Amjad Tarsin – Seeking Support As New Muslims Yasir Fahmy

Our Prophet saw in his darkest times, right? Had this incredible

supporter in Allahu, anha, right? So for our members of the Muslim

community who are new Muslims, or Muslims who are unable to find

that support in an individual who's just going to be them

through thick and thin, what are your recommendations in helping

them find that support, like, how do they get started in finding

someone as incredible to them as Khadija, Allahu Anhu to our

Prophet, salallahu, alayhi, wa sallam.

This is your this is your session for listen to you attentively,

mashaAllah. So Masha Allah, first and foremost, I think, just

Realistically speaking, there's no one like Sayyidi Khadijah.

So I think even for someone who is a new Muslim, to have maybe

several people, whoever it is, that they saw the beauty of Islam

and the light of Islam through they benefit from those people.

They have a community. And I think it's important for us, even with

the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam and the unique and distinct

rank that say the Khadijah, that there were many of the Sahaba who

supported him in a variety of ways that Sayyidina, Abu Bakr Al sad

support him in a unique way and so forth. So really, just to have

multiple people in our lives who we seek inspiration from and

benefit from in a number of ways, and ultimately recognizing that we

should seek that support from Allah subhanahu, and ask him to

give us the steadfastness to keep us inspired and and Really

surround ourselves with good people and to actively seek out

good and uplifting environments, which even the nest eventually

will try to get in the way of, and the shaytan will try to get in the

way of, and recognize that it is a marathon, and that in many cases,

it is an uphill battle. But even as Sheik Yasir said that as

Sayyida Khadija in her commitment to the Prophet, she went through

all different types of of difficulties, and she was able to

bear them patiently. But it wasn't easy. It wasn't easy.

So those are just some things that come to mind

for sharing. Check, is there anything to add? I have a question

from the audience as well.

I mean, Miss Mila. I mean, I think just to just embellish on those

beautiful points, the

the question about searching for those that we can that can support

us and we can support them

is a practical question. It's a practical question about how to

and there's no one who gives us better guidance in the

practicality of how to than Al Habib, salallahu, Salah. And by

the grace of Allah, Al Habib, so as gave us. And as you know,

instead of Amjad noted that, you know, there is a network of

support that's required. And so each being in your orbit will play

a critical role in in that supporting aspect. And so when it

comes to a spouse, that is one of a cadre, right, not everything,

because very often what happens is we put everything into we need, we

need our spouse, then to become our mother, our father, our

sibling, our cousin, our best friend. And it's a very tall order

that is remarkably unrealistic, right? The spouse will always play

a a part of a greater story. So when you choose the spouse you

choose by the prophetic prescription, you know mental

Donna, Dinah hula, the one who comes to you and you are pleased

with their deen and their Hulu and their character when it comes to

women, Apostle seven says, Father, be that Deen, you know, to move

forth and choose the one of Deen, you know, the one of good

character, the one of good comportment. And that's, that's

the prophetic prescription that, if you notice, is not heavily

weighing in on emotions, because very often we're pushing very

qualified suitors away for considerations that may not be the

primary consideration. So we have to be practical about What did the

Prophet tell me that I should be looking for in people? Because if

we like the choice of Al habis Allah and ladies say the Khadija,

then we have to follow how a.

He guides us. And then similarly, we have to look to the people in

our orbit, our parents, our siblings, our aunts, our uncles,

our cousins.

And if we want people to support us, then guess what? We have to

support them. We have to serve them. Very often. We because of

the nature of our modern era, we become very entitled. We assume

people should just be doing for us because we want and then we we

have a problem with people around us, like, how come people aren't

calling me? How come people aren't giving? How come people are

serving? Well, what am I doing for people? Why do i Why do I assume

I'm just owed

no jubile in San WA, Allah, hobiman, Asana ile, that we are

naturally predisposed to love the one that is morsin ilaya That is

caring and giving and kind to me. So a big question of this support

is the mutuality of it. How much am I giving to then truly be

deserving of receiving Allah?