Ammar Alshukry – The Ingredients of a Muslim Identity

Ammar Alshukry
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The importance of learning one's worldview and history to become a part of one's identity is emphasized, along with the need for a shared memory and history. Personal history is also discussed as a source of courage and being a part of the community. Growth in confidence and language learning is also emphasized, along with the importance of showingcase one's character through showcasing one's character through language and language learning. Overall, the need for community and language learning is emphasized as a way to access one's history.

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			Our topic is the topic of
		
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			identity.
		
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			And one of the greatest fathers who ever
		
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			lived, Allah
		
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			tells his story in the Quran.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says,
		
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			When Yahuw was dying and Yahuw had taken
		
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			his children
		
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			from a a a from Palestine or Canaan,
		
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			the land of Canaan, and he had brought
		
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			them to a non Muslim land, Egypt.
		
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			And he had the concern
		
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			that every righteous parent has over their children.
		
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			What are you gonna worship after me?
		
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			Are you going to be Muslim
		
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			or are you not?
		
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			And so they said,
		
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			we are going to worship your father. We're
		
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			going to worship your god rather. We're going
		
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			to worship your god and the god of
		
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			your fathers, Ibrahim and Ismael.
		
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			So the question becomes
		
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			So the question then becomes,
		
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			how do you cultivate
		
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			this Islamic identity?
		
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			And I'm gonna share with you 5
		
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			things in this talk. The first and the
		
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			most important
		
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			is your theology, your worldview.
		
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			Where do you get your sense of morality
		
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			from? How do you know
		
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			when something is right? And how do you
		
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			know when something is wrong? When the entire
		
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			world is going in one direction and telling
		
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			you that this is okay and it's acceptable
		
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			and it's fine,
		
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			and you say, no. I still see this
		
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			as being immortal. Where do you get that
		
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			from?
		
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			It is from your theology, your worldview.
		
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			And the believer, their world view comes from
		
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			the Quran and sunnah. And so the believer
		
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			is always going back to the Quran and
		
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			to the sunnah of the prophet salallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam to get their values. For them
		
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			to be able to recognize what Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala loves and then they seek it
		
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			and to know what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			hates and they avoid it. Even if the
		
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			entire world calls them in one direction, they
		
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			recognize that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala dislikes something
		
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			so they don't do it. It doesn't matter
		
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			what it is.
		
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			So the first is your worldview,
		
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			but then the second
		
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			is very, very important. When we come to
		
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			these conferences, we're concerned about learning our worldview.
		
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			When we go home, we study theology,
		
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			and it should be studied because it is
		
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			the most important foundation in bedrock. But the
		
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			second one, we don't pay attention to as
		
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			much, and that is our history.
		
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			Anybody come here from Canada?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			My Canadians, when you guys were in high
		
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			school, did they teach you about the California
		
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			Gold Rush?
		
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			Did they teach you about the Alamo?
		
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			No.
		
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			They taught you about all sorts of things,
		
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			I'm sure, that happened in Canada even though
		
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			nothing happens in Canada. The point is
		
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			is that when you're in Canada, you're studying
		
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			Canadian history.
		
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			And when you're in the United States, you're
		
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			studying American history.
		
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			And the question then becomes, why is it
		
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			that a person who's in New York will
		
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			learn about the California Gold Rush even though
		
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			California is so much more distant from you
		
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			than Toronto is or Quebec is.
		
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			The reason is because
		
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			history becomes a shared memory. And so for
		
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			any people
		
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			who want to have a sense of identity
		
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			with a community,
		
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			they have to have a shared memory.
		
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			They have to know each other's history. And
		
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			so every country will teach its own history
		
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			so that the people can have a shared
		
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			identity.
		
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			He used to teach his children
		
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			the seal of the prophet salallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam and he used to say
		
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			This is your honor. When you're learning the
		
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			seed of the prophet
		
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			this
		
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			is your honor and the honor of
		
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			your fathers, so don't squander it.
		
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			It is important that you learn the history
		
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			of the ummah, that you learn
		
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			their history, that you learn about the tabein,
		
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			you learn about the Umayyads, you learn about
		
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			the Abbasids, you learn about the Muhwads, you
		
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			learn about the mrubitun,
		
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			You learn about the 12,000,000
		
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			people who were shackled and brought over to
		
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			the United States
		
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			and slaves with 1 third of them or
		
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			1 fifth of them actually, 1 third of
		
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			them being Muslim.
		
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			That is a part of your history.
		
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			And when you know your history
		
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			in this land, it becomes very difficult for
		
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			somebody to tell you to go back home,
		
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			because you didn't come here in the sixties
		
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			and the seventies and the eighties. Rather, you
		
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			came here at the bedrock of this nation
		
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			right at the beginning.
		
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			My point is is that your history becomes
		
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			a sense of identity.
		
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			And I will never forget a Somali kid
		
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			who I met, who was 24 years old
		
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			at the time, and he was doing a
		
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			PhD in African Studies.
		
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			And I asked him, I said, why are
		
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			you studying
		
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			African Studies?
		
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			Out of everything in the world that you
		
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			could have specialized in. He said, when I
		
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			was in high school, that's when the Somali
		
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			pirates were all over the noose.
		
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			So it was around 2,012.
		
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			And he said,
		
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			one of the kids, you know, in high
		
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			school, kids are mean.
		
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			So he said, one kid said to me,
		
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			y'all are still
		
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			being pirates, like, 300 years later.
		
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			Then he said, what have Somalis ever contributed
		
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			to humanity?
		
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			And he said,
		
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			as hurtful as that question was, you know
		
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			what hurt me even more?
		
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			I didn't know the answer.
		
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			So he said, this became my
		
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			passion. This became my field of study.
		
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			When a person doesn't know their history,
		
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			they have nothing to stand on.
		
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			You become whoever people tell you you are.
		
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			If people point at you and say, you
		
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			guys are nothing but terrorists, then you say,
		
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			I don't have anything else to prove that
		
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			we're scientists or that we're inventors or that
		
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			we're poets or that we're and we learned
		
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			in American history that one of the first
		
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			things that they did when they brought slaves
		
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			over
		
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			was that they changed their last names because
		
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			that alters your history. If you don't have
		
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			access to your history,
		
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			otherwise, it becomes very hard for you to
		
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			convince a person that they should be picking
		
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			cotton in Georgia if they know that they
		
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			come from a lineage of scholarship or they
		
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			come from a lineage of merchants or they
		
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			come from a lineage of warriors, you have
		
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			to remove that sense of history. And I
		
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			would tell you, all of you this,
		
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			my young brothers and sisters, it is not
		
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			just about the history of the ummah that
		
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			you need to learn, but you should also
		
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			learn your own personal history.
		
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			What village do you come from? Who are
		
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			your grandparents?
		
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			Ask your parents to tell you these stories
		
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			And when your parents do tell you these
		
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			stories,
		
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			be engaged so that they could tell you
		
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			more stories.
		
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			Realize that they are giving you the gift
		
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			of your identity. I was walking in my
		
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			village in Sudan a long time ago and
		
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			I was you know, my village
		
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			at times would have a until now, at
		
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			times it would have electricity, and at times
		
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			it wouldn't have electricity. Come it comes in
		
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			and out. May Allah
		
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			protect Sudan and its people.
		
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			So we were walking.
		
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			I was walking with an 8 year old
		
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			kid, and
		
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			it was dark and there was no electricity,
		
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			and we could hear the barking of a
		
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			dog.
		
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			And the dogs over there, they're not pets.
		
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			These are they don't belong to anybody. So
		
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			this is a wild dog somewhere, and we're
		
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			hearing him bark. And so I say to
		
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			the 8 year old, I say to him,
		
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			are you scared?
		
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			And as he's walking besides me in the
		
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			darkness, he says to me, me be scared?
		
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			My father,
		
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			my grandfather
		
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			was the killer of a lion.
		
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			He said,
		
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			And I also get to myself, what lions
		
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			do we have in this area? We don't
		
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			have any lions.
		
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			Allah knows best what happened a 100 years
		
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			ago,
		
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			but the story
		
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			of a grandfather who killed a lion was
		
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			a source of courage for this boy.
		
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			And so these stories
		
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			that we
		
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			know,
		
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			that we learn
		
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			become a source of courage for us. You
		
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			know, I'll give you condolences on
		
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			on 1 soldier
		
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			and one
		
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			leader of the Muslims who passed away, rahim,
		
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			was killed actually last week. His name was
		
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			Muhammad Sadiq. Muhammad Sadiq. Muhammad Sadiq was a
		
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			soldier, a first lieutenant in the Sudanese army.
		
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			And
		
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			in 2019, when the world protested,
		
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			everyone in Khartoum was protesting,
		
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			and the army was going to attack
		
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			the protesters,
		
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			this first lieutenant
		
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			showed up with a tank to defend the
		
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			protesters.
		
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			And he told all of the soldiers that
		
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			anybody
		
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			who has power should be protesting the people.
		
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			They should be protecting the people.
		
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			So immediately, he was dismissed.
		
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			He was dismissed because he wasn't loyal to
		
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			the army.
		
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			Then when the war broke out in Sudan
		
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			last year,
		
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			the army was in need of every last
		
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			soldier, anybody who's got any military training, anything.
		
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			Please bring them. And so Mohammed Sadiq came
		
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			back.
		
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			He's a young man.
		
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			And when the RSF
		
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			closed in on an a region called the
		
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			last weekend,
		
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			Mohammed
		
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			told everybody, he said,
		
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			I'm not going to wait for these people,
		
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			this militia to come into our town.
		
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			Our wives are here, our parents are here,
		
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			our children are here. I'm going to go
		
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			out and meet them even if I go
		
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			by myself.
		
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			And he recorded a video, and he said,
		
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			May the may the eyes of cowards never
		
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			touch sleep.
		
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			You know who that's a quote of?
		
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			Khalil.
		
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			It was the last thing that Khali
		
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			said. May the eyes of cowards never touch
		
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			sleep. Because Khali was saying that I've I've
		
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			been in a 100 battles, and here I
		
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			am dying like a a camel.
		
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			I die by myself.
		
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			I'm not killed in any battle. That shows
		
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			you that
		
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			being close to danger does not cause you
		
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			to die. So may the eyes of cowards
		
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			never touch sleep.
		
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			But a person doesn't get that courage
		
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			unless they are
		
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			inspired by their history. Allah
		
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			says
		
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			Allah says, we relate to you the stories
		
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			of the prophets
		
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			that which will make your heart firm. When
		
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			you learn the stories of the prophets, you
		
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			are granted courage, you are granted resolve. I
		
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			see what Allah
		
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			did to Yusuf, and I see how
		
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			Allah brought Yusuf out. I see how Allah
		
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			brought Musa out. I see how Allah
		
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			saved Yunus.
		
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			And that is how we save the believers.
		
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			Allah
		
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			Every time and place, I see what he
		
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			does.
		
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			My heart is granted resolve and this man
		
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			went out and Allah
		
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			chose him for himself and selected him as
		
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			a martyr. May Allah have him and have
		
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			mercy on him and all of our shuhada,
		
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			allahu alaihi wa aamin, everywhere in the world.
		
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			The second is history. The third is language.
		
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			Language is very important
		
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			because language is what gives you access to
		
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			your history. So if a person says, I
		
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			wanna learn the language of my people, chances
		
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			are, unless you're,
		
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			you know, American pretty much, your
		
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			history is going to be tied up in
		
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			the language of the people that you come
		
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			from. So it'll be Arabic or it'll be
		
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			in Urdu or it'll be in French or
		
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			it'll be in whatever language. It'll be in
		
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			Wolof even. You might need to go back
		
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			and actually learn your language to be able
		
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			to have access to your history, and that's
		
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			incredibly important. And then the 4th
		
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			is
		
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			just having confidence.
		
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			Just having confidence. You know, Rasulullah
		
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			says
		
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			in a hadith that every young person should
		
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			know. He
		
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			says,
		
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			The prophet
		
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			said Islam began as something strange,
		
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			and it will return to being strange. So
		
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			give glad tidings to the strangers. You have
		
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			to develop a comfort with being weird.
		
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			It's okay to be weird.
		
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			You
		
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			know, Austin, Texas, they have a slogan.
		
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			Keep Austin weird.
		
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			Portland, Oregon, the same thing. Keep Portland weird.
		
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			You have to be cool. You have to
		
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			be calm. You have to be okay with
		
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			being weird.
		
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			There's nothing wrong with that. The prophet
		
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			said, glad tidings to the strangers. But what
		
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			type of weirdness are we talking about? He
		
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			said, those who are righteous when the people
		
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			are corrupt.
		
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			When everybody else goes in one direction, you
		
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			say, you know what? I'm comfortable over here.
		
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			I'm, you know, there's a story of 2
		
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			young, Palestinian sisters,
		
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			from Atlanta,
		
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			Jamila and Latifa.
		
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			And these 2 girls,
		
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			are top tier wrestlers.
		
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			You know their story, I take it.
		
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			Oh, okay. So
		
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			top tier wrestlers,
		
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			They're qualified to go to Paris for the
		
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			Olympics.
		
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			But
		
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			their hijab
		
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			their hijab,
		
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			they were not allowed because of their hijab.
		
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			And I remember
		
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			listening to a a session with them a
		
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			couple weeks ago, and they quoted the hadith.
		
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			They said, you know what? Islam began as
		
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			something strange. If my hijab is going to
		
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			not allow me to go
		
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			to the Paris Olympics, which is a once
		
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			in a lifetime opportunity,
		
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			then
		
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			forget the Paris Olympics.
		
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			My deen is more important. But that comes
		
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			from a confidence and a comfort
		
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			in having
		
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			Allah
		
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			If I have Allah and I lose everything
		
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			else, then I won. And if I lose
		
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			Allah and I gain everything else, then I
		
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			lost.
		
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			Also part
		
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			of having confidence,
		
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			and this is really, really important,
		
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			is that you
		
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			become confident
		
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			in showcasing your character beyond your community. I
		
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			give you guys a a quick example, and
		
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			I need I need to know how much
		
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			time I have because I could talk about
		
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			this for a long time.
		
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			But
		
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			I'll give you a a quick example. When
		
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			I moved I originally moved from New York
		
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			to Houston.
		
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			And I when I moved to Houston, I
		
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			was really surprised to find that everybody there
		
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			says, hello, good morning.
		
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			You're standing there. Okay. You're standing there. You're
		
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			minding your business, and a person says, hi.
		
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			How are you? And they're waiting for you
		
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			to respond.
		
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			I wasn't used to that.
		
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			So then when I would, you know, over
		
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			time, I started to say hi, good morning,
		
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			hello, and I was having conversations with random
		
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			strangers on the street.
		
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			When I would go back to New York,
		
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			I would start walking around the street saying,
		
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			hi, good morning.
		
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			And you know what they're gonna do? They're
		
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			gonna completely avoid you.
		
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			They're gonna ignore you. They're gonna walk past
		
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			you. So I started to feel like, man,
		
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			I'm I'm looking like a tourist in my
		
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			own city. I need to but then I
		
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			asked myself, here's hold here's the thing. The
		
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			prophet, salallahu alayhi salam, he says
		
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			I was only sent to perfect good character.
		
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			Now is
		
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			saying hello, good morning, is it good character?
		
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			Yes or no?
		
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			So then, should you do it even if
		
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			you're in New York?
		
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			Are you gonna do it now, my New
		
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			Yorkers, when you go back?
		
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			We just agreed.
		
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			We just said that it's good character and
		
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			that you should have the confidence
		
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			to share your character and goodness everywhere that
		
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			you go.
		
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			So when I did that
		
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			and I started getting ignored, I thought to
		
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			myself, hold on a second. No. No. No.
		
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			This is not how it's gonna go. I
		
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			am going to
		
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			look at what are the reasons why a
		
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			person might ignore me. Number 1, I'm not
		
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			making eye contact. You know? Just you're just
		
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			walking by a person and say good morning.
		
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			Like, by the time they notice what you
		
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			said, you're already halfway down the block. So
		
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			number 1, I'm gonna make eye contact. Number
		
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			2, I'm going to smile. Number 3, I'm
		
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			going to say it loud because so many
		
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			people, unfortunately, they only say what they say
		
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			underneath their breath. When they say hello, they
		
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			say it underneath their breath. When they say
		
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			thank you, they say underneath their breath. Meanwhile,
		
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			that person who's holding the door open thinks
		
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			you're the rudest person in the world because
		
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			you didn't say thank you. You did say
		
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			thank you, but you said it like this,
		
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			thank you,
		
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			and you walked on.
		
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			And so the idea here is that I'm
		
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			going to speak loudly, I'm gonna speak confidently,
		
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			and I'm gonna say to people, good morning.
		
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			It happened that it was the weekend where
		
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			it was the weekend where
		
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			New York City had its 1st Eid off.
		
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			It was, like,
		
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			7, 8 years ago. It was the 1st
		
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			Eid off.
		
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			And I'm walking around Queens and Brooklyn and
		
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			Manhattan, and I'm wearing my robe, and I'm
		
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			saying to everybody, hi, good morning. Quick disclaimer,
		
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			The only people who I said that I
		
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			was not going to say hi, good morning
		
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			to was women between the ages of, like,
		
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			15 and an upper limit just so that
		
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			I don't end up on a weird, you
		
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			know,
		
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			video anywhere.
		
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			So
		
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			I just said that I was but everybody
		
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			else, hi. Good morning. Hello. And I was
		
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			gonna be loud. I was gonna make eye
		
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			contact. I was gonna smile. I was gonna
		
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			I tell you,
		
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			that entire weekend,
		
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			every single person that I said that to
		
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			said, hi. Good morning. How are you?