Assim Al-Hakeem – Book of Belief & I’tisam from Sahih Al Bukhari – Episode 08

Assim Al-Hakeem

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The difficulty of recognizing Islam's true teaching is discussed, as it causes problems for individuals and can lead to dangerous behavior. The speaker emphasizes the importance of practicing Islam to avoid unnecessary harm and discusses the shaky nature of Islam, its impact on people's political positions, and its impact on people's health. The importance of avoiding promises and showing one's political stance is also emphasized. The history of Islam is also discussed, including the spread of Islam in America and the importance of not giving up on promises. The segment concludes with a discussion of coinurance and its various interpretations, as well as the importance of being fair to oneself.

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			Rahmani Raheem hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah he was so happy he Romani Buddha
maganda salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. And welcome back in sha Allah, you have been
energized by Salah to Lhasa, and will give you in Sharla the power
		
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			to continue this day,
		
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			hoping and wishing from Allah azza wa jal that we will benefit from what we have heard, and what we
will learn in the last
		
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			chapter number 16.
		
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			Chapter 16, if one does not embrace Islam truly, but does so by compulsion, or for fear of being
killed, and that man is not.
		
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			Now now that man is not a believer, this is from the translator.
		
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			This is his conclusion. But nowhere it says that he's not a believer, which means that the reason of
this chapter goes in line with what we had said earlier, and that is, we judge people, by what,
		
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			by what we see by a VA here, whether he did it because of fear of death, whether he did it because
he was compelled to do it. This is beside the point. We treat him Adam as a Muslim.
		
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			Go ahead
		
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			of the long run.
		
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			There's a long running
		
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			record amongst a group of people while I was sitting there, but
		
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			it was a man whom I thought for the last, I don't
		
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			know, why have you left that person by a lot. I regard him as a faithful believer, the profits of
the long value system prevented or merely a Muslim, I remained quiet for a while, but could not help
repeating my question because of what I knew about him.
		
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			It's not finished.
		
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			And then asked,
		
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			Why have you met so and so by Allah, He is a faithful believer, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam again said, or merely a Muslim, and I could not help repeating my question because of what I
knew about him. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said,
		
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			I give to a person while another is dear to me, for fear that he might be thrown on his face in the
fire.
		
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			But this Hadeeth falls in line with what we have stated before that belief
		
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			is things that go inside and are hidden. And we cannot judge this while Islam is something that is
apparent. And this is why Sarah is saying, Oh profitable, why not give him because he's a believer
is a movement. And the Prophet is asking, or correcting by saying, What? or Muslim
		
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			society saying, Prophet of Allah, why don't you give him his men and the Prophet again? Correct,
same or Muslim? Meaning that this man, whom the Prophet gave Allah, his Salatu, salam, from the
Zakat or from the booty of war, he gave him
		
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			because he was a Muslim, trying to get his heart more inclined to Islam. Because the Prophet knows
that he accepted Islam for the fear of the sword, or fee for being compelled or he had no other
choice. So the Prophet wants did alayhi salaatu wa Salaam to bank on that by giving him from this
account while that person who is a believer, the prophet trusts his a man, and he
		
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			is sufficient for him
		
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			to
		
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			trust his a man, by not giving him money, and this is why the Prophet said in another Hadith, by
Allah, I give a man while others are more beloved to me.
		
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			For I fear that he would fall on his face in hellfire. What does that mean?
		
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			Some of us our Eman is shaky grounds.
		
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			The vast majority of us
		
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			are believers due to unless favor and blessing upon us? So we pray, we fast, we don't consume how
long we'll set fast because we are not tested.
		
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			If tests come here, Allah expose exposes us. So I do not take bribe, I do not take Riba I do not
deal in Haram.
		
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			But if I was intimidated,
		
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			if I was afraid that I'm going to lose my job, I start to bend
		
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			rules. And if I need, I will break them.
		
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			And this happens to a lot of us at times of difficulty, and trials, I may bribe just to get out of
trouble. I may accept bribe, just to pay the rent. I may lie, I may deceit, and cheat.
		
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			And I find a lot of these problems happening with the couple, a man and his wife.
		
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			It is normal for a man to steal his wife
		
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			to lie and say she never gave me any of her savings. You built a house with her money. 15 years
she's been working giving you her salary, and now you have a big house. She's no it's not mine. Why?
Because they divorced or they have problems. So when he divorced, it divorces her he says the house
is mine. She never gave me anything.
		
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			Though he is practicing, though he prays. So this is a problem that whenever we are in safety, in
normal life, we are steadfast. We are practicing the moment we tested.
		
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			Our shaky Islam appears on its nature. And this is why the Prophet alayhi salatu salam used to give
to those on shaky grounds until they are what? steadfast but what about the good Muslims the good
companions, the prophet trusted them and he did not give them a single pen.
		
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			And this is exactly what happened after the Battle of her name. On the eighth year of hegemon.
		
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			The Prophet went to pif sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with the companions. And there were about 12,000
		
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			Muslims, the biggest army ever for the Muslims. 10 of them were the companions, who came from Medina
2000 were the new reverts from Mecca, who was conquered was conquered a couple of weeks ago so that
Islam was what? very shaky. So, when the Prophet as Islam was climbing the mountain in life, it's
very high.
		
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			And
		
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			the army of the enemy was ambushing them they made an ambush. The minute they came, they started
throwing their arrows at them. The Muslims retreated,
		
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			confused,
		
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			and they deserted the Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam. Only the Prophet himself sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam
		
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			above seven Abdulmutallab.
		
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			And a handful of companions remained.
		
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			And the Prophet was on his mule. alayhi salatu was Salam. He's going for battle. He doesn't take his
camel. He doesn't take a strong, fast horse. He goes in a mule. Showing that I have dependence on
Allah azzawajal I don't need to be afraid.
		
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			So when the army started marching at them, the Muslims have retreated. The Prophet was going forward
with his mule saying in a loud voice and then be EULA COVID and Abu Abdulmutallab
		
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			proclaiming It is me the Prophet of Allah, the son of Abdulmutallab come
		
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			in front of a whole army, and I bet is holding the moon. Allah. Are you going?
		
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			Where are you going? So he's holding it back. So the Prophet says Allah has sort of ambus called the
people of the tea
		
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			Who are the people of the three?
		
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			I don't know. You tell me
		
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			by Arturo Diwan
		
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			in Philadelphia,
		
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			when they went for ombre, and they prevented them from entering while in the harm the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam center of man have been a fan, because he had good connections with them. And he
told him mediate and let them allow us to make korumburra. So he went, they received him, Well, they
honored him, they gave him food, and they told him come and make your ombre. He said, No, no,
		
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			I cannot make ombre and the profit is prevented and it's awesome. So allow him in. We all make
ombre. So they took their time hosting him, because they had good connections, relatives. The
Companions thought that they killed him.
		
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			So the Prophet when he heard this la salatu salam asked the Muslims to give the pledge of allegiance
to die fighting.
		
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			And they took this pledge of allegiance under a G. This tree
		
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			is known for bilateral one.
		
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			So this is why the Prophet said Allah His salatu salam, when the tough got going
		
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			on bass call my companions who gave me the Pledge of Allegiance in May a third one. So he started
calling the answer, the Maha God. Those who know themselves acknowledged themselves as us Habu
similar the people of the tree.
		
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			Immediately when they heard the name, they came back running, saying look, Baker Rasul Allah, and
they came back, and those whose camels refused to return make a U turn, because illegal.
		
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			they slaughtered it and went on foot. And they fought next to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam until
victory was given.
		
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			The victory had the price because the people of pif when they wanted to fight, their leader was a
young man
		
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			who was impulsive.
		
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			He does not listen to the wise men. The wise man told him Do not take women and children with you.
You're going for war. Why are you taking the families? He said yes, when the families are behind.
The men will fight more bravely.
		
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			The wise men told him, don't be stupid. When death is next to you, you don't care about your family
or children. You just want to run with your life.
		
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			He did not listen. And he ordered them to take all their cows and cattle and camel everything in the
city with them.
		
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			So when the fighting started, they could not stand for half an hour. They ran away leaving what
their wives and their children and their cattle and everything they possessed. So the Muslim said
whoa,
		
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			they took it.
		
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			So now it is time for distributing the booty award. So the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam having
all of this wealth started giving.
		
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			But
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave only
		
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			those who embraced Islam a couple of weeks ago. So he gave Abu Sophia even help 100 camels. Imagine
100 camels would feel this in more
		
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			any as as if you were telling me that he gave
		
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			Abu sufian a Bentley or Rolls Royce aware on a chevron and a couple of Ferraris.
		
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			It's a fortune 100 camels. He gave His Son Maui 100 he gave it to her son 100 he gave it a crab and
habits 100 all these who accepted Islam couple of weeks ago.
		
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			He gave them so much wealth.
		
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			But the people of unsolved of Medina he gave them zero.
		
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			who fought with him. So they started talking gossiping
		
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			sardegna rabada the head of Al hazaragi and SAR are made of two tribes aos and castleridge. I was
the leader of them is sacked him numerous.
		
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			And it has Raj sat in Nevada both aside
		
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			and the narrator of this Hadith, or the the one before it was also sad that maybe what Gosh, so
		
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			the name sad is a beautiful name but you don't find people calling their sons sad. There's so many
companions, suicide nobody goes to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Oh prophet of Allah.
		
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			The answer are chitchatting. And they are saying that you found your people, because the Prophet is
from koresh. So you found your people, and now you're giving them and you're favoring them over us.
And you forgot what we have done over the past eight years to you.
		
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			The Prophet said on his
		
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			side,
		
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			and what do you say? Okay, now you told me what they say. You're my close friends and companions.
What do you say? You said I am one of my people.
		
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			Meaning that I have question marks, says uh huh, okay. Gather all of your people from the answer in
this barn.
		
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			And none of them? No, none outside there should be with them. So normal hygiene, no new reverts only
the people of our side.
		
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			So he gathered them.
		
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			And then he said, Oh, Prophet of Allah, come there. So he metallian salatu salam,
		
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			he praised Allah.
		
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			And he offered salutation and this is what you always do before you introduce your speech. And then
the Prophet says Allah His salatu wa sallam,
		
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			all people have unsolved.
		
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			What is this statement that I heard
		
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			about you that
		
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			you are not pleased with with what I had done?
		
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			As if you have something you carry against me? And they said,
		
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			they did not speak.
		
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			did not say a word. So the Prophet asks simile salatu salam, did I not come to you, when you were a
stray?
		
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			And Allah guided you did not come to you, when you were poor. And Allah made you rich? Did I not
come to you, when you were fighting one another. And Allah reconciled you and made you one.
		
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			So the companions were
		
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			cornered, and they said, the favor and the blessing is to Allah and His Messenger, solar Memorial
center. We have nothing, we own nothing. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam addresses them again and
says,
		
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			All people have an answer. Why don't you answer me? Why do not? Why don't you respond to what I say?
		
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			So they said, What do you want us to respond? The Prophet of Allah, we've said that the favor and
blessing is to Allah and to you, Sal, Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet said to them,
		
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			you can answer me. And if you do,
		
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			you will be saying the truth. And people would believe you. You can have said
		
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			that.
		
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			You came to us,
		
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			people accusing you of lying. And we believed you. You came to us. After you had no shelter, and we
sheltered you, you came to us with nothing. And we gave you and compensated you with our wealth, and
you came to us
		
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			without any support, and we supported you
		
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			or people of unsolved
		
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			Did you find
		
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			something against me for wealth of this dunya dirt for money?
		
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			Don't you
		
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			or aren't you pleased that
		
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			I give money to those reverts so that their hearts are inclined to Islam. While I believe in you,
and I trust you, that your Islam would save you.
		
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			All people of allowance are,
		
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			don't you?
		
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			Or Aren't you
		
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			satisfied by the people going back to their families, with the cows and the sheep and the cameras,
while you go to your families with the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam?
		
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			By Allah, the Prophet says, Allah, Allah had it not for migration,
		
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			I would have been a man of the unsub
		
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			by Allah if the people would go in white that one direction.
		
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			And the answer would go in another direction. I would go with the election of an assault. Oh Allah
have mercy upon the assault, and the sons of the answer, and the sons of the sons of the unsolved
		
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			unsolved could not hold themselves back. they wept until their beards was filled with tears. And
they said, We accept
		
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			Allah gift to us. We accept the Prophet alayhi salatu was set up
		
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			and they left back to their camps and to the tents.
		
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			This shows you
		
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			the greatness of the unsung gamma the peace with them. It shows you why the Prophet alayhi salatu
was Salam may give some people
		
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			while others who are more deserving
		
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			would be prevented from receiving. And this shows you again that the chapter we're dealing with, we
only judge people by what appears to us what goes in their hearts. This is only to a law the
Almighty and Allah knows best found chapter.
		
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			Chapter 17. To be ungrateful to one's husband, and disbelief in all different ways, lesser or
greater degrees. There it is even worse.
		
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			The prophets have
		
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			said, I was shown the Hellfire and that the majority of its mothers were women who were ungrateful.
It was asked Do they disbelieve in Allah? Or are they ungrateful to Allah, He replied, they are
ungrateful to their husbands and ungrateful for the favors and the good deeds done to them. If you
have always been good, whenever the to one of them and then she sees something in you, not liking,
she will say, I have never received any good from you. Now, this Hadeeth is in this chapter have
		
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			to be ungrateful to one's husband, etc. The Arabic I don't know where he got this from the Arabic
says bapta fabu monofilament meaning that there are different levels of people when they do good
deeds, and the hadith of Ibn ambass. The wording is important, which is not displayed in the
translation. Because if you translate a Hadith, without knowing its relevance, you will make
mistakes. So in the Hadith, the Prophet says, and I'm going to translate from my
		
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			own understanding. So this is exactly what is meant. In sha Allah. I was shown Hellfire to the
profit was made to see hellfire. And I saw in it that the majority of the people in it were women in
this belief,
		
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			now the word is yet fallen q4.
		
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			q4 means to cover to hide, linguistically. So even in Arabic and English cover cover is very close
to one another. And one of the meanings of cover is the opposite of shocker. What is sugar?
		
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			Being grateful Allah says in the Quran, where is that as then a boom in Shackleton, lazy dynochem
where the Inca
		
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			tongue in cheek so Allah azza wa jal has ordained if you are grateful, he will increase you. And if
you are not this belief where the Inca farto to be ungrateful. So, this belief and being ungrateful
in Arabic, has the same meaning or cover. So this is why an Illinois best, Emanuel Buhari, brought
this hadith in the chapter of a man to prove to us that the word Cofer, which is this belief, which
is the opposite of a man is not the same meaning. Therefore, the prophet said la salado someone when
he said the majority of the people of women, this belief or they show in gratitude, the Arabs, the
companion said,
		
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			wanting to understand what Cofer are you talking about? Go for of Allah, they disbelieve in Allah or
is it ingratitude so they said to him, oh, Prophet of Allah, do they disbelieve in Allah? The
Prophet said, No, they this belief, or they show their in gratitude to their spouse, to their
husband, and they show their gratitude to the kindness that the husband gives to them. If a man does
well, and gives to his wife, all the year,
		
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			and he makes one mistake, she would say, I have never seen anything good from you.
		
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			I have never seen anything good coming from you. Now, this is found in women.
		
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			And let's not only hide it, a lot of women have this. Yet a lot of men also have this, don't they?
		
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			A lot of men have but due to the fact that women are in greater need to men than the opposite. Allah
highlights it. Because this is one of the requirements of entering Jenna. The Prophet says la salatu
salam. If a woman praise her for fasts, her Ramadan, protects her chastity obeys her husband, she
will enter general
		
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			men wish they can have the same thing.
		
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			But it is not applicable. So in this Hadith, the prophet alayhi salatu was Salam is telling us that
being ungrateful to the husband is Kufa. But be aware in the Sharia, when you have in sooner, would
you have the word Cofer it can have
		
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			the
		
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			L in the beginning l cover
		
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			the identifying article, which in English is that
		
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			and it can have up to four.
		
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			Without without identifying it. There is a difference. Yes, there is difference. We have major
disbelief and Cofer and we have minor in hypocrisy, we have major hypocrisy.
		
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			A person is eternally in * forever. And we have minor characteristics of hypocrisy. In shirk. We
have major shirts that you will never ever leave jahannam for doing it, but we have also minor
sherek Give me an example of minor sherek
		
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			react showing off also verbal minor shark when I say we nebby
		
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			when I swear by the prophet alayhi salatu salam This is minor. When I say whatever Allah wants a new
		
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			This is my inner critic lovely and so on. What kind of major minor hypocrisy such as
		
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			lying,
		
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			breaking a promise
		
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			being abusive when quarreling,
		
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			etc. These are all minor. Not major major is when I want Islam to be defeated inside but I pretend
to be a Muslim. And likewise we have major copper and minor copper. Major copper is this belief.
Minor copper one being ungrateful to your husband to
		
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			doubting your lineage. You are from this lineage No, no, you cannot be from that tribe. You are from
another tribe. You're not from the tribe of the prophet Elisha Salem, of Bonneville and SAP,
		
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			also part of minor. Cofer is killing one another. If I kill you, the prophet said, this is Cooper.
		
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			But it is he does not say this is Al Cofer. He says Cofer and we will come to the Hadith inshallah
later on.
		
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			Okay, what about major before? Russell says Bane al Murray, well cover
		
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			abandoning solid. This is major. There's nothing minor because he used the L. So this is what
checklists have been Tamia mentioned. mela Mercer has shown that there is a difference between kafir
and alcohol. Alcohol is major Cofer is minor, and this is one of the minor things that women may
fall in it. Why? Because the Prophet said that a soldier who does not show his gratitude to the
people does not show his gratitude to Allah azza wa jal, and also in an authentic hadith, the
Prophet says alayhi salaatu wa sallam, Allah does not look at a woman who does not show her
gratitude to her husband, while she cannot live without him.
		
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			Allah does not look at a woman Allah does not have mercy. At a woman who does not show her
appreciation, her gratitude to her husband, though, she cannot live without him. She depends on him
on his living in his house depends on her him bringing her food providing for her taking care of
her, yet, she's always nagging. She's always complaining. She's always an appreciative, what kind of
home would this individual be living in? I married to get my peace of mind, not to get a nagging
wife complaining not being thankful not being grateful. Did Sharon marry someone else?
		
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			Or keeper but my, someone has.
		
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			But when I say this, now the sisters are all doing the shotgun.
		
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			Okay. But when I say this, I'm assuming that the man is, quote, unquote, a real man.
		
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			Seriously, being a real man, not being a male.
		
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			We have male donkeys. We have male gorillas. I'm talking at being a real man. A man who protects his
wife, who cares for her who provides for her. A man who gives her compassion and love and care. who
spends quality time who takes care of her children, not a man who is 24 seven in front of
PlayStation four or five, not a man who is always with his friends, in going out having dinner,
having lunch, not spending time, not a man who asks his wife to work so that she can contribute to
the house or better more that she spends on him. And he's just sitting there jobless or doing
nothing. This is not a man. With all due respect. I'm talking about real practicing serious, loving,
		
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			caring man. The sisters say Where does he shave?
		
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			In Jenny Sharma in general.
		
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			So when you look, you have to be fair, we as husbands, we do sometimes worse things. The food is not
good. Why is it that we keep on nagging? Whenever we see our mothers or mother law, we used to have
good life when I was under your roof. Now look at my wife. She doesn't cook well like you. She
doesn't clean my clothes like you. She doesn't do this. She keep on complaining and this is not a
man. And man never reveals his secrets, especially to his mom. Because now you're angry and upset of
your wife. You tell your mother tomorrow you're happy with your wife, but your mother did not
forget. She remembers and she remembers for the coming 1010 or 20 years.
		
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			So be careful not to disclose any of your problems to your parents. Whether you're men or women.
This is something to be in house not to come
		
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			If you want to have a good marriage and Oman knows best