Muslim Women In The 21st Century

Ebrahim Bham


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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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rahmatullah wa barakato.

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hamdulillah 191. Was Salatu was Salam ala manana Viva La la la mirada when

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was really it initially Tony was in this Villa

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Santa Monica.

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Start, mothers and sisters, we first begin by creating Almighty Allah subhana wa Tada. And we say these hesitations upon our beloved.

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We thank Allah for the favors that he has bestowed upon us He has created a perfect world. And that is the Holy Quran says, For j Massara helldorado to submerge in karate

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pasta, ocasio well, who has seen Castro gaze on the horizon, on the heavens and earth, to find the flaw in the creation of Almighty Allah, submerge in basava karma, then cast your ages again and cast it repeatedly. elton john kuraby little person who has who has seen your gaze will come back disappointed, but you will not finding any flaw in the creation of Almighty Allah. We have never seen any, you know, you and I we are human beings, we become sometimes late we have our flaws, I must apologize for starting late. It was definitely not in my script. But something happened as I was coming and I became late. Have you ever find that the sunset one minute later, or rose one

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minute earlier, unless he is you will look into the heavens and earth Your eyes will come back disappointed Marjorie bussaco material political person who has to assume you will not find a flaw in the creation of Almighty Allah. And definitely this verse is very applicable to the

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topic that we have a Latina has rated and people in different genders, different ethnic groups, different races, different tribes. And after making mention of all of that Allah, Allah says in a perennial evenness in a hell of an upcoming Daiquiri, what we found was nothing so Robo, whatever elite RFO we have created you

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in different from one male and female. And then we created you in different places, tribes, nationalities for the sake of identification that allowed us that criteria, the most honorable amongst you are those who have a couple employees. So I think we think about Allah for his creation, and his remarkable aspect of creating each and everything correctly and correct creatively in do proportion, and Allah subhanahu wa taala we think a little differently. So, this is the Apollo 11 military salsola who propagated the message upon my Colossus underwater data correctly, and he had to fulfill user responsibility in propagating and as a message

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just one or two points that we do, we would like to conclude just maybe before 12 and inshallah We will also give time for question and answers perhaps, maybe you would like us to pray preferable and if it can be done, that you could maybe have the questions in a written form for the use of something that we could get you passed around. So, that is something that you will be inshallah doing, if for example, someone who does need to ask a question each other, we will try that nobody can also let us look at the topic of a snap, was it Muslim woman in a good first century? Now, in some way, it is a very challenging topic, in the sense that

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how do we deal with

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a topic that needs to be addressed because of changing circumstances, changing perceptions, changing environment that is out there? Yet at the same time, people will also correctly say, why should there be a difference in terms of our teachings?

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Islam has always been, and will always be Islamic teachings were not for a specific time period. Nowhere do we find in the Quran and Hadith. And I gotta say, on the vehicle, it starts with me saying that Islam has come for the first 10,000 years, or 1400 years, and then after they will be a change due to changing circumstances. So Islam, you know, many times we hear the call with regard to reformation of Islam. And normally, I would respond by saying, You reform something that has been deformed,

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Since when has Islam become deformed, before it could be reformed. So this is a situation Islamic teachings will always remain as is entrenched in the Quran and Hadith, irrespective of changing circumstances and changing environments. So when people talk of reform normally, my response is the reaffirmation and you reform something that has been deformed, since when Islam become deformed, for it to be reformed. Many times people will say that the Islamic teachings are outdated. I beg your pardon, you know, some swelling is Islam, they need for it to be outdated. Let me repeat that. Many times, people will say what disturbing teachings were for that particular time in LA, it was so that

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guy, you meant to say that you might not have been technologically advanced. But the at the same time you asked the question, Since when has Islamic teachings been dated, for it to be outdated? I cannot recall, in my limited study with regard to Islam, you know, even if I have studied seven or 10 years in Pakistan, and China has kept some form of studying, did I ever see any, I adore the Holy Quran, and the Hadith. And the miracle is also coming in with a specific date. So when is Islam being dated for me to be outdated, yet at the same time, we do make accommodation for changing circumstances. And today, we know we have to take into account what is happening in the world today.

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And to give you an example, someone had said 10 years ago, 10 years ago, there was a good solid

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cloud was in the stack. 4g was what's

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the number of your parking space? Right? Google is what we know that the noise the baby is, but we all know and even those who might be elderly, who might not be so well versed with regard to technology would be able to know that whether the 4g within Google, all of us have different definitions today what it was 20 years ago. So this is a situation coming back upon the position of women, the rights of women, the responsibilities of women, let us look at this particular aspect. We all know that Islam created a revolution. As far as the rights of women is concerned. There is no doubt with regard to whatsoever when it came and we do believe and inshallah we will try to

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demonstrate that as far as what Islam has taught us. It is revolutionary. It is the right balance between the extremes that we have introduced. I mean, there is no doubt that these extremes, there's extremes on the left. And perhaps these extreme sometimes on the right. How do we find the right balance as we have to find the right balance divorce ally, the Holy Quran says What better literature Hanako motto was SATA, we have made you adjusted balanced, and what's adjust the balance. adjustment balance coma is an offer that does not fall short of the limit and does not go beyond the limit. And this is important to you many times when we talk of moderation. We always like to talk of

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moderation in terms of extremism. So when we talk about moderation, we say don't go extreme be moderate.

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Bear in mind moderation means that the moderate path between two extremes. So just as it is extreme, sometimes to go beyond the limit. It is it is similarly against moderation. If you fall short.

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If you fall short of a limit, it's also against moderation a person does not perform is five times a day, he has fallen short of the limit, he has not adopted moderation. So extremism is ready to talk about moderation. It is not only about speaking about those who go the extreme beyond the limit, it is also those who are sort of in the state, many of them to be top of moderation, we sometimes like to refer to it as those who go beyond the limit, whereas it could apply also for sort of eliminated. So Islam as stated in evolution. We know for example, that in in Hinduism, for example, you know, recently there has been

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A change in depth, but just to give you an example, it was regarded to be a meritorious for a woman to throw herself into the fire if her husband had died and he was been permitted. All of that is something that we don't even once we got to Western civilization or Western thought, you know, people regard that to be the gold standard, whether it be the gold standard or not, inshallah, we will try to, you know, speak about that as we go along. But is that the real gold standard, in 1654, the English law declared, that which the husband had the as is his only belongs to the husband, but that was the way forward is also the husband's. So, we normally heard you speak about what is yours,

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what is what is mine is mine, what is yours is ours, we make this particular type of humorous statement, sometimes, in reality, that was what was the English law. And this particular aspect that, that many times the Greek civilization, which gave birth, the western civilization used to debate whether a woman is a soldier or not,

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they used to debate whether woman has a soul or not, maybe in a way, the western civilization withdrew, and came out of the Greek civilization, in many ways, have put that method to rest, whether she has a sort of not as different, but definitely what they believe, is only a body,

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other aspects with regard to her, her not of concern to the Western civilization, and therefore, you will find that even people like Aristotle, you know, who is regarded to be one of the great poet, philosophers, and highly regarded, he used to say in his writings that women are freak of nature. And in fact, that is actually physically deficient or limited in comparison to me. Now, these are something that you are finding now, the aspect of Western law, which I gave you, that aspect of it after 1632, the western law used to say, whatever is the wife's belongs to the husband as well. Now, this is at a time, when centuries,

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Islam has given her the rights with regard to independent ownership, she could own independently from the husband, she could transact, independently from the husband, as an independent entity, an individual, in terms of ownership in terms of transactions. And this is something that is well established in Islamic theology. Islam has been granted human equality in terms of human dignity and accountability in front of all my job losses, kind of without a right to contract, the right to intercourse, the right to dispose of the property, the right to rectify, or marriage,

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the right to rectify of marriage is something that is intrinsic in Islamic law to the rights of a woman. So,

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marriage in Islam of a young woman

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can be arranged, it cannot be imposed.

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So it can be arranged effectively marriages, it just depends too. And it just is, is that environment that we're interested in? Is it the Is it the corporate environment environment? Is it the university environment is it your friends, every managing someone is arranged, so there is nothing wrong with a better array g a suitor or array g a prospective partner, back can arrange cannot impose she, the Muslim woman has to rectify it. Now this was almost revolutionary. And even in today's time, many times in many cultures and many, you know civilizations in many places. It is still something that doesn't happen. But yet this is what Islam has been mentioned. Her life and a

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property is a sacred if not more sacred than better for men hands saying, if not more secret. The reason why I'm saying this is because we know from our beloved Salesforce teachings, that we are getting sales numbers just specifically telling the people when they used to go out to the expeditions and given us to go out in the war, to not be the women and children do not kill non combatants, however, cannot be allowed to die. What a man's his main points that he had made mentioned, when he sent out to somebody in favor of

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being a war.

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Do not kill a woman. And so a knife is sacred, if not more sacred than death of a man. And one can go on I don't want to be sometimes you do speak too much about this as a standard because you are being patronizing. But the reality is, I mean, another lack of input. However, having said that, I think the point it comes in a very important point, equity equality, how do you deal you know, the aesthetic of today's time that there is equality? Now, equality is a very slick, catchy slogan.

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And the people would say, equality actually means what does it mean in mathematics, if two variables are equal,

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one can be substituted for the other, without changing the result in any way at all. So the teacher puts on the board tool, and then put a plus sign in past two, and they say is equal to four. So these are two variables, two, plus two. So if two variables are equal, one can be substituted for the other without changing the results. So you put on a board, two plus two, input One, two on the left hand side and input to another for that identify, and then you put an equal dash, and you say equals to four, if you change the two, that this one, two was on the right, you put the left and the one on the left, and you put on like, it won't make no difference to the end results. That is the

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quality. Is that the same what we got for men and women?

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Is that the same? We need to ask ourselves? Is that the same? Can you put the two and change the tool without making a difference is the results? No, you can't do that. If that was the case, if that was the case, that you could do that, then perhaps the wife would have told the husband one day, that you know, in today's time, there is equality. And you can even go to the Human Rights Commission to establish equality, and therefore, the first child, I took responsibility I became pregnant. Next, next time you take over you become pregnant, we all know that there isn't going to happen. Why is it not going to happen, because that's kind of what Allah has created men who

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the point is equality is two variables that equal one can be substituted for the other without changing the result in any way. equity is something that is fairness, something that is there in which people would be equal in terms of their everyday lives, likes, the dignity, but they will be given a responsibility, which would be in accordance with a temperament and in accordance with a disposition. And in terms of what is fair. And yesterday, I was waiting for the very same century, two years ago, there was a blood cell. And someone put up a very beautiful type of a small analogy through the means of a small image that he gave a child who was over looking, and was looking at the

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at the, you know, something over the fence. So he gave it to children, one similar type of box to sin on overlook the fence. Now, that would be wonderful. But one of the one of the children was short. So we gave them the similar type of box to be overlooked overlook, the, whatever they were looking at is 1400.

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And then, the other child, when he realized he said, No, this child can be given the same type of box, we added another box. So the smaller child would stand on two boxes and able to overlook the face. The first one was equality, when he gave his two children to similar size boxes, but one was not that one box was not sufficient for the person who has tried it as a short edit another box that was called equity. And if you really just look at it, you find it you might even find it, someone that just clicked up in one of his Twitter account the difference between equality and equity. So this particular step is to say that, you know, they are the same and we can use one for the other.

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We all know that it's not going to work. Let me give you an example. In today's time, we have a situation, roses, tulips, daffodils are different types of flowers, you go into an orchard you find different types of flowers. Now the fact that they are different, does it mean that they are equal.

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To say that a rose in should have an equal is an unnecessary complicating issue. Both of them are beautiful. Both of them are equal. Both of them

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fulfill the role in terms of the beauty and the color that the image. But to say that they are an equal is creating an unnecessary competition. doctors, engineers, accountants, whatever society leaders, community leaders play different roles in society in the community. No one brings up the aspect that they are unequal, to say they are equal is simply complicated issue, it doesn't meet that obligation. Men and women are equal. They are equity in terms of many things. But that difference in terms of perhaps the responsibility, and many other things that can be different, even in today's time, with all the aspects with regard to equality, we still have separate washrooms

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wherever you go, and you still have different sporting goals. Anyone who loves sports, we have this cheapness with, for example, know that there was a great amount of controversy in the recent US Open tennis situation, they've been really good at finding the woman fine, but not all of that particular technique scares your butt. The SEC is equity, perhaps not equality in terms of selling US equities, in terms of the aspect of

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equality in terms of respect, dignity and rights, different systems of responsibility, now, when we come to their proper understanding this, what are the rules? What are the responsibilities? Firstly, there are certain things where they will be equal in rights in terms of accountability, look at the Holy Quran, we are not gonna tell these men and women, you will be rewarded with regard to and you will be recompense with regard to the visa to do what may or may not saw you had to be let go the outcome. So what will have fallen off here, no hideout and wherever there's an IPS DHCP, male or female, and I believe us and I will grant you a pious and grant you up your life and allow will

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reward you for what you have done. And then tell us maybe in our lucema what we need to know when we know what to follow up in our pocket, then? Well, certainly no one saw that. But well, certainly That was so good. Well, if I see no one for sure. One would expect that no one would perspective like what samina was studying about what happens in a Korean woman without getting a one to fiddle with that country. And hold it the second so follow the Holy Quran in the first stage. And literally he mentions Muslim and Muslim men. In a funny thing, what started in the one the male gives charity and the female who give charity and all of that is mentioned which shows that there is equality in

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terms of accountability before the laws of Almighty Allah subhanaw taala applicable to male and female, that also Almighty Allah tala applicable to both, it doesn't mean that there is moral and spiritual development for men. And there is no moral and spiritual development for woman. It is something that is far removed from Islamic teachings. Every one male and female have to surge ahead in terms of quality and spiritual development, and go ahead in terms of coming closer towards Almighty Allah, Allah, Allah looked up a lot, oh, you who believe here last time with Allah and be amongst those who decide to leave, it applies to both male and female. So all of that is there. So

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in terms of that, there is this now on the other end, we would be for example, some of the differences that we just very briefly mentioned, some of the aspects would be that Islam has a lot of women alone that is suited to her temperament. And her disposition, hers wants to be alive at count. Islam has not imposed upon feelings, that they must in any way be financially responsible at any time of the life for anything.

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This particular aspect, we believe as Muslims makes a woman vulnerable.

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Therefore, it is done. There is no such situation wherever

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a Muslim woman has been made Chris financially responsible for anything before marriage is the responsibility of the Father. And in doing so, he is doing her no favor whatsoever after she gets married to the responsibility of the husband. And sometimes we will make a joke with regard to it. But let us look at the jokes and look at the CVS instead. So some of the jokes you will find this as you will type into the financial Oh my father, how much does it cost to get married and then finally pay off my son as you know he's still paying.

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I'm still paying. All for example will say you know this, this fight is an extreme case. Know that a thief stole a person's credit card.

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And you can put in your pocket. So he said, Now why am I recording it? You know, he's spending less than my wife. So anyway, he has made this whole particular situation is we make a joke but you can see from the other perspective, we are getting sauce compensated hundreds of

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people all right with the best of dinars a person spends his death which he spends looking after this can be the best videotapes, I was gonna say, even to the extent of putting a putting a more circuit in your wife's mouth is regarded to be certified in chapter. So how to look, not only is it the responsibility, but it is regarded I mean, obviously, it would be not in the best of the analysis, and it is regarded to be set up by intelligence. Now, luckily, sometimes, you know, you always wonder with regard to some of these

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modern type of situations and hasn't really done a service to women who would or has done a disservice. So, all the time when you meet men should have increased time like this. Some people say now what are suddenly becoming patronizing, but if what is that what is the line between patronizing and being kind and compassionate to someone whom Allah subhanho wa Taala has declared compassion to them as a very great favor. And it is something that must be done, to whom Allah is treated, in a way physically weaker than men. Now, how do you find that it is, is it patronizing? Or is it something that I believe that every woman irrespective of how successful they might be in the

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corporate world, I firmly believe everybody one irrespective of that, doesn't need that comforting arm over the shoulders, from the main hustle, or from the Father, or from the child if the husband is passed on. Tests need that protective type of function? Is that in today's world regarded to be backward? Is it reconnected with traditionalist or easy to rebel? It can be something that is in accordance with a woman's temperament. You see this whole particular aspect of woman in the 21st century? Why why why does it become such a difficult topic? Now, it is stated many times in certain civilizations, it was a little bit patronizing.

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Maybe we'll find, for example, in many Muslim cultures, you know, even in the buses, for example, they will say if a woman comes allowed to sit down, and please stand up, I see a woman sitting standing in a public transport. Wouldn't you be made a chauvinism? Would it be maybe protectionism that if he sees a woman that you know another person? Or would it be against equality of men and woman,

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you know, it's sometimes unnecessary complications we have created by some of these steps that we have come. So therefore, has never put upon under burden of care for her needs. And may the Los Angeles Times is, you know, Article makes mention of a very amazing thing. This is why we might regard pornography to be degrading, we might regard it to be something that goes against the dignity of a woman. But we have to admit it as being a woman enterpreneurs that is the mindset that you are finding increase time. Once there is Islam doesn't have that type of situation, a woman has never put upon the burden, that she must be, you know, financially responsible to provide for the family.

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If Allah has given her wait for some reason, she has to go out and work and I will come to that particular point also, if for some reason she has to she's not obliged to spend on the homes and the needs of the home. If she does, so, it would be her favor that she is doing, not an obligation, no has been, irrespective of his financial statement, or financial status, can force a woman

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to spend her money on the needs of the house? This is what Islam has given our feedback right? Now, Islam frees a woman from the responsibility of providing the feminine, maybe also also say, what is of great importance is this, that Islam does not impose upon a woman, for her to be recognized, for her to behave like a man or to be in man's reality to gain dignity and respect. She doesn't have to behave like a man. She doesn't have to take the responsibilities of a man for her to give dignity and respect. She is still given dignity and respect in Islam, for her being a woman in her own in a woman. Now when we talk about death, let us talk about this whole aspect. Where do we start?

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Today we save with great amount of fanfare people will talk about and say that the starting point of every civilization is womanhood, motherhood.

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And every time you will say and sometimes the most beautiful statements that you will find in this hearing, in English, quotations, the Hand That Rocks the Cradle rules the world,

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educate the men who educated an individual, educate a woman, you educate a society, very beautiful. But where is it put in practice?

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Where is it put in practice, where the environment maybe it might not be said in words, or sometimes it is said in words. But the environment is she woman today in the corporate world otherwise, is really given dignity and respect to the extent that she can compete. And out to many, Islam doesn't put that upon her vulnerable in normal shoulders, she doesn't have to do that. Whereas that is the reality. And in Islam, there's a there's a French writer by the name of JC Shani, I hope I'm pronouncing it right according to the French stuff. And he has written a very amazing thing. And he writes, he said that he read the total fertility rates. In all Western countries, Western European

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countries have the lower replacement value.

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Mediterranean countries commonly in in labor, less traditional and Catholic and family oriented, like for example, quadruple agrees with this on people like to say that they are traditional, and they are more definitely exhibit the lowest fertility evidence.

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And then He further writes just to show this particular point that I'm making. Now look at this. And then I will give you an example of what the standard says, Pregnancy in the corporate world is born with Gilead,

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since it upsets the functioning of a tool of production, like some kind of anomaly, and then another we've never really used a professional mistake. But plenty of some time.

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I'm in a board of a Muslim school. And I know that sometimes women is sitting in a board level, and there is a maternity leave that comes up four months, five months, six months.

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Why? on the paper, we say yes, you have to do it, we have to give maternity leave. But if she's a brilliant teacher, you find the frowns on the board members, but what we're going to do in that particular type. Now, for us, that is not supposed to be the case, in the corporate world, I can see is born with gimmicks.

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Whereas now let me give you another example. In Islam, I like the aspect of a guilt. motherhood is regarded to be the ultimate accolade and accomplishment. I don't like to say the only accomplished accomplishment of a woman because Allah tala has also made her responsible for her moral and spiritual development perspective. And I need to be very sensitive with regard to this because there are certain times and luckily in his own wisdom has won the lottery one person I want to another belongs the habits and

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whatever he wishes

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he can sometimes people Bailey children sometimes see Manchester, oh, he was only doing good.

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And sometimes it grants people 20s sometimes similar set of twins, both males, sometimes both females, sometimes one day and sometimes one female will show up sometimes.

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And we'll make one that alone, wherever those who do not have children will not run in pious children because every woman doesn't have a desire to be a mother. So why don't save is the ultimate and only objective is one of the major objectives of a woman to be a mother. And what do you mean by mother I will go to make mention with regard to that also as we go along. Now, the point is, let us look at this particular aspect of motherboard. We all know of a hobby in Gemini

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magical Gemini is under the feet of the

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mother and under the feet of the father is only a short jumper is nothing is comparatively look at the difference. And we all know that I want us to happy Can you commit yourself to be able to know should I show the most kindness and compassion and consideration to in my life? Who am I so happy mother.

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You're still out there who should show your mother. Yo this will not

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the first time when you say

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that it will be a cream sauce from the philosophies and said your father

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Doesn't the movie Rotterdam is an amazing human being, you know, he is a Sufi. And he has made mention of many beautiful points. And I read one very beautiful, you know, analogy one day he drew between a male and a female between the father and the mother. And you see is in his poetic form, the winner who is very well known for that sometimes one day the mother and the father were debating with one another who makes more sacrifices for the sake of the child. And the father said, Hey, get up early hours in the morning, hey, go to go from where to where to bring bread on the table, all of that and invention of and look at how much I have to strive in today's time is even more than that.

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Because you know, to get a business or to get a comfortable source of income is not easy. We need a greater amount of

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difficulty and great amount of effort. And the mother

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close the argument with these words and said,

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Don't you dare compare your sacrifices to my sacrifice.

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With regard to a child, you pour the seed of the child is powerful when it was in fact, I bought the seed of the Jiminy when it was ready.

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You bought the seat of the child for a short period of time.

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I bought this

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for my child for nine months.

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You drop the seed of your child in a foot of pressure.

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I dropped

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the sea of my chicken

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in pain nearing death?

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How dare you could pay your sacrifices to my second place.

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This why Video Coding System system in today's webinar, I wonder sometimes in the 21st century is the topic sentence.

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That's this play a role in understanding the rights and responsibilities and duties of a woman? Or do we

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in our quest?

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To say that we want to be equal like men, do we just dismiss these type of things?

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Sometimes, you know, we have to find a proper

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of proper perspective. And then another aspect motherhood is not only that, sometimes you look at this

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wonderful, great scholars has been mentioned with regard to it. And you write so eloquently, and sometimes worse. You're reading some of these works on the second day, who is the temporary wellness, he sees that that? It's no coincidence, pregnancy and breastfeeding, a purely temporary task. It is purely filamentous. In this age of so called equality, you have to ask why is it only feminine does because only alized.

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men would not have been able to wait for nine months, and they would not have been able to have the seven and the fixtures coming with the breast TVs.

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The men were not even able to have it. So we're impatient to look after the child is purely feminine does that for me it was it was kind of insanity. And we let that always protect a woman, a woman would die is given child birth.

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She's done this. Actually. She studies as much.

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And then it's

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been mentioned and he said this particular aspect. You know, childbearing is only one aspect of it, you've given birth to a child then afterwards what

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the aspect of pregnancy the high tech of breastfeeding, sexual cooking, after nurturing the child is going to be the responsibility of the mother first before anything else.

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And if for example, the the mother is waiting to be in any way, and every way we shall live will be pious honesty, integrity, integrity in terms of moderators on that, she is going to pass on that to the child. And therefore we see that the piety of a woman is even more important than the piety of men. Because whatever the child is going to become in later life depends largely not entirely upon the training they will receive from the mothers. So now you realize those beautiful statements are really nice conditions. The Hand That Rocks the Cradle rules the world, educate a woman to educate the nation, educate the members to take an individual, very beautiful savings. But when this is

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happening for each time commander is understanding either the proper Islamic teachings. That mother that mother

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He is someone that Islam is based upon a noble and delicate shoulders, the morality under the DEA, the integrity of the entire future generation.

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And this is something that Islam has given such great, you know, accurate regard for the woman in this particular feeling. So we can continue going at it maybe inshallah, if anyone has got any questions with regard to that, then it comes another very important aspect with regard to special protective rights. Now, let me put it in this way, and give you one example of how Beloved,

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I will be never going to be a case of not wanting to sell them, when we are getting to about one he was going to was going for had to do with them. We know that all the likes of India can be sourced from a company in India himself. So and the vfm himself about what he was selling was amazing how he dealt with the wife of folded over to be a cream sauce. That is something that we saw in the course of that there was a person by the name of congestion.

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And it just was

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the slave who was in charge of hurting and driving the camels, upon which were the noble consorts of our beloved Devi solonius in the waste as much of what I heard. And I just said no way with regard to the chemicals used to control camels very well. And he used to, you know, make them travel very well. And he could even make him reach a peak in terms of his TV, by his poetry and his chanting of certain things. He used to chant certain things that used to get the camels excited to the extent that they could go very fast. So one occasion when he was doing this, maybe according to the law, while he was still him said, well, you have to

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be careful only just now what are you doing?

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Rif can be with our real

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rich from the recovery. And I want you to assume and really understand this 3d full sentiments and the resources. He says the Roof Company, oh, and Joshua, be sensitive

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to these

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humans that you have on the camel's back. And the word you use is to Latina How do I can't sleep, Daria, maybe today's time for us to understand it is an expensive chandelier.

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You know, you've got a very expensive glass ornament.

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And, you know, you're are so careful, because of it being extensive. How do you deal with it, you're not gonna deal with it, like, you deal with the ordinary consul grass, who says listen, hey, this is this is expensive, you know, I need to deal with it very, very sensitive. So some users

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be sensitive with regard. And that is how I get here, you ask yourself the question.

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If Islam tells the husband or the wife, well, I can

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has given the husband's authority or regional power island itself. And maybe if I get a chance, I will try to pass through that particular aspect of what does this mean? To me the aspect of authority is maybe not really a privilege, it is it is a very good reason. And maybe one day we will discuss depending if I go to CES in time, I will try to break it up. So do you now take that into account? Or if Camille How are you? This is pretty crazy, or is it something that in today's world would a woman say that? No, we don't need to be discussed. We don't want to be that we don't want to be treated like that we are we are equal to you. Why would we be treated like

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this is some of Islam etc. Increase there will be different that no, we don't want to be treated like or you don't want to be treated sensitively, taking into account our situations.

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There are certain situations in a woman's life, which are normally when a mega Leon's nowadays and make mention of it. There's a point that when Allah subhanho wa Taala has taken into account, a woman's situation at a specific period in a month, and makes a lot more for

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all you as friends you also take into account what Allah has taken into account.

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Why can't you take into account that she is in a particular frame of mind at a time when Atlantic's into account? Don't remember us? Why can't you as a husband take into account is that against quality,

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instead of quantity or is depth in terms of understanding a woman's temperament and giving

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That is suited to her as an independent type, Suzanna, so how

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can I find this absolutely amazing. So let me tell you, somebody was telling me the best amongst those who are best in employment. And furthermore, the best among you are those who are looking forward to the waves. You haven't done

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well enough, they wouldn't be able to amongst you who my wife's, I think the best. So we definitely got to compete against this one lucky. boy does it? Is it patronizing? Or is it something that a woman will tell you, she's down in there, so we can respect that if sometimes because of the environment? She might not want to say? Because she made me look important enough we, of course, she was in the corporate world. No, I mean, look at our beloved Vietnamese A lot

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of you are gonna use a lot while he was selling that amazing respect. Maybe I can use a lot Hollywood sentiment in 11 wives nine one time, and also all of that we had, and all of them had different temperaments.

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And yet, we saw some heavier broadness of his conduct that he dealt with every one in accordance with a temperament. And everyone was happy with

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As a fidelity account, was the one who maybe a cream sauce, they made the greatest amount of respect. And as long as the salesman was married to a delegate to anyone else, right, then as it comes out of your mouth, for example, does it have some of your logo was prone towards anger. And one occasion maybe this gave it a thought that maybe it's difficult to live with, or maybe I should be more So as a developer, you're still giving says yellow Sula. And now his mega huff say you're away from just not even keep up. So even then, we saw some Delta, even if she was prone to anger. So what what is this true? So even if there is someone whose wife is prone to anybody who's also in a

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good situation, please someone who is sensitive among the wife might be sensitive, so the results will help sell money. When he proposed to me Someone said two things. One of the things that you said that I was thinking about, I got some more children. Let me sell them to your children, I might turn out.

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And then it's awesome. Not only looked after the box, then you married, and he was a lady, and you look up to them, and they got married. And it took special joy. And

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then she said, Yes, Allah, I'm very sensitive, and worried that I would be able to live in a home in which I have to compete with other wives. Don't let me stop and say, I wouldn't be here of your senses.

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So he dealt with someone who was sensitive. He dealt with someone who was extremely ambitious and enthusiastic. Someone like us, and I showed me a mouse icon. And this is something that many times I tell the husbands that do not because of your insecurities, stifle a woman in terms of her progress.

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Let me

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say for as I shall have given a bit of truth, yes. In fact, at every occasion,

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deal with having an opponent for the EEG and enthusiasm. So we actually want to proceed the what the ever Sydney warriors were doing in this claim, they the situation in terms of how they were dealing with the house, let me Academy southcom allowed her to sit over his shoulder and it won't move until she was tired. And she was the most knowledgeable among

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so much. So, that as it was true, that famous study said we never ever had a situation where we do not understand in a sector the problem is

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and we will be allowed to and we cannot find a suitable answer to the question that we have in our mind.

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The fourth greatest rally and transcript of

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and judge if an akula force number comes to you about the hammer, amazing. So when you see that,

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look at that particular type of situations, in terms of, you know, delicate each and every one of them became only ever suited up. I think this one companion just I don't, I don't want to even to come and spend the night with me if you don't want to take it my night and be because I show you a lot of love.

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So every one of them in the DSM sawston dealt with him differently. So this is such a great lesson that the Vietnamese also gave to the husbands that irrespective of the temperaments of your wife, take that into account in dealing with her in accordance with the temperament they will hire them and if you want to follow my story

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then we can continue going what I said that many times people would like to bring up, is this that, do we take into account a woman have become so, you know, different in terms of? I mean, let's face it I mean today what human activities never been before is in terms of agreement, the corporate world

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exciting. I mean, that's the fact of the matter. Girls, students today do much better than boys students within the Muslim schools, will it be normal school? Will it be universities? Do we take that into account? I will give you an example of a high difficulty level an issue so

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you can you can Medina, you know, that unsalted woman will be different from the Qureshi woman of Makkah.

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They were much more vocal.

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And they used to speak the mic.

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And the woman when they came from Macaca Medina, they were perhaps more subservient. There were those who did not raise a hand of Who are you and cry? What's the catch was their husbands did.

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This is clearly mentioned that once this video features, like, as if one or the other one, they came and said,

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you know, what happened to the mouse is two things that happened with the labrum in particular, one of them came, and he gave it to the house, they've not been sought permission to enter themselves in the house. And when he came into the house, did he sell stuff by smiling broadly. And he said, we have a lot of similar chemistry in the hemisphere, that I want you to keep you smiling, over, tell me why you're smiling. So that we are getting cell phones and I'm signing in his woman, no big deal came to me and they were demanding certain things with regard to the rights. And when there was somebody I sold them if the government official,

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a moment, their word, your voice, they ran away from you. They very open, and they started covering themselves.

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Right away.

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Or enemies of your own sword. You you were speaking about your writing

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every day for himself. And they said to him, and of course, we're others who are more harsh than and

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so they will also laughing at us. But what what why was he laughing the woman who was sitting in talking about certain aspects of the rights, then started singing on occasion, which was this occasion, another occasion, just to let you know what's happening in mouse.

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My wife never ever raised an objection to anything.

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Never ever. When they came to Medina, they got with us on Sunday, who were very vocal. And he was the speaker, you might I mean, maybe I should have been more sensitive in dealing with you. But I think it's important for me to say, to tell you the mindset of I'm sorry

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to say we are not to have mercy upon

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shyness never ever used to prevent them from asking any questions.

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They used to come in as community

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members about positions to be adopted in intimacy. And they used to have no qualms of regard to asking those questions. And as I used to say,

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because of the application and so much, so as an overseer, a pseudo law. My wife never ever used to complain you should pay for when you actually got rich to the answer a woman they started seeking them out. All of a sudden, this morning, she started arguing with me when she got to seminary six. So maybe I should have laughed and said only new house is also in my house.

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And I tell them when I speak to the husband and say that when a woman.

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She Venis, what is in her don't become angry what typically is a compliment because whether she vented after she gets married. She then says to the husband, that's an ideal marriage, which shows that she has got someone that she has trust that she can vent her feelings to unfortunately be prolonged. So you can even to the extent that way. Anyway, this is a situation now if

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if the situation in Manila was different from the situation in Dhaka, and let me show some took that into account. Did you ask yourself a question in today's time to become more progressive

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Certain things, why shouldn't we take it into account and deal with them?

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Why shouldn't we take that into account and take into account the environment as it is the environment is going to place a certain type of expectations in everyone, whether it be any any particular will do anything, even in the most traditional and conservative. However, we should not do it in a way that brings about, you know, a situation that compromises the uniformity of law, the Sharia, the modesty that Islam expects a woman to deal with in terms of a clothing in terms of her approach. And let me say that Allah Allah in the Holy Quran, when he has spoken about modesty has addressed both male and female

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talent to the believing male that they should cast the gazes down and protect their modesty wakulla minute and tell her to the believing female.

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This would cause the gazes down and they should protect the modesty but there are certain height the height of the Holy Quran, I don't have the time to go into it, where there are certain additional type of rules with regard to modesty, which applies to women as it applies to men. What are you Dina Xena Tawana, indelible Latina. Eight insofar as the Holy Quran, do not display your beauty beauty, except which ordinarily comes across except to certain males in the Quran goes on to make mention of it. Yeah, you want to be equally as logical and ethical, meaning you'd need

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to own a talent to be your your wife's your daughter's into the Muslim woman, to put an outer garment over the inner garment. Why Allah has done that maybe there's a particular type of topic for a different occasion. But in brief, it would be because of the importance of human to guard and modesty and to be able because of the sensitivity and normally we are this particular type of example that is given with regard to, you know, an ordinary stone, or a diamond or a very expensive stone, you will take certain degree of precaution with regard to an expensive stone. And our Allah tell us that is a reality with regard to a Muslim female, I think I'm going to maybe just carry on I

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said, I'm going to speak for an hour, you see these executive 58 minutes. I don't think there's any other aspects maybe let me just see if I can maybe touch on one Hispanic, I did try and bring that up. The female scholars of Islam

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and this particular aspect is something that is you know, you know,

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there are many great scholars in Islam has not put a barrier with regard to females going out in achieving scholarship and especially in Islamic knowledge. Whether why people don't do it in today's time, I don't know whether community doesn't allow people to do it. Don't allow the women to do it, or is it that women are by and large today, they are involved in other matters, and they don't give this important so they are more worried about seeing that the tick does not flop or seeing that the masala is right in terms of the chicken hole of that amongst the famous You know, I'm Robin Campbell ramen was among the greatest or the female scholars in Islam, the generation that came after that of

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the companions of Nabil salsola. She was a scholar, a Judas and a specialist in a hadith. The great Omar bin Abdulaziz used to say if you want to learn how to go to Amara imams who is credited with compiling the first compilation of Hadith would recommend go to Amira. She is a vast vessel of knowledge of a hadith. During the time the judge of Medina ruled in a case on a particular matter that I'm robbing her of this decision. She immediately told one of her students to go and tell the judge that he cannot do so she disagreed with him. And she gave the reason with regard to it. One of the great successes taught in both Damascus in the great Ahmed Masjid, and in Jerusalem. Her class

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was attended by imams jurists and Hadith scholars. The powerful halifa Abdul Malik bin Marwan had a teaching license from a billable woman who was considered the greatest Judas of his time in Medina, when Abdullah rich people asked him, Who should we seek religious verdicts from you after you? He replied, Marwan has a son Abdul Malik, who is a Judas asked him, hence Abdul Malik was endorsed by Abdullah the same Abdul Malik bin Marwan would attend the classes of comida willingly and without reserve learning from her. You know, these were some of the examples with regard to it. You know, Fatima, Ibrahim bin Johor, lived in porch was a famous teacher from Buhari Rahmatullah Lee, under

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whom both imams the hubby and he studied the entirety of Sahih Bukhari from her. When she came for Hutch, her famous stature as soon as the students of Hadith heard that she had reached Medina. That is

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requested to teach in the most of may be occurring a lot while your syllabus obviously has done with the required and requisite and the required modesty. There are many other such examples. One One is

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to account,

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woman scholarship, or do we live in the breadwinner for either characters or reasons of either different levels with regard to those reasons, our pokud witness statements, nameless has granted us the ability to reach our full potential. So we started to see and establish given once we got home, it is a remarkable and unique role, which is suited to our temperament, I am thinking, when we have that particular type of gold, we should replace it with data, we've got gold, and you know what is literally just a small sprinkling of gold, it is not to be able to when you have a healing goal, why should you replace it with every time when you look at what is actually happening, sometimes,

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really, I feel that sometimes the woman in today's world will feel that they have reached the pinnacle of, of rights, etc. Sometimes you feel that is it. So she has to compete with men, and she has to supersede them. And yet at the same time why he intends to be judged by the very same likeliness she has to come back at all and do all the very chosen tasks, which is normally required of a woman. Is that fair? That is the reason why that is a reason why I'm not sticking around the permissibility Islam has not emphasized or obliged a woman to go for celebrity tonight. So we've got a bright light, it is something that Islam has taken into account, hers is supposed to be a

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lighting, which is of countless, and using her talents to be able to look at the house after the home. And it has not taken away from the fact that she can go out if she needs to. Sometimes she would like to share her guidance, like in terms of counseling, or in terms of Islamic knowledge to other particular type of financier, maybe she's a good doctor, she would like to be able to share them all for example, the et cetera, she might have to go out of the holes because he's the one to pay for them. In terms of in terms of maybe the male of the of the of the mama fulfilling is to look after the female before she has to walk away from those technical aspects. But as gender

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particular type of equity is given to a very specific woman who hears a nation and raise the children and give special emphasis to the property of children. I spoke a little more than

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that if he really believes any question.

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wanted to ask a question regarding Muslim marriages in South Africa

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for judgment, the judge gave more than two years with English to

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do any medication

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without permission on the stage. I just needed to know what what are the things about this

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