Ebrahim Bham – ISLAM – Basis of correcting relationships
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillahi wahdah, wasalatu wasalamu ala man la
nabiyya ba'dah.
Amma ba'du fahdu billahi minash shaitanir rajim, bismillahir
rahmanir rahim.
Innamal mu'minuna ikhwah, fa-aslihu bayna akhawaykum, wattaqullaha
la'allakum turahamoon.
Sadaqallahul Azeem.
My dear respected elders and brothers, we begin
by praising almighty Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
sending salutations upon our beloved Nabiye-e-Karim,
salallahu alayhi wasalam.
Brothers, you and I, we are aware that
Islam is the basis of our success, both
in this world and in the year after.
Islam has come not only to grant us
felicity and success in the year after, but
also to correct our relationships and to grant
us success in this world.
Many a times, people feel that Islam is
there, it will give us success and give
us happiness in the year after.
But Islam has come to correct all our
relationships in this world, and also to grant
us success and a good life in this
world.
Says Allah in the Holy Qur'an, وَمَن
يَعْمَلْ مِنَ الصَّالِحَاتِ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَامٍ Whoever
does righteous deeds, be it male or female,
وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ and he is a believer, فَلَنُحْيَنَّهُ
حَيَاتًا طَيِّبًا We will grant him a pure
and blessed life.
حَيَاتًا طَيِّبًا means a beautiful life.
So it's not only the year after, Allah
Ta'ala talks about the year after in
the next portion of the verse.
But Allah Ta'ala says Islam, if you
are dear to it, it will give you
a حَيَاتًا طَيِّبًا Today let us look at
how Islam corrects our relationship, or it commands
us to give us good relationships throughout all
our spectrums and all throughout our life.
The first thing that we have to understand
is to correct our relationship with Allah Ta
'ala.
Now very important for us to understand, if
ever we want happiness, if ever we want
success, you can never get happiness, you can
never get success by disobeying and rebelling against
the one who created happiness and success.
And that is Allah Ta'ala.
So if you want happiness and you want
success, how can you gain that happiness and
success by disobeying the one who created happiness
and success?
Everything comes from Almighty Allah.
Therefore in Surah Al-Falaq, what do we
do?
What dua do we make?
قُلْ أَغُوذُ بِرَبِّ الْفَلَقِ مِن شَرِّ مَا خَلَقِ
Say, I seek refuge from the Lord of
Daybreak من شَرِّ مَا خَلَقِ from every evil
that has been created.
Because Allah Ta'ala is the one who
grants and has created everything.
So if you want happiness, and you want
success, you have to obey the one who
created happiness and success.
Our beloved Nabiye Karim ﷺ taught us this.
He was a great scholar in India, Mawlana
Attaullah Shah Bukhari, who used to put it
in this way.
He said, one day I realized and looked
at the greatness of our beloved Nabiye Karim
ﷺ.
And indeed he was great.
Allah Ta'ala speaks about his greatness in
various ways.
Allah Ta'ala takes an oath by his
speech.
وَقِيلِهِ يَا رَبِّ إِنَّ هَا أُولَيْهِ قُومٌ لَا
يُؤْمِنُونَ Allah Ta'ala takes an oath by
his life.
لَعَمْرُكَ إِنَّهُمْ لَفِي سَكْرَةِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ Allah Ta'ala
takes an oath in the city in which
he resided.
لَأُقْسِمُ بِهَذَا الْبَلَدِ وَأَنْتَ أِلُّمْ بِهَذَا الْبَلَدِ Allah
Ta'ala gave him such a great rank.
Allah Ta'ala says, وَرَفَعْنَا لَكَ ذِكْرَكَ We
have elevated your status to such a great
degree, O Prophet of Almighty Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
No one needs to elevate the status.
Allah has elevated his status.
Allah Ta'ala gave him such a rank,
when he said yes to something, it became
halal.
When he said no to something, it became
haram.
مَا آتَاكُمُ الرَّسُولُ فَقُضُوا وَمَا نَحَاكُمْ عَنْهُ فَانْتَؤُوا
And I can go on making mention of
his greatness.
He say, for a moment, my mind thought,
if I want any problem in my life,
if I have any situation in my life,
I will go to such a great person,
to go and ask him for assistance.
He say, went through the means of his
history.
Went through the means of his biography.
I went to knock at his door.
Now this is a manner of speech, doesn't
mean literally.
So he said, I went to knock at
his door.
I saw the entire creation sleeping.
And I saw this great human being, making
dua in front of someone else.
And he was making dua and he was
trying.
اِنْ تُعَذِّبْهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ عِبَادُكُ Oh Allah, if you
punish my followers, they are your bondsman, they
are your servants.
You have control over them.
You can do so.
وَإِنْ تَخْفِرْ لَهُمْ But if you forgive them.
فَإِنَّكَ عَنْتَ الْعَزِيزُ وَالْحَكِيمُ Then you are all
powerful, you are almighty, you can do that
also.
He say, then my mind made a decision.
Don't go to such a great human being
for assistance.
Go to that being, that even such great
human beings he is going to ask assistance
from.
So that is our relationship with Allah.
If we want success, Islam has taught us
to correct our relationship with Allah.
To grant felicity and success to us both
in this world and in the hereafter.
The second type of relationship that Islam has
come to correct is the relationship with the
family.
My dear respected brothers, today there is an
attack on the the important aspect of the
family.
You and I, and as Islam has taught
us, family is not something that we choose
just on the basis of our likes and
dislikes.
Family is an important institution which Islam has
encouraged us and emphasized upon us to protect.
And Islam has taught us that family is
society in miniature.
Family is society in miniature.
What society and a community will become depends
upon individual societies that resides in that community.
If you have stable families, and if you
have stable families, you will have a stable
community.
And you will have stable societies.
One of the greatest harm in today's time
is the institution of family is under attack
through the means of various deviant ways.
And once family breaks down, the entire community
and society break down.
And that is why Islam has taught us
that you protect the family.
You protect every aspect with regard to the
family.
You know, there is a hadith in Sahih
Muslim.
And it is said that Iblis puts his
throne in the water trying to try and
portray, you know, a certain degree of greatness
from his side, not from our side or
from Allah's side.
And he takes reports from all the small
jinnat, the small shaitan whom he sends out
to go and mislead people.
And they come back and give him a
report.
And one of them says that today I
made this person do this evil.
I made him do this evil.
I made him leave his salah.
I made him do this immorality.
I made him do this.
Iblis doesn't pay much attention to them.
And then one of the small shaitan and
the jinnat come and say that today I
made the husband and wife fight.
And I didn't leave them until the husband
uttered the talaq and he broke the marriage.
Iblis after listening to all the other aspects
and then he says, You come here next
to me on the throne.
You today have done something more than all
the other small jinnat and all the other
small shaitan.
You have done the greatest feat today in
my eyes in terms of evil.
Why?
You broke down the family.
He shows the greatest amount of happiness when
the family breaks down.
Today, my dear respected brothers, we don't have
the sacredness of the family ties.
Nabiya Karim sallallahu alaihi wasallam has said in
a hadith, In one hadith, Nabiya Karim sallallahu
alaihi wasallam has said, He does not fulfill
the rights of his relatives and his family
who believes that if they do good to
me, I will do good to them.
If they do good to me, I will
do good to them.
He does not fulfill the rights of his
family.
He does not fulfill the rights of his
relatives who believe that if they do good
to me, I will do good to them.
But he fulfills the rights of his relatives
and his family who despite how they behave
with him, He still does good to them.
That is how you fulfill the rights of
the family.
But otherwise, if you are going to do
and take this particular position, if they do
good to me, I will do good to
them, then even an animal does that.
What makes you and distinguishes you from an
animal?
What distinguishes you?
That even if they do bad to you,
you still relate to them and you still
do good to them.
And what is the cornerstone with regard to,
you know, the aspect of keeping good ties
with your family?
Nabiya Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said in
a hadith, which appears in Musnad-e-Ahmad,
اِذَا عَرَادَ بِأَهْلِ بَيْتٍ خَيْرَ اَدْخَلَ عَلَيْهِمُ الْرِفْتِ
When Allah Ta'ala wishes to do good
to a family, when Allah Ta'ala wishes
to bless a household, اَدْخَلَ عَلَيْهِمُ الْرِفْتِ He
introduces gentleness and kindness into that home.
If you want to know, everyone today, they
go to ulama, make dua Allah Ta'ala
gives us blessing, make dua Allah Ta'ala
gives us barakah.
Here the Nabi of Allah has told you
the means of attaining his barakah.
Not by wazifas.
Not by making, I'm not saying it's wrong
to make duas.
Not by wazifas.
You want to bring blessedness into your home?
Nabiya Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, When Allah
Ta'ala wishes to give goodness into a
home, He introduces kindness and gentleness into that
home.
When your relationship with your wife and your
children and your relatives is based on kindness,
know that Allah Ta'ala's blessings are upon
that home.
And when your relationship and your interaction, your
conversation with the people of the house is
based on harshness, you are going to break
that house.
And Allah Ta'ala will take away his
blessedness.
After Allah Ta'ala says in the holy
Quran, فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ It
is Allah's rahmat, that the Prophet of Almighty
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala was kind upon
you.
وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَزًّا غَلِيزَ الْقَلْبِ لَنْ فَضُّوا مِنْ
حُولِهِ If he was harsh and he was
vulgar, people would not have surrounded him.
He would not have created unity.
Kindness and gentleness brings families and communities together.
Harshness and vulgarity breaks communities, breaks families.
The third particular type of relationship, Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala has emphasized upon, is the
Muslim Ummah.
إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ Says Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala in the holy Quran, that verily all
Muslims are brothers.
And this is a brotherhood, that is not
based on racialism, or based on ethnicity, or
based on tribalism.
It is based on the kalima, لا إله
إلا الله محمد رسول الله All believers irrespective
of their background, they are brothers unto one
another.
And this is a relationship which is based
on the kalima, لا إله إلا الله It
is not only based on the kalima, لا
إله إلا الله It is the basis of
success.
Nabi A.S. has said, لا تدخلوا الجنة
حتى تؤمنوا You cannot bring and you will
not enter Jannah until you have iman.
ولا تؤمنوا حتى تآبوا And you do not
have iman until you love one another.
If you don't love one another, you don't
have iman.
أَلَا عَذُلُّكُمْ عَلَى شَيْءٍ إِذَا فَعَلْتُمْ وَهُتَحَابَبْتُمْ Should
I not show you something, if you do
it, it will create muhabbat amongst you.
أَفْسُ السَّلَامَ بَيْنَكُمْ Spread the salam amongst you.
In another hadith, أَلَا مَنْ عَرَفْتَ وَمَنْ لَمْ
تَعْرِفْ To those people whom you know, and
those people whom you don't know.
Today the reality is, we only make salam
to the people whom we know, not with
regard to the people whom we don't know.
Islam has laid the greatest emphasis upon the
unity, and the love, and the muhabbat, and
the harmony of this particular ummah.
Nabi A.S. has said, يَدُوا اللَّهِ عَلَى
الْجَمَعَةِ Allah's hand of assistance is upon the
united lot.
فَإِنَّ الْبَرَكَةَ مَعَ الْجَمَعَةِ Blessings is upon the
united lot.
Brothers, if we are not united, Allah's blessings
will not be with us.
Allah's assistance will not be with us.
One great scholar made mention with regard to
it, and he said, he made mention of
a very amazing thing, he said, until you
are not united, Allah's assistance will not come
upon you.
He said, in the time of our beloved
Nabi A.S., if there were 10,000
people, if there were 10,000 people, then
every person had the support and the assistance
of 9,999 people.
That is why they became successful, and they
were able to rule the world.
Today in one, never mind today, if we
have 10,000 people, we'll have 11,000
sects.
That's the reality.
The time there were 10,000, everyone had
the support of 9,999 people.
That is why they were successful.
And this particular aspect of this unity is
the one that has broken the ummah.
And Allah ta'ala warns us with regard
to it.
Nabi A.S. and Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala has warned us about it.
Allah ta'ala says, وَلَا تَنَازَعُوا فَتَخْسَلُوا وَتَضْحَضَرِئُكُمْ
Don't disunite.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will fragment you.
And Allah ta'ala will make you weak.
Brothers, another aspect with regard to this brotherhood
is to remember what is happening in Palestine.
It is part of our brotherhood.
مَثُلُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ فِي تَوَادْلِهِمْ وَتَرَاحُمِهِمْ The example of
Muslims and Muslims and the ummah in terms
of their mutual care and concern for one
another.
It is like one single body.
One single body.
Do we feel the pain?
If you have a pain in the toe
or if you have a pain in the
tooth, it's a small part of the body.
But that pain will not allow the body
to become tranquil.
The body will become restless.
If one portion of the ummah is in
pain, the way the people are in Gaza,
then how can we as a Muslim ummah
who says, وَإِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ And when Nabiya
Karim s.a.w. said, you are like
one single body, do we feel the pain?
Do we make the dua?
Do we do something with regard to it?
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given them
a very great rank.
Today why we feel hurt?
With regard to the oppression that is meted
out.
You know there was a survey done by
the Palestinian health ministry which they did a
list of the people.
They took the details of people who have
died.
And they took their names so they are
not left in vain.
34,000.
More than that, they are still compiling the
list.
It took 649 pages to take the list
of 34,000 people.
From page 0 to 11 was the name
of children who were between 0 and 1
year who were killed.
By the people today who talk about human
rights.
11 pages of people who were killed who
were between the age of 0 and 11.
And we do feel the pain.
But remember Nabiya Karim s.a.w. has
prophesized this in one hadith.
It appears in Musnad al-Ahbar and other
books of hadith.
Nabiya Karim s.a.w. has said, لَا
تَزَالُ طَوْعِفَةٌ مِّنْ أُمَّتِ A group of my
ummah will remain on haqq.
They will remain on the truth.
لَا يَدُرُّهُم مَّنْ خَالَفَهُمْ The people who oppose
them will not be able to harm them.
And then Nabiya Karim s.a.w. was
asked, يا رسول الله, Who is this group
that will remain on truth?
And the people will not be able to
harm them.
Nabiya Karim s.a.w. said, Those who
are in Baitul Muqaddas and Aknafah Baitul Muqaddas.
Those who are in Jerusalem and around Jerusalem.
Nabiya Karim s.a.w. told them, That
this group, they will remain on haqq.
They are making first sacrifice on our behalf.
They are protecting Masjid al-Aqsa on our
behalf.
That is our third Qibla.
I mean, that's our first Qibla, not our
first Qibla.
That is the third most important sacred site.
What I meant by third?
The third most important, third most sacred.
But our first Qibla.
They are protecting on our behalf.
And while we do feel hurt with regard
to it, Remember that the person in the
rank of a shaheed, What do I explain
to you?
Nabiya Karim s.a.w. said in one
hadith, That a person who, You know, why
do you feel hurt?
We are human beings.
When we see small children being bombed, And
our brothers and sisters being bombed, We feel
hurt.
But look at the other side.
I'll give you an aspect of hope.
Nabiya Karim s.a.w. has said, The
person who is shaheed, who is martyred, He
does not feel the pain of his martyrdom
More than what you feel the pain of
an ant that is stinging you.
They don't even feel that amount of pain.
In one hadith, Nabiya Karim s.a.w.
said, That a person who is made shaheed,
He will intercede of 70 people on behalf
of his ahlul bayt, Of his own family.
He will intercede and take them to Jannah.
Person who is shaheed, 70 people he will
take to Jannah.
In one amazing hadith, Nabiya Karim s.a
.w. has said, That the people of Jannah
will not want to come back into this
world, Except one group.
One group will want to come back into
this world.
And what is that group?
The people who have become shaheed and they
will say to Allah, Ya Allah, send us
back to the world.
The pleasure and the comfort we got in
sacrificing our life in your path.
Send us back that we can get the
same amount of sacrifice, And we can get
the same amount of pleasure and happiness once
again.
They are successful.
Allah will reward them.
It is for us, what have we done
with regard to this brotherhood?
So I made mention with regard to our,
Correcting our relationship with Allah, Correcting our relationship
with our family, Correcting our relationship with this
ummah, With every Muslim brother, So that we
can bring the ummah back to where it
was.
And lastly, just very one or two minutes
I will take, We also have a responsibility
to the people around us, To our neighborhood,
Muslim or non-Muslim.
Nabi A.S. emphasized the rights of the
neighborhood to such an extent, That Nabi A
.S. He made mention with regard to the
rights of the neighborhood, People who are in
your neighborhood, And people who are in your
community, In your country, To such an extent,
That Nabi A.S. I thought that he
will make them part of the inheritance.
So can you imagine, as it is, We
have been asking problems with regard to our
inheritance within our family, If they would have
become part of the inheritance, What would have
happened?
That Nabi A.S. And he said, That
there is a right of the neighbors, Forty
houses, You know, forty houses around you, This
part, Abdullah ibn Hamr ibn al-As, Zia
Allah wa ta'ala wa sahabi, One day
he slaughtered a sheep, And he slaughtered a
sheep, That time it was a very rarity
to have meat, And he said, and he
told the people, First see to it, That
you give the Jewish neighbor the first portion
of their meat.
What is our relationship?
We brothers, we have a value system.
We have such a beautiful thing, Which we
believe, Is a solution to the ailments of
humankind.
When are we going to share it with
people?
Nabi A.S. Went to go and visit
a Jewish youngster who was sick.
And everyone, we make mention of this hadith,
Everyone talks about it.
How much have we inculcated within us?
Is there a non-Muslim person, Who is
sick that you went to go and visit?
Who is your work colleague?
Did you show him that respect?
You go to a hospital, You go and
see someone who is ill.
An alim made mention of this recently in
South Africa.
And I was so motivated, I was inspired
by it.
You go and see your family member in
the hospital.
Next to him, there is a non-Muslim
who is there.
Do you have the courtesy to go and
ask him, How are you feeling?
The prophet of Allah went to see a
Jewish youngster.
And the incident was a long one.
Nabi A.S. said, become a Muslim.
And he looked up to his father.
The father was amongst those who knew the
prophet of Allah was the truth.
And he said, follow Abu Al-Qasid.
And he became a Muslim.
And Nabi A.S. said, We have a
responsibility to the people in our country.
To be able to share our values.
So my dear respected brothers, What I have
just done in this short period of time,
Is to say that Islam has come to
correct our relationship.
To correct our worldly life and our hereafter.
And in that, I have made mention of
correcting our relationship with Allah.
Correcting our relationship with our family.
With our ummah and the broader community.
May Allah give you and I the tawfiq
of making amal.
Wa akhiru da'wana.