Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 7

Alpha-Him Jobe
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The speakers stress the importance of goodwill in marriage, as it is essential for building integrity and maintaining a healthy marriage. They also emphasize the need for legislation to ensure it is permanent, and the importance of fearing Allah. The principles of marriage include knowing one's ability, giving oneself the right to take care of one's family, and treating their spouse like a companion through their name.
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Nothing?

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Why are you sick for marriage?

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Well, I wanna get married, but I don't

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have nothing. Now you have 2 people, they

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want to get married.

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But this the the thing is this guy

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run

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down the

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hill without

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the packet is not ready.

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Nothing's in the packet. Prophet said, do you

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have nothing? He said, nothing absolutely. Okay, give

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me your shirt. He said, that's the only

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one I have.

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I don't have another shirt home.

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He said, alright.

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Well, you have nothing. Do do can't you

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read even the portion from Quran? He said,

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yes.

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He said recite whatever you want to recite.

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Then for him to recite that Quran, Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, I admire you based

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on that.

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Based on enjoying the recitation,

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that is your doubt.

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Then they're married.

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Why we want to pick this very

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little event for all the sisters? Anytime you

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talk to the brothers,

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within a minute the brother go back to

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the hadith. That hadith is well known very,

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all of them.

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Sisters, they are tired about that hadith.

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The hadith is Sahih, that hadith is Allahu

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Buhari, Tilmizim, Nimaydi, of course,

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but the hadith is not practical here. We

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need something else. We need the dawg of

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Aisha. You don't ask for the dawg. You

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don't ask for the dawg of Fatima.

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You don't ask for the dawg of Rokayah

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and Umulkansu.

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Why don't you ask for the dawg of

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the dawg of Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam?

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These sisters, they are in that position.

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If they believe in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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and following the new life subhanahu wa ta'ala,

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they deserve to have the highest doubting in

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the world.

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But brothers, I'm telling you one day gonna

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come, these sisters,

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they're gonna ask you my dawy is to

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help the whole Quran.

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Going to be a trouble.

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You're gonna come to the sister and say,

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okay, I want to marry Bayou Quran. He

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said, okay, my my dawy will be simple.

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Do you do you memorize from Ahmed to

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Saloon to Suratul Nas? That's my dawg.

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You're gonna go to Philadelphia and carve yourself

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somewhere

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for years to have stuff before you get

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It's not that the word is Quran. No.

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Sahih Bukhari. I have just ironing even. No.

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No. No. No.

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Must be

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reasonable doubt.

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5,

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which is the last one is,

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goodwill.

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Goodwill is one of the fundamental

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basics of marriage.

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You come downhill, you have to have goodwill,

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ability,

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capability,

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strong to reign and to do

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it. Because if there is no ability,

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there is no matter.

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Yes.

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So these are the fundamental 5 fundamental

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basics of marriage commitment.

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This have to be established.

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When the parties enter into marital contract,

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the intention

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must be clear

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to make

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the union

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permanent.

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Marriage have to be contract. You have to

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contract the marriage.

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What they call midnight marriages

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and then or pick 1 brother, your friend,

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and to be the wally and immediately you

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come to be your husband.

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All these things cannot

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play a role here in this downhill hill.

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Downhill hill, we have to have legislation.

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It's like Capitol Hill.

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When you go to Capitol Hill, White House,

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they have legislation.

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The same thing here.

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If you come down here, you have to

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face the legislation

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of Al Islam.

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When the parties enter into the marital contract,

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the intention

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must be clear to make the union permanent

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and free from temporary,

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designation.

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They call it murtak. It's haram to establish

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life. You're gonna marry for 2 years, then

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you divorce. No. Cannot

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work.

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Recall in mind that marriage

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is a decent

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human

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companionship

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authorized by Allah

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You have to have that in your mind.

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That will build the sincerity.

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Always you have to think that. Allahu Tabarakhutale

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is the one who authorized the marriage.

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Yes.

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Allah said,

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fear your Lord.

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Be mindful

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for your duty towards your Lord.

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Then in the marriage this is principle.

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I want to tell you the principles of

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marriage. Number 1 is Allah, Say it up

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Allah. Fear Allah. Then fear Allah is principle

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in marriage.

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If you do not fear Allah, you cannot

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maintain marital home.

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Don't fear your your husband.

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Fear Allah.

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You want to reduce the tension of jealousy?

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Just fear Allah.

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If the sister fears Allah,

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there's no need to have what they call

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crazy jealousy. You have to be jealous.

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Nothing wrong

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being jealous,

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but don't be crazy.

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What they call crazy jealousy. You wanna be

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picky, like you wanna concentrate where you are.

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You go to supermarket. Why you stand there?

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I show you at the corner after sunset.

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It's Haram, Sister. Well, Sunset, you are home.

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No, you have to give the sis a

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chance to take a breath.

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You know,

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you can't be jealous, born, not crazy jealous.

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The same thing applies to the sisters.

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Why you came late?

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He's a man, he must take care of

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outside businesses.

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But he's going to control home. No. He's

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downhill to take care of business.

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If not, he gonna go uphill again

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and head over there not taking care of

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any business.

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Then if he's downhill, he's taking care of

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business.

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So we have to fear Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. Men and women, fearing Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala is an is a principle. If you

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fear Allah, there is no problem in the

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house. Because if your wife fear Allah, she's

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not going to

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destroy the marriage because she fears Allah. If

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you fear Allah, you have to give her,

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you know, her rights because you fear Allah.

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You are not giving her right because of

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just you fear your wife. Nobody I don't

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think so.

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Somebody here, you know, fear the wife.

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As the the guys in Egypt, there was

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a contest.

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They they go to the hall. They they

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open a big hall. They said, today, we

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are going to make a contest for those

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who fear their wives and those who don't

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fear their wives. They're gonna come to make

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a contest. They separate the hall into 2.

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They have a sign board. They said, those

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who fear their wives will sit this side,

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and those who do not fear their wife,

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they will be in this side.

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Now,

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everybody

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sit in the side of they don't fear

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their wives.

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Except one person.

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Except one person. That person sit in the

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side of those who fear their wives.

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Those who don't fear their wife, what happened

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is everybody fear their wife. They just go

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to the other side, except one person.

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When that happened, all the journalists went to

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the person, oh,

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you are so strong. You don't fear your

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wife. Thank you very much for coming here

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today.

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Why you what makes you not to fear

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your wife? He said, no. My wife forced

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me to be in this side.

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He's so okay. His wife

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his wife

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go ahead now.

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So there's no need for all that. We

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just fear Allah. Don't fear your wife. Don't

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fear your husband. But fear Allah. If you

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fear Allah, your husband is in paradise.

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Yes.

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There's no superiority. This is principle.

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Allah created you from one single soul. That

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indicates

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what they call

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equality.

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No

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superiority

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or inferiority, but equality.

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Allah created all of us from one single

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soul.

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Then he created

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the companion from that particular single soul. Then

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your wife is part of you.

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Then when you have your wife, you treat

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your wife like your mother,

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like your sister,

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like your daughter,

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like

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your wife. You have to treat the wife

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like that, like a companion.

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But, oh, not. I don't care.

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No. You have to care.

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So then,

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no superiority, no inferiority, but equality. Allah says,

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We have to fear Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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whom through his name we are asking for

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our mutual relationship.

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Because through the name of Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala,

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we come to the marital home.

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Prophet

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