Ammar Alshukry – Isha Khaitrah 13-07-2024

Ammar Alshukry
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The speaker shares a stance on how young people should learn to be themselves. He gives advice on how to handle one's wits and feelings, emphasizing the importance of staying true to oneself and not giving up on one's hopes. He also gives a framework on how to handle one's success and challenges, emphasizing the importance of finding one's own success and finding one's own success in life.

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			Can I do something else? Is it okay?
		
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			So I see a lot of young people
		
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			here, Masha'Allah. Young
		
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			young men.
		
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			And so,
		
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			I'll share with you guys a poem that
		
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			I love.
		
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			That is one of the very few English
		
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			poems that I've come across
		
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			that I would wish for young men to
		
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			learn.
		
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			And it's a poem by Rudyard Kipling, who's
		
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			famously the owner or the author of The
		
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			Jungle Book,
		
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			and it's called If, and it's a it's
		
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			a poem that I would encourage you to
		
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			go home
		
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			to Google,
		
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			and if you have any young men in
		
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			your life, that you share it with them.
		
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			And it goes like this.
		
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			It's advice that he gave to a young
		
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			man.
		
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			And so he says, if you can keep
		
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			your wits when all about you are losing
		
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			theirs
		
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			and blaming it on you,
		
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			if you can trust yourself when all men
		
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			doubt you, then make allowance for their doubting,
		
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			too,
		
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			If you can wait and not be tired
		
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			of waiting,
		
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			or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
		
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			or being hated, not give way to hating,
		
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			nor look too good, nor talk too wise.
		
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			So he's basically saying,
		
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			if you can wait, if you can have
		
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			sabr,
		
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			and not be tired of waiting,
		
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			and if you can interact with people and
		
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			recognize that sometimes they're gonna treat you badly,
		
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			being hated, not give way to hating,
		
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			Nor look too good, nor talk too wise.
		
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			Don't be a smart aleck.
		
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			Don't look too good. Now,
		
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			I always like,
		
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			Americans, we don't have a problem with looking
		
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			too good, but he was British.
		
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			And the Brits hate when a person is
		
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			like, you know, like a show off. A
		
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			guy has a flashy car.
		
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			Americans will say, that's really cool. Masha'Allah, Marrook
		
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			on the red Ferrari. But the Brits will
		
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			be like, who does this person think he
		
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			is? Right? So at the end of the
		
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			day, you can't remove the author from his
		
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			context.
		
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			But he says,
		
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			if you can dream
		
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			and not make dreams your master,
		
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			if you can think and not make thoughts
		
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			your aim,
		
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			if you can meet with triumph and disaster
		
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			and treat both impostors just the same. Assalam.
		
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			It's beautiful.
		
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			If you can dream and not make dreams
		
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			your master, like, yes, have vision, but don't
		
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			live in the world of dreams.
		
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			You got to come back to reality. You
		
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			got to do work.
		
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			If you can think,
		
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			but your goal should not be to think.
		
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			Your goal should be to think for the
		
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			purpose of action.
		
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			If you can meet with triumph and disaster
		
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			and treat both impostors just the same, don't
		
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			let
		
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			your triumphs get to your head,
		
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			and don't let your failures get to your
		
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			heart.
		
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			Recognize that they're both impostors. Be even keeled.
		
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			He said, if you can take
		
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			one heap of all your winnings,
		
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			and
		
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			toss it, or turn it, and lose it
		
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			in one heap of toss,
		
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			And lose and start again at your beginnings,
		
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			and never breathe a word about your loss.
		
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			He's talking about the idea of of loss.
		
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			You might take risks and you might lose,
		
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			but don't be that person who's complaining to
		
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			everybody
		
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			about when you lose.
		
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			He says,
		
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			if you can
		
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			walk with kings,
		
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			if you can speak to crowds and not
		
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			lose your virtue,
		
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			and walk with kings and not lose the
		
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			common touch,
		
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			if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt
		
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			you,
		
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			if all men count with you, but none
		
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			too much.
		
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			If you can talk to crowds and keep
		
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			your virtue,
		
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			that's not easy to do.
		
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			You know, a lot of people you see
		
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			this on social media now, that when they
		
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			want to get larger followings, they have to
		
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			be controversial.
		
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			You have to lose your virtue.
		
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			So he says, if you can talk to
		
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			crowds
		
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			and keep your virtue, that you keep your
		
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			integrity,
		
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			even as you're getting to bigger and bigger
		
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			audiences,
		
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			and if you can walk with kings
		
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			and not lose the common touch,
		
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			if neither
		
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			foes, your enemies, nor loving friends can hurt
		
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			you, but all men count with you. All
		
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			men count with you, but none too much.
		
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			Ali ibn
		
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			Abi Talib says that love moderately
		
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			and hate moderately
		
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			because your situation with this person might change.
		
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			That person that you aided yesterday, they might
		
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			accept Islam.
		
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			And then you have to love them. Right?
		
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			So so love and hate moderately.
		
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			He says, all men count with you, but
		
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			none too much. Let all men count with
		
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			you.
		
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			I respect and I love this person, but
		
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			I don't make this person my iman is
		
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			attached to this person.
		
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			He says, Whoever of you seeking to follow
		
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			the path of somebody, follow the path of
		
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			those who lived before you because the living,
		
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			you don't know if they're going to survive
		
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			their tests.
		
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			And so I'm not going to let the
		
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			downfall of somebody who fails their tests, or
		
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			someone who
		
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			who has a scandal, or what have you.
		
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			I'm not going to let that affect my
		
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			iman. He says, let all men count with
		
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			you. I respect everyone.
		
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			But nobody counts so much that
		
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			my confidence is attached to this person. My
		
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			faith is attached to this person, other than
		
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			obviously the prophet
		
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			And then he says, if you can fill
		
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			the unforgiving minute
		
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			with 60 seconds of long distance run,
		
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			Yours is the world and everything that's in
		
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			it.
		
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			And what's more, you'll be a man, my
		
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			son.
		
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			If you can fill the unforgiving minute,
		
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			life is a it's just a minute. It's
		
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			just a it's just a
		
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			it's a minute and passes. If you can
		
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			fill that minute with 60 seconds and
		
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			the
		
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			And the
		
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			prophet says, no one was given anything more
		
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			better and more comprehensive than patience. If you
		
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			can fill those 60 seconds with that long
		
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			distance run and have that endurance, yours is
		
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			the world and everything that's in it. And
		
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			what's more,
		
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			you'll be a man, my son.
		
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			Anyway, so that's if by Rudyard Kipling.
		
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			And with that,
		
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			I
		
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			gave you guys a weird khata ra today.
		
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			Jazakamu lakher for your attentive listening.