Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 9

The Quran is to worship Allah subhanahu wa

ta'ala and serve

his cause, the cause of truth and justice,

love and mercy.

Let me give you now the rights

of

each one in this family.

Let's start with the rights of parents.

Check Surah 17,

Ayah 23,

Allahu Tabarakuatala

is addressing the rights of parents,

Which is husband

and wife, father and mother. They are rights.

How to give them rights?

Number one right,

Allahu Tabaraq Wa Thala

says in Al Quran al Kareem,

that your lord

has decreed

that you, all of you,

worship no one but him,

and that you be kind to parent.

Here a lot of our said,

kind

to parents,

not just kind to your parents.

You have to understand that. Kind to parent.

Any parent,

you have to kind to parents.

Kind to parents.

Then we have to give kindness to the

parents.

Then he said, whether 1 or both of

them attend the old age in your life,

say not to them a word of contempt.

That's the number 1? Yes. That's number 2.

Number 2. Be kind,

but don't use harshness.

By using the words of contempt.

And that is coming back to body language.

You know, sometimes people they don't talk, but

the body language is telling you often. Often

is not something has, you know, a lot

of meanings. It's just body language. Like your

your your mother said, oh, Ahmed, can you

give me that glass? What?

You see, that what is who are you

to tell me that to be in the

glass?

What?

So sometimes they don't even say what. They

just open their head.

I mean, can you give me a glass?

I

mean, what?

That is body language. That is so so

bad.

You said, yes, ma'am. How do you laugh?

But not

well,

give me chance, man. I'm I'm looking something.

Now you wanna just justify not giving her

the glass. You just come into the television.

Oh, ma'am, look in this.

Why look in the television? Your your Umi

said give me the glass.

Drop everything and give her the glass.

Then don't use the word of contempt.

And address them

in terms of honor, that is another

right. You have to address them in terms

of honor. You cannot go to the house

and addressing your your father and your mother

with raising voice. Even you have the facts,

you are right, but still you don't have

the right to raise your voice against them.

If your father is wrong,

you have to address your father as wrong.

But that mean you're gonna humiliate your father.

You are wrong, you know. Shame on you

father doing this, that. No, no, no. He

says stop, but I think that's not right.

Even you are not addressing mother, you are

wrong.

You always tell your father, I think that

is not right.

I think it's not right.

You you face it that way. But don't

tell your mother, no, no, no, no. That's

not true.

That is so serious to tell your mother

that is not true.

Today, children, they are using the word, you

are a lie.

But they don't understand

even the meaning of lie.

Lie is dangerous.

Okay. Then address them in the terms of

honor.

Address them

in the terms of kindness. When you are

addressing them, you have to use very pleasant

language to them.

That is their right. I'm not talking about

what is good for you to do. This

is what you supposed to do. It's their

right to get that from you as the

child.

Lower to them

the wings of humility,

meaning humble yourself towards them.

And lowering the wings of humility

can be humbleness or help.

As you know, the bird is lowering the

wings to cover the babies.

You have to do the same thing. You

demonstrate like the bird

was lowering the wings to cover the babies

when the weather is cold.

When

the situation

is difficult,

cover your parents, support them

with kindness.

Don't feel proud of supporting your parents.

Lower your wings.

Lower your wings means to listen to them

too. When they are talking, give them chance

to talk.

Lower your wings, meaning lower your voice. Don't

fly.

Don't don't sound and be so loud.

I get, you know, of God. Yes.

Making dua for them

is another duty.

And the best dua to say is to

say, my lord,

give my parents

mercy

as they cherish me

in childhood.

That is the dua allowed to Barakotele

choose for children.

Rabbi Iraham Humer

Kamara Bayani Savira.

My lord,

give them mercy

as they cherished me in

childhood.

Yes.

Here you can see in this ayah, Allah

Tabarakatani

said,

That is all of you to worship him,

only him. But when you come to the

Walidane, he's single everyone.

In this ayah, you can see that that

the act of worship

may be collective

as well as individual when you come to

worship.

But the kindness to parents

is an individual act of piety. Everyone have

to do that. It's not collective, like all

of us the children be good to our

our parents.

No. Every individual must be good.

Every individual must lower his voice.

Life doesn't oh, if everybody agree what man

said, now I have to agree. No. You

have to agree individually.

It's not like a 10 children.

Man got at all 10 and asked them

a question. 5 agree, 5 object.

Then you are part of the object. That

is wrong because it's an act of the

individual have to agree. Not just, oh, well,

if the older ones said that, let's just

follow what they said.

No. You have to wholeheartedly

agree, you know, to humble yourself by agreeing

with your brother inshallah.

When

the

was

strong

and the child was helpless,

parents

were

helping that helpless person.

Then they give you lot.

They give you time and energy and money.

All their life is like you, to raise

you. You are the biggest project

of your parents.

Biggest project of your parents. They never think

you're gonna stop your education. They're always thinking

about how to get the money and to

pay the tuition. That's their own thinking.

They never think that,

who gonna put the oil to make the

heat in the house.

They always think that you're gonna have the

heat and one coat. Whatever the case, you're

gonna have that.

Sometimes parents, they have their what they call

over years coats.

Sometimes you see some of the mothers, they

have one course for 7 years, one course.

But for you, if you say, oh, ma,

I like another course because just you go

to school, you see enough. Because now the

the the market, they are doing that. The

course is the same one course you have,

but how they design it, sometimes they just

put some some patterns on it. Maybe it's

Michael Jackson or

Jefferson or Tyson.

They put it on. They say, oh, I

like those coat, but it's the same coat.

But they just fashion it. It. They say,

oh, Ma, I like that one. So this

one is not like that. Ma, have to

go to get the check Friday and go

to supermarket and get the coat for you.

Sneakers

is the most expensive shoes I never see.

But these brothers, they want to change sneakers

like just drinking water.

Mark is having maybe 2 shoes of yeah,

you know, pairs of shoes. But you wanna

change sneakers all the time. She think that's

very expensive.

It's $50, $79

a p a.

But that is the shoes they want. And

when they get the shoes, they are not

walking properly with it. They destroy

it. They all when you see the shoes,

somebody go outside and take the shoes.