Ebrahim Bham – Suspicion and Mistrust
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The importance of having a good opinion about one's Muslim brother is discussed, including past experiences that can create negative emotions and mistakes. The need for evidence and evidence in cases can lead to bad behavior, such as a woman who lost her jewelry and found it under her name. Conscious and reminding oneself of the mistake and the need to forgiveness are emphasized.AI: Transcript ©
My dear respected elders and brothers,
in the verse which I have recited, which
is a 12th verse
in Surah Pujurat,
in the 26 Jews of the holy Quran,
addresses the believers and say, oh, believers,
stay away from suspicion
and must trust
and having a bad opinion about another Muslim.
In
the for many a times,
some form of suspicion
is sin.
Stay away from some form of sus suspicion
for some form of suspicion
is a sin.
So this hadith and this ayat
tells us
that to stay away from suspicion and mistrust.
It also tells us
that not all forms of suspicion
is a sin and wrong.
Now what type of suspicion
is permitted and what is not permitted?
Allah Dalla has left it for us
to pursue and investigate
and stay away from that suspicion
which is wrong. Now
there's a very great amount of writings that
Olamaz have said.
There are various forms of assumptions,
various forms of suspicion.
Some are haram,
some are mohwa.
Sometimes, for example, with regard to suspicion,
you come to know about someone about something
that he is, someone who is not very
honest in his business dealings.
Now you have not
have any
clear cut evidence with regard to it, but
because it is widespread, you can take precaution.
But it is not permitted
Why are you taking from, prohibit?
Taking precaution
that you make a firm and a concrete
judgment that this man is dishonest.
So sometimes you can read precaution,
but sometimes there are certain forms of assumptions
that has
made haram.
For example,
let me a Karim also had said, do
not make
a wrong assumption about Allah
Now what is the meaning of having a
wrong assumption of Allah
Then you start thinking that Allah
won't forgive me.
I'm
so. I'm such a sinner Allah won't forgive
me.
Have written
that that form of assumption is haram.
And the
had
said, I am according to what the bondsman
think about me.
If the bondsman thinks about me
in a positive manner
and in a good manner, I will deal
with him accordingly.
But if he thinks
in a negative manner about me, then I
will also deal with him in a negative
manner.
The way he thinks about me, that is
I will deal with him. But in today's
talk, what I'm going to speak about is
the mistrust and suspicion
about other Muslim brothers.
Having a suspicion
and a mistrust
and a bad thought
without proper
without proper evidence
about another person.
One of the most important things
the first thing that we have to do
is to have a good opinion about your
Muslim brother. Muslim is vulnerable.
To have a good opinion
about your Muslim brother as a starting point
is first.
Now today, if you look at it, we
are the exact opposite.
We aspire as possible. We don't have good
opinions.
Our mind automatically
goes towards
having a bad opinion,
and this is perhaps because of social media,
etcetera.
We tend to look at negative rather than
looking at positive.
So the first thing is that we have
to do is
try and train your to have a good
opinion about people.
Hadith
To have a good opinion about others
is part of having a
personal good
good.
Have a good opinion about people. Hadith, man.
It's a hadith. And and that's what?
Having good opinion about people is good.
It's part of good.
Today, you know, we have a say wherever
they smoke, there must be fire. That is
not the shaliq opposition.
So much so that the ulama and the
pious people of the past used to say
that as far as possible, even if you
have sometimes a negative opinion about someone,
try and give it a good opinion.
Try and give it a good explanation.
Hazem, which
Sheikh Mohammed
Salabi has made mention in his book about
and
I will read it. He say, try
as far as possible to give a good
interpretation
of a statement
and an of your brother.
Don't give it a bad interpretation.
Don't give it a bad explanation.
Give it a good explanation.
And then
says, for believers to have a good opinion
about one another is a desired attribute.
It is a desire attribute. You have to
train yourself to do it.
And even if you find something negative,
then try and give it a good interpretation,
good explanation. The ulama I have written, if
you see something that you feel is negative,
ulama, it would be something that is written.
And many great books with regard to sufias
and and Tasawwuf, I said, except give 70
explanation to your Muslim brothers, action, and deeds,
and he states statements, if you feel that
is negative.
Wrote
to his son, Mohammed Al Hanafiya.
And in this, he said, do not allow
mistrust and suspicion
to overwhelm you.
Do not allow suspicion
or mistrust to overwhelm you.
Otherwise, it will create a rift between you
and your brother.
And because of that suspicion and mistrust,
it will create a mistrust,
and there will be no chance of reconciliation
between you and your brother.
So as far as possible,
the first thing that we are supposed to
do is to have a good opinion about
something. And today, we don't do that. We
try and find, you know, excuses to think
bad about someone,
and we find excuses to make of someone,
and we find excuses
to go and bed fight about someone. This
is not the way of the sharia.
And very amazing thing
that there is no evidence required for.
But if you think bad about someone, then
you have to have an evidence with regard
to it.
To think good about someone, you need no
evidence.
But to think bad about someone, you need
evidence.
If you're gonna think bad about someone, you
have to have a daleel. Otherwise, you will
be held accountable
for it by Allah.
Now why did Allah make this haram? Why
did Allah
speak and Allah has made it?
So some suspicion it is sun, so has
referred to it as sun.
Stay away from suspicion
and thinking bad about other people.
For Hadith, suspicion and mistrust,
it is the most lying form of speech.
It is the most lying form of speech.
It is a means of lies being spread
when you start having suspicion. You start having
suspicion and mistrust, all of the things
go.
It is haram
for you to harm the honor
and to take the blood of a Muslim
and to think bad about him. This is
haram.
To have suspicion about another person is backbiting
of the heart.
To must trust about someone and have suspicion,
it is rebirth and death biting of the
heart. And sometimes it graces well. Hazrat
said, it's a form of oppression and injustice.
And Hazrat Mahalab
Hazrat Mahalab is one of our great scholars.
He has written
Hatred
and jealousy,
many a times it is because of mistrust
and suspicion.
Mistrust and suspicion creates hatred.
It creates rifts
in the.
It creates reps in the family,
and it creates
great amount of turmoil,
fitna,
corruption,
disputes, and argument. The root cause of it
is suezen,
having bad opinions about someone and having suspicion
and mistrust. Sometimes if you have something, but
at most,
let them to have a clear cut evidence
with regard to it, make a concrete judgment,
make Amal upon it, then it is Haram.
Or am I have made mention with regard
to it? Sometimes as long as it stays
in your heart, it is okay. But the
moment you give rise to it, it becomes
wrong. And many times, our situation is such
we need good opinions.
If we're gonna have bad opinions,
We will not be able to stay.
Has done a very amazing
thing. Said, see the meat that we did.
We know we make bread. We have chicken
tikka. We have all this. Did anyone of
you see upon every chicken the person's crottering
on the name of?
Now if you don't have,
if you start thinking,
Then the best thing for you to do
in that particular situation, don't eat meat.
If
you're gonna start having and
you're gonna have mistress and suspicion, you will
not be able to have meat. There's a
certain thing. I'm not saying you must not
have
And this is very incident that I make
mention of a humorous incident.
One day, you know, the father was going
somewhere, and as he was going somewhere, you
know, gave someone to the, you know, to
to to the wife, and they came back
to the wife, the wife was very, very
angry. Well, husband said, why are you so
angry? He said, the reason why I'm so
angry, I needed something from you, I needed
the password of your credit card or the
way it was. I needed something. I told
the the the child to phone you, and
the child phone you. And every time, of
course, child phone you. You know, there was
a woman speaking. You are up to nonsense.
To know the husband is surprised because he
was busy in meetings. He put put out
the phone. He was not available. So he
asked the child, he said, what happened?
Why do you say that now a woman
was speaking. What did the woman say?
So the child said, every time I phone,
the reply on the phone was, the subscriber
you are dialing is not available in the
moment, try again later.
Now there was nearly a problem in the
house. On what basis on this on the
basis of
suspicion?
So suspicion creates mistrust,
it creates disputes, it creates arguments.
Has
it?
But
suspicion
is
because of pride.
Look, because of your pride, you tend to
think bad about other people.
So because pride is a root cause, I'm
not saying if one great scholar has been
mentioned,
And one of the other aspects with regard
to another harm of this evil, it diminishes
trust amongst people. But Gomani said, Johanna,
And it is a great tragedy, brothers. We
need one another's trust. How
are we gonna stay in this world if
we don't trust one another? Today, we need
trust. I mean, look at the business world.
The wholesale and the retailer, they need one
another's trust. Otherwise, how are they going to
make this business transaction?
And one of the reasons that that particular
trust diminishes is because of suspicion.
Our have written many great
examples and many incidents. Many incidents have been
made mentioned. So in Bukhary Sharif, there's one
chapter.
The chapter is also very amazing. Imam Bukhar
Ramtulali's
his fit is in his chapters,
the way he entitled chapters. So Imam Bukhar
Ramtulali has got one chapter,
a chapter of a woman staying in a
masjid.
Now what is the reality what we got
with? In that, there's a there's an incident.
The incident was there was a bandi,
and she was a slave woman. She was
a slave woman in one time. She was
looking after the children. One day, one of
the children, she was that particular family was
wealthy, came out of the house with a
very expensive cloth and a very expensive,
you know, jewelry, piece of jewelry.
And while she was praying, she left it
one side, and
the bird took it. And then when they
started looking for the jewelry, they couldn't find
it, and they started blaming me. You are
a Jew. You are a thief. You did
this. You did that. And she was, you
know, she started reading,
and she was overwhelmed
by embarrassment.
And all of a sudden,
that particular bird came and dropped that piece
of jewelry right in front of them.
Now all that suspicion and mistrust they had
about her, it was all now proved to
be wrong. And when she was proved to
be wrong, she came to Medina and Menorah.
She accepted Islam.
She can shut down Islam,
and now because she didn't have anywhere to
stay, they made a small tent for her
in one portion of the masjid. That is
how
entitled the chapter, a woman sleeping in the
masjid. Now she whenever she used to be
there, she used to sing a poem.
And in that particular poem, she used to
say, the day of the was one of
the wonders of Allah. For verily, he he
rescued me from the disbelievers.
So
asked her, why are you saying this poem?
What is the reason for you saying this
poem? She said, this is the incident that
happened.
Because of suspicion and mistrust, they made an
allegation against me, and Allah,
you know, proved that allegation to be wrong.
Now can you imagine because of suspicion and
mistrust, what happened? Let me give you another
example.
Was an imam of a outside Madinah, where
imam that. Now when when he made imam,
one person,
you know, shouldn't make imam shouldn't make salat
or jamaat.
So
when, and
Can you imagine what they you know, that
time to make an allegation of MonaAfrica against
someone, it was one of the greatest allegations.
And
that particular aspect went on, and
called
him.
We go outside outside our homes. Whole day,
we're working. Whole day.
Whole day, we are working.
So the vehicle is also said, Oh, are
you creating trials for the people?
Now look at that. This
suspicion, mistrust that he was a monarchic and
a hypocrite. And what was the reality?
Muhammad al Arafi has made mention with regard
to this incident. He said, this person, when
he heard that Mu'az called him a monarchic
and a hypocrite, he said, I will show
Muhammad one day whether I'm a hypocrite or
not. And he went in jihad. Jihad.
In jihad, he sacrificed his life for the
sake of Allah.
Nadia Karim's also called.
Oh, Mo'as, the person whom you are calling
a munafiq,
he today sacrifice
his life in the mouth of
Allah. See what suspicion and mistrust does. And
one of the greatest example I don't have
time to make mention of it is.
I said, but the mother of the faithful,
and you all know the incident.
Coming back from the.
She left, and she lost her her piece
of a jewelry.
Right? And she went to go and look
for it because that time you had to
go and relieve yourself from outside. You know,
far away from the people, there was no,
like, you know, build up and constructed toilets
and bathrooms. So she went to look for
that particular and by that time, they didn't
find Azar Aisha radiya lot woman. She was
very thin, so they thought she was on
the table and they continued.
And then she came back, and she found
her that particular jewelry, which was underneath her
camel. Now,
also a great sahabi, came from the
back, and then he saw, said,
sleeping. She thought that I'm not gonna go
anywhere. If I'm gonna go anywhere, I'm gonna
get across. So she started waiting
there.
Came. She saw he saw her sleeping, and
he remembered her from the previous time. He
said,
She got up.
Azad left the camel, went far away, and
when she got up, he came, and he
left the camel until he came to Madina
and,
and she was reunited with Nadia Karim Sosra.
In the vast expanse of the desert, these
type of things happen.
But Abdullah bin Ubay, the leader of the
Monafiks,
started,
and he created a fitna,
and he started creating a rumor, suspicion,
mistrust.
About whom? About.
You realize what suspicion and mistrust does? The
incident is a very long one.
Said,
I didn't know what was happening.
One day, I went to go and relieve
myself,
and I went with.
Was the distant cousin of
She slept. And when she slept, she cursed
mister her own son. And I said, how
can you curse your son? He took part
in the battle of Badar. To Ombe, mister
said, don't you know what's happening?
About your infidelity
that you did something immoral.
I said,
my whole
existence,
I don't know what was happening. I
asked permission to go and stay by my
mother and by my parents. I went to
stay there for some time, and then
came.
Came. The mention of one important
point. Came and said, oh, Aisha,
whatever has happened has happened. Tell me the
truth.
If there's anything that you have done wrong,
then make mention of it. Allah is forgiving
and merciful. And if there is nothing, Allah
will
give you, and Allah
will prove your innocence.
She said something with regard to something. She
said what did she
said? You heard something. The rumors spread
until it has now found a way in
your heart.
Rumor and suspicion and mistrust
Because it was so widespread,
everyone was talking about it. Now it is
got a small place in your heart. And
if I tell you I'm innocent
because of what people are saying, and Allah
knows I'm innocent.
But because of what people are saying, because
of suspicion and mistrust, even if I say
I'm innocent, you won't believe me.
This is this is the harm of suspicion
and mistrust.
Then Allah,
made 2 rules, 2 full rukus, declaring her
innocent.
She is free from the and the allegation
made against her. But do you realize, my
dear respected brothers, what happened to suspicion
When you are jealous about someone,
ask a love for forgiveness.
And when you have
bad opinions
and you have suspicion,
don't pursue it.
What a beautiful advice.
When you are jealous, ask Allah for forgiveness.
When you have suspicion and mistrust, don't pursue
it.
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