Ebrahim Bham – Rights Of Parents In Islam

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			in the Iet which I recited Allah subhana wa Tada. It said, Allah has decreed
		

			that you should not worship anyone besides a law will validate the Asana and you should be kind and
good towards your parents. Amongst the rights that we have been told to fulfill, from our Sharia,
after the rights of Almighty Allah subhanho wa Taala. The most important right is the right that is
going towards our parents Mufasa and have written that Allah tala has joined three things together
with three in the Holy Quran, a de la de rasuluh obey Allah and obey and Lazarus. Secondly, we find
that Allah subhanho wa Taala has said ottimo Salah wa to Sokka you see repeatedly in the Holy Quran,
Allah has joined Salah tenza in the third thing Allah has joined the obedience and been grateful to
		

			Allah and our parents are cassara bukanlah tomuu Allah here will be valid in issara that worship
Allah be good towards your parents and is currently value validate. Be grateful to me says Allah and
be grateful to your parents. So three things Allah has joined. So Allah tala normally speaks about
the rights of parents almost immediately after the rights towards Almighty Allah subhana wa tada
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foreign body, wallet NT who kooky idi geka calmness in hotel, this is something that we find and it
shows us the importance. Now after understanding this, the relationship between parents and children
		

			is a very unique relationship.
		

			And it is something that is very amazing. But it is amazing in one sense also, that ally in the Holy
Quran, has not asked parents to love and to fulfil the rights of the children or not to love them.
allies and told anywhere in the Holy Quran, that parents must be good to the children. It has given
them responsibility because of the love that saved them from the fire of Johanna. But it didn't tell
them to be kind to children. Didn't tell them to love children, because that comes instinctively and
naturally. You don't have to tell a parent to be loving and kind towards the children. They will do
it because of the love Allah has placed in them. Right? But Allah subhanho wa Taala because children
		

			are not so grateful. Allah has to remind them repeatedly you'll be good to your parents, and the
standards. Allah doesn't tell parents love your children. Be kind to your children, because that
comes naturally. But Allah human children are not so obedient children are not so grateful.
Therefore not Allah is to remind them repeatedly in the Quran and Hadith. You Be kind to your
parents be good to your parents. That is why you find one parent and a mother will look after 6789
children right. But when it comes when the mother becomes old, that 5678 children will argue amongst
one another who is going to look after the mother. This is a reality that we are facing. So this
		

			aspect is something that Allah tala has to remind children because children are not so grateful. And
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			the hamanako valid and quality in kisser hussaini Tsuchiya de honee Allah tala a barber Quran or
Hadith metromile. Now amongst the aspects that Islam tells us, is to honor and respect our parents
under all circumstances. This is very important. Many times the mistake many children make and we
find it. I've seen it people speak about this they say, Yeah, but our parents did this and this and
that. Now remember, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us to respect and be kind towards our parents. It
does not depend upon your therapy.
		

			Your parents earning the respect in your eyes. It does not depend upon them earning the respect in
the children's eyes. And now has told you what will validate a Santa be good and time towards your
parents and let them tell you be good to them. If you feel that they are worthy of respect, be good
to them. If you feel they are worthy of kindness, no, no lie it said Be kind to them, irrespective
because they are parents be kind to them. They don't have to earn the stripes in your eyes. They
don't have to earn the stripes in your eyes. And therefore never Kareem saw serum on one occasion,
told one Sahabi who said Yasser Allah, Yasser Allah, my parents are unjust to me, maybe a cream
		

			sauce Adam told him three times, even if they are unjust to you be kind to them and be good to them.
And even if they are non Muslims, be kind to them. A smart interviewer came and said it came to be
occurring saw selam jasola my mother came from Makkah she's not a Muslim. She doesn't believe in
what why we believe in Should I show kindness to her and maybe a cream sauce lamb said yes. show
kindness to her, even if she's a non Muslim, even if she's a non Muslim. So this is something that
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			the adjuster okay. So, this is something that and what is the what is the reality with regard to
showing kindness and the the aspect of being good towards our parents? What is the sharing welcome?
What is the reality of it? One day a person came to me after him sauce annum jasola what is the
rights of my parents support me? What am I supposed to do with them? How am I supposed to through
through them? And maybe a Kareem sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has he was always blessed with a beauty
and eloquence of speech. He said, What are you asking me about the rights of parents upon the
children? Houma Jana to kawana rock, they are your genitalia, Johanna, your parents are your gender
		

			or your Jana, depending how you treat them, they will make you your take your gender, or you will
remake your gender. If you treat them well. You become worse you have gender. If you treat them in
an unkind word manner, then they become then you become with your Jana. So Allah tala has made
tension with regard to this idea about Amara gender or those are those are hamara supermoon has said
		

			he depends upon how we treat them, that they will be our our the means of our gender, Jana. Now a
very important point that comes in. And many times we hear people saying this is that yes, we know,
we have to be good to our parents. And many times we are good to our parents because we feel that
they are our benefits are attached to them. So when we are young, we don't go to be good towards our
parents, they cut off our pocket money, they will not pay our university fees, our student fees. So
therefore many times we do good to them because our benefits are attached to them. But Allah subhana
wa Taala tells us to be good to them, especially at a time when you have to look after them. And
		

			many times your benefits are not attached to them, it is the other way around. So therefore laterra
says Be good towards your parents in your blue one in the calculadora huduma. Oklahoma, if one or
both of your parents reach old age. Now here is the test. Many times you see people saying that my
father has become very difficult. You know how he speaks? Sometimes he is so demeaning to me, he
doesn't take into account how much I'm doing for him. Now many times we say he's become old, he's
become ill tempered. He's become short tempered? Yes. What do you expect people to do when they
become old, they are going to change the temperament is going to change. People do not remain the
		

			same. when they are young compared to when they become old. When they become old. Sometimes they
become tempered, they become short tempered, they sometimes become difficult. Now that is a test.
And there is a difference between our values and the values of others. Other people tell us look at
your own interests. Look at your own benefit. Look at what is supposed to be good for you. And if
they become very burdensome, put them in an old age home. Put them in an old age home. What Islam
tells us No, no. Now is the time for you to gain reward. Now is a time for you to get into
gentlemen. Libya Kareem sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Rama and for Ravi Mohan for Ravi Mohan for
		

			three times may that person's nose be test wrapped into the dust. May He beat his grace. May he be
humiliated Yara Sula, who are you speaking about in such a way? Who are you saying that that person
must be humiliated He must be humiliated and he must be disgraced. To be utterly himself. Selim said
that person who find one
		

			For both of his parents in old age, and he does not gain Jenna by serving them. So Pamela, what
would the Western world say they're become an inconvenience put them away. Islam said they become
old. Here is your opportunity to get Jenna. And if you don't get Jenna nebia Kareem Salah whenever
cinema said make up disgrace, may you be humiliated. What is the US of you that you can look after
your parents who looked after you when you were small? So therefore, Allah says in my blue ohana,
indical, Kibera, a huduma Okinawa, if one or both of your parents become old falletta Paula Huma of
Don't even say to them in this respect. Don't even say off to them in this respect. And this is
		

			something who say yeah, be utterly men who have the kanaky jazak knee jerk, perhaps. pancetta to
smoke on kisara just sunako karna Orbeez yahama? Or Yeah, Jenna kills Zarya, it becomes a means of
Jenga for us to serve them. And another says don't even say off to them in anger or this respect,
doesn't mean you must anyone speak to them and don't say anything. Now what it means is that you
speak to them. But obviously, you do it in such a way that is always with respect and with kindness.
Don't say to them in disrespect, or in anger, as it allows you to say amazing thing. And he will be
allowed to say if there was a word lesser than that signifies this respect and anger Allah would
		

			have made mention of it. That means don't even say anything remotely. That is even remotely in terms
of disrespect or anger with like, like, if we just a very small type of sentence, don't even say to
them. Now can you imagine if you have to if you have to abuse them, or you have to say more things
and off to them, how much can I insert if you are not allowed to say off to them in this respect and
anger if you have to abuse them more than oath and you have to tell them a whole lot of things in
anger in this respect, how much sin there is when you are not even allowed to say to them and
disrespect. Therefore Allah subhana wa tada after that, and that Allah tells us that make dua for
		

			them.
		

			And look at how Allah subhanaw taala says was Phil LaMarr Jenna has
		

			made you humble yourself before your parents. Don't be proud and arrogant in front of them. And even
if you have to give them something you give them with respect and honor. And with humility. You
don't go and show pride and arrogance in terms of them. Well, Phil, Omar, Jana has alumina Rama was
corrupt Durham, Houma, Kamara
		

			and every time you make dua for them, and when you see them in old age, then what do you do? Then
you say, oh, Allah, you have mercy upon them the way they had mercy upon me when I was small, and I
was in my infancy. Now we all know in our infancy, how did our parents look after us? They
sacrificed the nights, they sacrifice, they sleep, they sacrifice little whatever they had, they use
it. And they use the resources for the sake of upbringing, the children, Allah subhanho wa Taala
tells you, when you look at your parents in old age, and you are about to make dua for them, think
about all the sacrifices they made for you. And then when you make dua, you just have to wrap your
		

			heads into our your to our must come out from the bottom of your heart, Oh Allah have mercy upon
them, that we've had mercy upon me when I was
		

			when I was in my infancy, the way they showed mercy upon me and kindness of Allah, you will show
mercy and kindness.
		

			Obviously, we have to say this much also them
		

			to to look after your parents is a very great act of reward. Such a great act of reward that we can
even make mention with regard to in Emeryville, as Sophia Malcolm says, a person came and said, I
want to go out in jihad. Now many might have been circumstances why not be occurring? Jocelyn told
him this. The director himself said, is your parents alive? He said yes. The pieces have said go and
serve your parents. It is your jihad. Go and serve your parents that is your jihad. Now I'm not
giving a fatwa the asset and circumstances that people can go out but I'm just trying to show you
the reward of looking after your parents that when a person came and asked the director himself to
		

			go out and she had maybe a cream Silla, whatever serum said, go serve your parents it is your jihad.
One day as a hobby came to me occurrence awesome. Yes, well, I have committed a great act of sin.
There are so life committed a great act of sin, and he was remorseful and regretful nebbia Kareem
saw some say, Is your mother alive?
		

			While you're rasulillah go and serve your mother Allah tala would wipe away yourself.
		

			When serve your mother in law would wait for yourself jasola My mother is not alive. She has passed
on. Never said is any of your mother's sisters alive. Yes. jasola mother sisters easylife who will
serve your mother sister. Because of the mother. You have committed a Guna now she is passed on go
and serve your mother.
		

			The system Allah subhanaw taala would wipe away.
		

			Obviously we have to say that the parents obedience is always
		

			under the obedience of Almighty Allah subhanho wa Taala Matata makuuchi maaseiah till Khalid nebia
Karim sauce limited there is no obedience of parents. It involves this obedience of Allah subhanho
wa Taala Sabina be wakasa the ultimate became a Muslim was saying Allah insana. bhiwadi de husana
will injure Hara Kali to Sri kabhi. Molly silica be here illman Fela Kuti oma. His mother became
very, very, very angry, sad that a lot of Mahabharata love for his mother, he found it very
difficult. She said, if you don't renounce Islam, I'm gonna I'm gonna kill myself. I'm gonna go on a
hunger strike. I'm not gonna eat anything sad came gonna be occurring. Sonam Allah revealed this
		

			ayat. If they force you to go away from Islam, and they force you to commercial, fanatical oma,
don't follow them. So the parents obedience is, is within the boundaries of obeying Allah subhanho
wa Taala. If they tell you to do something wrong, then they are no more worthy of obedience. And
many times we find parents also the users blackmail, they say Allah will never accept you because
you didn't listen to me. But it what you what they told you sometimes is wrong. So there is also not
right but look at our neckline. The Holy Quran says we injure had to shreeka B for today was
sashiko, Macedonia, Moldova, even if they tell you to do something wrong, you don't have to obey
		

			that letter, but then to be kind to them for sasikumar. Tomorrow, then to also be kind to them. So
this is something that we have to keep maba kita Shirky diamir tire American Academy child, Sophie
said PETA to serve Allah tala ki ki jatiya. They can do TESSA shafqat kobato. Her work. Ahmed Karna
Chaya, now, after understanding this, there are very important thing is amongst the parents, we have
the father and the mother. And the Father has got to rank in terms of respect, but in terms of our
rights, and in terms of kindness, then the mother has extra rights, and the mother has superiority
over the rights of the Father. And we all know that if a person came to him and said, jasola, who
		

			should I show the most amount of kindness and who should I should fulfill my rights most towards
themselves and said your mother, then he said, He then
		

			said your mother, then then your surgeon said your mother, the fourth time he said, your father,
Elias also made mention of even to the sixth part of the Quran. I won't go into details. General
routine Rumi Rahmatullah Lee has made mention of this. I have also repeated this many times in my
talks before, when one day the father and mother were arguing with one another who makes more
efforts for the sake of the child. Father will say I do this, I do that I go out in the early hours
of the morning to get the risk. I have to go in the business from morning till evening, and the
mother close the abdomen with these three points. Don't you compare your sacrifice with my
		

			sacrifice? Don't you compare your sacrifice with my sacrifice? You carried the burden of your child
when it was like I carried it. When it was heavy. You carried it for a short period of time. I
carried it for nine months. You dropped it in a foot of pleasure. I dropped it in pain nearing
death. Who are you to compare your sacrifices to my sacrifice. Therefore must have said Jenna to
		

			generalize under the feet of your mother. under the feet of the father is only the champion
		

			under the feet of the mother agenda. So your mother has got more right over the Father. Not to say
that you must disrespect the father but of course, this is in terms of market, Mamta ik Barbary
parbhani, history ma market sadhu, Sulu, Bob semi berker. And in conclusion, there are many
examples. We certainly radi Allahu anhu. He became great. That nebia dream sarson toda Sabha, Toma
Denali, if you find Oh a second ago and asked him to make dua for you, what was his, his attribute?
What was his greatness? One of his greatness was that because of his love for his mother, and
serving his mother, you could not come and meet Livia Karim salsa, but Allah subhanho wa Taala gave
		

			him the thing that maybe a cream sauce mom told us that when you meet him go and ask him to make dua
for you. Abu huraira will be allowed towards the latter portion of his life.
		

			He was staying in Khalifa which of course today we may we wear our hair out from and his mother was
in Medina, so every day used to come and meet his mother. Many times people say the mother is by
going meet your mother from time to time if she's staying away from you. So a Buddha used to come
and meet his mother and when he
		

			Come and meet his mother used to make Salam Can you see? Oh my mother Salam be upon you PHP upon you
may Allah have mercy upon you the way you had mercy upon me when I was young and I was more so the
mother used to reply okura Sarah be upon you, may Allah order you, will you
		

			old
		

			Oh abora Allah wanna you and give you respect the way you are giving me respect when I'm old. And
lastly, I would just like to say that one question that always comes in mind is what do we do and
our parents have passed on?
		

			And many times the situation is their parents pass on now you feel regret? What can you do? Sadly,
nobody came to be occurring SOS jasola I was going out in jihad. My mother passed away. I'm feeling
very, very bad. And I'm feeling very hurt that I was not there when my mother passed on. What can I
do? Maybe a cream sauce and says give charity on behalf of your mother. give charity on behalf of
your mother. Then he asked her Sula what type of charity must I do? Let me saw some said provide
people with water. Give people water on behalf and in view of your mother supanova once a person
came from bunny Selma, either as a woman bunny Selma for Carla Hall bottom in every other way. Yeah,
		

			shaping abara Houma bada Mota jasola Is there anything that I can do for my parents after they have
passed on? Maybe occurring so also made mention of four or five things? A Salah to la ma? Make dua
for your parents. What is the third lahoma make it safer for your parents make dua for them, make it
safer for them while in five
		

			then fulfill the promises fulfill the commitments they might have had. They had maybe they had they
wanted to do something you they couldn't do it when they were alive when they were alive. They made
and they had an ambition fulfill the ambition fulfill the commitments fulfill the debts 30 then
they'll be occurring saucer them said that was Silla Tora ham. Be good enchain to be good enchain to
the family of your parents. So if your parents you know your parents, aunties and uncles and
cousins, make it a point of being good to them because of them being relatives of your parents.
Three karamu sadita ha and then we saw some 50 said, honor the friends honor the friends so if
		

			they've got friends go and go and search out for their friends and be good to them because they were
your father's friends of July Maria Lawton was, you know, lastly, I will just make mention of this,
I believe no matter the ultimate was coming from but one he was coming and there was a bug. In a
villager. He was simpleton and he came and when Omar as a kidney woman identified him he gave him
his turban.
		

			So his students said you gave this person a turban? He would have been happy with less than that.
And what did he say? Dr. Newman said he his father was good with my father.
		

			He his father was good was my father therefore I've given him my turban. So this is the way we can
still be good to our parents after they have passed on. May Allah subhanaw taala give us a trophy.