Ebrahim Bham – The role Muslim Women in society

Ebrahim Bham
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The speakers discuss the history and importance of women's rights in Islam, including the responsibility to be treated with the same degree of concern as men. They also touch on the role of Islam in protecting women from vulnerability and carrying on a legacy. The speakers emphasize the importance of being compassionate and respecting others' privacy, as well as the need for a concerted effort to overcome challenges and bring deed to the house of the children. They also mention notable women in their own history, including Fatima Al Fari, the first woman to set up an educational institute in South Africa.
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My dear respected,

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elders and brothers,

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we are today, of course, is the day

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of Jum'ah, the most blessed day in the

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week.

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And together with that,

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today is also known as Women's Day,

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in our country, and I suppose in many

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other countries of the world.

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So in this particular regard, I thought that

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I will speak around the issue, and we

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also have a nikka that is to be

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performed.

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So it is most, appropriate that we speak

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about this issue today, keeping in mind

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that there is no compulsion to speak on

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this topic

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because it is such a day in the

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country. There's no compulsion. From a sherry point

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of view, there is no compulsion.

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There is no,

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added merit also.

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But, of course, there is a hype around

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it, and because there is a hype around

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it, you will see it in the media,

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you will see it, and you will see

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billboard with regard to it, and you will

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see post that people will post. So it's

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maybe appropriate

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that we use it as a means to

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empower ourself and state our

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position on the matter.

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Now when we speak about the rights of,

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women in Islam,

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the first thing that comes to mind is

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the position of women prior to Islam.

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Now that particular time before Islam

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was known as

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at the days of ignorance.

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But if there is one thing that stood

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out in their days of ignorance,

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there are many things that they did wrong.

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There was gambling, there was, you know, alcohol,

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and there were many things that were wrong.

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But if you have to have ask anyone,

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what was

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the feature that stands out with regard to

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the days of ignorance,

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there is one that stands out that they

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used to bury their daughters alive.

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They used to bury their daughters alive, and

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that stands out

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with regard to that particular period known as

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the days of ignorance.

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And therefore, you

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find that there are many

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very amazing incidents that I may mention with

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regard to it in a book

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that has been translated into English English,

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the tears and smiles of our beloved.

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A Sahabi came to.

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He became a Sahabi That time he came

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and he said, you Rasoolah, I want to

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accept Islam,

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but I'm very afraid whether Allah Ta'ala will

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forgive my sons or not.

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So Nabi al Karim

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assured him and said,

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Islam wipes away all the evils of the

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past.

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Why are you in doubt?

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Said,

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I

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buried 7 daughters alive.

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I

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buried 7 daughters.

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Even our beloved

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after assuring him

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that he would be forgiven,

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Nabi

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for a moment hesitated and started weeping.

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He started weeping, and he said, let me

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wait for revelation.

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And Allah assured

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Nabi

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that when a person accepts Islam,

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and Allah will forgive his kufar and shirk,

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his disbelief,

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why won't Allah

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even forgive such a deed? But even that

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deed

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had an impact upon our beloved Nabiya Karim,

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sallam.

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Islam came to create a revolution with regard

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to the rights of women.

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So whereas previously before Islam, they were buried,

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after Islam, when Hazrat Fatima

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used to come in the home, Nabiya Karim

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salallahu alaihi wasallam used to stand up in

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respect for her. Nabiya Karim salallahu alaihi wasallam

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used to stand up, kiss her on the

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forehead, and then Nabiya Karim salallahu alaihi wasallam

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used to shut. That was the revolution Islam

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created.

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And in this particular regard, Islam gave her

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a role

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according to her temperament, which was most appropriate,

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which was most

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right and most correct,

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away from extremes.

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The extremes of complete liberalism,

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or the extremes of completely

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suffocating her. There was away from these 2

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extremes,

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which even today we find these 2 extremes

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in the various parts of the world. There's

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a suffocation that happens in South, you know,

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Asia, and there is a liberalism

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that that has

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placed and imposed upon her a burden, which

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is not even fair and just.

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What Islam did was grant her equality of

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rights.

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Islam has granted her equality in terms of

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her dignity,

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in terms of her accountability before mighty Allah,

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in terms of her sacredness of her of

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her life, in terms of the sacredness

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of her her rights.

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Her right and her life is as sacred,

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if perhaps not more sacred than that of

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a man. When Nabiya Karim

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sent armies

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in the in the guidance that they gave

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was, you will not kill women and children.

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You will not kill women and children. That's

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why I say, perhaps it was even more

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sacred than that of men.

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So Allah

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has given her in terms of she is

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also required to do the same. Amal we

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as we as men are, you know, required

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to

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do. Whoever does right here's deeds, be it

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male or female, or who are Mormon, and

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they are believers.

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In this beautiful

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verse, in this rhythmic verse, Allah

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has also made mention of the same fact.

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However, that does not mean that they are

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completely equal in terms of their rights

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and their responsibilities.

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Allah

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has given her responsibility

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which is different. Allah has given her responsibility

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which is according to her temperament.

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You know, sometimes we we get carried away

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by slogans,

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you know. You know, we have to be

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careful. What is the meaning of equality?

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You take, for example, 2 different types of

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flowers.

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You take a rose or you take a

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chulet

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or you take a whatever type or you

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take a daffodil.

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I wondered lonely as a crowd.

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High over the veils and hills.

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When all of a sudden I saw a

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a crowd, a host of golden daffodils.

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If anyone could remember that particular poem that

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we used to read when we were small

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in in school.

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Roses

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and daffodils are different.

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But does anyone ever say they are unequal?

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The fact that they are different doesn't make

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them unequal. They are different. Each and everyone

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are beautiful in their own right.

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So to say roses and daffodils or tulips

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or whatever type of flowers they are, they

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are different,

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but they are not equal. It's not what

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does it mean? They are different. Doesn't mean

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that they are not equal because of them

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being different. In a similar manner, I say

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equality is a very slicky and catchy slogan.

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What does equality mean?

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In Metz,

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equality means if you have 2 variables,

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the 2 variables are equal.

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1 can be substituted

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for the other without making a difference in

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the final equation.

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That is equality. So if you say 2

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+2 is 4, then you put 2 here

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in one side and you put 2 another

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side. Now you could change a 2.

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It won't make any difference to the answer

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of 4.

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That is what in meds what that is

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with regard to equality, what is meant. If

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the 2 variables,

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if you put them and you substitute them

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with one another, there is no difference in

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the equation and the final results.

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Now if you mean equality in that particular

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sense, with regard to male and female, it

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is absurd.

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Male and female, Allah has

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treated them biologically,

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psychologically, in every way different.

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If they were completely equal,

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then perhaps one day the male and female

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will say, when last time it was my

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chance to bear the pregnancy, now you take

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over the responsibility.

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You take over the next pregnancy.

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And I can't sign it, sometimes it is

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so inconsistent.

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So all of a sudden you find equality

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in everything

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and now, you know, we all read this

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type of things. So now there is no

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Olympic Games, a person who is supposed to

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be a female, taking part in a female,

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you know, discipline, and all of a sudden

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they say no, He came back from a

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male background and he's got more strength than

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the woman

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and the female, and they can't bear the

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punches of that particular person, whether male or

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female, whatever it is. So it is completely

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equality. Why are you making a noise with

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regard to the matter?

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So you understand the situation with regard to

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the the fallacy and the myth of equality

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in every particular sense. Islam has never ever

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made

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such a claim. Islam has given a role

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suited to her temperament.

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Islam does not impose a woman.

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Islam does not impose upon a woman to

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be like a man to gain respect.

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She doesn't have to dress like a man

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to gain respect. She doesn't have to fulfill

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fulfill the roles of a woman, our man,

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to gain respect.

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Islam has never put upon her the burden

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to even fulfill her own financial needs.

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Even if she has financial needs, she could

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use it upon herself. She is not obliged

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to use it for the sake of the

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family.

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Islam has never put her upon such a

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situation because if ever she has to be

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in a position of looking after her own

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financial needs, she can become vulnerable, and Islam

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has protected her from vulnerability.

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This is the beauty of Islam. And look

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at the way Allah

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has given her with regard to the various

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roles that she has to play. One of

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the greatest roles, I don't say it's the

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only role.

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I have to be sensitive with regard to

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it. You know, sometimes, one day I gave

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a talk and I spoke about this role,

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and someone said,

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you know, he came and he told me

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and said, Morana, I am married,

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and my wife cannot bear children. So now

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whenever I make mention of this role, I

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say, yes. It is one of the primary

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roles, but it's not the only role of

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a woman,

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and that is the role of a mother.

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And it's under this role

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that Islam Islam has given her the ultimate

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accolade.

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Lies under the feet of your mother.

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Under the feet of the father is already

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the choke pole by you. Under the feet

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of the mother is Jannah.

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And in this particular role, what does it

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mean by being the mother?

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So beautifully writes.

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He says

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that it is no coincidence.

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It is no coincidence

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that pregnancy

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and breastfeeding

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and weeding the child off the breast and,

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you know, parental role and the mother's role

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at the time of a child's infancy

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are purely feminine task. It is not the

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role of a male.

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It's not coincidence.

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Because Allah has given her that sacrifice

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that that she can be able to make

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that sacrifice, men would not have been able

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to make that sacrifice.

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It is therefore no coincidence that that particular

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aspect with regard to motherhood

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has been

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solely the prerogative

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and the responsibility

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of the female.

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And I made mention of this, I think,

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previously so many times. There was once, in

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an argument between male and female, between the

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mother and the father, who makes more sacrifice?

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And the father gave all his sacrifices he

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make. I have to get the bread. I

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have to get the risk. I have to

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get the sustenance. I have to pay the

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rent, and I have to pay the water

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and lights, all of that on its place.

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But the mother closed the argument with these

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beautiful words and this beautiful argument.

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And what did she say? She said, you

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bore.

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You bore the responsibility

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of the child when it was light. I

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bore it when it was heavy.

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You bore it

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for a short period of time.

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It

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says in the Torah in the holy Quran.

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The time it takes for the male sperm

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to go from the back of the back.

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No, from the back,

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to the place of release.

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You bore

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for a short period of time, I bore

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the child and the seed of my child

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for 9 months.

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You dropped the seed in the foot of

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pleasure.

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I dropped the seed in pain, close close

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to death.

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The closest pain to death,

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doctors and others have made mention, is the

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pain of of childbirth.

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Who are you to compare your sacrifices to

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my sacrifice?

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Which Allah

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also acknowledges

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in in in the Quran.

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And when we speak about the aspect of

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motherhood, it's not only about the the aspect

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of childbirth.

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It is the aspect

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of her granting, training to the child. The

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first to start is that of the mother.

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And we hear beautiful sayings in the English

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language. We only find the implementation of it

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in our sharia and in Islam. The hand

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that rocks the cradle rules the world because

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she is the first to start of the

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child.

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Many a times, many years back and many

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moons back, I read one article of him.

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It was such an amazing thing. He said,

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one day, the king came to his wife

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and said, we sent our son to be

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the leader

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of, of an army. Today, the news came

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that our son

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fled the battle.

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So the mother said,

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impossible.

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It can never happen.

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It can never happen.

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So the king was amazed by the conviction

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of his wife.

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So the next day, he came and gave

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Gadigal and said, no.

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Initially, there was a setback of the Muslim

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army,

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but they gathered, and Allah Ta'ala granted them

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victory at the hands of our son.

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But tell me,

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yesterday, when I relate to this incident,

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why were you so firmly convinced that it

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was a lie and you don't believe in

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it?

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She

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said, when I fed my child

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and I breastfed my child,

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I always prayed wuzu.

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And then I breastfed my child.

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It was impossible for that child

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whom I have brought up with such discipline

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and such piety

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that that child would have fled the battle.

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If you would have told me

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that the child had suffered a defeat, that

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is not possible.

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It's possible

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because we gain sometimes victory and sometimes defeat.

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But for you to say that my child,

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whom I brought up with such respect and

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such discipline,

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had fled the battlefield

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impossible for me to accept.

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That is the role of a mother.

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They are the guardians

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of the next and future generation of the

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ummah.

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Then, of course, we have with regard to

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the the role of a wife. Subhanallah.

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Nabiya Karim has given special

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emphasis with regard to the rights of the

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female and with regard to the wife. One

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day

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while traveling, here, they used to have these

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people who used to sing poetry

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because they used to use that poetry to

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make the camels go faster.

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So this person was name of Anjasha, he

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was a slave, a Visinian slave. And he

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had a way with regard to his poetry,

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because of which he used to make the

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animals go faster. And Nabiya Karim saw a

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song called him. What a beautiful

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thing Nabiya Karim saw a song said.

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Don't let the camels go so fast.

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The, be kind and compassionate to the.

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Is like a crystal vase,

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And today, crystal vases are always regarded to

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be very, very sensitive,

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very, very valuable.

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Normally, they say in today's time, I was

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just doing a Google search and I said,

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let me find out. They said, no. No.

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A proper crystal glass

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will fetch something like 1,000 to $4,000.

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And in 2010, 2 2010,

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in Salabiz, there was a crystal vase that

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was auctioned for an amazing and whopping £51,000,000.

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So Nabiya Karim SAW waslam said, be kind

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and considerate and compassionate to these, you know,

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valuable.

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That is how referred to them.

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And therefore,

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Allah

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Allah has made the wife and the husband

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as garments unto one another. I don't have

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the time to go on to make mention

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with regard to the, you know, the the

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the role of the the bus. I mean,

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the the role of the garment. The garment

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protects us. The garment is our adornment. The

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garment is a means of protecting our modesty

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and chastity, and that is the role that

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the husband and wife play for one another.

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So that is another aspect with regard to

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to to the role of a woman. Another

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aspect with regard to the role of the

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woman is, and that is why important for

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us that we bear this in mind when

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dealing with them as wives.

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Be good to your wives. If you dislike

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something in them, perhaps you dislike something, but

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Allah has kept many other good qualities in

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her. Accentuate the positive, overlook the negative.

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And then, of course, one of the roles

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with regard to a woman is a daughter.

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Look at how Allah has made mention. When

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Allah makes mention,

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And He grant whomsoever He wants males. He

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made mention of the female first.

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He made mention of the female and the

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daughters first.

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And today, what is our situation? Especially sometimes

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people who come from the Hindu

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subcontinent. Allah has condemned

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Sometimes when the people give them the news

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of a daughter that is to be born

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to them, their faces become dark in disappointment,

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and they suppress the grief.

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Is this the way that Islam has taught

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us? As the Aisha says, one day a

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woman came, and she had 2 daughters with

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her. Right? She was hungry.

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She said, oh

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oh, mother of the faithful, I have not

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eaten for so many

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days.

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So he said, I

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gave her 3 dates.

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So she gave one to the one and

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the other one to the other daughter. And

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because they were so hungry, they ate it

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up so

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quickly, and they started looking at the one

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other date, which the mother kept behind.

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And the mother broke it

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in 2 and gave it to the 2

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daughters

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and didn't eat herself.

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And when she merited this to Nabiya Khareb's

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or Salem, Nabiya Khrib,

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said whoever is put any through any difficulty

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and the words are used up ex the

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exact translation of the hadith.

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Whoever is put under any difficulty

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in the guardianship

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of these daughters,

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Allah will grant them.

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Allah will grant their parents

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who looks after their daughters well. Therefore, my

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brothers,

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the paradise

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of children lies under the feet of the

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feet of the mother.

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To bring up

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our daughters

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with loving manner and care assures us

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freedom from the fire of Jahannam.

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And the righteousness of a husband is determined

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by how he deals with his wife.

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The best amongst you are those who are

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kind and good to the worthy wife. I

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can go on in making mention, but I'm

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just saying

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one more other thing before I go. It

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is a little bit of a public policy,

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so I'm gonna take a little bit few

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more minutes just to to conclude this. You

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see, in Islam, beyond that,

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Islam has also looked upon the woman, not

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only in terms of her domestic responsibilities,

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just as you and I have a responsibility

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the

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and making sacrifices for the sake of death,

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then in a similar manner, woman in the

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past and woman today has a responsibility to

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put their shoulder to the wheel and make

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an effort for the upliftment of death.

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Whoever today feels and I'm gonna say this

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with great amount of confidence,

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whoever feels that the challenges of the ummah

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can be faced

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and can be resolved by only one group

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living in silos.

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He is nave.

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Whoever thinks that you can you can solve

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and resolve the challenges of the ummah by

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living in silos, you are nayiv.

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The challenges of the ummah are not going

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to be resolved in silos. It's not going

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to be resolved only by 1 group. It's

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not only gonna be resolved by the males.

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Or will be resolved by the ulama.

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It requires a concerted effort of all different

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groups and categories of people to be able

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to come together to resolve the crisis of

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the Ummah. Because we are not doing that,

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therefore, we are not successful.

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This is a reality that today even with

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regard to ulama,

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you can't become an alim and an imam

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without.

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You and imam without followers. How is that

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possible?

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The

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role and the challenges of this ummah only

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going to be faced when we do it

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all collectively and that is why

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Allah has made mention with regard to it.

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Many years ago, I went with a very

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remarkable human being for, you know, few days

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in Jamat,

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So he said the elders used to say

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a very amazing thing. He say, if you

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don't make an effort to bring your woman

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and your wife according to

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deal, then even if you are deemed that,

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even if you are biased, you will bring

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deal to the door of your house, and

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she won't allow Dean to come into the

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house.

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You have to make a collective effort, male

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and female, mother and father, to be able

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to bring deed into the house of the

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children. Otherwise, if only you make an effort

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and you don't bring your wife with regard

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to that particular effort, you will not be

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able to be successful with regard to the

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upbringing of your children. Therefore,

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The believing male and females are protectors and

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helpers and guardians of one another. They protect

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one another in what way? By commanding good

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and preventing evil. And look at our history.

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There are so many

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remarkable examples. As

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a fought a battle with her tribe. And

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after her particular tribe, you know, when when

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they came victory, there was you know, they

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were taken as that time the the the

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min was with regard to save. Eventually,

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she came into the niqah of our beloved

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Nabiya Karim,

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and when she came into the niqah of

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Nabiya Karim, the

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entire Sahaba,

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He

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said, you Allah, this tribe

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is

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from the family of Nabiya Karim, from the

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wife of Nabiya Karim,

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they

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freed all the people of the tribe.

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Hazrat Aisha says,

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I never saw a woman

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who was so beneficial to her tribe in

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Juwaire, the mother of the faithful. Hazal Aisha

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herself,

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subhanallah, look at their situation.

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She was amongst the most knowledgeable of

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the companions of our beloved Nabiya Karim across

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the board, both male and female.

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2,220

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saints of Nabiya Karim

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reported from her. Hazal Musa Shari

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says,

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We were never ever faced with any complexities

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of any matter of deen, that we do

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not go to Aisha, and she gave us

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a resolving of that particular complexity that we

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were facing. And not only indeed, she was

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also someone who was knowledgeable in other fields

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like medicine and math, etcetera.

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And let me give you another example in,

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you know, later time. I'm sure it is

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a time of the Sahabi.

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Fatima.

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You know, Fatima

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gained a great amount of

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inheritance.

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She had gained great amount of inheritance.

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And today, a woman gains inheritance. What will

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she do? Maybe she'll buy a Louis Vuitton

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bed.

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But what did she do?

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She created the first university in Islam.

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She was the first university that was created,

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not only in Islamic history, human history, was

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created by a woman by the name of

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Fatima Al Fari. Hazar Mufti Takasa Usmani has

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made mention of that university and said, it

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was such an amazing university.

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In one university, they were teaching Deen, and

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they were teaching philosophy, and they were teaching

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mathematics

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and history. And who was it set to

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set up by? Who was it established by?

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Fatima al Fihri, a woman, who used her

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inheritance money

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to establish a walk up as we establish

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an educational institute.

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Even in South Africa, the first masjid, our

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masjid,

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the land was made

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by a Muslim woman. So this is the

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road that we, Islam, sees with regard to

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Muslim woman. We are supposed to be

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understanding of it, and we are supposed to

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be those who encourage

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the fulfillment of the throne. May Allah

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give an adequate feel of understanding.

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