Ammar Alshukry – Death Is The Ultimate Reminder

Ammar Alshukry
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of the "fulfilling desire" of the dams on people's lives, citing a quote from Al Hassan al Basri where everyone is a collection of days. They emphasize the importance of remembering death and not letting it happen to us, as well as the need for mercy on our loved ones and healing of our sick. The speakers stress the importance of following God's desires and remembering death.

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			All praise is due to Allah. We seek
		
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			his guidance and his forgiveness, and we seek
		
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			refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves
		
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			and the whispering of our desires.
		
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			Whom Allah guides, no one can misguide, and
		
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			whom he allows to be misled, no one
		
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			can guide. And I bear witness that there
		
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			is nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone
		
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			having no partners
		
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			and that Muhammad
		
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			is his slave and his messenger and his
		
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			perfect worshiper.
		
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			To proceed,
		
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			a
		
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			young woman
		
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			whose
		
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			name was Rahab al Burri.
		
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			Rahimahallaha had graduated from the University of Missouri.
		
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			At the age of 26, she was a
		
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			journalist
		
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			working for ABC. She'd been recently been married
		
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			and had moved from Missouri to New Jersey
		
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			and
		
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			was working in New York City.
		
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			She had done everything right. She was deeply
		
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			religious, and she had her whole life ahead
		
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			of her.
		
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			At the age of 26,
		
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			she passed away
		
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			from cancer.
		
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			Her
		
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			story
		
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			was
		
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			commemorated in a blog that she kept,
		
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			and I would read from time to time.
		
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			She called it life in rehab, a play
		
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			off of her name, Rahab.
		
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			May Allah have mercy on her.
		
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			And it's a
		
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			reminder of
		
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			what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says wherever you are,
		
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			death would come to you even if you
		
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			are
		
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			in
		
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			even if you're in lofty
		
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			towers.
		
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			And as we still are coming to grips
		
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			with the death of our beloved Sheikh Mushfiq,
		
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			who died simply a year older than Jihad,
		
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			We realized that
		
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			our mortality,
		
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			the only thing promised to us after we
		
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			enter into this life is the end.
		
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			That's the only thing that is promised to
		
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			us.
		
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			And the promise of Allah
		
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			encourages and encourages and encourages
		
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			us to remember death. Rasulullah
		
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			Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
		
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			constantly remember the destroyer of delights.
		
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			And Rasulullah
		
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			he tells us
		
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			that
		
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			he drew a line in the sand.
		
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			And he said that this is the of
		
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			the son of Adam. This is the hope
		
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			of the son of Adam.
		
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			And then he drew around it a rectangle,
		
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			and he said, and this is his.
		
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			The
		
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			lifespan
		
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			is cutting off that person's hope.
		
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			Our dream is to live
		
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			10 years in the future, 20 years in
		
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			the future, 50 years in the future. But
		
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			we have something that cuts us off from
		
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			that protracted hope, and that is
		
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			our lifespan.
		
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			And
		
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			then drew other lines and he said, and
		
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			these are the calamities that befall a person.
		
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			If one misses them, another strikes them.
		
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			A person loses a family member. A person
		
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			loses wealth. A person loses health. A person
		
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			loses all sorts of things.
		
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			And our life becomes diminished
		
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			by the problems that we experienced in the
		
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			dunya before our life is ended and we
		
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			meet
		
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			Allah This dunya was never meant to be
		
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			a place of perfection.
		
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			And so people experience incredible distress when they're
		
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			expecting this dunya to be a place of
		
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			perfection. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala did not design
		
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			this dunya to be that place. Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala
		
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			designed
		
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			to be that
		
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			place.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says, rather you prefer this life, but
		
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			the is better in its quality, and it
		
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			is more lasting.
		
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			And who he says,
		
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			I never saw anything
		
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			that is certain about which there is no
		
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			doubt
		
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			that people take as if it is doubtful.
		
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			There's no certainty in it like death.
		
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			I've never seen anything that's more certain.
		
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			That people act like it's not going to
		
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			happen to them
		
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			than death.
		
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			We're aware of it, but yet we assume
		
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			that it's going to happen sometime in the
		
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			distant future for every single one of us.
		
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			So I'd ibn Abi
		
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			Talib, he gave a hootba, and he said,
		
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			He said, the thing that I fear the
		
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			most for you are 2 things. Number 1
		
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			is
		
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			protracted hope
		
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			protracted hope. A person just assumes that they're
		
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			going to live
		
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			into the future that they're imagining.
		
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			And
		
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			and following their desires. He
		
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			says, As for
		
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			protracted hope, it makes a person forget about
		
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			the hereafter.
		
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			You're talking to me about Jannah and the
		
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			hellfire and the grave and all of these
		
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			types of things. That's so far off from
		
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			me. I'm young.
		
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			I'm healthy. I'm okay.
		
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			And as for
		
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			as for following your desires,
		
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			it distracts a person or it diverts a
		
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			person away from the truth.
		
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			And then he says, As for
		
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			the hereafter, it is approaching.
		
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			And this life is departing. As soon as
		
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			we entered into this life,
		
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			we started approaching the hereafter.
		
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			And the dunya continues to depart from us.
		
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			Every year that we experience, every tomorrow that
		
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			we see, Al Hassan al Basri has another
		
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			quote where he says, oh, son of Adam,
		
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			you are by a number of days. Every
		
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			single one of us is a collection of
		
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			days. That number might be hovering over our
		
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			heads. We don't know. But he says
		
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			that every time a day departs,
		
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			a part of you departs as well.
		
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			And so Ali says, the dunya is and
		
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			the
		
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			is approaching. So be of the children of
		
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			the and don't be of the children of
		
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			this dunya because
		
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			every single one of them will be followed
		
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			by its inhabitants. Every single one of us
		
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			every single one of them will be followed
		
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			by their children.
		
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			Rasulullah Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam he says
		
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			in the.
		
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			He says there are the heart of an
		
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			old man
		
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			stays young when it comes to 2 things.
		
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			Number 1 is,
		
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			the love of the dunya. And number 2
		
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			is,
		
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			protracted hope. The the wish for a long
		
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			life.
		
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			No matter where we reach in life, we
		
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			hope that we're still going to be able
		
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			to experience
		
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			my children's wedding. Then I'm able to experience
		
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			my children's wedding. I wanna see my grandchildren's
		
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			wedding. That's the nature of being human.
		
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			But the wise person is the one who
		
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			doesn't let that desire divert them from doing
		
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			what they need to do and to recognize
		
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			that
		
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			told all of us.
		
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			Every single one of us, he says, be
		
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			in this world like you were a traveler
		
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			or someone who's simply passing by. And the
		
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			traveler is always remembering
		
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			their journey that they're going to take.
		
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			When a person is
		
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			at the airport and they're transiting in the
		
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			airport, a lot of people might walk to
		
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			their gate just to make sure that their
		
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			gate is there. I don't wanna miss my
		
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			trip that I'm about to take.
		
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			They don't lounge in the airport and and
		
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			forget about the departure.
		
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			Similarly,
		
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			we are in this station of transit
		
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			at an airport somewhere that's called earth. And
		
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			a person shouldn't get so distracted
		
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			by what's available here that you forget about
		
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			the departure that you inevitably are going to
		
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			be summoned to. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			reminds us of the importance
		
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			of remembering death and we don't do it
		
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			out of a sense of morbidity. It's not
		
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			because that we are a morbid people that
		
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			we're always talking about death or that we're
		
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			encouraged to remember death a lot. But because
		
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			remembering death makes a person
		
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			urgent about life, They don't take life for
		
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			granted. I have today. Imam Al Ghazali, he
		
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			says that false expectation is caused by 2
		
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			things, ignorance and love for the dunya.
		
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			As for ignorance, it's because you assume that
		
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			you have some sort of immunity to death.
		
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			That it's something that for some reason or
		
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			other won't touch you even though you've known
		
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			people who've died since you've known life. In
		
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			primary school, people died. In secondary school, people
		
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			died. In college, people died. In university, you
		
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			might have had peers that died. At every
		
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			station of your life, you might have known
		
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			people who died. And yet, a person is
		
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			ignorant if they feel that
		
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			all of these times that death comes to
		
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			those who they know, that it will never
		
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			come to them until they are absolutely ready
		
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			yet. Allah says
		
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			spend in the path of Allah before death
		
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			comes to you. And when death comes to
		
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			a person, he says, oh my lord, give
		
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			me delay.
		
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			Let me give charity and be of the
		
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			righteous. And Allah
		
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			says, but he never gives anybody delay. When
		
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			death comes, if you're not ready, then
		
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			you're not ready. But death is never delayed
		
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			for a person. And so the only thing
		
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			that a person can do is to make
		
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			sure that they're ready all the time.
		
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			That they are not diluted
		
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			by their youth, that they're not diluted by
		
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			their health, they're not diluted by anything.
		
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			How many a healthy person died without any
		
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			cause of death?
		
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			Without any defect? Without any illness?
		
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			And how many a
		
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			sick person lived for an extended period of
		
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			time. So we ask Allah to grant us
		
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			all good endings.
		
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			I wanna end with a post from Rihaab
		
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			that I started with, and she said, a
		
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			lot of people talk to me about surviving
		
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			through this and having the will to live.
		
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			I just want them to know that our
		
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			goal is not to live. Our goal is
		
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			to live with meaning. I want them to
		
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			know that if our goal was to live,
		
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			none of us would reach that goal.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says, the death from which you flee will
		
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			surely overtake you, then you will be sent
		
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			back to the knower of things, secret and
		
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			open, and he will tell you of the
		
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			things that you did. And coming to terms
		
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			with the fact that we cannot flee death
		
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			should
		
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			focus our sights on the real eternal
		
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			life. We ask Allah, Azzawajal, to have mercy
		
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			on our dead. We ask Allah, Azzawajal, to
		
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			have mercy on our parents as they raised
		
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			us while we were young. We ask Allah,
		
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			Azzawajal, to heal our sick. We ask Allah
		
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			that he protect our families and protect our
		
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			loved ones over every earth and under every
		
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			sky. And to make the best of our
		
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			days the day that we meet him.