Ammar Alshukry – The Mercy of the Prophet Muhammad

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The Prophet's actions during a prayer and dragging his child out of the room are discussed. They stress the importance of avoiding the prayer and showing mercy, as well as finding a partner in a situation. The importance of mindfulness and patient behavior is emphasized, as well as the need for everyone to be aware of their actions and show empathy towards others. The speakers also touch on protest and the importance of rights of neighbors and strong community.

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			Okay, alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala rasulillah
		
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			wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallim wa
		
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			kathirat.
		
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			So, a question for you.
		
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			Even before that, we said that the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ would hasten the prayer due to what
		
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			he heard of a person crying.
		
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			And that's why Shaykh Omar r.a. led
		
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			with two verses each raka'ah.
		
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			I was surprised, man.
		
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			Three verses?
		
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			Okay, okay.
		
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			So he was obviously inspired by the session.
		
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			So...
		
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			But Rasulullah ﷺ would also prolong his sajdah.
		
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			This is amazing.
		
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			He would prolong his sajdah because of one
		
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			of his children.
		
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			One time, the Sahaba r.a. were praying
		
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			behind the Prophet ﷺ and he prolonged his
		
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			sajdah so much that after the salah was
		
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			over, he explained to them why it was
		
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			prolonged.
		
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			And he said, one of my sons wanted
		
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			to take me as a mount.
		
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			So he began to ride the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			like a horse.
		
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			And so he said, and I hated...
		
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			I hated to get up before he had
		
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			his fill until he was satisfied.
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ is engaging his
		
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			child, I won't say at the expense, but
		
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			even in his salah.
		
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			And so this is a hadith, honestly, for
		
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			every parent to reflect on.
		
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			You know, sometimes you might be doing something
		
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			and your kid wants to come and enjoy
		
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			your company at the moment.
		
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			And you would see that the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			would indulge his child even if he was
		
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			in salah, which is the most important act
		
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			of the day.
		
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			So what happens if my child wants my
		
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			attention or wants to play with me while
		
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			I'm on the phone or I'm doing something
		
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			much less important?
		
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			Isn't it more worthy of me indulging my
		
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			child in that moment, right?
		
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			The mercy of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ had mercy for sure for
		
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			the Muslims.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ avoided many things and he
		
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			avoided commanding many things because he was afraid
		
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			of causing a burden on the ummah.
		
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			So for example, Rasulullah ﷺ says in the
		
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			hadith that's reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim,
		
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			he says, لَوْ لَأَنْ أَشُقَّ عَلَىٰ أُمَّتِي لَأَمَرْتُهُمْ
		
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			بِالسِّوَاكِ عِنْدَ كُلِّ صَلَاةٍ He says, if it
		
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			wasn't for the fact that I feared hardship
		
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			on my ummah, I would have commanded them
		
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			to make siwak, to brush their teeth before
		
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			every prayer.
		
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			And so this shows us that this is
		
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			something that's incredibly recommended.
		
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			The only reason why the Prophet ﷺ did
		
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			not command it is because he feared hardship
		
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			on the ummah.
		
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			But otherwise, he would have did it or
		
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			he would have commanded it.
		
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			And so the idea of the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			avoiding commanding things just because of consideration of
		
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			hardship for the ummah out of his mercy
		
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			for the ummah.
		
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			Rasulullah ﷺ says in another hadith, he says,
		
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			if it wasn't for the fact that I
		
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			feared hardship on my ummah, I would have
		
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			not stayed back from any battalion.
		
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			I would have went on every single campaign.
		
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			But I feared hardship for my ummah.
		
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			My ummah is not going to be able
		
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			to do things like that.
		
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			Rasulullah ﷺ avoided, as you know, coming out
		
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			the third night after having led taraweeh twice.
		
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			The third night the sahaba were waiting in
		
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			Ramadan and Rasulullah ﷺ did not come out
		
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			because he said, I was afraid that it
		
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			would become obligatory for you.
		
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			And so him avoiding things.
		
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			In fact, one time the Prophet ﷺ was
		
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			waiting or the sahaba were waiting for him
		
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			to pray isha.
		
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			And so they were waiting, this prayer that
		
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			we just prayed, they were waiting for him
		
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			to come into the masjid, to come into
		
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			the mosque, to lead them in prayer.
		
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			And he kept delaying and kept delaying and
		
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			kept delaying until half the night had passed.
		
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			Half the night.
		
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			And then he came out.
		
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			So the sahaba are sitting there and they're
		
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			sleepy and they're tired and they've been waiting
		
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			for him.
		
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			And then he said, this is the time
		
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			of isha.
		
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			This is its time.
		
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			Like this is the best time.
		
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			If it were not for the fact that
		
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			I feared hardship on my ummah, this would
		
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			have been the time.
		
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			And so again, him avoiding many things out
		
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			of mercy for the ummah of the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ's mercy to non-Muslims.
		
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			Many, many, many, many examples.
		
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			Many examples.
		
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			Abu Huraira, the famous narrator of hadith.
		
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			His mother was not Muslim.
		
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			Abu Huraira was Muslim.
		
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			And so that's not only was she not
		
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			Muslim, but she was very antagonistic against the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And so that's a very painful conflict for
		
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			a person to believe and love the Messenger
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			And at the same time, the people who
		
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			you love the most, your family members, hate
		
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			the one who you love or hate the
		
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			religion that you love.
		
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			And so on one occasion, Abu Huraira comes
		
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			to the Prophet ﷺ and he says, O
		
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			Messenger of Allah, please make dua for my
		
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			mother because she said some things about you.
		
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			She said some things.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ didn't ask, what did she
		
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			say?
		
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			He didn't say, what did he say?
		
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			He said, Allahumma ahdi um Abu Huraira.
		
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			O Allah, guide the mother of Abu Huraira.
		
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			That's what he said.
		
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			Abu Huraira takes off, running to his house.
		
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			And he finds that the door to his
		
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			house is locked and he hears the swishing
		
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			of water.
		
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			And from the inside of the house, he
		
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			hears his mom saying, stay out, Abu Huraira,
		
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			stay out.
		
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			Don't come in.
		
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			He's waiting outside and when his mom comes
		
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			outside, he sees that she's bathed herself and
		
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			she says, ash-hadu an la ilaha illallah
		
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			wa ash-hadu anna Muhammadan Rasool Allah.
		
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			I bear witness that there is nothing worthy
		
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			of worship except Allah and that Muhammad ﷺ
		
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			is His Messenger.
		
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			These types of du'as that the Prophet
		
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			made were so many.
		
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			In Bukhari, there was a group, a tribe
		
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			called Daws that had not believed in him.
		
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			And so Tufail ibn Amr al-Dawsi, Tufail
		
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			ibn Amr was a convert to Islam.
		
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			And Tufail came, believed in the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			His story of conversion is a long one,
		
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			but he believed in the Prophet and then
		
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			he went back to his people to call
		
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			them to Islam.
		
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			And he was so excited.
		
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			When a person accepts Islam on day one,
		
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			they have all of this passion.
		
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			And so he comes back to Rasool Allah
		
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			ﷺ and this is incredible.
		
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			He says, Ya Rasool Allah, Daws has disbelieved
		
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			in Allah and His Messenger.
		
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			Make du'a to Allah to destroy Daws.
		
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			It's like, it's your people.
		
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			These are your people.
		
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			But that's what passion does.
		
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			When people are new Muslim or even when
		
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			people are newly practicing Muslims.
		
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			A lot of times you burn a lot
		
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			of bridges with your family and with others
		
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			just because you are so excited about practicing
		
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			the deen.
		
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			And willing to sacrifice relationships and all of
		
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			that.
		
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			And Tufail ibn Amr, he comes to the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ and says, make du'a that
		
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			my people are destroyed.
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ raised his hand
		
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			and he said, and the people said, Halakat
		
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			Daws.
		
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			When the Prophet ﷺ raised his hand, he
		
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			said, Daws is destroyed.
		
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			He said, Allahumma hdi Daws wa'tibihim.
		
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			He said, O Allah, guide Daws, guide those
		
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			people and bring them to Islam.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ when he was expelled from
		
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			Ta'if, that city that he had went
		
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			to for support outside of Mecca.
		
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			And he went to the people of Ta
		
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			'if and they had their fools, their kids
		
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			stone him out of the city.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ said that that was one
		
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			of the most difficult if not the most
		
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			difficult day that he had ever experienced.
		
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			Aisha had asked him that question.
		
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			What was the most difficult day you experienced?
		
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			And he told her about when he went
		
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			to Ta'if and they expelled him from
		
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			Ta'if.
		
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			He said, I walked for hours, completely overwhelmed.
		
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			I didn't know where I was going.
		
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			Like if you ever walked like a stressful
		
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			walk to the point where you don't even
		
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			know which direction, you don't know where you
		
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			end up.
		
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			He ended up in a valley between two
		
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			mountains and he sees, he looks up and
		
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			he sees Jibreel ﷺ, the angel with an
		
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			angel that Jibreel introduces him to.
		
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			This is the angel of the mountains.
		
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			And we see that your people have disbelieved
		
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			in you.
		
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			And if you wish, just say the word,
		
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			we will command for the two mountains to
		
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			collapse on the people of Mecca.
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ said, rather from
		
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			his mercy, he said, rather I would wish
		
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			that Allah ﷻ bring out from their loins
		
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			their next generation people who would worship him
		
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			alone.
		
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			Rasulullah ﷺ, his mercy was not just for
		
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			humanity though.
		
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			It was also for the animals.
		
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			I mean the Prophet ﷺ, when you look
		
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			at the Prophet and animals, you say, how
		
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			could this person not be a prophet of
		
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			God?
		
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			Like the society he's emerging from is one
		
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			where they didn't consider human beings to be
		
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			worth anything if they weren't from the right
		
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			tribe.
		
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			They didn't consider women to be anything.
		
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			Umar ibn Khattab ﷺ says, he says, we
		
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			never used to consider women to be anything,
		
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			literally.
		
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			We didn't consider them to be anything.
		
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			And yet the Prophet ﷺ is coming from
		
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			that and he is telling them that a
		
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			woman entered into the hellfire because of a
		
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			cat.
		
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			You have to believe that before he told
		
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			them that they did not consider the life
		
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			of a cat to be worth anything.
		
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			And he says, a woman enters into the
		
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			hellfire because of a cat.
		
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			And he tells them that another woman entered
		
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			into paradise because of a dog.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ would be making wudu.
		
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			He would be performing ablution with water.
		
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			And a cat would come and drink from
		
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			his vessel.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ would let the cat
		
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			drink until it was filled.
		
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			And then he would continue making wudu with
		
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			that water.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ prohibited us from using animals
		
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			as pulpits.
		
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			Using an animal as a minbar.
		
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			You know what that means?
		
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			When people are riding a horse or they're
		
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			riding a donkey or they're riding a camel
		
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			or whatever it is that they're riding.
		
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			They'll have conversations on it.
		
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			You know, they stop for a second.
		
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			Yeah, so and so.
		
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			And they have a whole conversation on that
		
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			donkey.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ said, don't turn your animals
		
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			into pulpits.
		
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			Like, ride your animal to its destination and
		
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			then get off the animal.
		
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			Like that level of sensitivity, that level of
		
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			beauty, that level of mercy, the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			is saying.
		
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			The Prophet cursed the man who brands the
		
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			face of an animal.
		
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			He saw a face branded of an animal.
		
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			And he said Allah ﷻ cursed the person
		
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			who does that.
		
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			Again, these were things that were unknown.
		
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			People didn't consider these things to be anything.
		
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			They didn't consider animals to be worth anything.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ cursed the one who would
		
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			take animals, living animals as targets.
		
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			So Abdullah ibn Umar, these companions learned from
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Abdullah ibn Umar saw a bird that was
		
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			tied up.
		
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			And some kids were using it as targets
		
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			for whatever they were practicing.
		
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			And so when they saw him coming, they
		
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			fled.
		
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			And Abdullah ibn Umar said, who did this?
		
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			قَدْ لَعْنَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ فَعَلَ هَذَا
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ has cursed the people who
		
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			do this, taking animals as targets.
		
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			So again, the Prophet ﷺ was not just
		
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			a mercy to people, but the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			was a mercy to the world.
		
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			He was a mercy to Muslims.
		
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			He was a mercy to non-Muslims.
		
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			He was a mercy to the animal kingdom
		
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			as well.
		
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			The question then becomes, how do we gain
		
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			mercy?
		
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			What do we need to do to gain
		
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			mercy?
		
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			Okay, so that's number one.
		
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			To ask Allah ﷻ to gain mercy.
		
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			What else?
		
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			How do you show mercy?
		
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			How do you show mercy?
		
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			Like what would...
		
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			What would...
		
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			If my mercy is at a six, what
		
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			would I need to do?
		
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			What would I need to do to be
		
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			able to get it to an eight or
		
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			a nine?
		
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			We've already said that the Muslim community is
		
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			not very merciful.
		
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			We gave it a negative or we gave
		
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			it a three or a four.
		
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			So what do we need to do?
		
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			What would we need to do collectively or
		
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			individually to bump up our levels a bit?
		
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			Okay, so reflect on the mercy that Allah
		
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			ﷻ shows you.
		
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			الرَّحْمُونَ يَرْحَمَهُمْ الرَّحْمَانَ The Prophet ﷺ says, the
		
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			merciful will experience mercy from the merciful.
		
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			Have mercy on the ones on earth.
		
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			The one who is in the heavens will
		
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			have mercy on you.
		
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			What else?
		
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			Start with your family.
		
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			Okay, so how do I start with my
		
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			family?
		
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			Forgive.
		
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			Being patient.
		
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			Try to have a relationship with those who
		
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			push you away.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Yes?
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Specifically deciding, being mindful.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And so that idea of mindfulness is a
		
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			choice.
		
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			Like, when you see somebody do something wrong,
		
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			is that something that they wanted to do?
		
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			Is that something that they fell into?
		
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			Is that something that they're overpowered by?
		
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			Is this a hole that they can't get
		
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			out of?
		
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			Like, if you empathize or decide to empathize
		
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			with someone, you might find that you're able
		
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			to help them in a different way.
		
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			Yes?
		
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			You know, it's crazy that you have the
		
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			microphone right in front of you.
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			Sisters, do you guys have a microphone?
		
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			No?
		
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			Do we have another microphone over there?
		
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			Okay, sorry.
		
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			It's over here, guys.
		
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			Yeah, the sister who has her hand raised.
		
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			Don't throw it.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Hold on, just turn on the microphone first.
		
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			Is it green?
		
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			Yeah, it's green.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			And you know what?
		
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			I don't even feel that judgment because Allah
		
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			does not attribute our sins to our self
		
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			-worth and who we are.
		
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			And like, in his line, it's everything, clothing,
		
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			they're fixable, right?
		
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			You can have your possessions, all that.
		
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			But then, as human beings we really approach
		
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			each other with this judgment and we infuse
		
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			the people, the human beings with the sins
		
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			and we just assume that they like, oh,
		
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			they're a lot hot.
		
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			It's just like the example you just gave
		
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			about the guy.
		
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			I mean, he was not a lot hot
		
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			and he doesn't work and he tends to
		
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			kind of get to the core of what's
		
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			happening and that's unfortunately, this is just a
		
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			sign that you're, I would not say that
		
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			our market can even emerge people doing much
		
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			good right now because I don't think we
		
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			can do that amongst ourselves.
		
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			So the, huh?
		
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			Especially with the...
		
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			Especially with Muslim women?
		
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			So that's why we're asking these questions, right?
		
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			So how do you increase your ability to
		
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			be merciful?
		
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			Yes, Erica, just pass it back over there.
		
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			Yeah, you have to push the button on
		
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			the side until it turns green.
		
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			Beautiful.
		
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			Jazakallah khair.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Pass the microphone back.
		
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			Were you a legend in your game?
		
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			No, he wasn't, he wasn't 12, no.
		
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			Because me, I would play video games in
		
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			class.
		
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			So the teacher would one time told me,
		
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			she's like, hey, I'm going to have mercy
		
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			on you and I'm just not going to
		
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			do anything this time.
		
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			But then I went back to playing video
		
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			games because she showed me that mercy.
		
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			But it was kind of like more mercy
		
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			for her to tell my parents and they
		
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			did not show me any mercy.
		
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			So I think it's kind of like, it's
		
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			also kind of how you look at it.
		
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			So sometimes calling someone out can actually be
		
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			beneficial for them rather than just doing it
		
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			in a compassionate way.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			At the beginning, you're actually describing what we
		
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			talked about.
		
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			What's the difference between rahma and ra'afa?
		
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			So what you just described as compassion is
		
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			ra'afa and what your parents did is
		
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			rahma.
		
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			Rahma is a mercy that allows for pain
		
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			and ra'afa is the compassionate way, like
		
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			you said, where you don't really hurt them
		
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			even though it might be something that's beneficial
		
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			for them in the long run.
		
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			You know Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, yes, Romero,
		
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			go ahead.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			How does being grateful to the people around
		
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			you show mercy?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			You know, I think also one of the
		
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			ways is, you know, we've kind of talked
		
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			about it I guess a little bit but
		
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			just the idea of walking in someone's shoes,
		
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			whether it's physically or whether it's as a
		
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			mental exercise.
		
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			The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, a man approached
		
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			him and he said to him, you know,
		
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			I have a very hard heart, what should
		
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			I do?
		
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			And he told him, he said, go and
		
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			wipe over the head of an orphan.
		
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			Go and wipe over the head of an
		
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			orphan.
		
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			If you go and you sit with an
		
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			orphan and you see this child that is
		
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			now, you know, going into this cruel world
		
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			without the protective mechanism of their parents or
		
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			their father.
		
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			I mean, it's heartbreaking.
		
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			That in and of itself.
		
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			And the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, I have
		
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			no doubt that his empathy was also a
		
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			result of his upbringing.
		
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			He was an orphan.
		
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			He didn't have the presence of a mother.
		
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			He did not have the presence of a
		
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			father.
		
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			There's no pain that people go through in
		
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			life.
		
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			Except that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had a
		
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			portion of that pain.
		
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			You know, like if you met a person
		
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			and they told you, I lost a child,
		
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			you'd say, oh my God, I'm sorry.
		
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			I don't know what to say.
		
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			May Allah have mercy on them.
		
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			And then, two children, three children, four children,
		
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			five children, he buried them.
		
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			Then he's also a widower.
		
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			He also lost his wife.
		
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			He also lost his, I mean, he also
		
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			lost his family.
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam I do have a a
		
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			poem that I wrote called The Prophet's Pain.
		
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			It speaks speaks to some of that.
		
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			It goes, You never saw your father's face
		
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			or felt the warmth of a mother's embrace.
		
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			Your grandfather's heart burned with concern but death
		
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			would come to him in turn.
		
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			No one to look up to so you
		
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			cast your vision towards the sky when all
		
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			you do is speak the truth.
		
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			It hurts when they say you lie, doesn't
		
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			it?
		
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			But you take it all in stride.
		
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			The honest prophet who by his own people
		
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			is belied with only two pillars of support,
		
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			an uncle and a perfect wife.
		
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			But in the same year, both of them
		
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			would lose their life.
		
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			Jibreel gave Khadijah his salam, told her of
		
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			a house in paradise but an angel other
		
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			than Jibreel came to your house to collect
		
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			its price.
		
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			You went to Taif with the message you
		
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			needed to spread.
		
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			They laughed at you and had their fools
		
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			stone you until you bled.
		
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			At Uhud, you were deserted.
		
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			They struck you with vicious blows and rumors
		
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			were spread about Aisha that caused pain.
		
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			Only God knows.
		
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			Your cousin Jafar would return from a long
		
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			absence in Abyssinia.
		
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			He would come but in the same day
		
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			he'd be martyred with Zayd, your adopted son.
		
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			An-Num-Kulthum would pass away, Zaynab Ruqayya
		
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			as well.
		
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			You held Ibrahim in your arms with a
		
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			heart that breaks and eyes that swell.
		
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			Death would come for you but first would
		
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			come for those you love.
		
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			But you never expressed distress for the test
		
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			that came from up above.
		
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			The trials made you strong and to Allah's
		
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			perfect company you would yearn because it is
		
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			to Allah that we belong and to Him
		
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			is our return.
		
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			Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Okay, the last thing that I just wanted
		
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			to mention was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam's mercy to the ignorant.
		
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			His mercy to the ignorant.
		
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			A lot of times he would have Bedouins
		
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			come and these people were very uncouth, very
		
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			uncivilized.
		
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			A man came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam and he grabbed his cloak and he
		
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			yanked it.
		
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			He yanked it.
		
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			And so, could you imagine the Sahaba watching
		
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			someone do that until the trace was on
		
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			the Prophet's neck.
		
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			And the man said, he said, Ya Muhammad,
		
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			O Muhammad, give me from your wealth, not
		
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			the wealth of your father or the wealth
		
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			of...
		
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			And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			simply smiled.
		
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			And he went and he filled that person's
		
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			ride when he came on.
		
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			He put some stuff on it.
		
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			Some goods.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
		
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			to him, Have I done well?
		
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			And the man said, No.
		
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			You haven't done well.
		
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			And no thank you.
		
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			May Allah not reward you for what you
		
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			just gave me.
		
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			So disrespectful.
		
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			And I want you to...
		
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			I mean there are times when dealing with
		
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			the Muslim community you feel disrespected.
		
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			Is that not right?
		
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			Someone says something and you're like, Yo, where
		
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			were you raised?
		
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			Why do you talk like that?
		
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			Who says what you're saying?
		
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			Right?
		
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			Just completely...
		
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			And yet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			when that man said that to him, the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam simply smiled and
		
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			then put more on his ride.
		
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			And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			said to him, He said, Have I done
		
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			well?
		
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			And the man said, Yes.
		
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			Jazakallah khair.
		
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			The man was not trying to show animosity.
		
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			He was not trying...
		
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			This is just the way that he talks.
		
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			This is the way that he knows how
		
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			to talk.
		
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			And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			then told him and he said, Now that
		
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			you've said that I've done well, I just
		
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			want you to know that my companions might
		
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			be a little upset with you because of
		
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			the way that they saw you deal with
		
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			me.
		
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			So if you could just go and you
		
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			know...
		
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			And so the man went in front of
		
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			them and he praised the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then
		
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			gave a beautiful example.
		
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			He said to the Sahaba afterwards, he said,
		
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			The example of me and this man is
		
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			like the example of a camel and you
		
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			all were chasing it and the more you
		
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			chased it, the more it ran away from
		
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			you.
		
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			And I said, Leave it alone.
		
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			I know my camel better.
		
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			And I went and I grabbed some khushaash
		
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			al-ard.
		
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			I went and I grabbed some...
		
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			like some grass or something like that.
		
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			And then I called it with the grass
		
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			until it came willingly.
		
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			If I had left him to you, you
		
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			would have chased him, you would have beat
		
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			him and he would have entered into the
		
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			hellfire.
		
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			He wouldn't have accepted Islam.
		
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			He would have entered into the hellfire.
		
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			Like, the way that I'm treating him with
		
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			this mercy is better and I know my
		
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			people better.
		
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			So the idea of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam is mercy with ignorance as well.
		
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			Overlooking people's faults, showing mercy, showing empathy, thinking
		
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			of people, putting yourself in people's shoes.
		
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			And then the last thing that I just
		
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			want to mention and I'll end with this
		
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			is that one of the ways that you
		
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			experience mercy is by interacting with people like
		
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			for real.
		
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			Like in real life.
		
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			There's a really amazing hadith.
		
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			An amazing hadith.
		
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			I would encourage you to write it down
		
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			because you're going to want to share it
		
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			with other people.
		
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			And that is the hadith that's in Ibn
		
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			Majah.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, whoever
		
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			lives in the desert becomes harsh.
		
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			من سكن البادية جفا Whoever lives in the
		
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			desert becomes harsh.
		
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			Bedouins by nature are harsh.
		
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			They don't have any of the civility that
		
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			comes with living in a city with civilization
		
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			and with people, interacting with people.
		
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			You become refined.
		
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			You become merciful.
		
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			The desert is a harsh place.
		
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			People become harsh.
		
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			I say this, why?
		
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			Because living online is a desert.
		
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			The internet is an experience where we are
		
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			all alone together.
		
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			And that's why people are so harsh with
		
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			each other in comment sections.
		
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			That's why people are so harsh with each
		
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			other online because I don't have to sit
		
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			in front of this person.
		
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			I don't have to see this person really
		
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			as a human being.
		
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			They are whatever they are.
		
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			And so, the importance of sitting down together
		
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			in person becomes a source of mercy.
		
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			And Allah knows best.
		
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			Cool?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			You got the question?
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			Very good.
		
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			Yes Najwa.
		
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			Just keep passing the microphone back.
		
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			Peace be upon you.
		
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			Peace be upon you too.
		
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			So, also consider that with Rahmat comes Fahad,
		
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			comes our
		
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			mercy, and then it says We gave him
		
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			mercy from us and we taught him knowledge
		
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			from us.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			You know I'm reminded of Al-Shafi'i
		
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			who was one of the most brilliant minds
		
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			in Islam.
		
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			He had photographic memory and one of his
		
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			students, I'm forgetting his name, but I'll remember
		
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			it after the session is over.
		
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			He, Al-Shafi'i had photographic memory.
		
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			And sometimes people who are very intelligent, they
		
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			get very frustrated with people who aren't as
		
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			smart as them.
		
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			And they don't see like why aren't you
		
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			getting this like on the first shot like
		
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			I got it.
		
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			And so, but he would explain to him,
		
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			his student, he would explain to him a
		
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			mas'ala, an issue, 40 times.
		
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			Like again and again and again and again.
		
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			And he would still not get it.
		
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			And finally the guy would leave the class
		
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			like, you know, yeah Alhamdulillah I understood it.
		
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			Yeah, yeah.
		
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			He didn't understand it.
		
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			And he would just, he would leave not
		
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			having understood it.
		
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			And Al-Shafi'i would go follow him.
		
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			Al-Shafi'i would go follow him and
		
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			still teach it to him again and again
		
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			until he understood it for real.
		
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			And then he would say to him, if
		
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			I could feed you this knowledge, I would
		
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			feed it to you.
		
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			I would feed it to you.
		
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			So that mercy for people, even, like if
		
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			you can't necessarily relate, right, because he couldn't
		
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			relate to the idea of that, that not
		
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			being able to understand like that.
		
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			So, yes, we'll take whatever questions we have
		
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			in the live ask, Mahmoud, just go ahead.
		
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			So we're switching the live ask.
		
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			We're having Mahmoud read them instead of me
		
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			because it's very confusing.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Sure.
		
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			Well, obviously the Prophet ﷺ got back up
		
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			and he completed the obligation.
		
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			So it's not like he got down from
		
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			the minbar and then left the masjid.
		
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			He got back up and he completed the
		
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			hukmah.
		
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			In fact, he communicated to them why he
		
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			came down from the minbar.
		
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			How do you avoid being people pleasers and
		
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			pushovers but still show mercy?
		
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			What do y'all got?
		
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			Boundaries?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Huh?
		
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			Intention?
		
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			Like give me something.
		
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			You guys are just throwing words at me
		
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			at this point.
		
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			Boundaries, intention, what else?
		
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			People pleasers?
		
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			Is it a good thing or a bad
		
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			thing?
		
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			I'll tell you something.
		
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			It depends on...
		
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			I'm sitting in a class one time back
		
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			in the day, Sheikh Muhammad Al-Sharif, rahimahullah.
		
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			A sister is complaining to him about how
		
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			much she is overwhelmed by her community.
		
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			She teaches in the Sunday school and she's
		
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			like the hardworking sister that everybody relies on
		
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			and everybody calls.
		
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			And she is completely overwhelmed.
		
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			And she's complaining to him like, what do
		
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			I do?
		
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			And then he gave an answer that I
		
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			never forgot.
		
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			And he said, if a person feels like
		
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			they can't say no to people, then they
		
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			may have to check their sincerity, their ikhlas.
		
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			And she's like, what?
		
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			What do you mean?
		
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			Like I'm doing all of this for Islam,
		
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			for da'wah, blah, blah, blah.
		
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			And then he said, because if she can't
		
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			say no, that she has to ask herself
		
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			the question.
		
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			We all have to ask ourselves the question.
		
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			Is who are you trying to please?
		
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			My goal is to please Allah.
		
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			My goal is not to please people.
		
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			If by pleasing Allah people are pleased along
		
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			the way, that's well and good.
		
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			But in fact, I have to build the
		
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			resilience to where even if people aren't pleased,
		
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			if Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is pleased,
		
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			then I'm going to go this way also.
		
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			And so I think the idea of people
		
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			pleasing can be very, very actually harmful.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala praises the believers
		
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			saying, لا يخافون لهم تلائم They do not
		
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			fear the criticism of those who criticize.
		
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			And also if I care about pleasing Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala, then there will be
		
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			times when people will be upset with me,
		
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			that people will be let down.
		
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			People will be, you know, they'll want me
		
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			to do things.
		
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			But I always remember this, this quote by
		
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			Stephen Covey in his book, The Seven Habits
		
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			of Highly Effective People.
		
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			He says that the enemy of the best
		
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			is often the good.
		
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			The enemy of the best is often the
		
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			good.
		
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			Meaning, a lot of times the enemy of
		
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			me being the best version of myself is
		
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			all of this good stuff that people are
		
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			trying to get me to do.
		
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			Come to Masjid Maryam, please.
		
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			You know what I mean?
		
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			Shayan, that was for you.
		
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			You weren't listening.
		
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			Oh, it's okay.
		
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			See, exactly.
		
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			So, you have to prioritize yourself and you
		
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			also have to remember that every yes that
		
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			you say is a no to something else.
		
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			Every yes that you say is a no
		
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			to something else.
		
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			So a yes that I say to doing
		
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			this Sunday school, teaching this Sunday school, might
		
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			be a no that I'm saying to my
		
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			family.
		
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			It's a no that I'm saying to my
		
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			mom.
		
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			It's a no that I'm saying to my
		
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			dad.
		
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			It's a no that I'm saying to my
		
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			daughter.
		
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			It's a no that I'm saying to something
		
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			else that might be more important.
		
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			So, you make your goal pleasing Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala and whoever gets pleased along
		
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			the way, that's what we're looking for.
		
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			Yes, Asher.
		
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			I read something.
		
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			I used to have like a people pleasing
		
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			personality but then I shifted away from it
		
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			because in fact it's a manipulation tactic because
		
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			you're showing your inauthentic self to make people
		
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			like you what you're truly not really feeling.
		
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			There you go.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Anytime you hear midnight or what have you
		
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			in the hadith, you take maghrib time, fajr
		
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			time, divide it in half.
		
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			Last third of the night, maghrib time, fajr
		
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			time, divide it in thirds.
		
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			Like that.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Hold the mic close to you.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So, do we consider live streaming?
		
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			I don't believe in live streaming at all.
		
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			I don't think it's bid'ah but I
		
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			think that most, I think that, I think
		
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			that from a media standpoint, most masajids are
		
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			not equipped to live stream.
		
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			Who here has watched a masjid lecture on
		
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			Instagram live in the past month?
		
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			So, four people.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			And did you watch the whole thing or
		
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			did you just happen to be scrolling through?
		
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			Right.
		
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			So, a lot of times when people, when
		
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			people, when you do an event, the first
		
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			question that people ask is, is it being
		
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			live streamed as if they were gonna actually
		
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			watch it?
		
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			It's just a question that people ask.
		
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			And then masajid, like go and look at
		
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			the live stream of any masjid in the
		
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			country and let me know if it's more
		
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			than 15 people.
		
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			What about roots?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			And how many people are watching?
		
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			Come on, man.
		
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			Podcast is different.
		
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			You're talking about different media.
		
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			So, I don't want to go into this
		
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			too long but I think that live streaming,
		
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			number one, most, most of the time masajids,
		
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			they live stream, the recording quality ends up
		
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			being very poor and so it's not even
		
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			worth it to watch it later because they're
		
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			focusing on live stream.
		
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			Number two, if I'm presentation is different.
		
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			YouTubers, Twitch streamers, all of these guys, when
		
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			they're presenting, they're presenting to a live audience
		
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			meaning they're directed to a live audience.
		
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			The idea of presenting to the masjid while
		
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			also presenting to people on live stream, I
		
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			don't think actually works.
		
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			You can only do one or the other
		
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			realistically.
		
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			And so, you end up losing on both
		
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			and that's why I feel like masajids in
		
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			the US are really, really, really unfortunately behind.
		
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			They're very poor in this regard.
		
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			Masajids in the UK are much smarter when
		
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			it comes to this.
		
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			They record in high definition and then they
		
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			upload later.
		
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			And that's why all of your favorite YouTubers
		
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			are people from the UK debating on speaker's
		
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			corner and stuff like that.
		
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			What was the second question?
		
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			So, I'll be honest with you guys.
		
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			I'll be very honest.
		
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			Recording this series or Plus One in general
		
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			has been one of the most difficult challenges.
		
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			So, we need somebody out of this 300
		
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			to kind of just own recording.
		
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			Akram has been blessing us but he's from
		
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			Palestine.
		
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			He's with us for a couple of weeks
		
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			and inshallah, he'll be moving back.
		
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			And so, we haven't figured out recording yet.
		
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			And so, we're waiting on somebody to arise
		
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			from the ashes and be our hero, inshallah
		
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			ta'ala, when it comes to recording.
		
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			Recording and editing but mostly like owning.
		
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			Like, coming like Akram with the DSLR camera
		
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			and setting it up and stuff like that.
		
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			But this series, inshallah ta'ala, is being
		
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			recorded and we'll eventually get it uploaded, inshallah.
		
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			Okay, what else?
		
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			Can you be inside of the masjid?
		
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			So, wudu is not required for entering into
		
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			the masjid.
		
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			So, I don't know what fiqh that is.
		
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			Wudu is required for three things.
		
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			What are they?
		
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			Number one, salah.
		
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			That's not entering the masjid.
		
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			Number two, is touching the mushaf.
		
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			And number three, is tawaf with a difference
		
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			of opinion about touching the mushaf and a
		
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			difference of opinion about tawaf.
		
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			But those are the three.
		
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			It's not required for entering into the masjid.
		
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			But that being said, so that's wudu.
		
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			I'm just clarifying this issue of wudu because
		
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			if it was truly about wudu, then a
		
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			guy who doesn't have wudu would not be
		
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			able to enter into the masjid and sit
		
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			down.
		
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			But nobody believes that to be true because
		
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			it's not true.
		
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			The issue of mensis is different.
		
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			And the reason traditionally why it was considered
		
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			to be something that a woman should not
		
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			sit in the masjid because of mensis was
		
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			obviously because of the fear of any sort
		
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			of impurity coming, any sort of impurity in
		
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			the masjid.
		
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			Okay, so as long as there's two aspects
		
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			to that.
		
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			Number one is as long as obviously all
		
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			of that is protected from.
		
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			And then number two, if she really wants
		
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			to avoid being in the musalla but still
		
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			attend, our masjids in the U.S. are
		
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			mostly like community centers.
		
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			They're beyond just the musalla.
		
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			If she wants, she can sit outside and
		
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			still listen to the lecture.
		
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			But, you know, I've heard this from Sheikh
		
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			Salah and many others.
		
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			There's no harm inshallah ta'ala of her
		
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			sitting in the masjid as long as obviously
		
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			there's no fear of impurity in the musalla.
		
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			So the hadith of Abdullah ibn Amr ibn
		
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			As is the one that you're referring to
		
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			and yes, he said, I go to sleep
		
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			every night and I remove any hatred in
		
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			my heart towards any Muslim.
		
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			So I cleanse my heart of hatred towards
		
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			any Muslim.
		
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			So I think that's what you're referring to.
		
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			I cleanse my heart of hatred and that's
		
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			what we're not able to do.
		
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			And that's why he's one of the people
		
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			of paradise.
		
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			So absolutely, cleansing your heart of hatred for
		
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			sure.
		
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			One and good for people.
		
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			Yes, Subhan.
		
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			You mentioned that the tribe called Dos.
		
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			Dos, yes.
		
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			What was the du'a that the prophet
		
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			said?
		
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			He said, Oh Allah, guide Dos and bring
		
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			them to Islam.
		
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			Hadith is in Bukhari.
		
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			How do you show mercy to non-Muslims
		
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			when they don't show mercy to us?
		
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			That is a very big generalization.
		
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			Number one.
		
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			It's not just Muslims that are marching and
		
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			protesting to free Palestine for example.
		
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			So that's a big generalization, number one.
		
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			And then number two.
		
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			Rasulullah was being persecuted by the Meccans and
		
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			he still showed mercy to them.
		
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			And they expelled him from his own city
		
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			and he still showed mercy to them.
		
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			He still wanted good for them.
		
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			I mean, that's what we're talking about.
		
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			Mercy is not that you show this incredible
		
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			fortitude or goodness to those who are good
		
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			to you.
		
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			I mean, that's nothing special.
		
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			That's nothing special.
		
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			But mercy is that you show mercy and
		
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			desire goodness for those who in that moment
		
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			do not want goodness for you and want
		
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			to harm you and that you're able to
		
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			win them over.
		
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			That's the story.
		
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			That's the greatness.
		
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			It's not that you show goodness to those
		
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			who start off showing goodness to you.
		
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			Yes?
		
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			Yeah, yeah.
		
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			I mean, the conquest of Mecca has so
		
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			many stories of people who came and the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ forgave them and overlooked their faults
		
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			and all of these types of things.
		
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			And so, whether it's Ibn Abi Jahl or
		
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			others, I mean, that's where that beautiful mercy
		
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			exists.
		
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			And again, it's the same idea.
		
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			If I want Allah to show me mercy
		
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			when I've committed all of these sins and
		
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			all of these wrongs, I have to be
		
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			able to show mercy to others when they've
		
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			done wrong.
		
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			That's the point.
		
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			Yes, Siba?
		
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			Were there times that the Prophet ﷺ did
		
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			not show mercy?
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			Mercy does not mean that you become a
		
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			fool.
		
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			That's number one.
		
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			So, after the Battle of Badr, the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ, there was a man who told the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ he made excuses.
		
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			He was held captive.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ forgave him on the
		
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			condition that he not war against the Muslims
		
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			again.
		
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			And then after the second, after the Battle
		
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			of Uhud, my man is amongst the Mushrikeen.
		
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			And he's warring against the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And then again, he beseeches the mercy of
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ, please, it was by accident,
		
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			I just ended up here by accident.
		
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			You know what I mean?
		
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			Like, he's trying to...
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ said to him,
		
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			he said, I am not going to allow
		
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			you to stroke your mustache saying that you
		
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			deceived Muhammad twice.
		
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			Not gonna let you do it.
		
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			And so the idea of just because I'm
		
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			merciful doesn't mean that I always allow for
		
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			repeat offenders to continue to offend me or
		
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			to harm me.
		
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			Yes?
		
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			Yeah, I mean, somebody was mentioning this earlier,
		
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			but I hope it's clear for people.
		
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			Did you have teachers growing up who were
		
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			very, very strict?
		
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			And terrified you as a kid?
		
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			Would you say that they were not merciful?
		
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			In fact, could you consider that some of
		
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			them were actually your best teachers?
		
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			Yeah, 100%.
		
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			But they terrified me and they scared me
		
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			and they made me do this and they
		
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			made me do that.
		
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			Absolutely.
		
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			And they didn't accept any of my lies
		
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			and they didn't accept any...
		
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			Yes.
		
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			And so that mercy is not that you
		
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			get treated gently all the time.
		
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			Mercy is that, again, goodness is desired for
		
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			you and so you are built to be
		
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			able to actually achieve that goodness.
		
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			And Allah knows best.
		
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			I see that...
		
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			Yes, let's do the last question.
		
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			Salaam.
		
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			Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala commanded us
		
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			to follow the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Excellent question.
		
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			Did the Prophet...
		
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			Is the Prophet ﷺ a legislator?
		
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			So this is something that you learn in
		
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			Usulul Fiqh.
		
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			Is the Prophet ﷺ a legislator?
		
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			He's not an ultimate legislator, but he is
		
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			a legislator.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him license.
		
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			Rasulullah ﷺ says, وَمَا آتَاكُمُ الرُّسُولُ فَقُذُوهُ وَمَا
		
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			نَهَاكُمْ عَنْهُ فَانْتَهُ Allah says, whatever the Prophet
		
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			has given you, then do it.
		
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			And whatever the Prophet has prohibited you from
		
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			doing, then don't do it.
		
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			And so we don't believe in just the
		
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			Qur'an.
		
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			Like some people say, oh, I'll just follow
		
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			the Qur'an, whatever the Qur'an says.
		
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			I don't believe in the Sunnah.
		
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			No.
		
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			Allah in the Qur'an says you have
		
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			to follow the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ commands and he legislates.
		
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			And it is an extension of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala's command and legislation.
		
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			There's one last thing that I wanted to
		
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			mention.
		
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			Is Wafaa here?
		
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			She's trying to get a hold of her.
		
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			Do you want to talk about this now
		
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			or save it for another day?
		
00:48:36 --> 00:48:36
			Yeah.
		
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			If not, then now, then it's fine.
		
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			We can save it for another time.
		
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			But if you are, then let's do it.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So I went to a protest at City
		
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			Hall for Palestine a couple of weeks ago,
		
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			I guess, or months ago, probably now.
		
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			And I see Wafaa and she's got this
		
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			lady with her who was from Montana?
		
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			Same thing.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So Idaho.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			She was from Idaho.
		
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			And then she told me, I was like,
		
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			so what brings you to this protest?
		
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			It was her first Palestinian protest.
		
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			It was her first protest ever.
		
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			And she was with Wafaa.
		
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			And Wafaa said, she's my neighbor.
		
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			And I said, but she lives in Idaho.
		
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			She's like, yes, she used to be my
		
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			neighbor, but she came back from Idaho to
		
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			visit me.
		
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			I know.
		
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			That doesn't happen.
		
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			Neighbors don't come back to visit their neighbors,
		
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			right?
		
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			That doesn't happen.
		
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			So then I asked Wafaa, I said, so
		
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			what do you do or what did you
		
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			do to be able to create such a
		
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			relationship with your neighbors where they would travel
		
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			states to come back and visit you?
		
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			Because we talk so much about rights of
		
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			neighbors, rights of neighbors, rights of neighbors.
		
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			But I wanted us to hear from her
		
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			about what she does with her neighbors.
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:06
			Do you guys trade food?
		
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			So when you cook and you make food,
		
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			you make food planning to give to your
		
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			neighbors as well.
		
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			Or is it just a matter of if
		
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			I have some leftovers or I'll send it
		
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			over?
		
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			And you're a Palestinian, right?
		
00:52:57 --> 00:53:00
			So how, after all of this has been
		
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			going on, what was their response been?
		
00:53:59 --> 00:54:00
			She ran out and she gave me a
		
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			huge hug and she said, I am on
		
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			your side, whatever side I am.
		
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			She wanted that Kunafa cookie.
		
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			She was like...
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			So these are the hadith in action, right?
		
00:54:39 --> 00:54:42
			The Prophet ﷺ says that if you're making
		
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			soup, you're making a broth, add water to
		
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			it so that you can give to your
		
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			neighbor as well.
		
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			Like these are things, again, but unfortunately we're
		
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			just so inclusive as opposed to what Wafaa
		
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			is doing.
		
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			And inshallah ta'ala, I'm just so happy
		
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			that you shared that with us.
		
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			It's very inspiring as well.
		
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			Hopefully, we all get to do a little
		
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			bit more of that as well.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Allah bless you, bless your rizq.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khair, everybody.
		
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			Alif, Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Muhammad, wa alayhi
		
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			wa sahbihi wa sallam, jazakumullahu khair.
		
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			How are you doing?