Islam and Feminism
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The discussion delves into the history and cultural implications of the western stance on women's sexuality, including restrictions on driving and the lack of women being allowed to work in certain fields. The sharia law provides a curriculum for women to achieve gender roles and emphasize the need for a thorough understanding of the topic. The speakers also touch on the legal system and divorce, including the importance of obtaining a divorce to avoid legal issues and the need for a court case to avoid legal problems.AI Generated Transcript ©
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All praise is due to a law and realize Peace and blessings beyond the last messenger of Allah
and and all those who follow the path of righteousness until the last day.
My topic, as you've already heard,
is feminism
from an Islamic perspective, or Islam, and feminism,
and this term feminism,
we hear regularly in the newspapers, on television, in the media, magazines, etc.
It has become one of the hot topics of our time.
It's a topic which came up
in the 20th century, and it has carried on into the 21st century.
And it's a topic which
represents in the hands of some
an attack on Islam,
or the basis from which Islam would be attacked.
However,
feminism in its origin was not against Islamic teachings.
It is what feminism has become, in our times, where we find it challenging and seeking to displace Islamic teachings in the Muslim Ummah,
the female element of the Muslim oma.
So, for us to understand this topic, let me first give you a definition.
The definition
found commonly is that feminism is the belief
in the social, economic, and political equality of the sexes,
social, economic, and political equality of the sexes. This is the the essence of what women Western women in particular, were fighting for, for the last three to 500 years,
the social
equality,
which had to do with family,
and how family operated,
economic which had to do in the workplace,
wages,
an equality
of pay for equality of work.
And in the political sphere,
it was focused on voting, because up until 1920,
in the US,
there wasn't an opportunity for most Americans, American females to vote, voting was the right only of males. But by 1920 1980, in the UK, women were given
the right to vote.
And with that, right,
they progressed with the civil rights issues of the 20th century
where black Americans sought their rights
which were supposed to have been given to them
and the women's movement,
women's rights movements, they followed up behind the civil rights movements in the US.
Now,
when we look at the issues of feminism,
we have to understand that feminism in the West
is quite different from what many of you might think
Feminism is as Muslims, because the background, the history, which produced feminism in the in the West
is different from the background for Muslims.
Because if we consider
that
1400 years ago
in the seventh century
prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam
had stated in his farewell address
hot button
he had said there in the football
Yeah Are you a nurse, Allah in our back home
or people your Lord is one.
We're in a back room.
And your father
is one.
Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah.
By Allah
there is no superiority
of an Arab over and non Arab.
Wala
Leah jemena Arabic or for a non Arab over and out of, well Ali I've met in Asmara, Allah
as well. And there is none for whites over blacks, while only a sweater.
Normally, for blacks over whites
in taqwa, except based on the fear of a law.
This statement 1400 years ago,
is a statement of
civil rights, a statement of equality,
which was only reached by Western civilization in the 19th and 20th centuries.
So we have a different background.
Our laws are divinely revealed laws,
revealed by the creator of this world and everything in it.
Their laws,
while initially
based on the Bible,
and the Bible
is corrupted.
It is not the pure revelation from Allah. So it has in it many, many statements, which go against the teachings of God.
But it does have a moral core,
which is preserved in Islam, and its purity.
So, with that corruption,
then it was not surprising that in the West, slavery
was promoted.
People of Color were looked at as inferior
to Europeans.
And even
in
the most highly regarded
document of America's existence,
the American Constitution
in it, this is written in the 18th century by the leading thinkers, the most enlightened
leaders who put together this document known as the American Constitution.
In it
in Article One, Section two,
called the three fifths compromise.
It enshrines there the concept that
people of color, black people
We're equivalent to three fifths of a white person.
This is in the American Constitution.
This is in
the 18th century.
And this was not
repealed
in the full sense, until the 1960s, with the civil rights movement, when finally, laws were made, to ensure no discrimination
over race, and added to that was also no discrimination for the sexes.
So, there is a different background here.
Because the laws in Islam
were revealed by God,
those laws
will not be
evolving, they will not need to be changed.
Not to say that in some parts of the Muslim world, where culture has overcome the teachings of Islam, that women may not have to fight for rights, which are already given to them in Islam.
So, this is the perspective we are talking about.
The rights which Western women fought over in the early 20th century, like owning property.
This was already established in the Quran, and the Sunnah 1400 years ago.
That
goodbye hotbar, or speech which Prophet Muhammad SAW Salam gave us his farewell speech 1400 years ago, you will not find in any civilization
from the seventh century,
all the way up until the 20th century, where a clear statement of equality and opposition to nationalism and tribalism is there, you will not find it.
No matter how hard you search in all of the European countries,
countries of the Far East Near East.
It's not there.
And the reason why it was there at a time when nowhere else in the world was this set, is because it is revelation from Allah subhana wa Tada. That's why it could be found 1400 years ago, when nobody in the rest of the world was thinking about this.
It was not comprehensible.
People were caught up in tribalism, in racialism,
nationalism, etc, etc.
So when we look at the issues of feminism,
we have to look at them from this perspective, that Islam has already given us
the foundations for women's rights, they're all there.
women's rights, which benefit them, they're all there.
There are some rights which Western feminism has introduced,
which are anti family
which are really anti femininity,
which promote lesbian ism, and other deviant behaviors and practices.
This has become chartered in the UN, in their women's conferences, these are being promoted.
So when we look at
the mainstream feminism from the west,
most of what is sought by them, is
supported by the
Equal Pay Act in 1963. They passed that
Islam is all for that.
Whether it's males amongst males, white and black,
or males and females, if both have done
the same work, they deserve to get the same thing.
So this is quite legitimate, also restricting jobs. In the West, women were not allowed into certain professions.
So Islam, that door is open, they are not restricted from where, and when and how they would work in the society.
If it's beneficial to the society, Islam is in favor of it. It doesn't oppose women
entering into various fields of work, which may be even well known, are commonly held by males. Islam doesn't say simply because males are normal in these fields, you can't.
What you find is that it was not until the 1965 Race Relations Act that
followed also, by the Civil Rights Act, that women were now given the opportunity to take jobs as airplane pilots, in construction workers, soldiers, bankers, bus drivers, they could do take all these jobs. This was a revolution
in the 60s, but really, Islam never prohibited women from taking these professions. The bus drivers, you might say, but what about Saudi Arabia? Women are not allowed to drive there? Well, you know that some changes have taken place recently.
But that's not Islamics. Islam is ruling on women driving, that's just Saudi Arabian culture.
That's all that is Saudi Arabian culture is not Islamic culture, Islamic law.
And how you know, in general, what is Islamic law? And what is Islamic culture is that culture is found in some places and not found in others. Whereas law is going to be everywhere. Like praying five times a day, it's everywhere in the Muslim world, we don't have any country which says pray three times a day.
Fasting in Ramadan, is law, everywhere you go in the Muslim world, Muslims fast, they fast in the month of Ramadan that fast for 30 days, or 29 days. Nowhere Do you find them fasting in shabaan instead of Ramadan?
Nowhere. So you know, this is Islam.
But when you find things in one place, practice, for example, here in Nigeria, but you go elsewhere, you don't find it, then this is one of the signs that this is cultural.
It's cultural. It's not really from Islam. so important for us to understand the distinction between the two. So as I said, much of what the early feminist movement in the West sought, Islam had either already provided or
the opportunity to find it was there in Islam.
So, when we look into certain practices, for example, we said the right to own property.
Women in Islam had the right to own property 1400 years ago.
The right to education, which is one of the things that the feminist movement fought for, in the 19th century. The right to education we know
that Ayesha de la Juana
was one of the leading teachers
after and in the time of Prophet Mohammed Salah. We know that herself and ohm Salah, they taught the generation to come the deen
maybe one fourth of the Shetty was taught by them.
So they had that position 1400 years ago, no problem.
Whereas in the West, women were denied education.
They were not allowed to go and study.
Back in the Middle Ages, they were even debating whether women had salts.
Whether women had salts,
because they were generally holding the opinion that women were just created for the pleasure of men.
And even the most enlightened thinkers of the Renaissance period, and the Enlightenment period, they made horrendous statements about women, that they're frivolous. They're not, they're silly. They're not to be consulted, like these kinds of statements.
So that's the tradition that
feminism in the West is coming out of, actually, even in during the, the
18th century, into the 19th century, early 19th century in Germany, men had the right
to sell their wives.
In Germany, men had the right to sell their wives, to somebody else.
I mean, this is something
unthinkable in Islam, that a man would have the right to sell his wife to somebody else.
But that's what existed.
And that's the view that they had of women. So you can understand that, as women woke up in the West, with the various civil rights movements that were developing in France, and in Germany, and England, etc, that
they sought for those rights, they fought for those rights.
So as I said,
what we have to keep in mind is when we look at issues, feminist issues, we have to keep in mind that our background is different from theirs.
And
when the countries of Europe, the West, became secular countries,
secular democratic countries,
then even the moral principles, which govern the society, work, lost.
The moral principles which govern the society were lost, because morality now was decided by the majority.
Morality was decided by the majority of the citizens. So what was forbidden, considered evil, etc,
10 years before,
50 years before, what it was now considered good and fine.
And what was considered good and fine before was now considered evil. And that's how the situation changes in the West. So you will find new issues coming in the feminist movement, which go against the understandings of the early feminists of the 20th century.
So just as an example,
we can look at the issue of what is called marital rape,
marital rape.
In the 90s 1993, it was made a crime punishable with jail
in the US,
and it spread across a number of countries in the world
marital rape.
Now,
reality is that according to Sharia, there is no such thing.
There is no such thing as marital rape.
Because when a husband and wife marry in Islam, there are rights which have been specified for the male and rights which have been specified for the female
and amongst the rights of the male, is that if he calls his wife to have relations with him, she's supposed to
Come,
she marries under that basis. So the idea that she is going to say no.
And he forces himself on her. And that now becomes a crime punishable with 12 years in jail
12 years in jail,
we can say, well, maybe, you know,
he shouldn't have forced himself. If the force is coercion,
non physical,
then
still, should he be charged? If it's physical, he is beater up the broken arm or whatever, okay, we have an issue. This is now violence. And the punishment is not for marital rape, but for violence. For for harming his wife. That's the point in Islamic law,
but not rape in marriage. And in fact, though, the West has taken it on and now it's become quite a standard. Some of the biggest countries in the world China, there is no marital rape, India, there's no marital rape.
Here, Nigeria, there is no marital rape.
biggest country here in Africa. second biggest Ethiopia, Muslim population wise, general population wise.
No marital rape, and a number of other countries around the world, Indonesia.
300 million people no marital rape. So this is something limited to a particular part of the world with their view, in terms of the male female relationship. So what has happened is that feminism went from practical
institutional efforts to ensure women, their fair, just an equal rights into areas now which went beyond
the boundaries of what was just fair, and just, it now shifted into radical feminism, which identified men as being the enemy.
They talk about the patriarchal society, that the only way women are going to be truly free, is if they divorce themselves from men.
Practically
they, especially now with technology, women can have a baby without the direct intervention of a man.
They have sperm banks, where you just make the arrangements, you get it and you can have a child.
So they say we don't need men.
Of course, they still need the men to provide the sperm.
So it's not that you don't need men, right. But the point is, that even marriage now was being looked at as being a place of oppression of women.
Because the idea that the man you know, is the head of the family and all this, no,
they looked at that as being oppression. So, they have launched an attack on the family itself. And this is what has now dominated the women's conferences that are connected with the UN etc. The American and European feminists, you know, they have dominated the discussion, their main focus is on
FGM, female genital mutilation,
the veil he job,
we need to liberate our
third world sisters from the oppression of male dominated society. So that is their view, while women from the third world are concerned about things practical things connect in the countries which have to do with national debt, and health care and all these other kinds of things. Their main concern is
contraception, sterility, you know, sterilizing the Third World women's so they don't have too many babies. You know, they say too many babies is affecting your economy, etc. So we need to cut down the number of babies. Whoa. So that the resources
You know, last, so that the West can continue to benefit from those resources. So this is their approach, this is their focus, this is their idea. So we have to be
very careful when we connect ourselves with the feminist movement from the west, what most of the various groups
are calling for go against the teachings of Islam.
Now, there are a number of issues, I've listed about 17 of them,
which represent the areas where
the West being led by Western feminists
attack on Islam.
The time doesn't permit me to go into all of them, you know, I can list them here, polygamy, which was talked about earlier by my brother arranged marriages, which are forced marriages, guardianship, you know, we lie, do you have to actually when you get married, and this child marriages, what they call child marriages, marrying non Muslims, this is all women's issues. Divorce, it's easy.
Man's right, he has the right woman don't seem to have the right you know, marital rape that we spoke about, as well as issues of alimony, abortion, contraception, the veil inheritance, to witnesses, separate education, these are all topics, which the West attacked the Muslim world on in the name of feminism.
What I would suggest to you because time doesn't permit me to tackle all of this.
What I would suggest to you is that these have been tackled already in a course called contemporary issues, which is available
at my university website, Islamic online university, this course in the free diploma doesn't cost you anything,
go there and take this course, they give you a certificate at the end of the course
these issues which are hot issues of our time, which have to do with us women, please take this course take the benefit from it, it will help you in dealing with these various issues which are being raised constantly in the media, etc. In the name of feminism.
So, inshallah,
this presentation, Islam and feminism
is really about distinguishing between what we may call Islamic feminism, and Muslim feminism, cultural Muslim feminism. Islamic feminism is where a Muslim woman who knows her rights in Islam insists on her rights to get those rights where those rights are not being given as they should, for example, female divorce, Hola.
Hola. where a woman has the right to initiate divorce. In most Muslim countries, it's very difficult even though it may be on the law books, because it's in all of the schools of law, Islamic law, Sharia, the methods, it's there and every one of them. But
because of decisions made at a point in history,
where the scholarship Islamic scholarship was at its low, this right
to a large degree is denied. Muslim women today.
If they tried to get it, it's so much going around and here they're up, down, left right for this paper and get that stamped and all kinds of things till the end you say
it's not even worth it.
This is unfortunate. Because in the time of the prophet SAW Salem, when a woman came to the prophet SAW Selim and said Listen, I want to divorce my my husband. And people say well, you have to have a good reason. She said I don't like him.
In fact, I find him ugly.
Okay.
I find him to be the ugliest of men.
And it is affecting my Eman.
The prophet SAW Selim
Inform the man, the divorce took place. But, of course, he asked her, are you ready to give back the dowry, which he gave you the Mahara. She said, I'll give him back double. He said no need money, okay, just give him back what
he gave you.
So this is a REIT, which women have the right to push war, that divorce should be
initiated or initiate a vote from women, it should not only be in the hands of the men,
and most women don't know
that it's also possible in your marriage contract,
to put it as a condition
that I have the similar rights to divorce as my husband.
So even without going the hola route, you can pronounce divorce, as the husband pronounces divorce, you can seek it
in your contract. Most women don't know this, what? really
shallow.
So this is a,
this is a part of Islamic law. But people are not informed that so you don't know. So you are put in the position. You know, in many cases where it is extremely difficult for you to get out of,
you know, marriages which are harmful, even harmful to yourself.
So Islamic feminism stays within the bounds of the Sharia. It doesn't seek
what is contradictory, or violating those principles. So if a woman for example, she can't
conceive in her own room.
In the West, it's possible for her to either combine ovum from her womb from her fallopian tubes, combined with the sperm of her husband, or the sperm of anybody else from a sperm bank. And that combination, put in the womb of another woman who becomes a surrogate mother, and she has a child.
From the Islamic perspective, this is not permissible.
The only in vitro fertilization IVF acceptable format acceptable is where the ovum of the woman is combined with the sperm of her husband, and it is placed in her womb. That's it. If she can't bear a child in her room, then she's patient, adopt a Muslim child
that's possible to adopt that Muslim child, I promise I'll send them I'd said that.
Myself and the orphan I like this on the Day of Judgment. So find an orphan child and adopt them. But any other combination islamically is not allowed. It's not acceptable. That child that grows child of yours that grows in the womb of another woman. She's being nurtured by that woman by all the things that are connected to it, that child is not really yours anymore.
It's not really your child.
And if you combine it with the sperm of another man, as you can, how is your husband going to claim this is your child his child get? So
it's very clear in this matter, though, Prophet Mohammed Salam did not speak on it directly. The Sharia has principles which ensure that only one form of IVF in vitro fertilization is acceptable from the shediac perspective.
So
we need to know
our limits.
And when a last month Allah had said well, catolica Jana COME ON button was that in this way, we have made you you
Muslim females we have made you
a moderate, middle nation, not going to one extreme, or to another extreme, just in your practices righteous in your beliefs.
It's a Kunal Shahada Allah, nice to be
witness to the rest of humankind because they're changing, modifying, going up and down, left and right all over the place.
You become the witness for humankind, of what a woman should be.
What is the proper perspective of a woman in these times, fulfilling her rights
and fulfilling her duties.
So Allah has made us in that way. So we should stay within the limits,
and avoid the extreme
views of those who may be Muslims in name
and culture.
But who don't have any problem with breaking the Sharia. Because as far as they're concerned, Mohammed saw Salam was a man,
a patriarch.
And as such,
he represents a part of the enemy.
That's what it has come to, he represents a part of the enemy.
And as a result,
in Turkey, and in Tunisia,
they made
polygamy,
illegal.
polygamy was made illegal when a law sponsor Allah made it permissible. And the province also reaffirmed it, they have gone and made it illegal in the country. And they're seeking other laws to ban different Islamic practices with related relationship to women.
So the West, basically, feminism functions according to the whims of the extreme movement today, there are some among them who are not to those extremes. They do recognize the role of women and family and all this, you know, but there are a minority, the majority now who call themselves feminists are people who are anti family.
They're anti family, of course, you have the issue, your outworking,
your husbands aren't working. But you have to come back home, and
cook the food, wash the dishes, everything else, he comes back home and rests. Well, if your husband is having you work, then he has to share
in the housework.
You know, if you choose to go out and work,
he says I'm not stopping you. But don't let you're going out to work.
Reduce your housework. So you're not taking care of the home.
Because it's not necessary for you, I have the means to look after both of us. So it's not necessary. But if you want to I don't object, however, not at the expense of taking care of the home, taking care of the children in the home.
So that's the arrangement which can be worked out. And you
make that arrangement accordingly. But if he's telling you no go on work, because I don't have enough to take care of both of us. We need a second income. And this is in many cases like that today in these times. We need that second income then Okay, if I'm going out to work, you tell him lay
you know, don't expect me to come home after working, you know, nine to five, just like you. And then the first thing I come home, I have to be rushing to the kitchen and cooking this and you know,
that's not fair. It's not just, you know, yes, primarily that is your role. But once you have, the man has required the woman to shift out of her primary role, or their primary role now becomes secondary. Her primary role now becomes the earning of income and the husband is benefiting from it, then he has to make arrangements to have a maid or whatever else in the home to take care of that.
housework. That's fair. That's just that's not Western feminist.
It is just functional for us to be able to function in a fair way.
way, just wait, then that makes sense for us to be able to do that. So, again,
just closing because this is really as I said, Only an introduction to this topic.
inshallah we plan to offer a course in gender studies,
Professor Binta from the UK
she has the center of the law there in Connell, which is which focused on gender studies. She is going to be working with my University's Islamic online university, as well as Professor Zenit culture from the International Islamic University in Malaysia. The two of them are putting together a curriculum for certificate, diploma and degree courses in gender studies. Because we do need to have women who are thoroughly grounded in this field to be able to speak on behalf of Muslim women.
I shouldn't be the one up here speaking.
This is your issue,
primarily. And I'm sure among you there are those who can express this far more eloquently than I do.
I'm just a substitute. But we need to see more and more women step up and take this on and become spokespeople because when the West sees this, they see the men.
This is a woman's issue and it's men telling the woman No, it needs to be women telling the women,
women discussing with the women. So I encourage you
to join the Islamic online university and access the knowledge that is available because your future is going to depend on your current knowledge. You need to have a thorough
knowledge about the deen first and foremost. When the prophet SAW Selim had said tolerable enemy for Allah, Allah, Muslim seeking knowledge is a religious obligation on every Muslim, that's male and female, equally, an obligation on both according to their ability. So this is a responsibility for the Sisters of Jenna, for you to achieve that goal of Jenna, you must have correct Islamic knowledge.
It is what will guide you
with the skills that you already have to be in true service to the oma
to truly be sisters of gender, to help other sisters get to gender, and for you to get to gender yourselves. So please, sisters,
make that commitment today.
It is something which each and every one of you can do. Studying online doesn't require you to stop doing what you're doing and starting something else. Studying online means right at home
while you're doing housework, etc. Or even when you're working outside of the home, in your spare time studying.
Improving on your knowledge
and Sharla sharing that knowledge and inshallah we will have a brighter future for the Muslims, especially the Muslim sisters of Nigeria in the years to come Baraka Luffy Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
The question just to rephrase it, that a woman was raped and she found herself pregnant, she didn't want to deliver the child. That correct.
Okay.
according to Islamic law, if she has reached the end of the fourth month, and that is the point at which the soul is breathed into the fetus. Now the fetus becomes a human being in the full sense. If it's reached that point, then she should not abort. If it's before that point, then it is permissible for her based on her being raised.
to abort the child,
but
it would be recommended for her to carry the child to term and give the child away rather than abort. So abortion is been ruled permissible by many scholars on this matter, like in Bosnia, back in the early 90s, when there were Muslim women who were raped by the Serbians, many of them, they did it deliberately, they became pregnant. And this was a trial for them because they will not be accepted even by their own society, because of that scholars ruled that it is permissible in those early stages to abort them.
Okay, that's the first part. The second question. Second question is about early marriage in Islam. Yeah, I just want you to talk about it.
The implications you have, young girl.
I didn't catch that.
early marriage. Yeah. Early marriages in early marriage is recommended by the prophet SAW salame
instructed both males and females, youth that they should marry early. Obviously, in these times, you need the support of your parents, you know, because if you're still under the
guardianship of your parents, you're still in school, they're paying for you, etc, then their support would have to be there for you to be able to get married early.
Because of the health implications of my young girl getting married, and conceiving, that's why Alex, what ruling would that be because of the implications most times that we have now the trend is common. You have a young girl conceive she's pregnant, she can't conceive she dies. So what ruling At what age do you would you say children have nowadays should marriage be married off. That's why we can't fix numbers. This may vary from from one female to the next. You know,
if this society sees that there's harm in early marriage, before a certain point, they can fix an age the society can do it. But you know, as a
scholar, making a fatwa, you can't put a number on it, that can be decided by the community, because they will know what represents the age at which that it would be detrimental to that young lady to get married at.
So anywho My name is Al Bashir, I am from a Kadena state as well as your branch. My question is, are was the Islamic ruling of female circumcision? Is this sooner or not? Thank you.
Oh, female circumcision.
female circumcision is permissible. If it is done,
very lightly,
the way to determine what is light and what is not that the impact of that cutting is no more than the impact of male circumcision.
So they're not cutting any parts of the woman, which deny her the full pleasure from sexual relations. So as long as it's kept down to that minimum, because the prophet SAW Selim was informed about a woman in Medina who was doing that, and he told her to make it very light,
hopefully make it very, very light. So how do you define what is light? As I said, we know in the case of the male when circumcision is done, this doesn't affect
this winner. Yeah, it does what doesn't affect him. What is similar for a woman which doesn't affect her would be permissible, anything that is going to affect her ability to enjoy the sexual act, we say is islamically not acceptable?
Then it becomes what we call female genital mutilation.
All right, good afternoon. My name is ramatu aliyu. And my question is, is it allowed for
woman to donate our ovaries. So another woman who is seeking for the fruit of the womb, like I have no, it's not permissible.
This is the case that we spoke about earlier, where we're talking about surrogate motherhood.
The only acceptable form is the womb is the ovum of the woman combined with the sperm of her husband
and placed in her room, if placed in somebody else's room, or its sperm have other than their husband, or ovum have other than herself. It's not acceptable. islamically Okay, the medical condition is that the lady is not producing eggs, and she wants her sister to give our eggs
not allowed. Because that those the eggs that our sisters it gives, which is fertilized by her husband is and producing a child, that child is not her child. Even if the child is raised in her own womb, it's still not your child.
So I look around. I'm Sophia Mustafa. My question is, what does Islam says about oral sex? What does the Quran say about oral sex? It says fat two hearts. And
you can come to your wives wives to their husbands as they wish.
Salaam Alaikum.
My name, please My question goes like this waiting. Easy welcome in Islam is the hot wedding. wedding.
Court wedding which is in an Islamic court is an Islamic marriage. A court wedding done in a non Muslim court, following non Muslim procedures is not considered to be marriage from the Sharia perspective.
We talked about we talked about
man cannot be a child.
That's
often what from it.
I cannot hear you
are saying that you talk about adopting a child in a special way a woman cannot be a one. What from my understanding? The first thing I know is that the child the adopted child cannot be at the name of the adopted father or the mother adopted her. True. That's one then soon is that it's a girl. If either way, it's a girl, the father cannot be
that adopted father No.
child
that will depend on the age of the child if she was adopted at a time when she was still breastfeeding. And the mother was able to or the sister who adopted her was able to feed her her breast milk. Then she would become a suckling daughter basa if she could not deliver definitely she was in person that breastfed her. So if she did not breastfeed her that means that she demand can be a maharam to her. And if he's a boy, the mother can also be maharam nothing, he cannot be a maharam to the mother. I don't know if you get my understand, understand what it what is gonna mean is that when they reach puberty, then they have to observe the requirements of a job.
Simple as that.
I mean, the prophet SAW Selim, he made an exception, where he had the walk a woman give her milk to an adult male that was in the house. But that's an exception for that individual is not taken as a general rule for the oma.
So they just observe a job when that young man which is used
Then the mother has to, or the adopting Mother Mother has to make sure she has the job in front of him. And similarly, the girl she has to wear hijab in front of her adoptive father.
Slavonic.
Please. There is this disturbing question about
Ramadan pregnant woman. Yeah, fast some people can't fast. And even after giving back, you're not saying they can still fast dots does figure suffices that during Ramadan, you feed a person per day.
Because before the other Ramadan comes in, you're still nursing. Probably you cannot take it again the person you've tried it, and it's working.
Yes. Okay. The Sahaba had ruled that a woman
who was breastfeeding or a woman
who is pregnant
would be excused from fasting and that she would not have to make up those days or to feed a poor person. But it was recommended to feed a poor person for each day.
I want to know the Islamic ruling.
Walk irrespective of whether
the advanced econ may be okay for the family.
is the capacity for work.
Okay, I repeat what was explained to me? Is it
okay for a husband, to deny the wife to work, right to go out and work
even though he is unable to take care of both of them?
Well, if not being able to take care means you're not being able to put food on the table, then definitely This is not correct.
He should take her help is the time of difficulty. And it's only a temporary arrangement. It should take her health, you know, otherwise, it's going to cause harm to both of them to children if there are children involved, etc. So it's not it's not really a wise decision for him to do.
This is where you get family involved. You know, your father speaks to him. He his father speaks to him and advises him and hopefully inshallah he will accept their advice and permit you to permit the woman to work.
Nima Sani please. I would like to know, why should an aggrieved woman do in a situation whereby she is tired of their plan is also tired of the marriage. But they are.
The man is refusing to collect back the price right price. What should she do in a situation like that?
Okay, let me repeat the question if this is what you are asking that if a woman seeks to six divorce by returning the dowry, because that's normally what is required, return the dowry to her husband. He doesn't agree to accept it.
What should she do? Well, the court
should should can and should intervene, to see that he does receive the money and let her go. He cannot prevent her from leaving by not accepting the money.
So if the court takes it and he says I don't want it, then it can be given away in charity and she can go
Is that the last question?
My question I just the second question is in a situation whereby the sister is oppressed, and she wants to leave,
but she's not granted divorce.
But from what from the past lectures
the man of the area or around should be invited
by they are not available, maybe where they live, they are not available, what should be the ground?
Question. The second question is no, no, just let me deal with the first question.
Okay, in the case of hula
where a woman wants to return the dowry
and there is no court or scholars available, judges available to handle the case, then she has to go to another part of the country where there are scholars because you do have Sharia courts here in some states etc, then she has to go and do it through them.
Because question is in the
environment
where we cannot find somebody to feed during the month of Ramadan, for
pregnant or breastfeeding. So,
we cannot easily find somebody to
work
because after like two years before they could be pregnant and breastfeeding at the same time, so, what would you do?
If you can find somebody to feed
in your area, I'm sure there are people who can be fed in other areas. You know,
so, I don't think that's really a problem. There are poor people everywhere. So you just need to go find them. Right.
Okay.
Sorry, please. I think that's the end of the questions. Sorry about that.
The people that asked questions, please come down. Those that asked. We have at ABC.
We have bashira we have Rama? We have Sofia, we have Zainab hafsa Nima and I think there are those that we could not get your names, although I needed not see your name
was quiet.
So you come down for those who asked questions.
Rama
getting books
book on the right now.
This is a book on other which is part of the course for Islamic Studies in Islamic online university.
We still had four people. Please come and get it. The four who asked questions
still too
was one more
person leave?
Okay? zeros.
Salam aleikum.
America.
I picked up a baby about three years ago. Should we wait three years now? And I was abandoned near my house. We picked the baby to the police station that was after taking the child to the hospital for a checkup and everything and babies. Okay. So now what?
Report What happened?
And since then we just be carried legal step, which was we went around
saying, maybe somebody abandoned baby or forgot something. Now, nobody has come up to
claim the child and his growing up either because of the stigma. No, that is not my auntie breastfeed taking him to the school as rivian like to not be shying away from for a while now. He has to go to school. I mean, because he sees my children go to school and say I want to go with that.
No, you should
know he can bear your surname
as a Muslim child.
Yeah.
surname you can call him Abdullah.
Okay, there was just one last question brought up how long after separation when a man and woman have been separated?
How long?
If they're separated? How long would it take for the marriage to be considered
over
some people say it's four months.
But actually
what will need to be done if the separation both are present, then it should be turned into a divorce. The woman can
apply to the court to seek divorce because it shouldn't really remain as separation. If he has gone to another country you haven't heard from him, etc. Then this can be reported to the court and you can be considered abandoned. As an abandoned woman. The court can issue divorce for you or what they call an element of your marriage
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