to the Prophet, oh,
don't give
him water. Prophet, don't give him water. It's part of one of my
ummah. God, man, I recognize the space is part of my own love.
You don't know
what they did, how they changed your deen after you left the
dunya,
we know, and this is one of
them.
What does the Prophet say? Go, go. Go.
So this is not just about the dua or the mascari or
this is all about
the greatest man that Allah SWT.
What are these intersession, lots of us will not go to church.
We will say in Thunder, Bala Allah will say, you need one more
forgive.
Just one more good deed. Just one more good deed.
The prophet comes and he says, Ya Allah, have mercy. Why?
Why did why does the Prophet say that?
Because you are mindful, mindful. These are, these are the easy
issues. These are not difficult issues, things not difficult. It's
enough. And
the Prophet SAW said,
three minutes over. How come Time goes so slowly when I
Prophet says,
the person with one atom of
kibach,
what is the worst keeper, the worst keeper we will give now to
them. What is the worst keeper for a Muslim to commit,
to do this, very nice clothes, to drive, whatever he drives. Have a
beautiful wife,
to be handsome
is
that keyboard? I like to write a nice candle. I like to wear nice
clothes and I should, Prophet said, that is not kibble that is
enjoying the donut.
He said, What is
keyboard? Is
Ram to nurse.
I forgot him to last time anyway, come to me. Prasan, what is
keeping keeper? There something in here,
inside, just this part, not in your pockets, not in your face,
not in your house, not in your children talking you
talking about the
amount
of Money keeper is, what
is the word in English? Anybody?
Arrogance is another word. But the word is arrogance, arrogant
arrogance,
arrogant property. What is arrogance to look down upon other
people?
He's from that country, he's from that country, he's from
that country. I
people who would send a Muslim who knocks on their door or they
would not give him
anything, don't give him anything.
You
and what is the other one
that
will bring you away?
If you have an atom of these two things, an atom, you will know the
journal.
Even remember times if you got this keyword in your heart.
Prophecy.
Who is keeping this on? What action is keeper? You will not
enter paradise. What is keyboard? First one is
the second one is
when you hear the truth
and you don't accept it.
I'm not gonna I my father's made to I might. I like to make do
after the cup. I like to do this. I like to make the ticket. I like
to do that
with the profit in
people ask me, why come to this match? People
ask me,
Why do I do that much after? All you know, you gotta have this
qualification, that qualification, that qualification
you come to this
three things,
three things that come to this,
this Masjid was built by the Imam of this Masjid.
There are not many massages in Ketan, where the Imam himself
built Majid. And I have met people who saw how he struggled to not by
collecting money, by actually putting the
bricks in the see that the cement
is the way. Allah say about a man who voted say, Come Allah?
But Allah was a whole patient.
Allah will go for him.
May Allah, SWT
number two,
this is a masjid, and I go around to lots of person. Maybe I haven't
seen it for two weeks. I go
around.
This is the only Masjid in which you can talk about the Sunnah of
the nadisab
and about the reader. People practiced practice,
all those beautiful magic did the worst, all
those beautiful matches you go to.
It's a show
not to teach people something.
They blare on and blare on and blare on about this and about
that, but there's no teaching.
And number three is
the people of this Masjid who come to this Majin are all humble
people.
We don't have to be here, simple people
from all over the
world to come here may Allah SWT,
so a chef says, Put your hand in your pocket.
This is really a masjid for which you must put your hand you
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