Ebrahim Bham – Parenting – A great responsibility

			Alhamdulillah
		

			Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam o Allah Allah.
		

			Allah Allah, Allah, Allah Almighty Wakita Baba Kitabi wala Sharia Tabata Shariati a mother Ruffalo,
bIllahi min ash shaytani R rajim Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem, hiya, yo.
		

			Yo Fusa calm, honey calm now set up Allah with
		

			my dear respected elders and brothers.
		

			Our children are very great joy.
		

			They are means of happiness to us.
		

			Via Kareem said Allahu alayhi wa sallam on one occasion it said children are the flowers of ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada. And there is no doubt with regard to it. But together with it been a joy. Children
are a very great Amanat they are very great responsibility. Now we are Kareem sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam he said khulumani Would you like to idle fitrah each and every child is born on an innocent
nature faba wha hoo hoo. Danny he Oh, Eunice Irani, he Oh you mucha Sammy. Oh, c'mon. It is the
parents through training who make him into a Jew, a Christian, a fire worshiper, or whatever he will
become. So what they will become? It depends a lot upon the training and advice they get from the
		

			parents. The kind of parents we are to our children, has a very great impact upon the future.
		

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			Tarbiat Saba Chairman there, what they are going to become depends very greatly upon the training
they received from the parents. And today, the responsibility of parents increases because of the
environment that we are living. We are living in an environment where everything we fear about our
children, everything we fear for our children, the whole environment is surrounded by that what we
fear about our children, everything is surrounded by that. We fear drug addiction. We fear
immortality, we fear even today we fear that our children will take a path that they will even
perhaps go and commit suicide some Muslim children in the last few months have done so. So all the
		

			things that we are worried about, that we are fearful about the environment is full of that.
Therefore, nowadays the responsibility of the parents have increased. And we cannot as parents, take
a lackadaisical approach and sit back today parents have to be active parents, they have to play a
very important role. They have to be proactive. Otherwise, there is going to be very great
consequences with regard to that, or article Telecom in his birth or lab, Kitty Ballmer or mama Baba
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			So we have to be proactive with regard to this type of situation. Our children live in a much more
technologically advanced and pressurized world. That we have experience we need to understand that
it is not like how the parents of the old were things were very, very, were things were very, very
easy. To the extent that many times previously. The old people used to say para children must be
seen they mustn't be heard. And we used to say that's how they the people used to do it. Parents
children must be seen they must not be heard. And that is the way it
		

			was nowadays it is not like that they live in a technologically pressured world they feel entitled,
they feel the the whole world revolves around them. That is the reality. Now how do we deal with
this few tips? One of the most important tip that I'm going to make mention of is communication. And
if I can repeat it, communication, communication, communication, we need to be speaking incessantly
and repeatedly with regard to matters with our children. It is better to deal with unpleasant
conversation, then heated doubts. Let me say that again. It is better to deal with unpleasant
conversations than hidden doubts. Even if the conversations we're going to have with them might be
		

			unpleasant. It might be bringing up aspect like *, it might be bringing up excess * aspects like
drug addiction, it is better to have these conversation then for them to have hidden doubts. And
today the hidden doubts are such that they have become open if we are not going to speak to our
children. If we are not going to speak to our children, someone else is going to speak to our
children and therefore it is better that we are the ones that we speak to our children, even
bringing up unpleasant conversations. We must be having these unpleasant conversations with our
children always make yarmulke Kibera Kanata subsidiary chose Mr. Sir Gupta who can the child Anisha
		

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nickering Bruce rocker and duessel ocurring to Mbak Casey cheese okay about me Chai wanna who's got
home, but Chaka sat back Correct. Tell them about the fitness of the time tell them what is
happening. Tell them with regard to the mortality, tell them about gender confusion. This is one of
the greatest fitness of our time, that today they are tell people are told that you are not sure
when you are growing up whether you are a boy or girl. From it from the very beginning and
inception, people knew whether they were boys or girls, they knew how they must dress. But today you
		

			know this whole particular situation is that they create gender confusion. Now if we are not going
to communicate with our children, then who is going to communicate with them? Do we want them to get
this particular unpleasant fact from someone else?
		

			Parents must be the one to discuss this unpleasant conversation. And if someone say this is
something new, you are saying, let me give you an example from the Quran. As a primary Salatu was
Salam. Ala Tala told him in a dream that he must not a smelly salat wa salam did another year of
Allah he could have gotten slightly smaller Islam without any hesitation. But he went to go and
speak to his mother in salat wa salam Yeah, buena? Yeah, in Niara filmen. And ne as backofen Zuma
that ah, oh, my son, I'm seeing I'm slaughtering you. You tell me what you feel. Yala. A great navy
like has a primary Salam had no doubt. But why did he go and speak to his mother? He said that was
		

			salam. He wanted him to be part of the good deed. He wanted to communicate with him. He wanted to
speak with him. I said look, Mallory Salatu was Salam. His advice to his son is made mentioned in
one old ruku in the Holy Quran. Yah yah, yah, yah, yah, yah. Optimise salat wa Mirabelle mov one
hernial Mancha, Yamuna, natto Calanus so many times, oh my son or my son, oh my son do this to the
students. Historical rewinds make mention that his son initially was not upon the right path, he was
not upon righteousness, but by the constant advice of the panelists that was salam he came upon the
right path. So one of the most important things that we have to tell parents today is speak to your
		

			children even if it be with regard to unpleasant conversations. So subsea hum cheesy but to save
muscle go to who can retire as a leader they allow them lose one amazing incident and statement has
been made mentioned you know, it is attributed to Allah the Allahu tramo that it is said
		

			that play what your children for seven years at the Boone bissap Then discipline them for seven
years and they after hallelu bissap beside him advice and befriend them after seven years what an
amazing way with regard to dealing with children for seven years. There is no there is nothing with
regard to children in terms of various
		

			aspects of the Sharia are not compulsory upon them. So in that particular service seven years play
with him don't become you know, they don't wear the scarf you smack them. You don't wear a topi you
hit them but it's not compulsory upon them. Why are you becoming so
		

			So unnecessarily strict upon them, yes encourage them, but don't don't create any type of
unnecessary punishment upon them. till the age of even heavier cream sauce lambs Hadith was advise
your children to perform Salat when, seven years.
		

			So before that, if there is something you encourage, you don't punish. From the age of seven, you
start telling them with regard to Asana. So the first seven years play with them. And you will find
in the first seven years, children like to imitate the parents, the children, the parents are the
heroes. So don't go into something that they imitate in the wrong way. become role models for your
children, the first seven years, then the next seven years, that's a time when they come to
understand. They have logical reason. And Islamic ethics. That's a time when we are supposed to now
discipline them. That's a time when we are supposed to speak to them. That's a time when they are
		

			like conscious. We have to they are ready to soak up thing. That is a time when we have to show them
teach them tell them about Islamic ethics. Tell them what is right and tell them what is wrong. As
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could correct fair, ugly Assad Sol unco Taleem de Yes, here Yes. Yeah, hallelujah. Amen. Producer
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rawia, STR crusaded, JC those Tannat and look, then the next seven years to advise them, and be like
friends to them. After that they are independent, you can't go in hit them, if you're gonna hit
		

			them, they become more rebellious. That's a time when we are supposed to advise them. Great Alama
I've come I've heard as a move to Mahmoud sobre la saying after the age of when they are balanced,
then you must be like a friend to your children.
		

			They must if anything happens, the first place of port of call they must be with regard to the
parents they must go to the parents. Even if they do wrong, they must come to the parents they
mustn't be afraid not to come to go anywhere else they must come to the parents even if they've done
something wrong. If they have knocked a car they must come to the parents we've knocked the car and
there are very few you know children who are not going to knock the car during the formative years
of their life. Right? Allah Tala make sure that it is never ever going to be you know, in a
dangerous manner, it might be something that is innocent. So, these are some of the things that we
		

			have to keep in mind. Now, in this particular regard after seven why do we need to advise them? Why
do we need to speak to them, Today children have access to platforms, which are Islamically
inappropriate encourages haram relationship encourages gender confusion, let's face it, my dear
respect brothers, let us talk openly to all our children today on social media, they are on Tik Tok,
they are on Snapchat, they are on Instagram. And whether we like it or not, today, they are there
very, very few parents have the ability to prevent them from accessing those platforms. And now
those platforms even with some of them little good things that they are there, some of them I have
		

			tried to give some good advice because they are they let us let them listen to good things. But it
is it is surrounded by many many certain type of messages, which encourages them towards immorality,
encourage them towards gender confusion, in criticism towards homosexuality, what do we do with
regard to it, you can insulate them, you can insulate in a isolate them, you can insulate them,
inoculate them,
		

			you can insulate, you can isolate, inoculate them, inoculate them by showing them that these are the
harms, these are the things that you have to be worried about. So these are very, very especially
now we are going to the period of holidays. Holidays as such, it is a mid season. So children have
got more time hours in my diary, our responsibility increased to supervise about them, get them
involved in something positive, get them involved and things that are good, if you are going to
leave them as it is said an idle mind is the devil's workshop. What are we going to do with regard
to it? We are not only worried with regard to our children's, you know, material things mentioned is
		

			made that a person was on his deathbed of parent was on his deathbed and he called all his children
and his children. He said Mama Camilla mama Kay, Ahmed, Camilla McCain, Ibrahim Ibrahim came. So
when all came this I said now all of you are here. So they thought maybe he's on his deathbed. He
want to push this year can he maybe wants to give us some this year, too. He started getting angry
all of you are using the shop. To conquer corner to nowadays
		

			We have two brothers we have to keep this in mind our responsibility increases very very greatly a
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			is Leah Yamas hamara Zima dari or surpass the board's earlier. So these are some of the aspects that
we have to keep in mind. In raising children, we should have a proper balance between encouragement
and warning. Many times people say we must only be caring Yes, kindness is the right way because
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			Muslim homes should be homes in which love, kindness and persuasion works most of the time. But
whenever there is a need for discipline, to shy away from discipline is very harmful to the
upbringing of the children. Children are like budding plants the way you get plants, which are very,
very important. Sometimes we save them from the rain, we save them from the weather, we protect them
in a similar manner children need to be protected from the environment and the immoral influences
that are out there. Someone is very, very briefly said I made mention of it previously, children are
like a wet bar of soap. Now a wet bar of soap. If you catch it loosely, it will fall out of your
		

			head and a wet bar of soap you catch it too tightly, it will also fall out. So you have to get the
right talents in catching it in such a way firm, yet not too firm because if you catch it too firm,
it could fall out of n. So we have to get the right balance with regard to with regard to our
children. And remember one very important point in terms of the upbringing of children, or rocky
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esoterica lick. Enjoy happy. Ghana Chaya Wahhabi hammock, Ghana, is rudia McKenna, che Uchiyama
McKenna Canada yet they say punishment suppresses bad behavior. Discipline corrects bad behavior.
		

			If you punish them too much, they will do it inside punishments, suppresses discipline changes, we
must discipline our children, not necessarily punish them. There's a difference between punishment
and discipline, or
		

			leekens. Yes, sir, says ADINA, year away your code,
		

			or Xacta, or Meza, Riva Jaco Battelle data, so we have to do discipline, not necessarily punishment,
children are also living in an age of peer pressure. Now, you know, this peer pressure is something
that is very, very dangerous. We underestimated peer pressure works on the system of creating an
inferiority complex. And a child at that age doesn't want to be in an inferiority complex mode. His
friends will tell him, you know, you are like a mohawk, you can do this, we can do that, why can you
do it, you got no courage. Now a child doesn't like to stand out like a sore thumb
		

			amongst his peers, so he goes into it. Now the best way to deal with peer pressure is that we give
them love. Love creates self esteem, it creates confidence, when children have confidence, they will
be able to save themselves from peer pressure. If they don't have confidence from home, they don't
have love from home, they will be easier to crave and to fit into peer pressure, they might be able
to, they will not be able to resist peer pressure. But those children who have confidence and they
have love from home, they will be able to resist peer pressure. So peer pressure is a reality. And
my dear respect of others that will conclude by saying, We today we give a lot of emphasis with
		

			regard to the financial and material upbringing of our children, our children must have certain
things, they must have certain types and brands of clothes, they must have this, they must have that
nothing wrong with it. If we have the means we must give it to them. What is what is what is why?
Well, if our wealth is there, and we can use it for our children, there's nothing wrong with it, as
long as it is done in moderation, but why is it that we we pay attention to the material needs and
we don't pay attention to the spiritual needs. How is this how is it
		

			quality and key commodities reacts on key Denio Ruhani therapy for kid any child we have to give
priority with regard to the spiritual upbringing. I like to bring in Monterey this incident I made
mention of it many times that has at UCLA salat wa salam was away from Asad Yaqoob Elisa was around
for 40 years. Allah facilitatory ricotta Abu in Neela jewelry Hi Yusuf Nola and Tiffany dune called
with Allah He
		

			even radical movie, that after when Yusuf alayhi salatu salam told his brothers, I'm use of take
this quota of minds go and give it to my father he is blind. When he puts the quota on his eyes,
Allah will give him and give him sight again he will regain sight. So when they leave from Egypt,
they left from Egypt at that particular time jacobellis That was salam said, I can smell the
fragrance of
		

			children the people around you said in the color free radical Caribbean 40 years ago, he's gone.
Where are you going to smell the fragrance of use of so when they brought the Kuta fella mangia Al
Bashir alotau Allah wa T protector basura. He put it upon his eyes, and he regained sight and then
mentioned is made by Sofia and authority Rahmatullahi Iacobelli salatu salam said, mera Yusuf
Kesari. How is my Yusuf? How is my use of? So they said he is the king of Egypt? Mr. kabocha he is
the king of Egypt. Do you know what Iacobelli Salam said? I'm not asking you whether he is a king or
not. I'm asking you what is the state of his Eman and is a man
		

			who's a man or Amal kuch Cata Casa what is the state of his Eman and his or her man? After 40 years
the first question how is easy imagine each and every offender and the Father is also a nephew of
Allah. And yet they're so worried about the man in Amman how much more money should we be? and UCLA
in the Holy Quran tells us who enforcer qawwali coonara Save yourself and your fire and your family
members from the fire of Jannah the way we will take precaution to save our children from fire if we
have to see fire to a greater extent. We must show that concern to save them from the fire of
Jahannam insha Allah if you are right parents and make a lot of dwama the respect of others have
		

			been a habit and Amina is watching our Korea Tina Kurata ion every namaz you must read this maybe a
cream salsa may say three people's do us or not rejected by Allah. One of them is a parents do our
for children. What is the one acre tip number chakulia Navia cream sauce una familia, KY he didn't
keep dua for rip naota So make lot of DUA and they need to end they need our supervision. They need
our love. They need our discipline, even if they show independence. May Allah make us proper parents
and may Allah make our children the corners of our eyes and provision for us in the year after
hospital.