Ammar Alshukry – Death is the Ultimate Reminder

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The Darth Vader is designed to depart from the hereafter and is a collection of days. The speaker emphasizes the importance of remembering death and following one's desires, including forgiveness and mercy on loved ones. death is a result of protracted hope and a desire for a long life, rather than permanent death. forgiveness and mercy are also emphasized.

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			All praise is due to Allah. We seek
		
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			his guidance and his forgiveness, and we seek
		
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			refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves
		
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			and the whispering of our desires.
		
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			Whom Allah guides, no one can misguide. And
		
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			whom He allows to be misled, no one
		
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			can guide. And I bear witness that there
		
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			is nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone
		
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			having no partners
		
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			and that Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam is his
		
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			slave and his messenger
		
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			and his perfect worshiper.
		
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			To proceed,
		
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			a young woman
		
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			whose name was Rihaab al Buri.
		
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			Had graduated from the University of Missouri.
		
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			At the age of 26, she was a
		
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			journalist
		
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			working for ABC. She'd been recently been married
		
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			and had moved from Missouri to New Jersey
		
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			and
		
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			was working in New York City.
		
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			She had done everything right. She was deeply
		
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			religious, and she had her whole life ahead
		
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			of her.
		
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			At the age of 26,
		
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			she passed away from cancer.
		
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			Her story
		
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			was commemorated in a blog that she kept
		
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			and I would read from time to time.
		
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			She called it life in rehab, a play
		
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			off of her name Rahab.
		
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			May Allah have mercy on her.
		
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			And it's
		
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			a reminder of
		
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			what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says wherever you are,
		
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			death would come to you even if you
		
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			are in
		
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			even if you're in lofty towers.
		
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			And as we still are coming to grips
		
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			with the death of our beloved Sheikh Mushfiq
		
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			who died simply a year older than Rihab,
		
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			we realize that
		
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			our mortality,
		
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			the only thing promised to us after we
		
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			enter into this life is the end. That's
		
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			the only thing that is promised to us.
		
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			And the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam encourages
		
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			and encourages
		
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			us to remember death. Rasulullah
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says,
		
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			constantly remember the destroyer of delights.
		
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			And Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			he tells us
		
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			that
		
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			he drew a line in the sand
		
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			and he said that this is the 'amal
		
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			of the son of Adam, this is the
		
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			hope of the son of Adam.
		
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			And then he drew around it a rectangle,
		
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			and he said, And this is his
		
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			The
		
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			lifespan
		
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			is cutting off that person's hope.
		
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			Our dream is to live
		
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			10 years in the future, 20 years in
		
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			the future, 30 years in the future, 40
		
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			years in the future, 50 years in the
		
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			future.
		
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			But we have something that cuts us off
		
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			from that protracted hope and that is our
		
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			lifespan.
		
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			And Rasulullah
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam then drew other lines and
		
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			he said, and these are
		
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			the calamities that befall a person.
		
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			If one misses them, another strikes them. A
		
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			person loses a family member, a person loses
		
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			wealth, a person loses health, a person loses
		
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			all sorts of things,
		
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			and our life becomes diminished
		
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			by the problems that we experience in the
		
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			dunya before our life is ended and we
		
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			meet
		
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			Allah This dunya was never meant to be
		
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			a place of perfection
		
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			and so people experience incredible distress when they're
		
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			expecting this dunya to be a place of
		
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			perfection. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala did not design
		
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			this dunya to be that place, Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala
		
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			designed to be that
		
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			place.
		
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			Says,
		
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			rather you prefer this life, but
		
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			the is better in its quality and it
		
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			is more lasting.
		
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			I never saw anything
		
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			that is certain about which there is no
		
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			doubt.
		
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			That people take as if it is doubtful,
		
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			there's no certainty in it like death. I've
		
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			never seen anything that's more certain
		
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			that people act like it's not going to
		
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			happen to them
		
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			than death.
		
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			We're aware of it, but yet we assume
		
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			that it's going to happen
		
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			sometime in the distant future for every single
		
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			one of us. And so Arid ibn Abi
		
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			Talib he gave a and he said
		
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			He said the thing that I fear the
		
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			most for you are 2 things. Number 1
		
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			is
		
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			protracted hope
		
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			protracted hope. A person just assumes that they're
		
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			going to live
		
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			into the future that they're imagining.
		
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			And
		
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			and following their desires.
		
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			He says, as for protracted hope, it makes
		
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			a person forget about the hereafter.
		
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			You're talking to me about jinn and the
		
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			hellfire and the grave and all of these
		
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			types of things, that's so far off from
		
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			me. I'm young, I'm healthy, I'm okay.
		
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			And as for
		
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			as for following your desires,
		
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			it distracts a person
		
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			or it diverts a person away from the
		
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			truth.
		
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			And then he says,
		
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			as for the hereafter, it is approaching.
		
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			And this life is departing. As soon as
		
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			we entered into this life,
		
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			we started approaching the hereafter
		
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			and the dunya continues to depart from us.
		
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			Every year that we experience, every tomorrow that
		
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			we see, Al Hasan al Basri has another
		
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			quote where he says, oh son of Adam,
		
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			you are by a number of days. Every
		
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			single one of us is a collection of
		
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			days. That number might be hovering over our
		
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			heads. We don't know. But he says that
		
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			every time a day departs,
		
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			a part of you departs as well.
		
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			And so Ali says the dunya is departing
		
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			and the akhirah is approaching, so be of
		
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			the children of the akhirah and don't be
		
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			of the children of this dunya because every
		
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			single one of them will be followed by
		
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			its inhabitants. Every single one of us every
		
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			single one of them will be followed by
		
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			their children.
		
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			Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he says
		
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			in the Sahal Bukhari, He says, there are
		
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			the heart of an old man
		
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			stays young when it comes to 2 things.
		
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			Number 1 is
		
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			the love of the dunya, and number 2
		
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			is
		
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			protractive hope, the the wish for a long
		
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			life.
		
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			No matter where we reach in life, we
		
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			hope that we're still going to be able
		
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			to experience
		
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			my children's wedding. Then I'm able to experience
		
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			my children's wedding. I wanna see my grandchildren's
		
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			wedding.
		
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			That's the nature of being human.
		
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			But the wise person is the one who
		
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			doesn't let that desire divert them from doing
		
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			what they need to do and to recognize
		
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			that told all of us
		
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			Every single one of us, he says, be
		
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			in this world like you are a traveler
		
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			or someone who's simply passing by. And the
		
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			traveler is always remembering
		
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			their journey that they're going to take.
		
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			When a person is
		
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			at the airport and they're transiting in the
		
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			airport, a lot of people might walk to
		
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			their gate just to make sure their gate
		
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			is there. I don't wanna miss my trip
		
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			that I'm about to take.
		
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			They don't lounge in the airport and and
		
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			and forget about the departure.
		
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			Similarly,
		
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			we are in this station of transit
		
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			at an airport somewhere that's called earth, and
		
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			a person shouldn't get so distracted
		
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			by what's available here that you forget about
		
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			the departure that you inevitably are going to
		
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			be summoned to. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam reminds us of the importance
		
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			of remembering death, and we don't do it
		
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			out of a sense of morbidity. It's not
		
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			because
		
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			that we are a morbid people that we're
		
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			always talking about death or that we're encouraged
		
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			to remember death a lot, but because remembering
		
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			death makes a person urgent about life. They
		
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			don't take life for granted. I have today.
		
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			Imam Al Ghazari, he says that false expectation
		
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			is caused by 2 things, ignorance and love
		
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			for the dunya.
		
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			As for ignorance, it's because you assume that
		
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			you have some sort of immunity to death,
		
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			that it's something that for some reason or
		
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			other won't touch you even though you've known
		
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			people who've died since you've known life. In
		
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			primary school, people died. In secondary school, people
		
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			died. In college, people died. In university, you
		
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			might have had peers that died. At every
		
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			station of your life, you might have known
		
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			people who died, and yet a person is
		
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			ignorant if they feel that
		
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			all of these times that death comes to
		
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			those who they know, that it will never
		
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			come to them until they are absolutely ready
		
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			yet. Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, he says, spend
		
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			in the path of Allah before death comes
		
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			to you. And when death comes to a
		
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			person, he says, oh my lord, give me
		
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			delay.
		
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			Let me give charity and be of the
		
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			righteous and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
		
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			And Allah
		
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			says he never gives anybody delay. When death
		
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			comes, if you're not ready, then you're not
		
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			ready. But death is never delayed for a
		
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			person. And so the only thing that a
		
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			person can do is to make sure that
		
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			they're ready all the time,
		
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			that they are not diluted
		
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			by their youth, that they're not diluted by
		
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			their health, they're not diluted by anything.
		
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			How many a healthy person died without any
		
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			cause of death,
		
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			without any defect, without any illness,
		
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			and how many
		
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			a sick person lived for an extended period
		
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			of time. So we ask Allah to grant
		
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			us all good endings
		
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			I wanna end with a post from Rahab
		
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			that I started with, and she said, a
		
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			lot of people talk to me about surviving
		
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			through this and having the will to live.
		
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			I just want them to know that our
		
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			goal is not to live. Our goal is
		
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			to live with meaning. I want them to
		
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			know that if our goal was to live,
		
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			none of us would reach that goal. Allah
		
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			says, the death from which you flee will
		
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			surely overtake you, then you will be sent
		
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			back to the knower of things, secret and
		
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			open, and he will tell you of the
		
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			things that you did. And coming to terms
		
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			with the fact that we cannot flee death
		
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			should
		
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			focus our sights on the real eternal life.
		
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			We ask Allah to have mercy on our
		
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			debt. We ask Allah to have mercy on
		
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			our parents as they raised us while we
		
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			were young. We ask Allah to heal our
		
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			sick. We ask Allah
		
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			that he protect our families and protect our
		
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			loved ones over every earth and under every
		
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			sky and to make the best of our
		
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			days the day that we meet him.