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Eight minutes after 11 instead of Molly como Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh, Elena satin and Omar haben Welcome to Al mushrif on radio Sam international it is Thursday morning and inshallah Aziz in our program, we are going to be speaking to Brother Idris, some Isa. Now the topics that we tend to look at in some houses in our program. This morning, I have few very interesting issues. And I'd like your contribution to these issues as well. Because this is where it all comes from. And

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the more you contribute, the more we have a fruitful discussion, the SMS number 0731738461. And also my Twitter handle at zoom just at Zed u m, j, s, and you can call in as well, double 18541548 subjects will be speaking about today was Idris in Shanghai as he is number one, our obsession with celebrities, people who are known as celebrities who are popularized in newspapers, magazines, and the like, and why do we adore them so much? Why do we admire them so much? Why do we use them and take them as role models or as examples? And as leaders in our lives, we're going to take a look at that. Secondly, we are going to look at women's forums and community projects. Almost every town has

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woman's forums. Almost every town has people who are doing some sort or the other of community projects. And we're going to take a look at these different women's forums and community projects. The question is how do we make them successful? And more importantly, how do we do sustainable work with them you have the issues in situations when these woman's problems and community projects

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you know, they start off with a lot of enthusiasm and then very soon after they fizzle away. So we're going to now ask it is my channel as is how do we do sustainable work with me and then time?

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time permitting in Tallahassee as we look at the third topic, and that is supporting your school and madrasa going child, the challenges that you may face ideas for other parents as well. And also importantly, dealing with teachers dealing with sports events, dealing with bullies, even all those different types of things. So that's all coming up on our program this morning. We'll be joined by me Sunday night just after this break. Stay tuned for machinery from lady slam International.

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16 minutes after 11 Welcome back to an unreleased time international my guest inshallah has is his brother Idris camisa. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah warahmatullahi wabarakatuh walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. My most beloved Mawlana from Amarillo, how are you? Very, very well Assemblyman these way how you keeping this morning very, very well. And before I forget, there's been a request and now they sit on this picture and I put some this picture over the air. The days an invitation, I'm doing a workshop next week is sanditon. And they said, I must ask you to join me right? It's there on Saturday. The first is between quarter three and six o'clock. It's, it's called

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equip yourself now creating harmony in the home challenges of parenting unleashing your child's potential so it is this on the first of March, and the contact number is monitored, please take this down because they want you to come and join me right? It's always 295287860 wait 29528786 and on the next day, there is a program for madressa teachers between 930 and 1230 and the same contact numbers send it in I feel so blessed. I've been to Alabama but I've never been descended into a program and I want you to be there inshallah, inshallah We will definitely say make it for the program. Just let you know it is by Stevenson is also one of my hometowns, because I did my entire high schooling in

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A few interesting topics today. One is our obsession with celebrities. When you speak about celebrities, people who have been made popular on the news and in magazines and things like that, and why are we so obsessed with celebrities? Why do we take them as our examples, role models, leaders? Why do we become upset? When celebrities? You know, they go through the times in their lives and even when they lose their lives? Why do we Why do we become upset about that? And you know, why do we become involved mudhole mourning process. Like for example, in December, there was around the time that Nelson Mandela died and there was a TV actor who also lost his life in a motor

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accident and there was huge condolences from from Muslim quarters and from Muslims about it. And in why the question is not being to the football part of it or the permissibility is of consoling Muslims and things like that. But the whole idea general Muslims and non Muslims Is that why are we so obsessed with celebrities? You see Maulana? Firstly, I'm so glad that you're talking about this. There are many, many reasons and I'll share some of those reasons with you. On the one hand is because of your own unexciting life. It is because you have also have a low self esteem. And also I the critical thing that instead of us understanding the beautiful eloquent example Nabis and allowed

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us sell them could there have been a bigger mo a worthy in what a commerce celebrity a person and underlap referred to as come here, a prophet will intervene for us to understand the challenges you went through his life, to look at his steadfastness and the beautiful qualities that he had. Now you find that because of our hearts, I empty, so our hearts are receptive to the other celebrities, what we really do, we participate vicariously in their life. And the point that you make is so beautifully said that the day joy becomes our joy, day sadness, our sadness, and when they die, we feel a sense of loss, because of the emptiness of our own life. And you find the generally speaking,

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I mean, celebrities are fallible people, we tend to have what you call a halo effect. We see one aspect of his life and with a football player, whether is a politician or whatever, you think that this person, if he is so good in what he does, then he's great in everything else that he does. And in fact, you find that you know, because you have this blind faith in a celebrity, if they are any fingers pointed towards him or her about some of his nefarious tendencies with beaten a cloak of darkness or whatever, we say no impossible, it cannot be done. It's almost a attack on you, we are prepared to die for them. And it's the reasons are multifactorial, and this is a point, you know,

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the point is this, that our children especially because they do not have the most to support many of them from home. Many of them do not have role models around them living role models, per se, in terms of the parents, or sometimes even in terms of the teachers, and they are easy prey to these celebrities. In fact, you'll find people fighting, it's almost You know, when you look at a team as a collective celebrity, when the team last john was saying there is a mayor in someone's home, I know fathers and sons getting into a fight. So they're The reasons are many, and the thing is, of course, there is no harm in admiring a person's skill in something, there is no harm, for example,

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admiring a person's eloquence, if he is a politician, there is no harm for example, looking at a particular quality worthy of the highest emulation, but such individuals was the aspects of their life may be worthy of emulation, but to look at them as saintly figures to look at them as celebrate is beyond reproach is blindness on our part, and also is the issue of how the media manipulates people.

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And I remember one of the lectures given by Winona Solomon Mola quite some time back. And one point that he mentions and you know, this stuck with me that what we finding in the media and the newspapers about the wrongs and the things that the celebrities are doing, is just basically spreading

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Seeing on the surface of what is actually happening in their lives. And if you really have to see, you know what depths they have to go through, we wouldn't even want to go near them yet we are affected. And

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our entire lives are glamorized, basically, by the media. And unfortunately, many people blindfolded leeches go and swim behind them. No, no, absolutely what Mala Mala said, you know, Allah bless him, you know, nombre de la, you know, he's always giving such inspiring talks. But the critical thing for me is this, that when celebrities, you know what happens to them, that what we see in the media is what is visible, what is visible, we do not see what they do, we need to be behind the glitterati, behind the cameras as it were. And therefore, in the recent past, there are so many examples, especially from the UK, of people with such powerful public profiles. And now there are so

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many cases, there's so much of aspects of litigation against them regarding pedophile and a whole range of things, right. And I'm not suggesting that every celebrity mystery has these things in his closet. But this is a point the point is this, that we, sadly, we elevate people to a particular position, we venerate them often because that our own lives themselves are uninspiring, we have done nothing for ourselves to make a difference to wider humanity. We have forgotten for me, primarily our purpose. I mean, you know, I was surprised, right? For example, you know, the, some years ago, I went to a particular

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community. And I had with me, a friend I had with me except I had read the use of use of Islam with me in Mozambique, right? He came there because of the floods. And you will not believe it. I'm not saying anything necessarily wrong with this, there was someone who they said to use of Islam, I know your favorite food is

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that a shock of his life. But this is the point you see that much of what used to be Islam on top are generally celebrities, we find that we seem to have an in depth knowledge of the eating habits and in depth knowledge of the sleeping habits, in depth knowledge of a whole range of things, we all most authorities on it and will defend them to the hilt in the public arena wherever we go. And the thing is, is that why don't we have the same knowledge upon who will allow you to sell them? Why don't we have the same knowledge of the Sahaba because we have not animated them, or, for example, these are not part of our conversation. And sadly, you'll find that the Intellivision is such a

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powerful medium today, families as a collective, you know, I remember, I went to someone's place some years ago, and I just, I really went there, just to socially connect to them to tell them that I met the sun in America, and to convey some news. And this family were psychologically prepared for the FA Cup match over there. And I could make out that some of the family members were very upset, you know, my timing is completely wrong. Not that I was going to impose on the time, just two minutes. Now I could make up the hours and one today, you know what I'm saying to you your question of our priorities, we make these things our priorities, we forget, and then all of us have regrets

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afterwards. You know,

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it makes me think, back to the discussion, we had a few weeks back of a sense of belonging, and the sense of acknowledgement, and you know, just looking up a few things. One, one of the singers, Justin Bieber, he calls his followers, beavers, images, coining a phrase out of acquainting a word out of his name, he calls his followers believers, and this is mostly with teens and adolescents. And they feel that sense of acknowledgement and more importantly, a sense of belonging, they belong to the certain type of cult, and perhaps it is that that we are lacking so much. And we need it so much that we we feel that if I'm following the celebrity, I'm following the footsteps and I belong

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to somebody. No, no, that that's so true. And you know, this is the whole point. You know, Funny enough, when you spoke about that I need I just sent you in to speak about this particular singer, right. And you find that they do things, they do things that are rotten, they do things to gain attention, and you caught this kind of hysteria, young people going wild. And I was surprised I learned that more people do a Google search on Justin Bieber than they do on what a coma

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on Jesus Christ, again is an indication of our value systems, you know, and and what happens is these celebrities think they are beyond reproach, they can do whatever they want, and they can, you know, flout the law and, and go on and do so many things and Lady, and you find that it all really, you know, destroyed destroys the moral fiber of humanity because surely these celebrities have a moral imperative. Surely they understand they have this following ID called a, you know, the there was, I read a magazine, it's called the Rolling Stone magazine. And at that time, I think the Richard Branson was the editor, right? The famous Richard Branson, and when he interviewed the

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singer, Mick Jagger from the Rolling Stones, and he asked him a question, he says, Tell me, do your songs have an impact

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on the people, he says my songs, they all go to the hearts and minds of each of the listeners. So they understand the power, they have to manipulate the power they have to ship opinions, the power they have to even cause almost like a mass hysteria. I mean, you know, you find that people just lose, complete, complete complete control of who they are. And we find that these almost a kind of flirtatiousness these are almost a kind of infidelity in, in the mind, with such celebrities, you know,

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very important point this way, because, you know, leading up, it is, in fact, a part of mental illness or a certain

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classification of an obsessive addictive disorder, in which a person just wants to be like a part of the celebrity's life in everything. And this three stages, like what you're speaking about here, there's three stages of it. One is entertainment social way, a person and his friends are the friends would just like to discuss what the celebrity has done, keep up to date with news and things like that. And then you come to the intense personal stage, which is the next level, where a person makes claims like, I consider my celebrity to be my soulmate, and things like that. And then you get the borderline pathological way.

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You know, where where a person would, would go to the extremes just to be like the celebrity. We've been reading over the news in a few different stories. I mean, I don't believe one of the European countries spent over $100,000 on plastic surgery, just to look like just a diva, a lady in in somewhere in China spent hundreds of 1000s of dollars on plastic surgery to let go to look like one of the Hollywood actresses and you know, this is not borderline pathological. No, no, absolutely. In fact, this is you know, when it goes to the obsessive state, it's in any what you're saying is right. It's technological, its impact on the psychology of the mind. It again shows that when you do

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all of this what you are saying that you are useless you are negating yourself, you do not like your identity. In fact, you find that many of the celebrities they have people stalking them you know, in fact people to such a point want to kill them also because they want to own them they said you know, as long as I've got the person my heart, clean anything else, you know,

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24 minutes to 12 Welcome back to America on radio Islam International. And welcome back to my guest brother Idris camisa. It is by we have on the line can we take the caller jsps as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah

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wa Salaam with maternelle mowlana.

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I just I just need to share something because you'll find that in intelligent, healthier and famous person, who was once a symbol of beauty and success, and you know, they can be appearing in newspapers, magazines or television,

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they also

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age and if you witness the aging of these people, renowned for their fame, wealth and beauty is a reminder to us all of the short and insignificance of this life that we are living.

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Let Allah says in Surah

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verse 54, it is allow created you in a state of helpless weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave you weakness and the holy he creates, he creates as he was in etc, with knowledge and power struggle so much.

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People say celebrities also hold a very special place in people's minds, but they fail to realize that one so beautiful and famous person is also going to ultimately, you know, day and age also. And, you know, in one of Hibernia, he has books, where he says the truth of the life of this world, he actually does

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a whole thing you know, there are pictures of these celebrities who look so good when they they were alive, you know, and then he has these pictures when they you know, towards the end when they are so frazzled and wrinkled and looking real real.

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Sorry to say, but I agree.

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And people do they seem to realize that that is our ultimate end. This is where we are going to go.

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Okay.

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Very interesting and very informative.

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Yeah, just the I think the the point that she makes is true. I think we forget that. celebrities are mortal human beings. And all of us are going to age that sometimes there is physicality, that attraction, that almost no eternal kind of beauty. And when you compare that

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So for physical beauty and when they are much older, you know, suddenly we find that they seem to have lost a bit of the glamour. But this is the whole thing about blind love and attention. And we make assumptions you see. And they, again, you know, it's what is worse, that the celebrities have entered our hearts into our homes through all this media. It's almost bludgeoned by it on a daily basis. And

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many people whose lives are very uninteresting, to suddenly find it enjoyable, and the follow them on Twitter, on Facebook, what they're doing, what they eating, what they're not, you know, so it's it's something that as parents, I think, we need to, as we said to recently, acetate, so rekindle the beautiful eloquent example and obesity lobbyists and and through our, through our own conduct, and making sure that the content that we sell allows us really are studied in its entirety, to look at these wonderful, great, loving Allah conscious individuals for left their mark in the hearts and minds of wider humanity in

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respect, coming to our next topic that we are going to discuss women's forum and community project something completely different from the issue of obsession with celebrities. Nevertheless, equally important in perhaps you could have, we could have dedicated an entire program to this,

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how to make it successful advice from yourself, and more importantly, how to make it sustainable. Yes, you know, I mean, one of the things that I really, you know, I want to come in, in fact, in many of the places that I am invited to

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people, it's organized by a woman's forum, you know, and Allah bless them, because they also realize that they too have to play a meaningful role. Because this notion that you only define them by your marriage is an erroneous notion. It's an Islamic notion, you also partner with your babies and allow you to sell them. So Allah bless our sisters who get together, who identify a particular niche in the in the town or in the area. And as a result, they get together, and they do something meaningful. And Allah bless the husbands of those wives who support them in this initiative. And there is a tendency, sadly, sometimes that we tend to demean them, we look down upon them, and

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something that is completely unacceptable. So and I think if you look at it, almost every town, you know, has this organization's like feed in house, and there's so many I can, there are so many such organizations who use the energies to uplift humanity, they use the energies, for for causes, they use the energy for the whole range of things. So So, so for that, you know, we need to commend them. And I think they are doing great work, but the point that you make in terms of success and sustainability, I mean, they, this is what we need to look at, the success would come essentially, when the energies are having, you know, a direct impact on a real need. And the sustainability would

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come when they have the capacity to continue to do what they are doing. And they would need both material, emotional support from the community at large, because that is fundamental. And the woman Alhamdulillah, you know, we don't always have to agree with them, or they don't always have to agree with us, but as a group when they get together, and do you find that even at our schools, the mothers committee and so on and so forth, really play a significant role in showing appreciation to teachers, and they play a significant role in having cancer support groups. So they do a whole range of things. And, and for that they need to be commended. But let us instigate what they do, and

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perhaps you know, not yet to sit in judgment of them. But for us, we can learn from them. And I just I pray that I'm sure many of the woman sisters are listening to the program can talk about the history of their own woman's forum, and where they are and how they have grown. And what were some of the challenges they are faced in?

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Yes, listeners can comment and Jim send me an SMS 0731738461 You can also call in on 0718541548. With your information, there are many successful women's forums that are running any writing for quite a few years as well and are doing sustainable good work around the lion ermelo we have a woman's forum as well. And I know that the women's forum is also quite similar

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cessful in about the middle where governments are also quite successful in doing sustainable work, and yes, in a lots of people doing good work, also community projects as well. There are numerous community projects that we undertake, sometimes you do it in the form of an organization, sometimes it's just a one off project, when you collecting funds for a certain

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disaster or particular relief fund or something like that. How did you gain success? How did you find your success? And how do you sustain the work that you're doing? In fact, monami just the point is he, I know in Durban, there are some sisters who go once a week to hospitals. Now I find that when the woman you know, for spin, some of the time, I'm not saying this, they all the time, during the volunteer work, what he does, basically, it gives them a tear from them, it really makes them feel a worthwhile, they feel they're also doing something for the oma to be a part of humanity. So they feel, you know, they feel useful. And more importantly, what he does, he tells a kind of

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profound impact on even in the marriages, you know, they don't feel bored at home, and so on and so forth. And they don't feel incarcerated like prisoners in their own home. Because this is the point. The point is we are born to make a difference. We are born to leave a legacy and the woman forum, a lumbering law, you know, they've been self sustaining many of them, and to the initiative of a few of them, they are doing really, really a great work. I mean, I was invited, for example, about a week and a half ago, about two weeks ago, and I dressed about 8200 women, it was organized by Fatima small of lmsc. And give the topic about, you know, I just have one life. And I could see that the

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sisters were very receptive. And they and many of them had their own kind of challenges. But yet, you know, notwithstanding some of the first two challenges, they were doing something meaningful. And all of us can do that, you know, all of us can really find something meaningful, because in the end, we will be asked, I mean, here was a situation, what have we done, you know, we can't sit back at home and do nothing about it, we need to get actively involved in

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when, when good news story, it is by that I came across this week, was that

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there was a clip that went on YouTube, it became it went viral.

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And there was a five year old boy called Danial, who has autism. And there's

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cabbage truck driver that would go past his house every week. And the one in this point was obsessed with the garbage trucks really interested in continuous delivery, he would wait each time this garbage truck would drive past. And then on the one day, this garbage trucks I've actually stopped. And he gave this little boy, a model of a garbage truck, a brand new cabbage toy. And this was just a random act of kindness. But the boy was really elated with the gifts that he got. Yes, you can look at that. I mean, this is the whole point. You see, the the this these are very, very good stories. I mean, there is another story which I also want to share with you. It's also quite a

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famous story. There is an organization called med ma di D is called Mothers Against Drunk drivers. It was started off when one mother lost a child in an accident as a result of the drunken drunkenness of the other driver there drunkenness of the driver of the of the car, right? And she said, you know, she could have indulged in self pity, of course, she mourn the loss of a child, she was understandably agitated, but she did not go on for the rest of her life, and indulging in self pity. She says, you know, this is I do not want any other child any in the world, to be a victim of an ax fatal accident as a result of some drunken driver. So she formed an organization called med em

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add Mothers Against Drunk drivers. And practically in so many countries, in so many states, in America, and in the Europe and the UK, they have these organizations, just prompted by one woman through adversity, who wants to change and protect the lives of other people. And I think lots we can do because one of the things that saddens me, there many, many people, you know, they sit back and they're more, you know, you know, no one is here for me, and we must stop adopting a victim mentality. We must go out and do things and once you start doing things, once you are generous, you do things for Allah, you'll find that you'll find you'll find happiness in doing it. When you uplift

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people, you'll find great joy

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In doing that, you know, and this is a point the point is sometimes we forget the power of healing. We have the opportunities by you doing it. You're also telling us you're showing gratitude to Allah. The fact that you can get that unaided is an indication that you should be so thankful for that particular bounty

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corner. We have a caller who's waiting on the line. Let's take the corner Salaam Alaikum alaikum Salaam wa rahmatullah wa barakato. In Islamic countries, our seniors, which is very similar DNA, and all,

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you must comment on views according to your beliefs. You're right.

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Why was the disregard for them given the divorce at the age of 40? Right, according to your ability, right? Then I got a few. And if I go too long, just tell me enough and I won't feel offended, right. David Beckham makes easiest. I like that. It was a phrase boy was 23. And I saw him with the case and and no, boy, you got a whole Quran in your heart. And you and you're imitating David Beckham, David Beckham, don't make you stingy. And I said, you're gonna wear your copy now and flatten that year of yours. And he did it. Because he's got a whole Quran in his heart. Now looking at impact, the david beckham and it's in the whole world. Recently, we were in Mauritius and everybody's got

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their hairstyle you know, David, because I think they will become a makeup less will everybody make a bless? I wonder challenge isn't. And then look at lady died. She died, right? But you also find newspapers that portray her with half naked body, you know, shoulders are being but her coffin has been rotten. If it's a wooden coffin, and she only the bones are left all the flesh is eaten. But this is the weight in the fat of things. They still put on the newspapers or magazines, as she was mature, like the lady called earlier on, you know, they they still portray when she was young, and so on. But this is the thinking of the naissance. And I think they got their prior this fall wrong.

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And then

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wait, I've written down some points. Hey, can you just hold on? And look at the Sunday Times? They don't allow liquor to be sold on the Sunday, right?

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I mean, whatever. But the Sundays has got a naked woman in the back. Does that make sense? And then

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Oh, hold on a second, the children that I know. I think I changed. I hope so. Part of my life after the age of 3043 I know I was very modern. I'm not good at all goody goody all of a sudden, and I feel we all got skeletons in our cupboard. But the children of today you know, I don't blame them. I mean, there's a phase is the age that they go through. And they may be also want to experience certain things for a certain age. Can they have quick overnight changes? I don't think it's possible.

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You know, you can push it down their throat Can you and then think okay, yeah, I think that probably all do you think about young girls going on camping from Friday to Sunday and the good supervision by good ladies inshallah, because it's an outing and it's

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something to look forward to Pease comments chiplun A Polycom Polycom cinema.

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It is by

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Do you want to comment on these things? Maybe civilized somebody.

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Hello. It is very yummy. GG. Let's take the next caller. And then perhaps you could come back to comment on the questions that the lady asked. Salaam Alaikum alaikum salam wa rahmatullah Catalina. I am calling from Roshni and 100 Lila, our women's forum is doing Sterling Sterling work here for the past 18 years. We have registered with the government as well. And, you know, it's all about commitment, absolute commitment, that at the end of the day, that's the bottom line.

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You will be successful.

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At some time you find maybe a sister who she chooses for reason she knows best to step down because she's, you know, she has other commitments. But it does not fizzle out in our men's forum. Girls can relax. For instance.

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We take care of orphanages we have feeding schemes, and for years, we we give an eat a hamper as well as the Ramadan Hamza Al Hamdulillah, hundreds and hundreds of

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families and also, you know, our brothers

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who are

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as,

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you know, for xenophobic reasons, yes, we also take it upon ourselves and we also get a feed those people

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haven't had the lead this Saturday, again, having a breakfast as a Mako slave, please. The question is to understand is it towards our pensioners lunch, that is also an ongoing thing. We take care of our pensioners all the time

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you know centered as Andy Grove from strength to strength inshallah.

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So, Saturday is going to be a scuffed Demo Day. And also, it's a surprise, because recipe, somebody is going to be launching a recipe book segment as well.

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Like one last hidden for that report on your rusty woman's farm in Santa Monica, Montana.

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It is really promising to hear about the woman's farm in diversity and could report the weather system. Yes, I know I was I spent three years in

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Israel indoorsy, the woman's forum where everywhere you know,

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actively involved and a lot less them and a lot less everyone. Even those, the unsung hero is they are out there doing things on their own. And when you do things for Allah, you're never alone when you're doing things for yourself, and you're always alone.

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Would you like to answer some of the questions that, uh, yeah, no problem. Yeah, the, you know, the age 40. I mean, you find that forget from an Islamic perspective, or generally people tell you is the time when it's a combination is rarely used up. It's a time of maturity and a whole range of things. And it shows that you have had an adequate experience about life, you've been through the phase of a child, to young adults, to young men, now person with profound wisdom. And you find that way before now. vehcile allowed Islam, that became a prophet Alhamdulillah he's been through so many, so many experiences, so many experiences. And you find that his credibility was not only when

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he was given the prophet to this, he had the credibility as a young boy, as a young man, and the kind of individual he was. And therefore, when you're given the proper tone when he was, you know, and that experience in the Cape of era when he came back, and he is beloved by BB Khadija, you know, gave him a hug. And she reassured him, he says, not this is something special, and you said you will never be displaced, because the kind of person you are. So 14 is a very significant also, I think, you know, a huge, huge message for us. That you know, and there are many people who at the age of 40, was still think that they are little kids, and they can go on doing the wrong things with

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impunity, and we need to really

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be more responsive and responsible, you know.

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And then

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the rest of the things we will we'll discuss some other time in Shanahan as is it is like, you're clear, you're closing comments with regards to community projects. Yes, you know what, this is very, very important. You know, what, yesterday I gave a talk at one of the schools in Durban and

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and to find that only a small percentage of parents came knocking, I'm upset because of my talk, when the other program out there is an indication of the apathy, we as Muslims, we are obliged to get involved with community projects, Islam, there is no place for me myself, I in my family, there is a place for us. It's about the the your rights your neighbors have on you, the community, you call to get involved in I find that when parents do get involved, we find children inspired by the conduct, you know, like my father was actively involved with so many organizations. And that, to me was one significant inspiration that I must not be a spectator in my own life. Because those of us

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who do not go out and do things for the oma will indulge in self pity and feel sorry for ourselves. And it's never never too late. You know, and I think the woman's Forum has some, some of them said the, you know, are also guilty of being too elitist, and not allowing participation from other people. It's not about in competition. So open your doors, open your hearts, so more people can benefit from it, that will also be your benefit. And in terms of the celebrity thing I think we need again to remind ourselves, the only single prophets will allow you I mean, if you want to have a celebrity is never be said allowed us to lump in, in every aspect of his life, his infallibility and

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everything else and look at all the prophets, look at the Sahaba and look at real examples.

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that manifests spirituality will manifest humanity and forgiveness in

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in these ways, just one last haven for your time this morning and inshallah we'll speak to you next week. inshallah and again, I'm remind you next week about the invitation the people of sanditon are waiting for you

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when

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it comes to law Hippo Baraka chicken Zeeland, to you for listening to the program this morning and for giving your positive feedback can messages and you come to my studio operators this morning on an artifact in Brother Mohammed Bilal, and inshallah Aziz, I will be back with you on Monday and inshallah Stay tuned to rate Islamic festival from Tunisia sada salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.