Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 9
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The rights of parents are discussed, including being kind to parents and not using harsh language. The speaker emphasizes the importance of humility and offers advice on how to address children in a pleasant and caring way. The speaker also advises parents to address their children in terms of honor and kindness, and stress the need to lower one's wings to listen to their parents and show them their true intentions. The speaker also discusses the cost of changing one's parents' clothing and finding affordable accessory costs.
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The Quran is to worship Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala and serve
his cause, the cause of truth and justice,
love and mercy.
Let me give you now the rights
of
each one in this family.
Let's start with the rights of parents.
Check Surah 17,
Ayah 23,
Allahu Tabarakuatala
is addressing the rights of parents,
Which is husband
and wife, father and mother. They are rights.
How to give them rights?
Number one right,
Allahu Tabaraq Wa Thala
says in Al Quran al Kareem,
that your lord
has decreed
that you, all of you,
worship no one but him,
and that you be kind to parent.
Here a lot of our said,
kind
to parents,
not just kind to your parents.
You have to understand that. Kind to parent.
Any parent,
you have to kind to parents.
Kind to parents.
Then we have to give kindness to the
parents.
Then he said, whether 1 or both of
them attend the old age in your life,
say not to them a word of contempt.
That's the number 1? Yes. That's number 2.
Number 2. Be kind,
but don't use harshness.
By using the words of contempt.
And that is coming back to body language.
You know, sometimes people they don't talk, but
the body language is telling you often. Often
is not something has, you know, a lot
of meanings. It's just body language. Like your
your your mother said, oh, Ahmed, can you
give me that glass? What?
You see, that what is who are you
to tell me that to be in the
glass?
What?
So sometimes they don't even say what. They
just open their head.
I mean, can you give me a glass?
I
mean, what?
That is body language. That is so so
bad.
You said, yes, ma'am. How do you laugh?
But not
well,
give me chance, man. I'm I'm looking something.
Now you wanna just justify not giving her
the glass. You just come into the television.
Oh, ma'am, look in this.
Why look in the television? Your your Umi
said give me the glass.
Drop everything and give her the glass.
Then don't use the word of contempt.
And address them
in terms of honor, that is another
right. You have to address them in terms
of honor. You cannot go to the house
and addressing your your father and your mother
with raising voice. Even you have the facts,
you are right, but still you don't have
the right to raise your voice against them.
If your father is wrong,
you have to address your father as wrong.
But that mean you're gonna humiliate your father.
You are wrong, you know. Shame on you
father doing this, that. No, no, no. He
says stop, but I think that's not right.
Even you are not addressing mother, you are
wrong.
You always tell your father, I think that
is not right.
I think it's not right.
You you face it that way. But don't
tell your mother, no, no, no, no. That's
not true.
That is so serious to tell your mother
that is not true.
Today, children, they are using the word, you
are a lie.
But they don't understand
even the meaning of lie.
Lie is dangerous.
Okay. Then address them in the terms of
honor.
Address them
in the terms of kindness. When you are
addressing them, you have to use very pleasant
language to them.
That is their right. I'm not talking about
what is good for you to do. This
is what you supposed to do. It's their
right to get that from you as the
child.
Lower to them
the wings of humility,
meaning humble yourself towards them.
And lowering the wings of humility
can be humbleness or help.
As you know, the bird is lowering the
wings to cover the babies.
You have to do the same thing. You
demonstrate like the bird
was lowering the wings to cover the babies
when the weather is cold.
When
the situation
is difficult,
cover your parents, support them
with kindness.
Don't feel proud of supporting your parents.
Lower your wings.
Lower your wings means to listen to them
too. When they are talking, give them chance
to talk.
Lower your wings, meaning lower your voice. Don't
fly.
Don't don't sound and be so loud.
I get, you know, of God. Yes.
Making dua for them
is another duty.
And the best dua to say is to
say, my lord,
give my parents
mercy
as they cherish me
in childhood.
That is the dua allowed to Barakotele
choose for children.
Rabbi Iraham Humer
Kamara Bayani Savira.
My lord,
give them mercy
as they cherished me in
childhood.
Yes.
Here you can see in this ayah, Allah
Tabarakatani
said,
That is all of you to worship him,
only him. But when you come to the
Walidane, he's single everyone.
In this ayah, you can see that that
the act of worship
may be collective
as well as individual when you come to
worship.
But the kindness to parents
is an individual act of piety. Everyone have
to do that. It's not collective, like all
of us the children be good to our
our parents.
No. Every individual must be good.
Every individual must lower his voice.
Life doesn't oh, if everybody agree what man
said, now I have to agree. No. You
have to agree individually.
It's not like a 10 children.
Man got at all 10 and asked them
a question. 5 agree, 5 object.
Then you are part of the object. That
is wrong because it's an act of the
individual have to agree. Not just, oh, well,
if the older ones said that, let's just
follow what they said.
No. You have to wholeheartedly
agree, you know, to humble yourself by agreeing
with your brother inshallah.
When
the
was
strong
and the child was helpless,
parents
were
helping that helpless person.
Then they give you lot.
They give you time and energy and money.
All their life is like you, to raise
you. You are the biggest project
of your parents.
Biggest project of your parents. They never think
you're gonna stop your education. They're always thinking
about how to get the money and to
pay the tuition. That's their own thinking.
They never think that,
who gonna put the oil to make the
heat in the house.
They always think that you're gonna have the
heat and one coat. Whatever the case, you're
gonna have that.
Sometimes parents, they have their what they call
over years coats.
Sometimes you see some of the mothers, they
have one course for 7 years, one course.
But for you, if you say, oh, ma,
I like another course because just you go
to school, you see enough. Because now the
the the market, they are doing that. The
course is the same one course you have,
but how they design it, sometimes they just
put some some patterns on it. Maybe it's
Michael Jackson or
Jefferson or Tyson.
They put it on. They say, oh, I
like those coat, but it's the same coat.
But they just fashion it. It. They say,
oh, Ma, I like that one. So this
one is not like that. Ma, have to
go to get the check Friday and go
to supermarket and get the coat for you.
Sneakers
is the most expensive shoes I never see.
But these brothers, they want to change sneakers
like just drinking water.
Mark is having maybe 2 shoes of yeah,
you know, pairs of shoes. But you wanna
change sneakers all the time. She think that's
very expensive.
It's $50, $79
a p a.
But that is the shoes they want. And
when they get the shoes, they are not
walking properly with it. They destroy
it. They all when you see the shoes,
somebody go outside and take the shoes.