Asim Khan – Dealing with Family Dilemmas

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			One of the most difficult
		

			challenges you can face in your life
		

			are the challenges you face from your family,
		

			from your parents, from your siblings, from your cousins and uncles.
		

			Having a problem at work, or with friends, or maybe with health or finances, is something that is
somewhat easier to deal with, than say, having a problem at home.
		

			And there's a number of reasons why that is. When it comes to family, your parents, for example, if
there was an issue, there was a difficulty then
		

			they would be particularly difficult on your heart to deal with because family they have easy access
to your heart, they your blood relatives,
		

			you have been born and brought up in the company. If you are on the street, and somebody says
something nasty, it happens often to our sisters, may Allah protect them. It is not that difficult
for them to just ignore it and carry on with their day.
		

			But if someone at home said something even half as bad, maybe that will play on their mind for the
entire day spoil their mood and maybe even worse, and that they wouldn't be able to let go of it.
Why did my mum say this to me? How dare my sister say that to me.
		

			So what they say it affects your heart very quickly.
		

			But on top of that family problems
		

			become even more difficult because you can't get away from your family. You live with your in the
company.
		

			And the home is supposed to be a place of relaxation.
		

			If you had a long hard day at work, or a tough day at school,
		

			a person would think about when I come home, I will be able to unwind and relax. But a person has a
problem at home, perhaps with their spouse or their kids. When it comes to the end of the day at
work. Some people they tell themselves or rather stay behind them to stay at work for a few more
hours or after go home and face the difficulties at home.
		

			You can't find peace anywhere. There's no peace outside the home, there's no peace inside the home.
		

			And so that empty law, that challenge becomes one of the most difficult in your life.
		

			And what is really amazing is that the prophets of Allah, may Allah be pleased with all of them.
		

			They face challenges at home with their with their family members. And Allah documented their
struggle with their family in the Koran so that we could see how they dealt with it.
		

			He would list a lot of other list the profits in the Koran, and many of them he gives us an insight
into their family struggles. So that we can recognize that there is a way out of these struggles.
There is a correct way to deal with difficult parents are difficult children are difficult family
members and the correct ways the way of the prophets.
		

			Give you an example.
		

			Ibrahim alayhis salam.
		

			This great prophet of Allah was so bold, that he challenged the belief of all of his people.
		

			Imagine being the one who challenges the belief of this country. Ibrahim al Islam did that. Ibrahim
al Islam is the one who took that axe and courageously destroyed the idols. And he didn't care about
the consequences of that. But you know that Abraham and his era, he faced a very,
		

			very great dilemma at home with his dad
		

			that his father was not just a bad parent.
		

			His father, who Some say his name is Azur was a polytheist an idol worshipper who manufactured idols
to help other people do shit.
		

			Imagine that, how Abraham a somber prophet of Allah, pious man, and he's at home and he sees his dad
is carving out from the stone idols and then he takes him to the shop to sell
		

			wherever you go to visit people's homes you see the aisle to their worshipping was made by your dad.
		

			How difficult must have been five Rahim Allah Salam
		

			How much do you felt was your dad my dad is an idol worshiper.
		

			And not only that, his dad would try to force Ibrahim you should follow me.
		

			Don't you dare try to go turn your back on the family tradition. This is our belief is our values.
How do you try to turn your back on our gods? And so Allah subhanaw taala he he told us in the Quran
so Maria Ibrahim Alayhi Salam how he spoke to his father to try to change his father.
		

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			Ibrahim is Rama la says recall when he said to his father, he spoke to his father. He had a
conversation. He said, Oh, my dear father, why do you worship something that can't hear you can't
see you. It can't benefit you in any way. I mean, when you're in your time of difficulty, you turn
to these stones. And you call out some can even hear what you are saying they can't see you. Even if
they could hear you and see you. They don't have the power to help you. He's questioning his father.
He's challenging his father. But look at the way he spoke to his father. He began with the words
Yeah, Betty.
		

			Which in Arabic means Oh, my dear father, you could say yeah, Abby, which means my dad. Yeah, but it
means my day a sweet father. It is a more affectionate, loving way of addressing your father.
Imagine somebody here. He has a problem with his with his father. He sees that his father doesn't
pray. His father smokes his father, listen to music. His father does all these immoral things.
		

			Many times when we see our parents behave like this, we want to be rude to them. We want to put them
in their place. And some people are rude and obnoxious to their fathers. If I ever saw him, he
didn't say to his father. Listen, you mushrik man. How do you do this?
		

			He said, Oh my dear father. Why do you do this? Jimmy? It doesn't make sense. What do you think
that?
		

			And then his father is not listening. His father is stubborn. What does Ibrahim alayhis salaam say?
Yeah, booty in a half a year masakadza Meena Rahman Fattah Kula Shea Pani Walia. He says, Oh, my
dear father, is just another thought that came into my mind.
		

			You know, I'm actually scared for you that I'm scared that the punishment of the old merciful will
sees you, you will become a friend of the devil, meaning you will go to the hellfire.
		

			He didn't stop Ibrahim, he continued to try to challenge his father and corrupt his father. And what
do you say I fear for you. I'm scared for you that if you continue down this road, you'll go to the
hellfire. And you can hear the love in his words, because he says
		

			a masakadza may not rush man. He doesn't say that the punishment of a law is going to take you he
says the punishment of a Russian man the Most Merciful, as if to say,
		

			Man, he is the one who wants to show you Rama. I want him to show you Rama. But that the way you are
behaving, you are taking yourself away from his drama.
		

			That I would just love for you to stay within the realm of Allah subhanaw taala You know, sometimes
you see evil people in this world. Sometimes he evil people in your family. And you tell yourself
you know what, wait on the Day of Judgment, see what happens to you.
		

			You know, I can't wait for the day. It's not for the love that you burn in the hill file.
		

			Here we are here with a slam saying to his dad, who's an idol worshipper.
		

			I don't want you to go to *, dat sapan Allah. What is the lesson here? The lesson here, brothers
and sisters, is that if you have difficult parents, and you see them doing wrong things, you can't
go to one extreme and say, You know what? It's my mom. What can I say to my mom? Let her continue
what she was doing. I can't say anything to them. How many brothers in they see it with their own
eyes? The mom is being horrible to their wife. Their mother is abusing their wife. And they shrug
their shoulders say what can I do? She's my mom.
		

			Even rahimullah somebody said Dad, what can I say to my dad? He brought me up when I was young. He
fed me. What can I say to my dad? No. He said Dad, this is not right. But when he corrected him, he
didn't go to the other extreme or being rude, obnoxious, unkind, rather, he was respectful and he
showed love to his father. May Allah grant us understanding when it comes to correcting our own
parents. Then you have the example of no * is
		

			almost the opposite. No, * is wrong. A man who lived 1000 years how much of the world must have
seen when you become slightly older?
		

			Reach 3040 years. You look back at your younger self and you think, man, I thought I knew
everything. I realized I didn't know anything whatsoever.
		

			Imagine you have 1000 years worth of life experience. Despite all this experience, despite being a
prophet of Allah, he couldn't make his son listen to him.
		

			His Son, refuse to become Muslim. And no, hello son, Avi is worried, because very soon, Allah is
going to unleash his punishment. The flood is going to start everyone is going to be drowned.
		

			Allah tells us that in that critical moment, where the rain began to fall, and the tide began to
rise, and people began to panic. No had a tsunami climbed on board the ark with a small band of
believers. And he looked overboard and he saw his son. Well, he attended he beat him. Allah says and
when this folk this arc began to take off, Cal jabaal and the ways B and two came down like
mountains. This is a scene which is like a scene of desperation. The waves are coming crashing down.
People are frantically running for their lives. Allah says when the new new a coda to his son, air
cabana, he says, My dear son, come on board with us or Marcia, mineral caffeine.
		

			Caffeine, he says, and don't be with the disbelievers. Now, what do you think about this? You are a
righteous pious man. People know you in the in the society as a man who is religious, and then
people talk about your son. Yeah, but what about his son? He's a drug dealer. You know, what kind of
man is that kind of a control his son selling drugs on the street, people talk about you? How
embarrassing must have been for new people saying, Look, he still claims to be a prophet of God, his
own son does a video with him.
		

			And then right at the last moment, no, hello Salaam. He looks at his son. so stubborn. And does he
say To * with you, I disown you. You have nothing to do with my family. You are not from my
family, I disown you. You do whatever you want to do. How many parents do that? They find out their
son is doing silly things. And what do they say son? If you want to live under this roof? You can't
do that. And if you continue mass Salama see yourself out?
		

			How many parents disowned the children? Because they can't take the shame of having to deal with the
difficult challenge. But no, Hello sir. Ah, he must be super embarrassed. But if you give up on his
son, Allah is telling us even in the last critical moment, he was to pleading with his son, come on
board, son, don't do this. You don't want to go down that road. You don't want to be with those
people. Come with me. Believe in me, you're going to be taken you're going to be part of those that
are punished by Allah. How sad must have been for new
		

			love that tells us what? The new that no. When he saw that the flood had taken everyone. He called
out to allies at Yara, my master
		

			in 20 min. He said My son is from my family, or in our ethical hack, but your promise is true is all
your judgment is true as though I am torn Allah, between your judgment and my son. Please, even
though he died is a kind of fear. Do something.
		

			Do something for my son. how painful it must have been for No. Even though his son has died now he's
still begging Allah please. I love my son. Something for my son. Allah says you are asking me
something you have no knowledge about.
		

			Don't ask me like this. No.
		

			and No Listen, he realized that you know what? It is time to let go. If a family member died on
cover, there's nothing you could do for them anymore. how devastating It must have been for no
Harris.
		

			But the lesson here is what you can never give up on your children. Never. You can be tough with
them. You can have discipline. But you can never say you are not my son. You're not my daughter
anymore. You don't have the luxury to do that. A lot tells you in the Quran. Yeah.
		

			coo coo coo coo coo Nara. Allah says believers Save yourselves and your families from the hellfire.
That is a GT you have a responsibility have that you can never give up. Even if
		

			even if your dignity is undermined, even if your integrity and your respect in front of your
neighbors, your family is undermined. You can never say child, you are no longer one of mine. May
Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for all of us. May Allah give us that sabar to help our children
even when they lose their home.
		

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			solara Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen or salat wa salam ala ashrafi ambia University Nabina.
Muhammad in wild early he was a he was very bad. I want to finish with one last example, the example
of use of allyssa. You all know the story. He was hated upon by his own brothers. They tried to plot
to kill him, they threw him on the into the bottom of a well left him for dead use of Allah Islam he
survived, but then to be sold off as a slave, to grow up to be put into prison. And eventually,
Allah change his circumstance to make him into an Aziz, one of the most respected people in his new
country, Egypt.
		

			And then Allah abroad, the same brothers that had left him for dead back to Egypt now as beggars and
use of he chose to conceal his identity, to try and make a plan to get not only his brothers, but
his father and all his family from Palestine to come and live with him in Egypt happily ever after.
And part of that plan was not revealing his identity to his brothers. So the plan was, you know
what, in order to get them here, I have to frame the youngest brother, as if you stole so he planted
the cup on the youngest brothers sack. And it seemed as though he has stolen when use have
confronted his brothers, and said, What do you have to say about your brother? He just stole? What
		

			did they say? Khan? He is reka sappada Soraka. Holloman pobol, they said something outrageous. They
said, Well, if this brother stole, then he has another brother A while back. He's also a thief
Subhana Allah, they are speaking to Yusuf and without knowing they say hear the other brother use
it. He's also a bigger thief. We expected that from him as well. Imagine your use of
		

			how angry would you be? That man I'm trying to help you. I'm giving you food. I'm trying to get the
family to be reunited, and you're still hating on me.
		

			What did he do? Did he reveal his identity? Say you know, what? Do you realize you're talking about
me?
		

			If anyone's a thief, is you You stole me from my dad? No, Allah says, For our saraha Yousuf enough,
see what I'm up to holla him Subhana Allah. Allah said use of he took that and buried it in his
chest. And he didn't divulge it. Allah is saying he bit his tongue. And he held back. Why use a Why
didn't you? Why don't you tell them what time it was? Because use have had a bigger plan? What was
that plan? To see his family united to see mother, father brothers all come together to live in
peace. And he knew that if he divulged it, then that plan will be ruined a lot of use values. Ron
was teaching us a very important lesson. And that is sometimes you will face difficulty from family
		

			members, maybe your parents, maybe your siblings, maybe your children.
		

			But you know what, sometimes you need to bite your tongue and hold it in to bury that anger. Why not
because you're weak. Not because you're a doormat, because it will keep the family together. Because
you tolerating some cruelness
		

			will help keep the family together and use the value system because of that one sacrifice. The next
year a loss hunter brought his father, his brother and all of them were reunited to live happily
ever after in Egypt alone. This is a beautiful lesson that sometimes you have to realize allies
testing you through your family members. Next time your cousin says something that upsets you look
at your cousin say you know allies testing me through you right now. To see how I behave with you.
Do I cut ties with you? Do I say you want to be rude to me? I'll show you what it means to be rude.
Or do you say no, let me just bite my tongue. Smile in his faith in his face and try to be a source
		

			of unity. May Allah Subhana give us big hearts. May Allah make us of those that bring our families
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