Ebrahim Bham – Interpersonal relationships

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The importance of fulfilling human rights is emphasized, including death and being a Muslim. It is also emphasized that avoiding harming others and visiting people for good to them is crucial. The speaker also emphasizes the need to be prepared to accept less and give more to others when it is impossible to do so. The importance of being aware of one's own needs and apologizing for the misunderstandings is emphasized, as it is the cornerstone of Islam. A death by a man was supposed to be a "punk incident" but was described as a "monster incident" by a speaker. Consciousness is emphasized, and the speaker offers advice on how to deal with people who are different from oneself.

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			My dear respected elders and brothers,
		
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			there are different
		
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			branches in our deen, and every one of
		
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			them is important.
		
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			1 of the branches of deen the
		
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			and our beloved name is.
		
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			As they create emphasis upon these
		
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			to fulfill the rights of our fellow human
		
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			being.
		
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			In our sharia, we term it as.
		
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			And this is a very important
		
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			part of our
		
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			that there are 3 types of rights that
		
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			a person has. There are 3 types of.
		
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			One, is death, which Allah will not forgive
		
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			by the proclamation of Allah.
		
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			Allah will not forgive a person who has
		
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			sought safe partners to Allah.
		
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			Allah.
		
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			As long as he's committing shirk,
		
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			Allah won't forgive him.
		
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			If he's doing shirk, and then he ask
		
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			Allah for Tawba,
		
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			and he
		
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			repents, then will forgive him.
		
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			The second type of deeds is that which
		
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			is
		
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			which is between a person and.
		
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			Wishes will forgive.
		
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			If doesn't wish, can punish.
		
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			And then there's a third type of rights
		
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			and the third type of sin,
		
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			which is to do with a fellow human
		
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			being. You have done someone wrong. You have
		
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			reserved his wealth.
		
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			You have dishonored him. You have backbited him.
		
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			Allah won't forgive until that person forgives.
		
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			So these are 3 types of teach,
		
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			and this is a very important.
		
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			It's an important part of deal. Today, you
		
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			and I, we regard Salat as the we
		
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			regard Zakat and Zikar as the but with
		
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			regard to fellow human beings relationship, we don't
		
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			regard it as the.
		
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			Look at what Allah the
		
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			Quran
		
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			Have you seen those who deny religion?
		
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			Now you and I, we will say Who
		
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			is the one who denies religion?
		
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			That one who doesn't read,
		
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			who doesn't make sicker.
		
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			And the one who repels the orphan.
		
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			Skin,
		
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			and he doesn't encourage the feeding of the
		
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			poor.
		
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			Or He is the one who denies religion.
		
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			Who regards that today
		
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			as a denial of religion is the one
		
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			who does not fulfill the rights of human
		
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			being.
		
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			And on the day of,
		
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			Allah Dalla will take into account
		
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			just as he takes into account the violation
		
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			of the rights of Allah,
		
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			Allah will take into account the violation of
		
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			the rights of human being.
		
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			Very great ally. In Karachi, at the time
		
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			when
		
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			Pakistan became independent,
		
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			he was a freedom fighter,
		
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			and he was part of those who made
		
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			sacrifice for Pakistan.
		
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			He lifted the flag first time.
		
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			1947, 14th August. He was the first person
		
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			to lift the Pakistani flag.
		
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			He wrote a commentary on Sahih Muslim.
		
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			India, he has written.
		
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			You must listen to this. The person who
		
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			severs family relationship
		
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			does not assist and help his relatives,
		
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			causes difficulty to neighbors,
		
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			searches, talks in people,
		
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			talks and behave errandly arrogantly with
		
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			people, will not enter Jannah
		
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			even if he's divided his
		
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			one of our great allies. Today, I don't
		
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			want to speak so much upon the importance
		
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			with regard to. I
		
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			want to give
		
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			what Islam has told us,
		
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			how can we better our relationships with people.
		
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			And I will make mention of the points.
		
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			First point,
		
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			whenever Allah Ta'ala has made mention of the
		
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			rights of human beings,
		
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			Allah has always qualified it with Taqwa.
		
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			First, do the rights of Allah, then according
		
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			to that, Allah will correct your relationship with
		
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			people.
		
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			Get you correct your relationship with Allah.
		
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			Allah will correct your relationship with people. Many
		
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			times people find we don't get along with
		
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			our wife. We don't get along with our
		
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			children. We don't get along with our relatives.
		
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			Maybe you need to see is your relationship
		
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			with Allah correct or not.
		
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			So Allah Dala has always in the ayat
		
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			which I read in the Khubba, what the
		
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			with regard to the rights of your relatives.
		
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			So the first thing,
		
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			The better your the better your relationship with
		
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			people.
		
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			Secondly,
		
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			very important, greater emphasis
		
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			on the fulfillment of your obligation
		
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			than the receiving of your dues.
		
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			This is important. One should be prepared
		
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			to accept less
		
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			for his own rights,
		
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			but give more to others what they deserve.
		
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			2nd very important principle,
		
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			get as far give more importance
		
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			to your responsibilities
		
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			than your rights.
		
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			1st, fulfill the rights of others.
		
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			1st, fulfill the rights of others, then as
		
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			far as your rights is concerned, I've seen
		
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			this.
		
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			Whoever strives to fulfill the rights of others,
		
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			you will see, Allah will see, your rights
		
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			will get fulfilled and your needs will get
		
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			fulfilled.
		
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			This is a reality. You will see it.
		
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			But strive to fulfill the rights of others.
		
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			Today, what it is?
		
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			When it's time to take, we will take.
		
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			Time to give and ask my bigger brother,
		
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			he'll give you. But learn to give,
		
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			learn to fulfill your rights,
		
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			then you will see. So this is important.
		
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			Greater info emphasis on the fulfillment of your
		
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			obligation
		
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			than the receiving of your dues. Breathe be
		
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			prepared to accept
		
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			less
		
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			than one's due and give more to others
		
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			what is they do.
		
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			3rd thing,
		
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			observance of the rights of others
		
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			is not only
		
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			a command of Allah, it is an which
		
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			Allah will question you on the day of.
		
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			You have to who
		
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			said that if a camel
		
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			dies of hunger
		
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			on the bank of Euphrates River in Iraq,
		
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			where is sitting in Medina?
		
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			Where is Iraq very far? If a camel
		
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			dies of, I'm afraid Allah will question me
		
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			on the day of
		
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			It is an.
		
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			The right that you owe to your your
		
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			parents, your relatives, your neighbors, your Muslim brother,
		
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			it's not only a command,
		
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			which will question you on the day of
		
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			guilt.
		
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			3rd point I've made mention of.
		
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			If I make a mistake in my counting,
		
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			then you must correct me. Number 4,
		
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			what what is this? Nowadays, people, you know,
		
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			we we they forget, so we have to
		
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			make numbers.
		
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			The 4th thing,
		
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			the
		
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			the emphasis
		
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			upon the rights of others and the rights
		
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			of is such
		
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			that Islam has taught give preference to others
		
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			even if difficulty comes
		
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			Give preference to others even if difficulty comes,
		
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			oh lord. This was the what Allah told
		
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			us spoke about the answer.
		
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			I made mention of this incident many, many
		
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			times. The
		
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			of
		
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			made them brothers. So when
		
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			made their brothers, they started looking after the
		
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			people of Makkah. When they started looking after
		
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			the people of Mecca, one day, the put
		
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			wealth. He told the people of, oh, people
		
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			of, there is this wealth. Let me give
		
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			it to the people of
		
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			Mecca.
		
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			Then we don't have to look after
		
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			to look
		
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			after them. What he said,
		
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			give it to them, and we still look
		
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			after
		
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			So a Muslim
		
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			defers his own needs
		
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			in order to help others.
		
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			He endures
		
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			inconvenience
		
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			while providing comfort to others.
		
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			He will sometimes bear hunger so that others
		
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			will be fed.
		
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			There's some friends in hours. They first feed
		
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			others, then they eat. So
		
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			believer first feeds others even if he has
		
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			to bear some sort of hunger.
		
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			This is the way we do. We give
		
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			other people
		
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			preference
		
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			even if difficulty comes our
		
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			And I'll say sometimes there is a situation
		
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			when you are home, you can go in.
		
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			In.
		
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			Gives you a right to go make mention
		
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			with regard to where you are wrong. However,
		
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			there are certain times if you are wrong
		
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			and you keep quiet, Allah will help you.
		
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			So this is the 4th thing I have
		
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			made mention of. Give others preference even if
		
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			difficulty comes you wrong. And then if you
		
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			can't do that, put it, don't harm others.
		
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			This is the cornerstone
		
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			with regard to the rights of others.
		
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			Don't give anyone.
		
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			A Muslim is he who helps other people.
		
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			Other people are safe from the arm of
		
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			his hands and his tongue.
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			Muslim What is this that we give people
		
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			the cliff?
		
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			We we speak to people, which, you know,
		
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			we give people that we don't see how
		
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			we speak to people. When we park, we
		
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			don't park in the correct manner. When we
		
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			speak, we don't get taken to account the
		
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			feelings of another.
		
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			This is what Islam. Islam says, a Muslim
		
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			is here. Other Muslims are safe from the
		
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			evil of his hands and tongue. Says
		
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			that when he used to get up for
		
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			the Hajjat,
		
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			He used to open the door softly, close
		
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			the door softly.
		
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			He's sleeping, wife is sleeping,
		
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			and the wife of Nabi Islam loved him
		
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			so much. If you would have made a
		
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			noise, if you would have inconvenience them, if
		
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			they would have got away, they would never
		
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			have complained.
		
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			But this was the.
		
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			Didn't cause the cliff and inconvenience
		
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			even to his own wife.
		
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			Today, we have to come late from somewhere,
		
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			from a meeting, went to visit someone. How
		
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			do we enter into the house?
		
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			We hope and enter into houses such a
		
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			way the whole house, you know, they they
		
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			get disturbed. This is the way.
		
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			Listen to
		
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			this.
		
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			Whoever harms others,
		
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			Allah will harm him.
		
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			Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him. Whoever
		
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			causes hardship to others, Allah will cause him
		
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			hardships.
		
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			This is something that we have to keep
		
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			in mind. Islam wants to build a society
		
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			which is a model of civility, that we
		
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			don't have others. Nabiya Karim saw Muslim's most
		
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			beautiful hadith.
		
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			Nabi saw Islam said iman has 77 branches.
		
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			The most highest form of iman is
		
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			The lowest form of iman is to remove
		
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			an offensive item from the road. Lower than
		
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			that, there is no iman.
		
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			There is no lower iman that you can't
		
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			even remove something from the road of people.
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			So this is, I don't know, number 5.
		
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			Now number 6, this is very important,
		
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			by a Muslim loves people.
		
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			A Muslim
		
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			loves people,
		
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			and people love him.
		
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			He is friendly,
		
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			and people befriend him.
		
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			Now this particular situation,
		
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			I don't understand this.
		
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			So
		
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			I'm not speaking without any evidence.
		
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			Al Muqmin
		
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			Mahalaf.
		
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			La fayrafim
		
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			Allah Youalaf walayuglaf.
		
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			A Muslim is a receptacle
		
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			of love.
		
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			There is no good in a person
		
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			who does not befriend other people,
		
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			who is not does not love people, who
		
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			does not befriend people, and people does not
		
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			befriend him. There's no good in him.
		
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			There
		
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			is no good in a person who does
		
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			not love people, who does not befriend people,
		
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			and people does not befriend him. This is
		
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			the hadith of the reoccurring source of them.
		
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			So this is something that we have to
		
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			keep in mind. Be good to people. Find
		
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			ways to be good to people. Go and
		
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			visit people. Go and befriend people.
		
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			That is the.
		
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			There is no good in a person who
		
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			does not befriend people and people does not
		
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			befriend it.
		
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			And then the 7th thing, don't look down
		
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			upon people.
		
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			Don't look down
		
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			In Hadith,
		
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			it is enough. It is enough evil for
		
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			a person.
		
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			Oh, they got no other evil. He's got
		
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			no other faults. This particular evil is enough
		
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			to destroy him that he looks down upon
		
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			people.
		
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			He regards other people as you know? I
		
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			I was just thinking this week, and I
		
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			made mention of it yesterday in my radio
		
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			program.
		
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			1 son passed away.
		
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			After a week or so,
		
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			on the day of Midah, the mother passes
		
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			away.
		
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			No one knows the person.
		
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			Know that he's a very great pious person
		
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			went in jamar, and everyone knows the person,
		
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			ordinary person.
		
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			He passes away while going for Hajj. His
		
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			mother passes away. Both mother and son passes
		
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			away. Today, they all just read, you know,
		
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			the tribute to the mother by one of
		
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			the daughters.
		
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			She didn't know people didn't know her. Who
		
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			are we to judge people?
		
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			Mahapat was people, my dear respected brothers.
		
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			Then another important point.
		
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			Right? Number I think number 7 number. Right?
		
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			88. 88.
		
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			How do you deal with people who are
		
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			different from you?
		
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			Everyone is gonna be like you. So sometimes
		
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			there's a person there's a temperament difference.
		
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			So sometimes a person who is
		
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			an extrovert, he likes to meet people.
		
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			I like to meet with people. I like
		
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			to joke with people. Sometimes the people regard
		
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			their joking as, no, this person is a
		
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			and he's joking with us. But I that's
		
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			my tibit. I learned some people are introvert.
		
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			They don't like to speak to people. They
		
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			don't. Now how do you get the right
		
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			balance between
		
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			a person who's an introvert as a person
		
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			who's an extrovert?
		
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			Sometimes you must be able to
		
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			to
		
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			to make sacrifices.
		
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			What a dream. You are an extrovert,
		
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			so someone is an introvert, respect him.
		
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			Don't go and say because he is not
		
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			like you, you start looking down upon him.
		
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			Sometimes there is going to be situation. I
		
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			like to give this example in Nabiya Karim
		
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			salallahu
		
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			alaihi wasalam was sitting one day, and Abu
		
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			Bakr came, Umar came. And Nabiya was relaxed.
		
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			And then we saw
		
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			was
		
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			slightly raised. People could see the bottom of
		
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			his shim. Right? And Abu Bakr came and
		
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			asked permission, and we saw some set like
		
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			that lying down. Umrah came lying down, and
		
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			then 3rd person
		
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			put his right, put his right.
		
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			Hassan Aisha used to see all this.
		
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			I couldn't sit like that relax in front
		
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			of him. I took into account his temperament.
		
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			Sometimes you take into account of So what
		
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			if a person gets angry, take into account
		
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			by itself, skip by it sometimes. He gets
		
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			angry, so what?
		
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			So people are not the same. Take into
		
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			account people's temperament.
		
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			Lastly, now time is good. I had another
		
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			10, 11 points. No, man. Inshallah, come be
		
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			clear. Last night, help people,
		
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			brothers. Learn to help people. And this is
		
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			such a beautiful incident. Let me conclude with
		
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			it. It's one of the most beautiful incidents
		
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			that I I made mention of this incident
		
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			in a row where and where in front
		
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			of presidents and in front of many people.
		
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			This incident of Josep Bin Ayaz and Shatik
		
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			e Balthi.
		
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			So Shatiq Abalthi used to make Ibadat in
		
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			the Haram. All the time, sit in the
		
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			Haram and make Ibadat. So Fuzay bin Ayaz
		
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			was like someone who used to travel, go
		
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			out in the path of Allah, go out
		
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			in. So one day, Jose said,
		
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			tell me
		
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			your purpose in life, you all the time
		
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			in the Haram. Why did you choose this
		
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			particular way?
		
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			Incident.
		
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			One day, I was going in the in
		
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			the, you know, desert or somewhere,
		
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			and I saw an amazing incident.
		
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			I saw there was a blind bird.
		
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			You know?
		
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			And I saw this blind bird, and I
		
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			said, you Allah, who's gonna feed this blind
		
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			bird?
		
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			Where is he going to be? Where is
		
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			he gonna get food from? Who's gonna feed
		
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			this blind
		
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			bird?
		
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			Then I saw another bird coming. Another bird
		
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			came, brought a worm, bought some food, put
		
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			it in the beak of the blind bird.
		
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			See, so I saw this. For, Jose, can
		
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			you saw it now? What did you do?
		
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			To he said, Jose,
		
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			If a lot Allah can look after a
		
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			blind bird,
		
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			Allah will look after me.
		
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			I like to look after a blind bird.
		
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			Allah will look after me.
		
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			I have sacrificed my life. I'm gonna make
		
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			you bad if Allah will look after me.
		
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			So he said,
		
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			I'm surprised at you.
		
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			He said, why?
		
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			He said, can I ask you a question?
		
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			He said, what?
		
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			He said, why did you choose to be
		
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			the blind bird?
		
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			Why didn't you choose to be the bird
		
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			that was feeding the blind
		
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			Why didn't you choose the bird that was
		
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			feeding? Why did you choose to be the
		
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			blind bird?
		
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			I go and help people, brothers, and let
		
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			Allah will help us. May Allah give us
		
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			a to think of really becoming people who
		
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			get along with people. Today, yeah, everywhere you
		
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			listen, everywhere you hear, people are not getting
		
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			along in families, in communities, in jamaats. These
		
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			are some of the usouls. If we can
		
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			put it together, Allah will give us Muhammad.